How to Destress Yourself Now!

Hey, Hey!

How you doing today?

I hope and pray you are alright!

There are so many ways to Destress Yourself. 

One of the most instantaneous ways is to learn a stress management technique I call the pause button. 

Literally, you pause everything from your thoughts to your emotions to your physical tension in your body. 

This is so easy to do but it takes discipline.

Maybe you have stress at work that is causing you anger and anxiety. 

This is the perfect time to use the pause button and no one will even know you are doing it.

This is how it goes, when you are experiencing difficulties at work that is causing emotional stress, you simply close your eyes and imagine yourself hitting a big fat red button in front of you and you pause everything around you. 

Take a deep breath, notice your body relax, take your thoughts out of your mind and into your body by feeling your heart beat.

This is so awesome because it freezes your thoughts, feelings, actions, and your stress. 

What's really awesome is that it's funny as hell. As you practice it, you will think it is so silly, you will literally laugh out loud, and you will chill.

Try it, you will like it!

Remember, practice makes perfect and this is definitely a way to instantly destress yourself, which really means to be stress free.

Have fun with this and be playful because it is in your nature.

Just do it, and watch what your imagination does for you.

You will crack up, and you will want to keep doing it.

That's it Sugar...

I love you..

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

Destressing with Faith in Yourself

Hellerrr...

lol

How are you doing???

I pray, I pray you are doing fantabulous today!

Got another fun exercise for you, last one, but first I have some questions for you.

I mean, I have a lot of questions for you!

Please play along with me...

Are you enjoying life?

Are you really, really, really enjoying your life?

Are you enjoying life all the time or just periodically?

Do you want to enjoy life 99% of the time?

Is that even possible?

Absolutely, without a doubt, it is totally possible to enjoy life most of the time!

Do you complain and criticize sometimes?

Did you know that complaining and criticizing is a matter of focused attention on what is not wanted?

Of course you know it! ~wink~

Did you know that complaining and criticizing is absolutely unnecessary?

Did you know that calm, confident, and successful people rarely complain or criticize?

Did you know that exquisite focus on what is wanted, and desirable personality traits are the things that assist people in there success?

Did you know that exquisite focus and personality traits are conditioned into practice, and therefore become practically permanent?

Did you know that complaining and criticizing not only deter people from success they also bring disappointment and discomfort?

Did you know that appreciating is the opposite habit of complaining?

Did you know that complimenting is the opposite habit of criticizing?

Did you know that whether you complain and criticize, or appreciate and compliment, it is all a matter of present life conditioning and focus by default or desire?

One of the most stressful things about the human experience is that it is very human to focus on what's not right, i.e., to complain and criticize. If a person complains and criticizes a lot, sometimes, or even just a little bit, they're habits, and these habits are done unto thyself, as they are done unto others.

People who complain about and criticize others are openly, or secretly, doing it to themselves. These very stressful habits, as you know, create very negative, not so feel good feelings. ~wink~

Why do these habits make not so good feelings? Because they are focused on what we don't want, and what we think is wrong in life rather than what we want, and what we think is right.

Feeling bad comes from thoughts we continue to think based on fear of the future slash, insecurity slash, unsafeness, which all provoke the stress response. 

Do you beat yourself up? If you are human, and you experience sadness, and depression, chances are you do.

I use to worry about the criticism from others, and I think it was because I was focused on criticizing myself.

Now I revel in my skills of what I do instead and it's all about my focus.

My value, and my worth come from the ability and skill to be alert and aware, and to govern my thoughts, which determine my feeling.

I refuse to beat myself up, ever! I pray you will understand that and refuse to beat yourself up ever too. Or, at least begin the practice of not beating yourself up, and then create the permanence of that habit. (insert me here puckering my lips at and kissing you)  lol

I understand that I repeat myself repeatedly (insert me winking), and I tend to ramble. I understand that people would like me to be a better writer by way of grammar and sentence structure. I also understand that I don't write for them, or those reasons. I write for God, and to do what I can, the best I can, to lift my brothers and sisters up in the world that He has created, even if it's just one person at a time. 

AND!!! I LOVE TO WRITE! 

God has shown me that what I love to do is what I am suppose to do. How has He showed me? He has showed me by way of money and statistics. 

When I first started to blog I made money the very first month, and every book I have written and published thus far continue to sell every month! Meaning, I get moneys. This is quite unusual wouldn't you say?

The first year of me writing this blog, I was elated when a hundred people would read it in a month, and now over one hundred people read it in a day. Crazy, don't you think?

I do not do paid advertising for my books or my blog like some people do whom want to make moneys. To me, that is a glimpse of the evidence that I am doing what I am suppose to be doing.

The greatest evidence of me doing what I am suppose to be doing is the fact that people read what I am writing, people buy what I am writing, and they do so because they want relief. God wants people to feel better and that is done by way of relief. That relief is the path of healing the human and connecting him/her to God.

Please understand, I am not saying these things to boast, or brag, I am saying them because it is my belief it's evidence that shows me my direction, and I think it's God showing me. 

In other words, I've learnt that I work for God and no one else. God is my boss, he pays me, and takes care of the advertising. It is my humble opinion that helping others heal is God's work, it is our work as spiritual beings in this human experience, and I am eagerly engaged in that work. Crazy, I know, but it's true.

"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness: and all these things shall be added unto you." ~Matthew 6:33, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV

If I wanted, I could focus on the negative emails, messages, and comments that I receive but that is not my business. My business is being about lifting those individuals whom suffer with anger, anxiety, depression, despair, and traumatic stress.

People who are about the business of complaining about and criticizing me are not evidence of my failure, and therefore I do not focus on it. I do not let it get to me because that would be a form of beating myself up.

What I am trying to say in all of this ramble bamble is, if you are feeling bad much of the time, you may have the stressful habit of beating yourself up like I use to. You may have the stressful habit of focusing on what is not right about you rather than what is.

What I am also trying to say is you can relieve that stressful habit by focusing on the good you do. You could focus on what you are suppose to be doing, which is between God and you, and NO ONE else.

The most powerful thing we can do when we are changing habits of focus is to quiet our mind on a regular basis so that the momentum of negative thoughts in our mind is slowed, and eventually stopped.

Many people, actually most people, are unaware of their negative thoughts because we aren't taught in our culture, or society on how to be alert and aware of them.

I quiet my mind through simple awareness of my breath, my heart beat, and the present moment all day long, and I formally meditate at least twice a day. This practice really helps with my clarity to the safety, and security of the present moment.

This practice that I have conditioned into permanence is where my confidence comes from by way of my connection to God. Calm, confidence comes from the connection to God, which provides ultimate clarity in life.

This practice has given me the ability to really, really, really enjoy my life 99.9999999% of the time.

If you do not believe you can quiet your mind or meditate that is the perfect place to begin replacing the beating thyself up with believing in yourself. It is the perfect place to show yourself your capabilities, and your value and worth.

God is in the quiet of our mind. We are disconnected from God by our negative thoughts which happen to create negative emotions.

We are alert, aware, and connected to God when we love because He is love. He always loves us, and we can feel Him through love, especially through loving our self.

God is always with us, we do not know the truth of this when we are feeling and thinking negatively, which disconnects us from Him.

Connect to God, and build your faith by quieting your mind, and making it a habitual practice so that you may be alert and aware of your negative self doubts and replace them with constant faith.

You could listen to the sounds of this video I created, on a daily basis, and it will help you begin the art of quieting your mind. Just focus on the sounds.

It will help you destress even more.

It will help you become more alert and aware of the safety in your present moment.

It will help hush the racing mind and provide a way to practice calmness.

Connection to God, in the quiet of the mind, is where great calm, confidence is.

Okay, now your fun exercise...

Your mission, should you choose to accept it is to look for reasons to appreciate and compliment others, and yourself. Speak the words out loud to others and yourself, or don't. It's up to you and your comfort level. Some people never appreciate or compliment, and if you are one of those persons, saying it in your mind is enough. 

At times it may be not easy to find appreciation or compliments but do it anyway, it'll be fun because it will be funny.

Have fun with this!

Have fun! 

Be playful! 

You will feel better because this is destressing, and building faith, trust me on this!

Remember... practice, practice, and more practice makes permanent.

I know, I know, I know... that's two exercises: quieting your mind and looking for reasons to appreciate and compliment but, they will go hand in hand due to the fact you will become more aware of your focus.

You got this! 

Don't forget to continue the other fun exercises of "Loving It!", "Seeing Mean People as Toddlers," and "Repeat Favorite, Fun, and Funny Stories Constantly."

These are fun habits that are intended to replace the stress filled ones, and don't forget to write at least one sentence in your journal. 

Have you read what you have written yet? If not, go back and read it, and you will smile.

That's all I got!

Except, I love you!

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

HAVE FUN AND BE PLAYFUL!

Hello my fellow human.  How are you today?  Are you ready for the weekend?  I am!

Are you going to have fun?  Are you going to do something that allows you to be playful?

If you are a regular reader of my blog, you have noticed that I always say have fun and be playful. 

Do you have fun?  Are you playful?

These are some of the most important ways to be in life. 

I can honestly say that I intentionally have fun and am playful.

Sometimes the stress of life and our busy schedules can really get to us so that we are so serious all the time we forget to have fun and be playful.  There are some people out there who have no idea how to have fun and be playful.

There have been many a people who have come to me when they just plain ole can't enjoy life.  It is more like they won't and they just forget how.

If you are not having fun and find it hard to be playful here is your prescription...

1)  Set an intention to have fun and be playful.  Be on purpose with this.  You should be saying to yourself, "Today, I am going to have fun and be playful."

2)  Find fun things to do and find things funny.  Laugh at yourself and with others, and stop being so serious.

3)  Focus on what you are grateful for and what is good about others, life, and yourself.  When we are grateful and focus on the good, we feel good, which is a great precursor for having fun.

4)  Do not correct people, make people follow rules, or try to be right.  It is better to be kind, fun, and playful than to be correcting people, making them follow rules, or trying to be right.  Ugh, people who do that are missing out on life.  Now I am not talking about work, I am talking the weekend here.  Although, it is always the right time to be kind, and with practice you can find the appropriate times for fun, and playfulness at work.

5)  Smile!  Start the day with a silly smile at yourself in the mirror.  This is absolutely so idiotic that you will have no choice but to laugh at yourself.  Then do a big ridiculous smile the whole day at others, even if they are being mean.

6)  Finally, play around with the people around you, not in a negative/teasing way but in a fun LOVING positive way.  Be flirty with your spouse/bf/gf/significant other.

If you do these things, or at least most of them, you will have fun while being playful.

If you are really a serious person, start slow.  Choose one at a time and make each one a habit.

Most people know how to have fun, and for some, this may just be a reminder.  But there are those very few who are always fun, and always being playful.  It is my hope for you, that you are destressing yourself by having fun and being playful.

That's all I got.

Here is to having fun and being playful.  YOU GOT THIS!!!

Have a great weekend, and see you Monday

Love ya!

Have fun!  Be playful!

BIG HUGS...

Elizabeth


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DID YOU PICK YOUR NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS FOR 2011?

Hey Kiddies, lol. 

So, did you pick your New Year's Resolutions?

I did!  I do, every year.  But before I tell you what one of them is, I would like to ESPLAIN SOMSING first.

The other night, when my son and I were saying family prayer... (Yes, we pray together.  Haven't you heard, the family that prays together, stays together?)  Any who...  I was thanking Heavenly Father for my trials, and for my set backs.  I told Heavenly Father that I was grateful for my problems and for my flat tire and my son laughed, at me, in the middle of our prayer.

It was funny!  It is funny!  And if you know me, you know, I like to be funny!  But I was serious, kinda, well, as serious as I can be.  I was seriously thanking Heavenly Father for my problems and telling him I love my problems.  And that my friend, is one of my New Year's Resolution.

My New Year's Resolution is to love my problems.  I have a choice, really.  I can get upset and cry, which I do, or I can love my problems and laugh like my son did, because it is really kind of funny.

You have to understand, it wasn't just an ordinary flat tire.  It was a flat tire on my 4X4 that would get me out of the snow, and into town.  You see, the snow was about 3 feet deep, and you cannot go anywhere if you don't have a 4X4. 

So, when I loved my problem, laughed about it, and then saw the blessing in it, which was to stay home and hang out with my son, it was nothing.

I would say that my New Year's Resolution is destressing, wouldn't you?

So...  What is your New Year's Resolution?  What are you going to do to destress yourself?  Hurry up and pick one because together, you and I, are going to change that stressful habit into a successful practice.

I will save my other New Year's Resolutions for next post!

Have a great week and don't forget to have fun and be playful!


Speak soon...

Elizabeth