Hello, dear one...
Destress yourself with compassion is what I'd like to write about this day.
This post is a bit of a continuation of my last post, Destressing with Focus. Did you read it? You can, if you'd like to, by clicking here.
Item twelve on the stress test just so happens to be... do you get offended easily and/or talk negatively about other people?
In my How to Destress book, I wrote how getting offended easily and talking about it over and over to others is a very stressful habit.
Basically, when we retell a story that we are offended by, we relive the stress again and again.
Destressing yourself with compassion is about caring enough about yourself to care about how you feel. What we speak is what we think, and the thoughts and words are the pathways to our emotions because it's all about what we believe.
Many people, on an intellectual level, know that we have authority over what we will think of ourselves and others. But, even though we may know it intellectually, we may not live it by practice.
It is absolutely normal to get offended, as the human conditioning goes. It is the fruit of the spirit to have compassion, which leads to happiness and understanding.
This business about 'choose happiness' is about choosing our behaviors by choosing our beliefs by governing what we will think over and over.
For example, many people have been going to church every Sunday all their lives, professing to believe in God, yet, many of these same people are dramatizing and gossiping about others. To go to church, profess to believe in God, and then shamefully act out of accordance with what God asks us to do in loving one another is not behaving as one proclaims to believe.
Cooperation between our behaviors and beliefs is about our authority to choose our focus and practice.
If we want happiness and believe we want happiness, we cannot look for things to get offended over and then punish our very being by retelling the story repeatedly.
If you and I were to make a list of all the things we are blessed with, the list would be one hundred, if not one thousand, to one over what we are offended by. Do you see the falsification? To focus on that one thing we are offended by when we can brag all day long about our blessings is quite a magnanimous distortion of reality. This contortion is from human conditioning, not from our spiritual nature.
"In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you." ~1Thessalonians 5:18, Holy Bible, KJV
Leveling up in life, your life is all about the focus (I know, I know, I know... my lecture repeating myself repeatedly ~wink).
If you want to live the truth, you may want to replace getting offended and gossiping with looking for what you can appreciate about the person, place, or thing before you. My last post, Destressing with Focus, is about putting appreciation and focus into practice.
Destressing yourself is all about you and governing your authority to choose how you will behave and believe. This authority in practice leads to our power to overcome anger, anxiety, depression, and despair. This authority and power will reveal a person's value and worth.
The value and worth of a soul are great in the sight of God, and knowing your own value and worth will lead you to your greatest potential and wisdom in this life.
I pray that you can and will find your authority, power, value, and worth if that is what you want. So that you may live with passion and your life's purpose.
Have a wonderful week, my dear friend...
Speak soon...
Elizabeth Stanfill
Hello there!
How you doing today my dear friend?
I hope and pray that you are doing alright today!
I'm not going to ask you if you did the fun exercise.
I'm going to tell you that I pray you did it and you had fun!
I'm also going to tell you that I pray you didn't criticize yourself for not doing it.
Self-criticism is a path to emotional hurt, and a block to creative energy.
Today, I'd really like to articulate your power as a human and spiritual being. A subject that would take a three hundred page book, but stick with me, this is going to be good because it is going to be for you.
I don't ever talk much about where I've been and what I've been through because I know that discussing my struggles is reliving the bad over and over again. Making myself relive the horrible struggles I have endured will bring others down, it will bring me down, and it is like a self punishment.
It is my dominant intent to lift others and myself and I do that by the thoughts I think and the words I speak. The thoughts I think and the words I speak will bring others to where they want to go, and hopefully, they will not keep them in their discontent. That is the very beginning of my power, and that is part of your power.
Human Conditioning vs Spiritual Nature
Human conditioning is very competitive and fearful, and Spiritual nature is very cooperative and loving.
Competition is very healthy when we are playing sports but when it is pertaining to life we become very arrogant or very insecure because it is based on a you against me idea. The funny thing about that is, arrogance is insecurity because when you are arrogant you think you are better than others, which is an illusion of confidence. Having the desire, or needing to be better than others is insecurity.
Spiritual Nature is not competitive, it is cooperative with God. When we are cooperative with God, we are cooperative with life, others, and our selves. When we learn to cooperate with God we can, and do develop a calm, certainty, and confidence for life, others and our selves.
Our power is in that cooperation with God.
Our power is in that calm, certainty, and confidence for life, others, and our selves.
The human conditioning is a contradiction to that power because when we think we must compete with others it provokes fear of the future, fear that we are not okay, and fear that we are not, and won't be good enough. These fearful beliefs generate and sustain habits of anger, anxiety, and depression, which are negative, practiced, stressful emotions.
Negative emotions disconnect us from God. They disconnect us from faithful beliefs and behaviors.
We are not born with these beliefs, we are trained up in them. Therefore, we can, and many do, train ourselves out of human conditioning.
Sure, some people were lucky enough to have faithful and fearless parents who taught by example the spiritual nature. So many people remain there. The thing is, suffering is not reserved for only a select few. Suffering isn't only happening to those who were not trained up in Spiritual Nature.
Suffering happens to everyone, but we only know about those who suffer greatly because they keep repeating the story, which brings the self down because it is reliving the misery and provides a self punishment. That kind of punishment can, and will keep anyone in despair.
The happiest people I know have had the most stressful lives and because of that distress, they are in an immense appreciation for their happiness and relief.
If you are struggling, and suffering, I know with all my heart and soul, there is relief. That relief is inside of you! That is where your connection to and cooperation with God resides.
Cooperating with God is knowing that God is in charge, and all things are for your good. That good is the lesson, it is the spiritual expansion, and the lessons are always faith and patience.
If you do not have faith in or patience for others, I'd venture to say you do not have faith in and patience for yourself because they are habits.
Human condtioning is based on fear and Spiritual Nature is based on faithfulness and fearlessness.
Human conditioning trains us up in negative emotions based on fear, which disconnects us from God.
Faithful and fearlessness makes our connection to and cooperation with God stronger.
Your power is not only in the understanding that, but in the belief in it so that you may have behaviors in that.
Your power is in the beliefs, behaviors, conditioning, and training of Spiritual Nature so that you may overcome the Human conditioning.
Your power is in the knowing that you are the most important person in your life, and you can, and will, change your life for the better if you believe you can.
Your power is in the knowing that no one but you, is responsible for your happiness, joy, and vitality.
Your power is in the knowing that you are worth every thought that you think and you can think thoughts in favor for yourself.
Your power is in cooperating with God by connecting to God in a most personal level.
God is my best friend. I have, and do turn within to Him in most moments of the day.
If you have not discovered your power in your chosen beliefs, and behaviors, I pray you will by doing the silly little exercises I present to you. These exercises are solely to help point you in the direction of your power, and once you discover and know that power you will know your value and worth.
Holy moly guacamole avocado sauce!
That was a ramble!
It is my most humble prayer, for you, if you do not know your power, you will discover it, and want more of it. I know, without a doubt in my heart and soul, when you discover how powerful you really are, you will be happy, and joyful, and vital.
You will be eager, excited, and exhilarated for everyday.
You will continuously lift life, others, and yourself!
You will know your value and worth.
All you gotta do is cooperate with God by connecting with God.
All you gotta do is practice desired, exquisite, focus for you.
That's it!
Praying you stick with you by doing the silly little fun exercises that may point you away from stress and towards your power.
Praying a special prayer in my heart that you will stick with you, by sticking with me, because I will stick with you.
Ha!
Enjoy your day beautiful!
Hug! Hug! Hug!
BIG HUGS!!!
I love you baby boo!
LOL
Speak soon...
Elizabeth
Hello there beautiful!
You are beautiful!
You are beautiful and brilliant!
My prayer for you is that you know how beautiful and brilliant you really are and if you don't know it, I pray a powerful prayer I may point you in the direction of knowing it.
Let's have some fun!
Did you get your journal? I'm praying you did. I'm praying a prayer that you care enough about you, and your human journey to do the little things to make this life better for you!
The reason I want us to have fun is because I want to show you that we have the authority to govern our focus, and the power to replace stressful habits with happier fun habits.
Please know, I am not asking anyone to ignore what is wrong in life, I'm asking, more like suggesting, to stop ignoring what's fun, funny, and joyful in life.
It's all about the focus.
It's all about the desired exquisite focus!
There is so much more good in life than there is bad. The human conditioning and training are focused on discouragement and fear, and so it seems normal to focus on what is wrong.
Let us focus on the good, what we want, not what we don't want, and we can do that by using our authority to choose our thoughts.
If you like to have fun, this will be easy for you. If you aren't practiced at the art of using your deliberate creativity, and having fun this may not be easy to get yourself to do this but, it will be good for you. MY OPINION! he he he...
Here we go...
Your assignment, and mission, for this entire week, if you choose to accept it, is a very basic and simple practice that I've written about a couple times before...
Whenever you are presented with someone, or something that provokes a negative reaction in you, like anger, anxiety, awkwardness, boredom, depression, embarrassment, frustration, irritation, and or nervousness, you are going to love it!
That's right! Love, love, love it! LOL
How do you love it? You say nothing audibly, you just smile, and say in your mind, "I love it when..." fill in the blank with the thingy that is provoking your negative reaction.
Then, repeat it over and over in your head until you get the ridiculousness in it instead of the negative emotion. Say it three, six, or nine times. However many times it takes to interrupt the negative emotion.
Yes, yes, I know, it's silly but no one will know you are doing it and it will make you laugh, or at least break up the negative emotion with a smile. It will be so dumb to you, you will laugh.
That's it! So simple! You can do it!
Do you see what will happen? Instead of complaining about and criticizing the person or thing in your mind, you will interrupt that habitual reaction with a funner one. You will lighten up and recondition just a little bit at a time.
Capeesh!
This exercise is going to show you three things: you have the authority and power to choose your thoughts and words, you are creative and fun, and you may have been or are too hard on others and yourself.
And...
And...
Your assignment, and mission, for this entire month is to write at least one sentence in your journal about this experience slash experiment every day. If you get really good at the writing thingy, write as often as you'd like, all day. It's up to you!
Carry that journal with you.
Please, please, please write at least one sentence everyday, before the day is done. Do it for you! You are so worth it! Worth at least one sentence a day.
If you do not see your value and worth as beautiful and brilliant, you gotta start doing things for you spiritually in order to get a glimpse, a hint... and then it will get great momentum like an addiction, and life will give you unexpected joys you would not otherwise have known.
What will you write? Write your favorite, fun, or funny.
Favorite, fun, and funny is our focus.
No complaints or criticism allowed!
It is my most humble prayer that you will do these things for you!
You are the most important person in your life, and if you are willing to do simple things like this for you, it is my belief, and prayer, that you will begin to know, if you don't already know, how beautiful and brilliant you are.
This is all about discovering your value and your worth, and oh what a magnificent, spiritual life it is when you do!
God bless you Sugar Booger!
Ha Ha!
Have fun!
Be playful!
I love you!
I truly truly do!
Oh yes I do too!!!
Bam!
Speak soon...
Elizabeth
