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Monday, May 25, 2020

Another !!!WARNING!!! !!!WARNING!!!

Hey, hey, my dear friend...

Got another warning for you...

The warning is I may write some things that you may not want to read. Meaning, you may strongly disagree with me, so strongly that you may become displeased with me.

Just remember, it's alright to disagree.

The reason I begin this blog post in that way is because I know, and I understand that people do not agree with my stance that I am about to declare today... So, here I go...

The conditioning we receive from our guardians and teachers create habits in our attitudes, and personalities. These habits become addictions in a sense that we believe we cannot, or we do not want to quit them.

The addictions that I am talking about are the emotions that create very stressful atmospheres and lives. The emotions that I am talking about are anger, anxiety, depression, and despair.

Now, hear me out on this.

We are born spiritual beings.

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law." ~Galatians 5:22-23, Holy Bible, KJV

We have, in my humble opinion, absolutely no anger, anxiety, depression, or despair when we are born. We actually learn it from our conditioning. Can you not remember as a child being okay, and as you got older becoming less and less okay because of fear.

"For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and love, and a sound mind." ~2 Timothy 1:7, Holy Bible, KJV 

Anger is taught fear that we will not be okay if we do not get our way. Some people learned their anger from a guardian that would lose it if they didn't get their way, and/or they would get really mad if you didn't do things the way they wanted them done. Sound familiar?

Anxiety is fear of the future and is a training from the belief we must worry about what "might" happen. Some individuals learned their anxiety from a guardian that was always fearful of what might happen, or what other people might think of them. 

Depression is feeling not good enough and is derived by others convincing us, in our earlier years, we are not good enough. There are so many scenarios that could convince a person that he or she is not good enough, particularly from a guardian that was never satisfied, and always wanting a child to be, or do better. Primarily from a guardian that always complains, and criticizes, like the below average person.

These are just examples that I provide to some how, some way, show that years of conditioning has much to do with fearful emotions of a person. The crux of a negative emotion is that many cannot see how one can overcome something they've lived with for so long.

I know and see people with severe anger, anxiety, depression, and/or despair, in everyday life, and they honestly believe that is just how they are and they have absolutely no control over any of it.

This is not so! We do have control, we just got to believe we do. This is exactly why I asked my readers to memorize and repeat the scripture, "For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and love, and a sound mind." ~2 Timothy 1:7, Holy Bible, KJV, often in my last post.

The human experience and conditioning has given us the spirit of fear but God gives us the power, and love, and a sound mind to overcome it, and return to the spiritual being we truly are.

I know, with all my heart and soul that this is so! I know because I was the most angry, anxious, depressed, individual wallowing in the deepest of despair for many, many, many years. For years, I turned to God, and was guided and inspired to meditate. For years, I turned to God, and meditated, and have been guided and inspired to help thousands, yes, thousands of others overcome the same addictions.

Maybe you believe me, and maybe you don't. Either way, it's okay. One day, you will know, if you don't already know, that you are the most important person in your life, and the negative emotions that you experience, and reside in often, do not belong to you. Not only do they not belong to you, you can release them, but you just gotta do the work.

The work is to contemplate, focus, and meditate by desire rather than by default. We are contemplating, focusing, meditating beings, either by default or desire.

Think about when you worry. Do you not contemplate, focus, and meditate upon that worry with exquisite concentration? So much so that you cannot let it go!

If you do not believe that you have the power to overcome the negative emotion that you experience most, maybe it's just because you have not been trained to focus by desire.

The entire reason I have been offering scriptures for meditation and memorization is because it is a very easy way to train oneself in the way of desire. Do you not desire spiritual things over the carnal behavior? The negative emotions are the carnal behavior.

So, if you are still with me, let us retry the meditating and memorizing of the scripture I proposed in my last post...

Here it is...

"For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and love, and a sound mind." ~2 Timothy 1:7, Holy Bible, KJV

Maybe you agree with me, in that the negative emotions, I mentioned above, are in fact addictions, and fear. If so, let's meditate upon, as we memorize, the scripture above for at least four days. When or if you feel angry, anxious, depressed, or in despair, contemplate and focus on the scripture.

This is going to be really cool. It's a spiritual experiment to show you, and me that we are in fact spiritual, and we can do spiritual things with power, and love, and a sound mind. The things God gives us.

Let's do this!

We got this!

We are in this together...

Big Hugs my dear sweet sweet reader...

Speak soon,

Elizabeth

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Wednesday, May 20, 2020

Who We Really Are

Greetings my dear reader!

How are you doing? I really care! Praying you are living with comfort and strength...

I'm doing pretty good. I have great faith in God, love for this life, and patience, and trust in the Lord.

In my last post, warning you about my desire to blog more, I wrote about the the above average person. In addition, I wrote how the above average person lives by the fruit of the spirit, and you can read it by clicking here.

We are all born above average human beings, because we are all born with the fruit of the spirit. We are spiritual beings born into this human experience. It is this human experience and conditioning that can, and often does, train us to be common, and below average.

Living from the spirit, is living a spiritual life, and it is the highest of intelligence, potential and wisdom.

Some people say that certain people are more intelligent than others because they have attended college and have obtained degrees. Some people say that intelligent people make a lot of money. This is not necessarily true in either case, and is a myth of the material world.

There are people with degrees in rocket science, biology, and chemistry that not only make less money than the average person, but some are actually homeless. There are people with degrees, and a lot of money that are absolutely miserable, and make everyone around them miserable. These scenarios do not indicate above average or brilliant beings.

We are born of the spirit. Meaning we are Spiritual Beings born into this human experience, and the conditioning of this experience can dumb us down by living carnal lives and failing to remember our spirituality.

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law." ~Galatians 5:22-23, Holy Bible, KJV

Remaining spiritual in this human experience is living at the highest intelligence and wisdom. Sometimes, when we forget, we have to remind ourselves, and retrain ourselves to return to who we really are and to live an enlightened, mature life. 

This enlightened, mature life is living an above average life. This above average life is living our full potential, and is living a life of being who we really are.

Let me explain the carnal, dumbing down of the individual. Dumbing down is harsh, I know. Maybe I should say, let me explain the carnal, misunderstanding of the individual.

When we do not live spiritually, which is living with calm, confidence, we are living carnally, which is with constant, or periodic anger, anxiety, and depression.

This is faithful and fearlessness versus fearful and faithlessness.

When we have faith we move in the direction of desire, which is wisdom. When we have fear, we freeze, and/or justify why we do or don't do what we can, could, or ought to do. This is rationalizing sometimes very harmful, and unintelligent acts, which is misunderstanding (the dumbing down).

The absolute best scenario for any spiritual being, in this human experience, is to be raised by guardians that are calm, confident, and connected to God. This makes life easier for any person because he or she is conditioned to be, and remains in a place and space of calm, confidence, faithfulness, and fearlessness, knowing, and remembering that he or she will be alright no matter what happens.

This is being trained up in our spirit of faith, and wisdom, which creates greater love and joy, the opposite of hate and misery.

There are no guarantees though. Truly!

Any given environment, or experience can thrust that faithful and fearless being into deep despair and fear, which blocks our highest wisdom because it can, and will disconnect a person from God. Negative emotions inhibit, and positive emotions, i.e., the fruit of the spirit allows insight and understanding.

Think about the type of person that is successful versus the type of person that is not successful. Success is happiness, health, love, magnificent relationships, and wealth.

The above average person is calm, confident, and has very high energy because they live a spiritual life of love, joy, peace, goodness, faith, and temperance. This person lives the life of purpose, gets much done because of energy, and everyone wants to be a part of what they are a part of.

The below average person is angry, anxious, miserable, insecure, hating many things, and very often with unhealthy addiction, causing difficulty in their own life.

The common person can have very destructive, split energy depending on how often he or she resides in the carnal life versus the spiritual life. Split energy is like yo-yo spiritual dieting, which hurts the body, but it also injures the mind and soul as well. 

Energy is split by yo-yoing back and forth from faith to fear, from love to hate, and from joy to misery. This habitual see saw is derived by default, unknowingly, allowing the environment and others to rule one's happiness or misery. This misunderstanding leads to severe struggles and suffering.

The struggles and suffering that harms the body, mind, and soul are the reasons I want to point into the direction of living from the spirit. It is my humble opinion, gained through years of observation, that any functional person that wants to, can live an above average life. Anyone can live an elevated life, if he or she really wants to, and is willing to return to who he or she truly is, which is the eternal spiritual being.

I have charity, and compassion for others because I have suffered much. The depths of despair that I have experienced, I never want or wish for anyone. 

The evidence and experiences of relief that I have faced and observed, all points to striving to live by the spirit, which is love and joy. This striving alleviates the hurt of the harmful human conditioning. 

I have healed much, and continue to heal. It is my desire to restore my spiritual self more. It is my feelings of inspiration that gives me eagerness to point anyone in this direction of restoration, who wants it, as well.

The harm is in the misunderstanding. The purpose of life is to learn, live, and practice the gained understanding. To learn, live, and practice, returning to the spirit of who we really are, is to leverage the conditioning of habits in our favor. We can replace, and overcome the training that has caused damage, if we want to. 

I know that last sentence is hard to accept as truth, for some people, but I am living proof. Others are living proof, and I have helped some of these others by pointing them towards that truth.

Dear friend... my dear reader... God cares for you, God loves you, and He is giving you all good things for your spiritual expansion. This spiritual expansion is always, always, always, compassion, confidence, cooperation, faith, love, patience, and trust.

There is a lesson in everything!

Some people say everything happens for a reason, and I know the lesson is always the reason.

The lesson is always, always, always, compassion, confidence, cooperation, faith, love, patience, and trust. The lesson is always spiritual expansion, which is just understanding.

Let us practice the forever lessons of compassion, confidence, cooperation, faith, love, patience, and trust. Let us practice this spiritual expansion in this human experience, and gain great understanding.

"For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and love, and a sound mind." ~2 Timothy 1:7, Holy Bible, KJV

Are you ready to embark on this journey with me? This journey of leveling up? If so, memorize the scripture above, contemplate it as often as possible throughout your day, and just observe what happens to you. I'll do it too, and I'll do it until next post, will you?

God bless you my dear friend!

I am ever praying for your connection to God.

I am ever here for you, if you need it too.

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

Friday, May 15, 2020

!WARNING! !WARNING! !WARNING!

WARNING!!! At the end of this post...

Leveling up in life is what I'd like to write about this day...

Hello, hello, my dear reader. 

How are you doing this wonderful day?

Praying your heart is filled with appreciation, and love.

In my humble opinion, there are three kinds of people...

Person AAbove Average, enlightened, destressed, and aka mature. 

Mostly calm, confident, and cooperative with life. 

This person learns by listening to understand, and does understand that he/she is very responsible for his/her experiences in this life. 

This individual appreciates and knows everyone is unique in beliefs, and their path traveled in life. In addition, he/she has no need to be right because this individual finds his/her worth from his/her own behaviors, and beliefs, which he/she knows are his/her power. 

This person will always encourage others and the self.

Person B: Below Average, basically adolescent in behavior, and chronically and/or critically stressed. 

Primarily bitching, blaming, complaining, criticizing, dramatizing, and gossiping. 

This individual behaves as though life is a competition, and unknowingly is arrogant, which is making him/herself better, or worse, than others. Arrogance is misunderstanding because it is not confidence, it is insecurity. 

Person B feels that he or she needs to be right because he/she finds his/her value in being so. In addition, this person believes the circumstances, the environment, and how others treat them are responsible for his/her happiness. 

This type of person will always discourage others and his/herself.

Person C: Common, teeters back and forth between being above average and below average based on their particular mood, and what is going on for them in their life.

The common person can be above average, or below average, at any given moment. Sometimes he or she is living in the space of above average more often than below average, or vice versa.

You may be asking why in the heck is Elizabeth telling me all of this about people types? 

The reason I am telling you all of this is, I want to reside in the place of being above average because it is the gateway to happiness, health, love, magnificent relationships, and wealth. 

Being Person A is the doorway to being a better person, which creates an abundant life.

It is the key to destressing yourself. Leveling up in life is destressing your life.

I've been reading, researching, and studying about destressing for nearly thirty years.

I've been teaching and trainning others to destress for over twenty years.

Do you know that it is not easy to find a step by step process to destress, aka leveling up in life?

Sure there are audios, books, and videos on health, relationships, and wealth but how many are about permanent stress relief by connecting to God, and creating permanent habits by practices and training?

I want to make permanent practices to become an above average person because I know that is what God wants for me. That is what God wants for everyone. 

God does not want you, or me to be above average, necessarily, but I'm certain He wants you, and me, to be calm, confident, and cooperative with Him, life, others, and ourself. When we learn and practice being enlightened and mature we live with the fruit of the spirit.

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law." ~Galatians 5:22-23, Holy Bible, KJV

The fruit of the spirit is what, and who we are! We are spiritual children, offspring, of our Heavenly Father.

We are meant to have love and joy, and it is up to us to do so. I want love, and joy, and I know it is through my connection to God I can, and do feel this unconditional love, which gives joy.

I want to create a step by step process that will help me level up in life. I want to share this step by step process with you if you'd like to level up in life too.

Leveling up in life consists of creating and practicing calm, confidence, faith, love, patience, and trust, which is characteristics of Person A.

So, this is my new journey in blogging...

Leveling Up in Life, is destressing.

Leveling up is getting back to what, and who you, and I truly are.

In order to get to where I want to go, which is to be person A, or the fruit of the spirit, I must focus, and practice. It begins in the beliefs, works through the behavior, and permanence is created through practice.

I believe, and know, with all my heart and soul, we have the agency, and authority, to become who we truly want to be, through our behaviors that extend from our beliefs.

I believe, and know, with all my heart and soul, we create habits through conditioning by default or desire. Conditioning by default makes life more difficult than training by desire. Creating a focus and practice by desire makes life so much more peaceful.

I believe, and know, with all my heart and soul, this peace comes from a life lived from desire, not by default. This desire points to our power and it all leads to our value and worth that comes from within.

So this is my warning...

I am about to embark on a journey of much more post writing than once a week. I say that with all the desire of my heart.

The warning is that you may be getting more emails/posts, than you desire. ~wink~ 

But, if you want to walk this path of destressing, and leveling up in life, you may not mind.

That is all...

Except, you know, I love you...

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

ps I do not know how many people are, or who is on my email list because I do not look. I do not want to know who reads my blog because I do not want to be influenced in what I write. I do, however, meditate and pray before I write, feeling guided and inspired by God.


I do know there are sometimes over one hundred to over two hundred people that read my blog a day, and I feel very grateful for that. 

One time one of my posts went viral and over eight hundred people read it in a day.

I believe with all my heart and soul that God is real, and my love for writing in this way is a blessing to me. 

I just wanted to share that with you. 

I'm not a great writer but my words are from my spirit, and I believe that matters more.

God bless you my dear reader...

Ever praying for you...

Sunday, May 10, 2020

Purpose

"Then he that had received the five talents went and traded with the same, and made them other five talents.
And likewise he that had received two, he also gained other two.
But he that had received one went and digged in the earth, and hid his lord’s money." ~Matthew 25:16-18, Holy Bible, KJV

Do you know this scripture?  Although this scripture is talking about money, isn't it ironic that the word 'talent' is in the translation?

This scripture always reminds me of those who live their purpose and prosper.

Look this scripture up and you will see that the person who hid their talent was afraid, and that is why he hid it.

Hey, hey.  How are you doing today? Praying you are okay... thought I forgot, didn't you! ~wink~ I'm kidding...

I'd like to ramble a little bit about purpose.  

One of the most important things, while we are on earth, is finding and living our purpose.  The reason I say that is because when we find, know, and live our purpose amazing things happen for us.

I believe, with all my heart and soul that everyone has a unique purpose in this life, and living that purpose is being about our business and not in anyone else's. Our business is between Heavenly Father and us. Meaning, my business is between God and me, and your business is between God and you. 

Another thing I believe, with all my heart and soul is, everyone on this God given earth has a unique purpose. This purpose is to help God's work go forward in our own individual way.

When I was very young, I knew, without a doubt, that I was meant to help others.  It wasn't until I moved on this belief that things brought me to know exactly what my purpose is.

My true purpose is to point people, who want guidance, and myself, in the direction of connecting to God so they/we may create, and live more faithful, fearless, and fruitful lives.

I do all of this through focus, by reading, researching, studying, and writing about God, faith, and love, which is the exact opposite of fear, and hate. The best part of all of this is my favorite things in life are God, faith, and love, and my favorite things to do are love, read, research, study, and write.

Faith and love is what this is all about.  

We can learn to live with faith in life, others, and ourselves, and we can learn to love life, others, and ourselves.

If you think about it, I mean really think about it, we either love or hate and we either have faith or fear.  We love this or we hate that.  We believe we can do this or we believe we can't do that.  

Fill in the blank!  

Of course there are in betweens, or neutrals, where we don't feel either way about certain things but we are still somewhere on that continuum.

Where am I going with this?

Heck, I don't know but I do know if you live your purpose you will increase your love for, and faith in, yourself.  Also, your love for life will grow.  When you have a love for life, you destress yourself.

Every once in a while, I see this young gentleman at my local cafe.  He is a musician, and he is about music all week long.  He is so good at it, he is in demand.  I gotta tell you, he is one of the most happiest and easy going persons I know.  He is loving and kind, and I love, love, love when I see him because he is an inspiration to me and I really just enjoy talking to him.

When you look at him you could easily judge a book by the cover.  He dresses in jeans and a t-shirt, and he has quite a few (a lot of) tattoos.  I'm not saying that is bad, I'm saying, it goes to show you that you don't have to be in an expensive suit and tie to be successful.

This young man is happy, loves, and he makes good moolah, most likely because he knows and lives his purpose. This is success to me. Happiness, love, and financial stability. 

Many people equate finances with success but if you aren't happy or in love, you aren't successful in my eyes, because loneliness and misery are a recipe for unhappiness, and unhealthiness.

Stress is the number one cause of every illness.

If I could teach the world to find and live their purpose I would because it creates happiness, health, self-confidence, and often wealth, which are very important ingredients in the recipe for success.

If I could change our school system to teach and encourage kids to find and live their purpose, I would.  Could you imagine how successful our society would be?

If we are not living our purpose we could be just living life, probably without happiness or at least fleeting happiness, and in the constant state of going nowhere, which is a very stressful place to be.

So, what I am trying to say is, you could destress yourself, and your life, if you live your purpose.  You may know what your purpose is, or you may not.  If you do know your purpose, and 'believe' you can't do it for a living, I would encourage you to at least work on it one hour a day.  When you do, you will feel better, and see amazing things happen.

If you don't know your purpose, I would encourage you to work on searching for what it is, at least one hour a day.  If you do this, I believe you will discover what it is and you will see amazing things happen.

What kind of amazing things you ask?  

Excellent question!!!

The most important things that, I think, will happen is you will develop a love and passion that you have never felt before.  You will also develop a love for and a faith in yourself and life, that you may not have experienced before.  All these discoveries will add to and increase your energy, happiness, inspiration, and vitality.

You want to feel good most of the time?  Increase your energy, happiness, inspiration, and vitality!

If you have any questions at all, as far as your purpose goes, you can Google it.  It is amazing what information is at our finger tips.  How lucky we are to live at a time in history that allows us to get answers to our questions in less than a minute.

If you feel like you are in the constant state of going nowhere, you may be able to change that by looking for and/or living your purpose.  Feeling like you are in the constant state of going nowhere could cause anxiety (fear of the future) and/or depression (beliefs of not being good enough). 

My friend, my dear friend, what I am trying to say, through all this rambling is, try living your purpose, if you don't already, and if you know what it is.  If you haven't yet found your purpose, look for it, and you will feel an excitement you may be missing.

This recommendation can, and will enhance one's love and joy for life. That is what destressing yourself is all about.

I believe, with all my heart and soul, that it is NOBODY'S business, to be in other peoples' business. I say that with all the kindness of my heart because, with all this time we have on our hands of late, people are resorting to junior high tactics of being busy bodies, when a person, could in fact, be about their own business.

I know that it is not anyone's purpose in this life to complain, criticize, demoralize, dramatize, or gossip about other peoples' business. 

We all want to try our hardest to live our specific purpose, which is being about our own business. Our purpose, is being about God's business, in our own special way.

Wouldn't you agree?

Something to ponder...

Speak soon my dear friend...

BIG HUGS!

Elizabeth

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Monday, May 4, 2020

Advanced Stress Relief

Hey, hey!

How are you doing these days?

My prayer is that you are doing okay...

I'm a poet... lol... well, I try anyway ~wink~

Recently, I heard a Doctor proclaim that anger, anxiety, and depression are on the rise because of the fear of economic future.

It appears that many could use a little destressing these days. So, I wanna talk about advanced stress management, which is evolving actions, and attitudes, which evolves beliefs, behaviors, and feelings.

I want to make this post short and sweet, so I will ramble only a little bit, then offer you a minor practice, as I usually do, and see if it helps. Let's experiment and see if it will work for you.

Stress is caused by our reactions to thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry something not so good is going to happen or is happening.

Destressing is caused by our conscious decisions to practice our thinking in a certain way, which is choosing our attitudes, which will choose better actions.

There is a scripture that says, "Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone." ~James 2:17, Holy Bible, KJV

To me, one of the things this scripture means is to behave like we believe in God, not just say we believe in God.

To behave like we believe, one must speak, and think like he or she believes. If we speak and think thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry, but say we believe in God, we are not behaving like we believe. In other words, one may say he or she believes in God but his or her actions and attitude show otherwise.

There is another scripture that goes...

"And Jesus answering saith unto them, Have faith in God. For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith. Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them." ~Mark 11:22-24, Holy Bible KJV

I believe this to be true, and I believe it to pertain to spiritual things more than temporal things. Spiritual, in the sense that we must seek the Kingdom of God first and foremost, and then all we ask to assist us in this Spiritual expansion, will in fact, come to pass.

I've done many behavioral experiments. Also, clients I've worked with have tried behavioral and spiritual experiments. Recently, I've been doing spiritual experiments for myself, and the most recent ones are memorizing scriptures and meditating upon them for three days.

These spiritual experiments got me feeling like I am really leveling up in life. It feels good! Especially, in the midst of the most worldly circumstances seen in my life time.

To feel good like this is to feel God! That is my edict.

If you'd like to change your actions, attitude, behaviors, and beliefs, to feel better, choose one of the scriptures I quoted above. Take the scripture, memorize it, and ponder it often. Make this a priority for at least three days, and I believe, with all my heart and soul, you will teeter into advanced stress relief, if you need to. ~wink~

This is faith with works!

This is behaving like you believe in God!

God is very real!

One of my many favorite scriptures is...

"This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success." ~Joshua 1:8, Holy Bible, KJV

Meditate on the chosen scripture day and night and thou shalt have good success...

God bless you my dear reader...

Ever praying for your happiness, health, love, magnificent relationships, and wealth, for these are success...

Success is living by the fruit of the spirit...

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law." ~Galatians 5:22-23, Holy Bible, KJV

This success I speak of, truly is a mental, mind, ninja project, and pursuit...

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

Monday, April 20, 2020

MORE BASIC STRESS MANAGEMENT

Well hello...

How are you doing during all of this stuff? 

I'm praying you are doing better than expected.

I'd like to explain a little more about basic stress management in order to help those who want to understand.

Generally, we think that stress is a situation. We have a fight in a relationship, our car breaks down, or we get laid off from work. To believe the situation is the stress is a common myth. 

Although, this is not to reduce the actual situation to nothing because we know that it can trigger stress but stress is not our circumstances.

So, if stress is not our circumstances what is stress?

A common equation that is used to describe stress is A+B=C. 

A is the activating event (situation), 

B is our belief, 

and C is our consequences (signs and symptoms). 

For example, if we are laid off from our job (Activating Event) and we believe that this is the worst thing that could ever happen to us (Belief) then our Consequences will be doubt, fear, and worry. Or, if we are laid off from our job (Activating Event) and we believe this is the best thing that could ever happen to us (Belief) then our Consequences will be certainty, confidence, and hope.

I know that might sound crazy to some that a person could be elated to be laid off but, it happens. Sometimes we need a push to get out of a career or industry we don't want to be in.

Therefore, stress is our reaction or our belief, which creates our consequences. Our consequences are our signs and symptoms mentally that are manifested physically. Some signs and symptoms of stress are difficulty concentrating, a racing mind, disorganization, sadness, irritability, anger, moodiness, headaches, neck aches, backaches, gastrointestinal problems, over or under eating, over or under sleeping, or increase in addiction of alcohol, smoking, or drugs.

Basic stress is in our everyday life because it begins with our thoughts. Stressful people get up in the morning worrying about all the things they have to do today and all the things that bothered them from yesterday. They go to work, to class, to being a parent, being the provider, and to doing their life. Their day is filled with stress because it is filled with habitual beliefs of doubt, fear, and worry.

Insecurity, i.e., stress versus confidence.

When a person destresses at the foundation of habitual thoughts, destressed feelings and actions will follow.

How does one destress, beginning with thoughts? He or she can recognize the fear of the future is in the mind and change it into certainty, confidence, and hope. Changing thoughts into certainty, confidence, and hope is not necessarily easy. 

Everyone has a choice. Sounds simple, but it may not be easy.

Thinking the worst thing could happen, is just a habit that we develop but, if we start practicing the thought that everything is going to be okay, because it always is, then we start to create a habit of faith.

Skip the panic, I always say. We do not have to panic, and many people don't. If I could get people who have anxiety to practice calmness, and meditation as often as they practice fearing the future, they would discover anxiety can be skipped. I truly believe that!

When we recognize our stressful habits and change them into faithful and fearless habits, we can watch ourselves become experts at stress management. In other words, permanent stress relief.

It's all about our focus. If you've had the habit of worry for a while, it will take a bit of practice to replace that stressful habit with faith.

The crux of human conditioning is that some people have been taught to not believe in themselves, and/or beat themselves up. These ways of being are what keeps a person in the state of giving up on themselves. 

Some of us are but infants in our spiritual development, and so we must learn to crawl, walk, run, ride the bike, and then drive the car of our life, so to speak. 

Could you imagine belittling and criticizing a child for learning to crawl, walk, run, ride, or drive? Maybe that was your experience, and maybe that's why you are a beater upper of the self.

When I was young, and I was learning things, my brothers always encouraged me, and then I had friends that encouraged me. Ultimately, I am the one who encourages myself now, and I refuse to beat myself up or criticize myself, ever! It's a practice I am extremely proud of.

All of this ramble is about changing stressful habits of fear into happy, healthy habits of faith by encouraging yourself. That truly is basic stress management. Managing your habitual reactions, manages your stress.

Capeesh!

I just wanted to give a little pointing to healing if you are in need of it, and I pray it helps your way.

Speak soon my friend...

Elizabeth

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Saturday, April 11, 2020

BASIC STRESS MANAGEMENT

Back to the basics... Basic stress management that is...

Hey! Hey!

How are you doing today?

Hoping you are managing your stress my friend. 

Stress levels appear to be very high, even with individuals who normally do not have stress.

What is stress anyway? A popular definition is, "our reaction to any stimuli." This definition makes more sense when we understand that there are two kinds of stress, distress, which is the negative sort, and eustress, which is the positive kind.

Distress often occurs when we are having a hard time in life, when we have a racing mind, and when we do not see a positive outcome.

Eustress often occurs when we are trying to obtain a specific goal, things become difficult, and yet, we are able to see a possible positive outcome. For example, attending school and studying for finals, applying for a job and having concerns about the interview process, or buying a house and feeling pressure due to the enourmous decision.

The questions I ask you are, "are you managing stress?" and "how do you know if you are managing your stress?"

Well, signs and symptoms of stress, positive or negative, are very easy to see.

The most obvious sign is unhappiness. If you are unhappy, chances are, you are not managing stress.

Other signs include physical ailments, emotional instability, or change in survival habits like eating and sleeping, for example, not eating, eating too much, the inability to fall asleep, to stay asleep, or to sleep at all.

In my opinion, the number one sign of stress is denial. Denial shows it's ugly little self when we have excuses for our behavior, or condition, and rationalize that we are not stressed. Other people can see our stressful signs and symptoms and yet we rationalize them by saying "everything is fine."

Managing stress is managing our life and that includes managing our energy, our thoughts, our feelings, and our actions.


How do we manage your energy? We all know the answer to this question because living a healthy life style is constantly in our face with the media. Living a healthy life style includes eating healthy, exercising, and getting plenty of rest. Eating healthy is eating for energy, in other words, eating plenty of vitamin rich foods like fruits, vegetables, proteins, and eliminating the processed food. Processed food takes a lot of energy to digest and therefore, depletes the energy that we can use to sustain our day and our stress.

How do we manage our thoughts? The number one way to manage our thoughts, when we are stressed or not, is by meditating. When we learn to quiet our mind we are doing the opposite of stressing, because when we are stressed our mind is racing.

Meditating and quieting the mind is ultimate patience and focus, and stressing may become impatience, annoyance, irritation, and intolerance.

Another way to manage our thoughts is to have goals that combat our stress and faith that everything will be okay. We know everything will be okay because it always is. No matter what we go through we always survive. When we set goals to combat our stress we are just working towards solutions rather than worrying about our problems. When we manage our thoughts we manage our feelings because our feelings follow whatever we are thinking.

If we are worried about money then we feel fear. If we set goals to make money and create confidence that everything will be okay, we will then feel certainty and trust.

When we manage our thoughts, which manages our feelings, we then manage our actions. If we worry about certain things, we feel fear, and then we act upon that fear. When we quiet our mind, and focus, we feel calm and confident, and therefore act upon those feelings of calmness and confidence.

Managing our stress is recognizing our stressful habits, like fear, doubt, and worry, eliminating these habits, and then creating successful practices, like confidence, faith, and hope.

Praying for you, and rooting for you to create confidence, faith, and hope so you may manage your stress.

Speak soon...

ELIZABETH

Sunday, April 5, 2020

Destress Technique

Today, I would love to give you a destress technique that will relieve your stress immediately, anytime, and anywhere.

Hello there, my wonderful reader! How are you? It is my prayer that you are enjoying life.

Some people may be unable to enjoy life right now, and it is likely because of what is going on for them personally. When times are difficult it may be easy to  practice doubt, fear, and worry. When we practice doubt, fear, and worry, we practice stress.

No one wants to be stressed or to practice stress. Unfortunately, some individuals are unknowingly trained up in that way. The good news is, we can practice what we want, into permanence.

Most people want the opposite of being stressed, which is being relaxed. People want calm, confidence, and peace.

There is a relaxation response, and a stress response. Often times the stress response is activated by conditioned, habitual thoughts of fear of the future.

The relaxation response can also be habitual, but if it's not, one can practice it into permanence, and replace the stress reaction.

You have probably guessed that the destress technique I am going to teach you is how to activate and practice the relaxation response.


The relaxation response is powerful. 


The relaxation response is so powerful that it has taught many others, and myself to be in a place of calm, certainty, and confidence in all situations. Could you imagine that?

It is totally possible to live in a place of permanent stress relief by practicing the relaxation response, and that is why I want to teach you this technique today.

The relaxation response is super easy to learn, and can be practiced at anytime, and any where.


Here are the steps to practice immediate stress relief through the relaxation response.


Step one: Inhale slowly through your nose filling your lungs to full capacity.

Step two: As you feel your lungs expand, notice the pressure of your lungs pushing down on your diaphragm (the muscle between your chest and stomach). 

Step three: Allow this feeling of pressure on your diaphragm to be the button that activates the relaxation response, and feel your entire body, and mind prepare to relax.

Step four: Exhale slowly through your mouth and consciously imagine all of the thoughts and emotions of strain, and tension leave your mind and body with the out bound breath.

Step five: Be aware of your mind clearing and your body giving way to gravity into a relaxed state.

Step six: Enable your entire body, and mind to practice being relaxed.

Step seven: Savor the body and mind relaxation for as long as you are able. See if you can prolong the feeling of being calm, confident, safe, and secure for longer periods of time, each time.

Step eight: Repeat steps one through eight.

There you have it! The relaxation response.


Practice makes nearly perfect so practice, practice, and practice some more.

This is easy, and if you want to destress yourself, you will put this at the top of your priority list.

You could practice the response three times a day, or at the top of every hour.

You could practice this exercise after each meal.

Figure out a way to implement this easy destress technique and you will be supreme at permanent stress relief.

If you are really serious about destressing, and creating peace in your body, mind, and soul, I'd practice it every day, and make a commitment to do it as frequently as possible.

This is the way of conditioning.

It is a small price to pay for respite, and serenity.

You can do this, and it will be oh so very beneficial for you, your family, and your future.

Never give up on practicing the calm, confident, safe, secure feelings that you deserve, and desire.

Para ti!


Enjoy...

Love you so much.


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Sunday, March 29, 2020

Destressing Deep Despair

Hello my dear reader...

Happy Sunday...

Destressing Deep Despair is what I'd like to discuss this day.

Some of you may have other things pressing on you besides world news. You may have personal crisis or difficulties that are causing deep despair.

If you do, please let me help and try to point you in the direction of destressing any despair.

If I could just bring you to the future, maybe a year or two from now, you may find yourself saying, "Oh my goodness, I really was freaked out over (insert whatever you might be struggling with now)."

Do you remember the hard times in the past and how you are doing much better, than then, now?

When I was a young, unwed, pregnant woman, thirty four years ago, I was in great turmoil. Could you imagine? What was I going to do? How was I going to support myself? How on earth was I going to raise another human being when I still needed growing up myself?

I was more afraid of the future than I ever was. The best part of it all is, having my son was the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. I've learned to love like I have never loved before. I've learned that I am brave, courageous, resilient, and full of tenacity. 

We all have the capability to see how the struggle can and will make us stronger. That strength I am talking about is the faith, patience, and trust in God.

This faith, patience, and trust in God is within us, we just have to practice it. We can reach for it within our mind, and practice it moment to moment.

Think about your past for a second. 

When were you in despair before, prayed to your Heavenly Father, and then an answered prayer came? If you really think about it, sometimes it was immediate, and sometimes it was delayed a little while.

Were you ever in financial crisis, and relief came?

Were you ever in deep loneliness, or sadness, and relief came?

Were you ever in a dark place because of health, and prayers were answered?

Did you ever have a relationship end, and you thought it was the end of the world but you survived?

We can look in the past at our struggles and suffering, and see with clarity, the relief always came. The relief will always come.

I have suffered very much, and without going into detail, I have come to know a great lesson, and that is... everything is going to be alright, no matter what, because it always is. It always works out.

If we could but know, it always works out, before we freak out in our mind over the future, on what might happen, we can have serenity in our soul.

The crux of fear, aka insecurity, is we can freak out over the future, and our mind can make us crazy because we believe the thoughts we are thinking. Sometimes it's not so easy to relieve despair in another person, because of frightening thoughts of the future. 

I've helped thousands of people in despair and there are two things I know for sure: first, people will argue for their despair, and you cannot argue with fear. Therefore, I let them work it out, in their mind, and with God. Arguing with despair becomes about being right, and I do not need, or want to be right. 

Second, people who are in their lowest place, and want to suffer no more, will try almost anything to relieve the sorrow. Wanting relief from despair is probably why so many people, in anguish, are willing to listen, and can hear God's words.

The difference between the two, I present above, about despair are arguing, and listening. Arguing to be right because the insecure person is tired of being wrong. And listening for respite because the person is tired of a weary soul.

If you are in deep despair, and weary, because of what is going on in your life, and/or the world, I have listed links to posts below, and hopefully it will help you, if you need it.

I just want to point you towards healing, if you need it, and if you want it. That's all I can do, is be here for you.

There is a lot going on in the world right now, and I have faith that everything is alright, and that everything is going to get even better. My belief is based on my faith in God, life, others, and myself.

God bless you my dear reader...

Ever praying for your comfort, and strength. 

Ever here for you when you need it.

Speak soon...

Elizabeth


Destressing Deep Despair Link List


Relieving Despair

Three Most Important Things When Destressing Despair

Destressing Moments of Despair

How to Destress Despair

Why Meditation

Do You Have an Open Mind?

Deepest Moments of Despair Part II

Ungrateful Me

Relationship with God

The Most Important Thing to Do