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Sunday, January 17, 2021

Destress Yourself with a Heart Full of Love

Hello my dear reader...

How are you doing?

Got questions about love for you...

But first, did you do the spiritual experiment from last post, Faith Over Force? I certainly did, and it really got me thinking about my faith in God, and how I can do all things through Him and that faith.

This focus on faith kept me away from thoughts of fear. Pretty cool, I think. Being faithful and fearless is what destressing yourself is all about.

I've been writing about faith, God, and love a lot because I know that is the foundation of everyone's purpose in life. As I do these experiments and write about spiritual expansion, I have dreams.

Yesterday, when I was a sleep, I dreamt that I fell a sleep (funny, I know!), and God came to me and said, "Be neutral, be silent, for there I am." Then I woke up from my dream, in my dream.

Crazy, crazy but so really real to me.

So, I'd like to ask questions about love because, "But the fruit of the Spirit is love," ~Galatians 5:22, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV

We are spiritual! And we are love!

Have you been showing love?

How often do you show love through actions and words towards your loved ones? 

Is it everyday?  

Once a week? 

Every other week? 

Our family and friends need our love through actions and words. It brings us closer and the more often we show our love the happier we will be. 

The happier we are the less stressed we are. 

One of my good friends always tells me that if she is feeling sad or lonely the first thing she does is call someone else to see how they are and if they need anything. 

She receives comfort in comforting a loved one. 

I have to agree with her. When I reach out to another  it helps me feel better. 

This is a great way to destress yourself with a heart full of love, by showing love.

Reaching out to others reminds me of the scripture, "Pure religion and indefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world." ~James 1:27, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV

Is there someone you can reach out to, and maybe lift up by listening to them, and letting them know you are there if they need it?

One of my focuses for 2021 is to talk less and listen more. Listen more to others to learn more and understand more. We need each other, and I want to be for others what I would like others to be for me.

Let us create a spiritual experiment, shall we! 

I'm laughing out loud because I think I am so clever and cute with these spiritual experiments. These experiments are to create habits of faith over fear, for 2021

Spiritual experiment:

Everyday, for as many days as possible, see if you can think of someone who may need lifting, or you might want to talk to, and give them a call. Give them a call with the intention of lifting them my listening.

As God said in my dream, "Be neutral, be silent, for there I am." Listen to that person with the love of God in your heart.

This is the year for increasing faith my friend.

That's it! Short and sweet, straight to the meat!

Have a great week!

Big Hugs...

Speak soon my friend.

Saturday, January 9, 2021

Faith Over Force

 Hey, hey!

Faith over force is what I'd like to discuss this day, but first! I'm wondering if you did the assignment from the last post, 2021 Destressing by Spiritual Expansion? You know I did... ~wink~

On day one I meditated upon Hebrews 11:1, and continued to contemplate it through out the day and I found myself asking, "What do I want?" The only answer I had was to love.

All I want to do is love because it feels so good and things go so well.

Have you ever been in love?

Do you know how wonderful that feels?

Do you know what wonderful moments are made when you are in love?

I've discovered, from spiritual education and experiments, I do not need to be in love with any particular person, so to speak, to be in love because I have discovered that I can be love. Love comes from within. 

Truly, I am love, and I am practicing it daily.

Love is the fruit of the spirit, and we are spiritual.

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is not law." ~ Galatians 5:22-23, New Testament, Holy Bible

We are spiritual, and we are born into this existence as such. Look at any child, and he or she is exactly what the quote above describes until he or she is conditioned into human ways to believe his or her love depends on what others do for and to us. Some friends, parents and teachers can condition love in this way.

All these spiritual experiments I do and write about are based on the hypothesis that the human conditioning can train us away from who we truly are, and the premise of self conditioning and training can bring us back to our spiritual nature.

Human conditioning promotes fear.

Spiritual nature is faith.

These thoughts are what bring me to faith over force.

As a spiritual scientist, because you are doing spiritual experiments and I dub you as such, we look at evidence that is true, and is untrue regarding human conditioning versus spiritual nature. 

For example, when a child is born, they are pure spirit, as described in the scripture above. Also, human conditioning can remove these innate qualities that a child once had.

This is evidence! 

You may have the argument that you know a child that is, or was not as described as above, and I could, and would dispute it by looking at stress from an experts view versus a non experts perspective. But that is a topic for a different blog post.

Back to faith over force.

Some people are lucky enough to have parents that raised them in the way of confidence, by example, and they remain spiritual in faith because of this conditioning. 

Some people are lucky enough to have parents who remain in the state of doubt, fear, and worry, and yet still prevail in their spirituality via decisions they make on their own.

Some people are less lucky and have parents who are very dramatic and teach insecurity by example, and therefore become insecure and believe they can only get their way by controlling others and force.

To discuss our past keeps us in the problem rather than the solution but I propose the above evidence purely for intro to the faith over force idea I'm about to present.

Faith is clarity and the foundation of confidence.

Fear is confusion and the foundation of force.

As I contemplated, "Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." ~Hebrews 11:1, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV

All week long, I found myself noticing the force on others, from others because of a feared outcome, and the faith of others because of their confidence. It was as though God was showing me the difference.

Some people actually believe you have to control others because they are afraid of what "might" happen in the future. I use to be like that. I am still like that in some situations, but less and less as I do my spiritual research on God, faith, love, patience, and trust.

Practiced faith is the solution to every problem. Fear is the problem, and we can skip the problem by practicing faith.

What problem is fear?

Fear causes anger, anxiety, depression, and despair.

I know, I know, I repeat myself repeatedly but repetition is the great law of learning. Memorization, and practice are the way to permanence. 

Confidence is the focus.

Faith is the active practice.

It really is that simple, and yet not necessarily easy.

I'm not here to convince anyone to connect to God by practicing faith. I am, however, here to support you in your efforts to obtain a desire to connect to God through faith, patience, and trust training.

I know without a doubt that anyone who wants to talk and walk with God and receive guidance and inspiration can but they gotta do the work. The work is reconditioning the self back to who we are, back to the spiritual nature.

If you live in the fruit of the spirit, you probably don't need this training, but I do, plus, I love doing the research and experiments.

I've worked with many people who gladly do spiritual experiments, and they always level up. Getting back to who we are is not a degree you obtain, it is an adventure a person desires. It is never ending because we are eternal but the love and joy that is obtained increases more and more, which makes it illuminating and rewarding. 

I digress, as usual.

Back to faith over force.

Being faithful is going with the flow, without any negative emotions or fear. It's a practice.

Being controlling of others' behavior because you need them to be a certain way is fearful and forceful. Often times (probably all times) this fear is absurd and out of the proportion to the actual event.

God is in charge, and when we fear, and become forceful with others, we do not believe God is in charge.

I tell myself this all the time, mostly after the fact.

I want things to go a certain way, meaning, my way, and I begin to be irrational in my wanting to control and force. I'm less and less like this nearly every time it happens, and I am about 1000% better than I use to be.

It really is all about the remembering, and reminding, and practicing.

Going with the flow, chilling out, and trusting God is our spiritual experiment for this week.

All that rambling for prelude to another spiritual experiment. I'm comical.

Faith leads to trust!

2021 is the year for spiritual expansion! 

If you are like me, you really want to connect to God, and talk and walk with Him by faith, patience, and trust.

I know, with all my heart and soul that with God all things are possible, and to have faith in this is behaving like I believe.

Not just saying I believe, but behaving as such.

The spiritual experiment that I offer this day is to concentrate, contemplate, and focus on two short scriptures, so that we may increase our behaviors as we believe.

If we do this, I believe, I know, that connection, guidance and inspiration will come.

In the morning, first thought!

All through out the day!

In the evening as we lay our head on our pillow to fall asleep!

"And Jesus answering saith unto them, Have faith in God." ~ Mark 11:22, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV

"But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible." ~ Matthew 19:26, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV

As we meditate upon these memorized scriptures, we will notice more our doubts, fears, force, and worries, and thus be able to intervene.

For those of you who repeatedly tell people you refuse to ignore the horrible things in life because you think it is foolish and ignorant, please read my post on Ignorance is Not Bliss. It may change your mind.

Some people cannot understand spiritual things because they have convinced themselves of nonspiritual things.

Misery is not reserved for a few. Misery happens to everyone. Misery can be a moment in time, like history. If we focus on the miserable things that happen to us it remains our state. Like the people who tell their horrible stories months, even years after they happen.

Appreciation is the truth and it takes practice. We can practice spiritual things such as faith, and cultivate habits that create happiness, health, love, and wealth.

Let's do this! ~wink, wink~

God bless you my dear sweet reader, and thank you so much for going along this spiritual adventure with me.

Big Hugs!

Speak soon...


Sunday, January 3, 2021

2021 Destressing by Spiritual Expansion

Hello! Happy 2021!

Spiritual Work to Destress Yourself is what I'd like to discuss this day.

Spiritual work meaning, spiritual expansion, and connecting to God.

Dear reader, how are you doing? Practicing faith, patience, and trust? I am, and it's a never ending enduring to the end. Funny phrase, 'enduring to the end' seeing how we are eternal. I guess I'm enduring to the end in spiritual things in the human existence.

Have you ever read the sermon on the mount, Matthew chapters 5-7, in the Holy Bible? It is great instruction for spiritual work to be done while in the human existence.

Most of you bible readers are very familiar with the sermon given by Jesus the Christ. If you are, or are not, familiar, I say give it a gander, and see what you think? 

One of my favorite scriptures, in the Sermon on the Mount is, "But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you." Matthew 6:33, Sermon on the Mount, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV.

Seeking the kingdom of God is spiritual work. In my last three posts: Spiritual Advice, Destressing via Spiritual Experiments, and Spiritual Experiments to Destress, I discuss ways to seek the kingdom of God.

When we seek the kingdom of God we are, in fact, seeking God.

When we seek God we are, in fact, seeking spiritual expansion.

I believe, I know rather, that 2021 is the year of spiritual expansion.

Crisis asks, even begs, for focus.

Are you in a crisis mode?

Maybe you aren't in crisis mode, maybe you are just in stressed out mode.

Seeking God will give you great peace and it is done by inner work. When we want to connect to God we must use our mind to focus on faith, which is the foundation and key to finding God, and His kingdom.

Concentration, contemplation, and focus on faith is the order of the entire year for spiritual expansion in 2021.

"Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: 

But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal:

For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light. 

But if thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in thee be darkness, how great is that darkness!" ~ Matthew 6:19-23, Sermon on the Mount, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV.

Faith is the focus that will bring light in 2021.

The opposite of faith is fear, and practiced fear gives darkness through anger, anxiety, depression, and despair. Therefore, I will be writing about practicing faith, as I do, with spiritual exercises, and experiments.

"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love." ~ John 4:18, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV

Faith forms the perfect love, for God, life, others, and yourself that will bring great light and inner peace to any crisis, darkness, and/or stress you may be experiencing.

In the last couple months, I wrote some posts about spiritual experiments. My own experiences began with praying for all, and then evolved to contemplating and praying for faith, patience, and trust.

The experiment that I will offer today is focused on faith.

This is the beginning of the conditioning and training in spiritual expansion for 2021.

My focus for 2021 is to talk less and listen more. Listen more to others, and listen more to myself. Listening to others to learn and understand, and listen to myself to notice any fear that I may have.

Thoughts of fear come forth and are more apparent when we focus on faith. This is very good because fearful thoughts aren't as noticeable when we are just looking for them. When there is focus on faith, the contrast of fear is louder. When thoughts of fear are detected, we can condition and train ourselves to replace the fear with faith.

This is where we begin (I say we hoping you will do this with me)...


"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." ~ Hebrews 11:1

This is our intentional contemplation. When we wake in the morning, let us make this our first thought. This is really cool! I've been experimenting with this the past year. When I have a memorized phrase, scripture, or word that is my focus, I make it my first thought when I wake up. This gives me concentration on spiritual things.

Spiritual things are the solutions to human conditioning.

In addition, the scripture above is also our intentional concentration throughout the day, and our consideration as we lay our head on our pillow as we retire for the night.

This is the beginning of our focus on faith.

As we do this, I believe fearful thoughts will be more obvious, and when they are, we are going to ask ourselves, "What do I want?" or, "What do I hope for?" And answer the questions. 

This will make us intentionally change fear to faith, and focus on what we want.

For example, when I ask myself, "What do I hope for?" I think to myself what I hope for in that moment, or in the future. I'd really like things to go my way in the moment, and I articulate what that would be, at that time. In my future, I'd like to just be able to research and write for a living. Although I do research and write much of the time, I'd like to do the research and writing of spiritual things, all the time.

What would you like to be, do, have?

When you think about and answer that question, you think about things hoped for, as in the scripture we're memorizing on faith.

Seeking the kingdom of Heaven is inner work!

Spiritual expansion is inner work!

Connecting to God is inner work!

The free will that God gives us is choosing what we think.

When we control, and govern what we think, we live in our power.

Our power is not in controlling how others treat us but, in how we govern our own thoughts.

What we think, creates our emotions.

Fearful thoughts lead to anger, anxiety, depression, and despair.

Faithful thoughts lead to happiness, joy, and vitality.

Will you walk this journey of destressing by spiritual expansion in 2021 with me?

I hope you will for you, if you feel like you need to.

This is heavenly work on earth, and it is spiritual homework.

Print this post, make notes, highlight what you will to help you, and refer to it everyday as part of your spiritual studies.

Do! Not! Forget! To! Memorize! And! Intentionally! Contemplate! Hebrews! 11! 1!

Ha ha ha...

I'm bossing you around. But truly, I know these suggestions will help anyone who is seeking spiritual expansion, and that is exactly what we need to connect to God, and discover He is in charge.

God allows all things to work for our good, it is our responsibility to discover that it is all for the working of our faith. 

There is a lesson in everything, and the lesson is faith, patience, and trust. If we haven't been practicing these lessons, we may not be too conditioned in them.

This is spiritual expansion.

This may seem silly to some but, fear is creeping in for many, and faith truly is inner work, and it is my prayer, if you have fearful thoughts and you focus on faith, things will be more comforting when you intentionally work on it.

God bless you my dear sweet reader.

Speak soon...


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Sunday, December 6, 2020

Spiritual Advice

Hello my dear friend! 

Happy December!

How are you doing today? 

I have a prayer in my heart that you are calm, confident, and cooperative. 

As I have been contemplating faith, patience, and trust, as discussed in my last post, Destressing Via Spiritual Experiments, I thought about the immense amount of suffering I endured in the first half of my life due to fear, impatience, and distrust. 

As long as I can remember, I have been seeking connection to God, most likely because of my suffering. 

I've been reading and studying my scriptures for decades. I've been praying every morning, throughout every day, and every night. I've attended church every single Sunday for years. I've served when asked, and always paid tithe.

I do not know if anyone spoke magnificent words that helped me but, I do know that I have had magnificent people in my life that were an example to me.

My point? 

I've been seeking connection to God for a very long time, and all of my spiritual education, and experiences has added evidence to my undertaking.

Looking back, not one person could, or did give me advice on how to connect to God in a way that could, and would relieve my stress, aka my suffering. There were individuals that meant well but much of the advice I was given was not spiritual, it was more from a confused human conditioning.

Maybe people did give me spiritual advice but I didn't hear it.

One thing I know for sure is, there have been people in my life, whom I still think about today, who are, and were an amazing example to me in spiritual practice. Some of these individuals didn't, and don't, even talk about God. 

When I think about these people, my heart fills with intense love and sentimental memories. These people are, to this day, calm, confident, and cooperative.

When we are cooperative with others, we are cooperative with ourselves, and when we are cooperative with ourselves, we are cooperative with God. 

Human conditioning can teach us that life is a competition, and therefore we must get what we want, and how we want it, which in turn can create friction at home and at work.

It is my humble opinion that we are all born calm, confident, and cooperative but some of us are conditioned in competition, and trained up to be competitors.

This evidence can clearly be seen amongst people who fight to be right by making others wrong. 

For example, when a person may disagree with a family member, and/or friend, the competitive person will argue to be right, and get angry because he or she doesn't want to be wrong. Then that person will continue to argue beyond the presence of the other, in their mind and to other people. 

A calm, confident, and cooperative person will be okay with the disagreement and let it go. They are unattached to being wrong or right because they understand differences of opinions, and that no one thinks exactly alike.

If I could have been a person, who could have spoke words of spiritual advice to my younger self, these are the first words I would have spoke...

"Life is not a competition! Life is a cooperation, which can be had by learning, listening, and loving to understand."

"Open your spiritual eyes and see the evidence!"

"Look at the successful people and observe. Success meaning the happy, harmonious, and healthy. Harmonious and healthy meaning in body, mind, and soul."

"Notice how these successful people behave. They are calm, confident, and cooperative because they are thoughtful. People who are angry, anxious, and pugnacious are insecure, disconnected from God, and thoughtless."

Then I'd say, with all the love in my heart...

"Dear one, dear sweet one, practice calm cooperation with others, which will lead to calm cooperation with yourself, which is calm cooperation with God."

"This is how you do it..."

"Fall in love with listening to others with compassion of the heart, as Jesus did. This is characteristic of being Christlike. Talk less, listen more, and try to understand with compassion."

"Compassion leads to understanding. To know that everyone is doing the very, very, very best with what they have been given in life thus far is understanding." 

"To argue with, blame, complain, and criticize others is an unsympathetic habit that focuses on a persons' imperfections. In addition, these are the practiced patterns of insecurity."

"You do not have to be right with anyone. Having to be right is part of the human conditioning that says my worth is being right. This leads to insecurity, which closes the mind to leveling up emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually."

"We are all imperfect, and it is not necessary to focus on faults of the human existence. To do so is but a training anyone can overcome."

"You are a spiritual being, therefore, you have a will with a power to focus and understand life. This will leads to you being, doing, and having what you are meant to and the only one who keeps you from any of it is you and your unbecoming attitude from your perception."

"Open your mind!" 

"Use your will to focus!" 

"Open your mind to the evidence of happiness, harmony, and health. Use your will to focus on creating a connection to God via practicing calm, confidence, and cooperation."

Then I'd tell myself...

"Here is your spiritual homework that must be read every night, so it may be put into memorization, and practice everyday, until it is permanent in attitude and personality."

"First, practice being calm." 

"When you wake, set the day by taking a deep breath, exhale feeling the body relax and the mind quiet. Remind yourself to do this throughout the day, and fall asleep at night with this same practice. It may be very hard for you at first, but remind yourself you are not an animal or a child, and you have the intellect to choose your practice."

"Be still, and know that I am God:" ~Psalm 46:10, Holy Bible, KJV

"Second, notice in this practice of calming the body, and quieting the mind, you are in a space of safety and security. This is the power of the eternal now. The mind will have you think of the future or past, which gives way to insecurity but, the safety and security in the practice of the present moment gives a habit of confidence."

"Third, talk less, learn to listen, and learn by listening to understand. Give up the urge to speak any opinions of pettiness. Accusations, judgments, and assumptions of nonspiritual things, are petty, in that they are insignificant to the calm, confident, and cooperation of the moment." 

"Refrain from unsolicited advice. Unsolicited advice says, "you can be better," which insinuates, "you are not good enough." 

"If we could know how good enough we are, we'd accomplish even more amazing things!"

"Fourth, butt out of peoples' business." 

"Do! Not! Ever! Gossip!"

"If you are going to be in anybody's business, let it be bragging about them, or to make sure they are okay."

"Fifth, think better of others no matter what!" 

"This one is huge!" 

"When we think better of others we are doing unto others that which we want done unto us. We want people to give us the benefit of the doubt. Therefore, give the gift of giving the benefit of the doubt to others."

"Did you know that you give yourself away by the words you speak about others?" 

"For example, when we speak assumptions of others being passive aggressive, we are telling people that's what we are." 

"We accuse others' from our perspective. That's what people mean when they say, you can only understand from your perspective." 

"If you accuse someone of doing something on purpose to hurt you, you are, in fact telling your perspective of hurting people on purpose."

"Now you may say, "I know when someone is being passive aggressive, or hurting me on purpose." But to say these things you are saying you read minds. If you in fact, read minds, I'm pretty confident that you'd be a millionaire for reading minds by now."

"Psychology 101 educates, believing we can read minds is an inaccurate view of reality that leads to personality disorders."

I digress..

Finally, I'd say, to myself, "if you want to be connected to God, as you've been diligently praying for most of your life, condition yourself in the habits given above by concentrating, and focusing on them into memorization, and daily training."

"Never beat yourself up, and never give up!"

"Permanence comes with practice!"

"This is the way!"

And that's what I'd say.

I believe, with all my heart and soul, if someone could have convinced me of the above words, twenty eight years ago, when I was twenty eight, I'd be where I am now in my calm, confident, connection to God, through cooperation with life, and others, probably twenty years ago.

Don't get me wrong, I have zero regrets! I love my past because I would not be the harmonious, loving, spiritual being that I feel like I am today. 

My favorite part of my life is the faithful and fearless connection to God that gives me guidance and inspiration to lift others and myself. The next favorite part is the smiles, and the thank you's of relief, because I know what it is to suffer, and I hold a prayer tight in my heart for relief for anyone who seeks it.

I am but an infant in my spirituality, and I am eager, exhilarated, and excited for my learning to understand more.

For this earnestness, my friend, is why I love to learn, love to listen, and love to understand.

My prayer, dear friend, is that some how, some way, my words can touch the heart of the seeker of connecting to God.

God bless...

Take good care...

Until next time...

Speak soon...


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Friday, November 27, 2020

Destressing Via Spiritual Experiments

Hey, hey! How are you doing today? I'm pretty chill and I am hoping the same for you.

It's Friday, and I am visiting my parents. In the United States it's the day after our Thanksgiving Holiday, in which we get together with family, give thanks, and feast.

In my last post, Spiritual Experiments to Destress, I invited you all to do a spiritual experiment, and I said I'd do it to.

Here is my update...

Day one: I forgot about it, kinda, until my head was bitten off by a gate keeper. I've been to this same facility before, in the earlier part of the year, and the same said person bit my head off then too. 

I literally put my head down, and said a little prayer for this person, and it went like this. "Dear Heavenly Father please bless him/her with comfort, patience, and strength, in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen."

When I lifted my head, and smiled, the individual changed with a twinkling of an eye. It was weird! I kid you not, from mean to kind, just like that. I was extremely impressed.

Day two: spent much of my time praying for others, as much as I possibly could. I was praying for random people that I didn't even know.

Day three: I returned to the same facility as day one, and the gate keeper, aka security, was very pleasant. 

All day long, I was saying prayers for people. Praying for blessings upon them and their family.

Day four: I woke up feeling so good, with an indescribable joy and love in my heart. This is what love feels like and when we love like this, God abides in us. In essence, it is God because He is love.

“And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.”~1 John 4:16, Holy Bible, KJV

Day four continued: As I persisted in praying for others, I found myself thinking, "How do I know what I should pray?" This came to me because I was running out of things to pray for others. Then, I began to ask Heavenly Father to help me understand what to pray for when praying for others.

This is how my spiritual experiments evolve.

About day five I had a dream. My Grandfather, who passed away when I was fifteen, was sitting with me and he told me that I was doing really, really, really good. He also told me that I am much to hard on myself but I don't know it because my concentrations are unintentional. He kissed me on the forehead, and that was it.

I understand that we are contemplating, focusing, habitual mechanisms. I also understand that we are not aware of all of the thoughts we think. I've read studies that say we have over sixty thousand thoughts a day.

On day six, I began to focus on intentional concentrations and contemplation. 

I began asking Heavenly Father what the most important habitual, intentional thoughts could be.

The answer seemed to always be faith, patience, and trust.

For the past week now, I've been waking up, and going to sleep with the concentration, and contemplation on faith, patience, and trust. 

Throughout the day, I've tried to pray for others' faith, patience, and trust.

All the while, I've been praying for understanding, and what I have seen is people expressing more kindness, and more patience.

Here in California people are normally involved in very full schedules, and sometimes tend to be in a rush. Recently, I have noticed more patience in others, and less rush. It is beautiful.

With my focus on faith, patience, and trust I'm feeling more faith in God, life, and others, I'm being more patient with others, and myself, and I'm also thinking more about what trust in God, life, and others is.

Faith, patience, and trust, in my humble opinion, is always the lesson when we are feeling angry, anxious, or depressed, which are fearful states. 

I've made faith, patience, and trust a habitual focus, a constant prayer, and I believe unconditional love has begun to ensue.

With unconditional love comes connection to God, and spiritual expansion. Unconditional love is perfect love, which casts out fear.

"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love." ~1 John 4:18, Holy Bible, KJV

As this holiday season continues, maybe you'd like to level up in feeling more joy, and love by intentionally contemplating faith, patience, and trust.

I've been focusing and concentrating on these for the last week now, and things really seem to go my way. What I mean by 'go my way' is connection to God via ongoing happiness and joy for life, others, and myself. 

Part two of Spiritual Experiments to Destress could be intentional contemplation on faith, patience, and trust. 

Let us make it the first consideration in the morning, the focus throughout the day, and the final reflection as we retire for the night.

Let's see how it goes!

Praying my ramblings of spiritual experiments help.

God bless you my dear friend.

Speak soon...


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Saturday, November 14, 2020

Spiritual Experiments to Destress

Hello Dear Reader!

Spiritual Experiments to Destress is what I'd like to discuss this day...

How are you doing? I am ever praying for your happiness, health, love, and wealth. 

Actually, I pray everyday for all of these for our world. These are the things people want! I believe the first one, happiness, is what everyone really wants.

Some people have health problems, some have love difficulties, and others need money. Many people believe that these things will bring happiness but what if happiness could bring these things?

If stress is the number one cause of every illness, and happiness, which is very much an attitude of faith, is the opposite of stress, which is basically fear. Couldn't happiness heal illness?

If insecurity is the number one cause of every heartbreak, couldn't happiness cure it?

What if anxiety and worry keeps a person in dire need of money because of the focus on lack, i.e., the problem, versus focusing on a solution?

In order to answer these questions one must create an experiment in his or her own life to see if these theories are true or false.

In my very young years as an Emergency Medical Technician (EMT), I conducted my very first spiritual experiment I can remember, and without even knowing it.

During this time I was having such a difficult time with health, love, and wealth. My energy was low, I had no love for myself, and I was in mental anguish due to finances. Barely making enough money to survive, working long hours, and experiencing harassment from a very few men. 

Every Sunday, I had always attended church, and one service really hit my soul to have a constant prayer in my heart. So, I felt inspired to pray constantly, for every situation, and person before me.

I prayed for the people I worked with, whether I liked them or not. I prayed for patients and their family members. I prayed for everything before me with an appreciation in my heart.

The most amazing things happened for me during this "spiritual experiment." All the things I needed came to me. My energy was through the roof, I felt extremely good, and opportunity for more weekly income came.

Not only that, but this was the first time I was aware of clear and specific, internal guidance and inspiration to do things. 

The still small voice was strong. 

Several times, when we received emergency calls, I would be prompted to bring equipment on scene that we would not ordinarily bring for certain calls. The equipment that I was prompted to bring was what we needed, and it saved us the energy and time from having to return to the ambulance to get it. 

Crazy? Maybe to me back then, but now, I am used to guidance and inspiration due to the spiritual experiments I do weekly for myself, and with people I help.

This prayerful experience, in my humble opinion, brought me closer to many of the men I worked with. You see, I was often the only female among my coworkers. It was a very challenging time for me.

Would you like to level up in destressing you? If you would, I propose that you try this spiritual experiment I discuss above. Pray for every situation you are in, and for every person in front of you. Then, just see what happens.

See if your energy rises, health improves, love increases, and money comes your way, if you need it.

I have theories! My number one theory, which is at the foundation of all of my beliefs, is the law of love. 

When you love, things improve. As you pray for others, you are, in essence, sharing and showing your love.

"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love." ~1 John 4:18, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV

This scripture is the greatest reference to destressing yourself, and life isn't it? Stress is fear! Some people think it's a situation, like what you may be going through. But! Actually, stress comes from our reaction and what we think about what's going on.

There is no stress in love! Love is the remedy to destress, and prayer can, and will bring anyone closer to love. Prayer is communication with our Father in Heaven. Therefore, we are connecting to God as we pray for others. We are also serving God when we pray for others.

If you want to increase your connection with God, and destress more, try the spiritual experiment my dear sweet friend. Try it for at least a week, and if you write down the daily successes, it will only enhance your experience.

If you really want to level up spiritually, do the experiment for the rest of the year, and just watch things evolve for you. All's you gotta do is "pray always." Luke 21:36, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV

Do it for you, if you want to. I'll do it too! I'll do it until December 31, 2020, I'll document it, and promise to share the spiritual results.

I share this because I know with all my heart and soul, spiritual experiments will destress anyone's stress. My humble opinion from years of experience.

Have a wonderful day dear special one! 

Speak soon...


Saturday, October 31, 2020


Hello there!

How are you doing? It's election days in California, and I just wanted to say that I voted, and I hope you did to, if it is important to you.

Sometimes some people get really stressed out over political times so I thought I'd link to some posts below just in case you'd like some destressing this week.

Hope that these posts are helpful.

It's been some weeks since I've posted, and I hope you will forgive me. I'm doing a lot of spiritual experiments, and they are consuming my time because it is a priority for me.

I'd really like to share some of the results but, the experiences are very sacred, and hard to articulate in a way that would be helpful to all. That's my excuse. 

Critical times asks, often begs for focus, and that is what I have been doing. Focusing on spiritual things.

God bless you my dear sweet reader, I am ever praying for your self compassion to destress.

Take good care, and speak soon...

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Thursday, October 8, 2020

Is God Real?

Hey, hey...

How are you doing today?

I'm ever praying for your happiness, health, success, and wealth.

In my last post, Are You Paying Attention, I delineated ten things I know for sure, and the first one was, God is very real. If you haven't read it, and would like to, you may by clicking here.

Do you know, in your heart and soul, God is very real?

I do! How do I know? I'm just lucky I guess. Ha ha ha, just kidding.

The very first time I heard about Heavenly Father, I knew, deep down in my soul that what I was hearing was very real. It was when I was at the tender age of about four years old.

Since that time, I have always asked Heavenly Father to help me get closer to him and understand more.

Every time I would wish upon a falling star, I would whisper in my mind, "Help me get closer to you, God."

Throughout my youth, I attended church with whom ever would ask me, and my Grandmother would take me every time I visited her, or she visited us.

When my son was born, and I held him for the first time, I prayed a special prayer promising Heavenly Father I would teach my son about him if he would help me. It was a covenant I made in my heart with God.

In my young, single motherhood, I would suffer much with fear about finances, and it amplified my anger, anxiety, depression, and deep despair. In my deepest moments of despair, I would get on my knees, crying to my Heavenly Father, and I received comfort every single time. Sometimes it was immediate, and other times it was not. 

Nevertheless, I poured my heart out, and I was heard.

I've been reading, and studying the scriptures since 1989, and I have received guidance and inspiration on many things, ever since. 

The greatest guidance I have ever received, and continue to, is to better myself so I may know Heavenly Father more, and be an example to others. It is, and has been, important to practice what I preach, as a destress specialist, not only for my son, but also for the people I help.

The guidance and inspiration I have received, over the last three decades, has brought me to a faithful and fearless place of knowing that God is very present in all of our lives. This presence gives me inner peace.

The thing about knowing God is real is, I had to do the work to get to where I am now. Often, I wake up with, and feel through out the day, God's love for me and others. This feeling is ineffable. The only word I can use to describe it is bliss.

Sometimes this joy that I feel is so overwhelming, I cry to release it. It's a happy, joy filled cry.

This inner peace and joy provides much happiness, and vitality. Is my life perfect? Nearly! Am I perfect? Not even nearly. I am but a toddler in spiritual things.

The work that I have done comes from the scriptures, and the teachings from Jesus.

The greatest commandment, and the greatest instructions are from the Holy Bible.

To love the Lord thy God, is the greatest commandment. To meditate on, and study, the scriptures is the greatest instructions.

When you love someone, you learn about them, and listen to them.

I learn from, and hearken to the scriptures, which is the book of life, and the book of God.

I listen to Heavenly Father, through Jesus' words, and through the still small voice. This still small voice gives me guidance and inspiration on many things. 

When we love God with all our might, mind, and strength, he is very near. God is love, and when we love, God abides in us.

How do we love? Jesus shows us through his example, and when we follow his example, it begins in the mind. The choice to have charity and compassion for others begins in our mind. Our mental choice to love creates a connection between God and this life. It's all about the focus. 

I have learned that I am love, and when I love, not only does God abide in me, perfect love abides in me. Perfect love casts out all human fear. This fear displays itself in emotions like anger, anxiety, depression, and despair.

Some people do not believe in God. Maybe these individuals prayed for something they did not receive, believe their prayer wasn't answered, and then concluded God is not real. 

The truth is, we cannot dictate to God how we want our life to be, and expect he is going to just give it to us like a rich Daddy who spoils his offspring who gets anything he or she wants?  

Various persons do not give God the time of day until desperation hits, and then they pray, begging for their specific desires. Sometimes, when the prayer is answered, the individual forgets about God until the next crisis. 

Others profess to not believe in God, and even cuss at or proclaim to hate him. To cuss at or hate something one doesn't believe in, is a contradiction. Meaning, they really do believe, and may not understand, thus the bitterness.

Even the atheist turns to God in desperation. How do I know? They turn to me and ask questions about the Divine when in times of need.

To talk and walk with God takes work, and with this work comes great evidence and understanding that he is, in fact, really real.

I know Heavenly Father is real because I feel very close to him. I feel his love for me and for you, and I receive guidance and inspiration every single day of my life.

I know Heavenly Father because I practice what Jesus asks me to. 

Love Heavenly Father!

Love thy neighbor!

Have faith!

Be patient!


Be thankful for all things!

Focus on the good!

Pray always!

Connection to God is a mental, mind, ninja skill, and it takes practice.

A child must practice crawling to crawl, walking to walk, running to run, and reading to read. An adult must learn how to do a job, and sometimes obtain a degree, before he or she can secure his or her occupation.

When a three year old wants to run out into a busy street, a loving Father prevents it because he knows the child is not ready to cross the street on his own due to inexperience and lack of understanding.

This is a wonderful thing to know because we can scream and yell all we want when we don't get what we want, just as a toddler may when his Father won't let him run out and cross a dangerous street.

We can learn to understand Heavenly Father and his ways in order to know he is real if we don't know it already. This comprehension takes spiritual study and application.

We can learn to understand Heavenly Father in order to know how to talk and walk with him. 

Learning faith in God, takes contemplation, focus, patience, practice, retraining, and trust.

I am forever studying, and practicing so that I may learn more and more about spiritual things, and how real God is.

The preceding sentence is my sole purpose in giving exercises through this blog. I want more spiritual understanding, and I want anyone, who wants to, to accompany me on this journey of getting to know our Father in heaven.

So, is God real?

Yes, indeed! He is very real!

This blog, my dear reader, is for you, and for me to get to know, more and more, how truly real Heavenly Father is.

Heavenly Father is the reason...

Praying you know, with all your heart and soul, God is real!

May God bless you with comfort, direction, faith, focus, and inner peace, my dear sweet reader.

Take good care!

Speak soon...

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Monday, September 28, 2020

Are You Paying Attention?

Hey, hey!

How are you doing my dear reader? 

I'm doing pretty darn good! 

Early Morning, Hello World,  Selfie 
It's my birth month and so I must apologize for not posting for two weeks.

Every year I try to take the entire month of September off but this year I was denied. It is a very, very, active time.

Nevertheless, I wake up every morning with a pep in my step, pens in my shirt, Sperry's on my feet, and a song in my soul.

In my last post, Failure Versus Success, I wrote about really paying attention to my life. Did you read it? If not, and you'd like to, you may by clicking here.

I was never really taught to pay attention to my life the way I do now. When I began my undergraduate studies in Behavioral Science, I was trained to observe other peoples' behavior, and in turn noticed my own.

I have learned much in my twenty six years of researching, studying, and writing about behavior, spirituality and stress, and this is what I know for sure.


God is very real! 

I know this with all my heart and soul, and with every fiber of my being.


There are three kinds of people. 

Person A is the one who will always encourage you, and cheer you on because he or she knows our capabilities as humans. 

Person B is the one who will always discourage you, and speak words of fear because he or she has an unclear view of reality. 

Person C is the one who will encourage or discourage you based on how they are feeling about themselves, which is determined by what their current mood is because of what's going on in their life at the moment.


There are three stages in life, and they are innocence, adolescence, and enlightenment. 

Person A is mostly enlightened, person B is mostly adolescent, and person C teeters between adolescence and enlightenment. 

Adolescence is a sort of innocence but with a competitive attitude. This sort of viewpoint is a you against me kind of thinking, which creates confusion. This opposition is, in fact, from an individual's reaction to his or her human experience.

Enlightenment is a calm, compassionate, and cooperative attitude, which creates clarity, along with happiness, health, love, success, and wealth.


Attitude determines personality!

Personality influences potentiality!

The reason I ask if you are paying attention is we, as humans, have the magnificent power to choose our attitude, and personality, and therefore choose our experiences in life. 

We may not be able to dictate what happens to us, or how people treat us but, we can choose our attitude of reacting. This choice leads to living a life of failure versus success

Difficulties are not reserved for the very few that are living a life of struggle and suffering. Hard times happen to everyone, and a person's reaction determines the path they walk.

These regular responses shape one's personality.


Anyone can change their life by changing their attitude. 

In my many years of learning, one of the first, and most important things I discovered is to have an open mind. 

In my younger, abrasive attitude years, I was very insecure and I had a very closed mind. 

Now, in my, I am trying to be perfect, pure, love years, I have a very open mind and it gives me compassion, and understanding.

Evidence has shown me, personally and professionally, it takes desire and an open mind to learning and listening to make changes.


We are focusing habitual mechanisms, and whether we focus by default or desire, we are practicing confidence or insecurity into permanence, and often times perfection.

A person's behaviors comes from their beliefs, which comes from experiences, and unique habitual thoughts about these experiences. These thoughts come from either a competitive or cooperative understanding.

The above statement is my explanation of human conditioning in it's entirety.

Like our DNA, and our fingerprints, our experiences and reactions are exclusive, and cannot, or could never, be duplicated by another.

Human conditioning is the opposite of spiritual nature in that the former is competitive, and the latter cooperative. We are born spiritual, cooperative beings and continue to be so unless conditioned otherwise. 

Some of us are lucky enough to have guardians that are calm, confident, and cooperative in most all things, and therefore sustain this spiritual nature. Some of us experience less cooperation, and more competition and conditional love, thus, are trained accordingly.

Cooperation comes from confidence, which is basically spiritual. Competition comes from insecurity, which is human misunderstanding. 

The preceding statement would have been absolutely impossible for me to comprehend, in my youth.


No one! Not one person, needs a calling in church, or an hourly rate to help another person. 

Helping others is a choice by desire. 

I have the fortunate opportunity to help others, all of the time. Sometimes I get paid, and sometimes I don't. 

One thing is for sure, and that is God uses other humans, like myself, to do his work. Not only do I believe this with all my heart, mind and soul, I live it with all my heart, mind, and soul. 

I behave as I believe, and this behaving leads me to my purpose in life. Living my purpose gives me such great happiness, joy, and vitality. 


My calling is my purpose, and my purpose is God's business. Everyone's purpose is God's business, and it's different for everyone. 

Maybe you believe the words I am writing, but have a hard time living them. The only thing I can do is encourage you to practice believing, and the behavior will follow.

It really helps to pay attention to you! Are you paying attention to your attitude and reactions? Or are you paying attention to what others are doing and how these doings are making you happy or miserable? 

If you are in other peoples' business you are not in your own. If you are not in your own business, how can/could you be about God's?

When an individual is blaming circumstances and other people for their misery, they are not taking responsibility for their attitude and reactions.

Taking responsibility is self control, and this influence leads to our individual power.

Self control is power and wisdom, and lack of self control is giving up this power, which dumb's us down towards anger, anxiety, depression, and/or despair, which resides with insecurity, fear, and stress.

Stress is no one's fault but it can be anyone's responsibility to level up to more success.


People who level up in life by desire believe in themselves. 

Everyone becomes more, one way or another, but there are those individuals who have desire, and confidence, whom expand in all things.


Any person, who is functional in society, has the capability to create, and develop, confidence. Anyone can learn to believe in themselves if they really want to! The point is, they have to want to.

Long post, I know...

Got an exercise for you though...

He he he...

You know me... ~wink~

If you really want to pay attention to you, and know if you are a person A, B, or C, try this...

As you drive in traffic, notice your own behavior whether you are calm, confident, and cooperative, or if you are blaming, complaining, and criticizing other drivers.

The best way to know if you are competitive or cooperative is noticing your behavior while in traffic.

Person A is chill, Person B is wound tight, and Person C can be either depending on what just happened, or is happening at the moment.

Try it...

See how it goes...

I want to be a Person A, calm, chill, confident, and cooperative with God, life, and others because that makes me about my business. When I am about my spiritual business, I'm about God's business, and that gives perfect happiness, health, love, success, and wealth.

That's all I gots...

Praying you are more than alright...

Praying for your comfort and strength always my dear sweet reader...

Speak soon...

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