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Sunday, May 19, 2019

Increasing Habits of Faith

Hello there!

Increasing habits of faith is what I'd like to write about this day!

How are you doing my dear friend? My dear brother/sister of this world!

I am praying that you are enjoying life

Summer is coming, and that is a great thing! Summer is a great thing because stress is low. People are going on vacation, having a good time and enjoying life.

Have you ever heard someone say that they want to live the kind of life they don't need a vacation from?

Do you think that is possible? 

Do you think that it is possible to enjoy life so much that it feels like a vacation?

It may sound crazy to you but it is entirely possible. I know it's possible because that is exactly how I feel about my life. There is no thing extraordinary about my life except for the fact that I suffered so much emotionally, and I have found respite from the internal struggle through God, and reconditioning my beliefs, focus, and thoughts about life.

Do you live the kind of life you need a vacation from?

What if you could live a life you don't need a vacation from?

What if you could live a life of near complete happiness?

What if you could live happier by increasing your confidence and faith in life, others, and yourself?

What if you could increase your confidence and faith by evolving your habits?

Would you like to evolve your habits so you have more confidence and faith in life, others, and yourself? 

What I am talking about here is the kind of confidence and faith that is the opposite of insecurity.

Are you feeling insecure about life, others, and yourself much of the time?

Did you know stress is insecurity? The stress response is provoked by fear. Have you heard of the fight or flight response? That response is the stress response. That response was given to us by God to help us in fearful situations and, as humans, we unknowingly activate that response by our thoughts of fear, which creates chronic insecurity.

Blah, blah, blah, right?

What I am trying to do is lead you into a challenge I have for you to increase a habit, or habits, of confidence.

Do you wanna do the challenge that will increase feelings of happiness, and decrease feelings of insecurity?

The challenge I have for you is like homework, it's like homework for life, and so it's life work... get it? Ha ha ha...

Before I issue you the challenge, you gots to get a notebook of some sort, like a journal. It doesn't need to be fancy, it just needs to have blank pieces of paper so that you may do some life work.

So here's the challenge...

It's a thirty day challenge, so you gotta do it for thirty days! Capeesh?

For thirty days, everyday, at the same time of the day, write down what you want by answering the question, "What do I want most?"

Do you want more confidence?

Do you want energy?

Do you want to govern your behaviors and beliefs more?

Do you want happiness?

Do you want health?

Do you want love?

Do you want wealth?

Whatever it is, write down what you want, everyday, and then read it! After you read it, if you find that you wrote down what you don't want, scribble it out. The reason you will scribble out the things you don't want is because writing what is not wanted defeats the exercise.

This entire challenge is to change, and evolve the habit of focusing on what you don't want, which creates fear, to focusing on what you do want, which creates less insecurity.

Happiness, or unhappiness, is all about the focus, the habitual focus.

This is a spiritual experiment, and I really believe, with all my heart and soul that if you make a commitment to do this, for you, things will change for the better.

This challenge is to help create a habit of confidence, by replacing the habit of insecurity via focus.

The Challenge 

Step one: get a notebook
Step two: everyday, and at the same time of day, for example at 8:00 a.m., go to a quiet, uninterrupted place, and ask yourself, "What do I want most?" Take a few moments to really think about it.
Step three: write the answer to the question after you have taken time to really think on it, which will most likely evolve everyday, and that is okay.
Step four: read it, and scribble out anything written that is not wanted. Then contemplate what it will/would feel like to have what you really want. 
Step five: through out the day contemplate what is written by thinking about what it would feel like having whatever it is. Notice any thoughts of discouragement and remind yourself discouragement is not the focus, therefore, not a part of this exercise.
Step six: document any positive aspects of this exercise NOT negative ones. Remember! Confidence, and happiness are all about the focus, and this exercise is to evolve the habitual mind away from insecurity and towards faith.
Step sevenKEEP IT SECRET! KEEP IT SAFE! this is only a suggestion... I would keep this exercise to yourself because outside influences may discourage you, and if you are discouraged, you may not complete the exercise. 

Do this for exactly thirty days!

That's it!

Oh! except...

If you are really stressed out, it may be helpful for you to make a commitment to do this for you! For destressing! For your happiness! For your family and relationships! You are the only one who has the authority over the way you feel. Although the human conditioning would have us believe that other people are responsible for our happiness, it is not true. No one can focus for you, only you can do that! This exercise can, and will help you increase your habits of faith in you.


Stay tune for more on this challenge...

This is gonna get good!

This is gonna be fun!

You got this!

You can do this!

It may be time for you to take responsibility for your happiness, which lies in destressing your stressful habits.

Speak soon...


Monday, May 13, 2019

Live More And Stress Less

Hey! Hey!

Live more and stress less is what I'd like to discuss this day!

How are you doing friend?

I'm faithing, hoping, and praying you are connecting to God, lifting yourself, and on the mend.

The other day I was standing in line to check into a facility, and the gentleman in front of me, within five minutes, said to me, "You're so happy, and it must be nice to be so ignorant to all the bad that is going on in the world."

He was sooo cute! I love people like that! And I am not being sarcastic whatsoever, because I know and I understand what chronic stress and/or devastation can do to a person. This is how people act and speak when they misunderstand.

I am compelled to tell this story because people who criticize others for ignoring the horrible things in life are unaware that they are ignoring all that is good... In other words, God's blessings upon them.

Ignorance is not bliss... Is a post I wrote about people who are ignorant to the good in life and obsessively focused on the bad.

Did you read it? Take a gander if you'd like.


Ignorance is such a harsh word, I like to use the word misunderstanding.

This is the misunderstanding on the part of the gentleman I speak of above.

There are more good things in this world than bad, particularly people.

There are people who do kind things all the day long.

There are more good things in this gentleman's life than there are bad, he just happens to be focused on the bad, by default.

He has a voice to speak his opinion, as he did. Could he imagine standing in line with me, unable to speak at all?

He had eyes to see me. Could he imagine standing in line unable to see at all?

He had legs to stand on. Could he imagine sitting in a wheelchair waiting in line?

He had arms and hands to use to carry things. Could he imagine asking others to reach for his identification, and sign his name for him?

What I am trying to articulate in this ramble is, we are not meant to focus on the bad that happened yesterday, or what might happen in the future. We are meant to appreciate and be grateful for what we have, including the safety and security of the very moment, right here, and right now.

What this gentleman was doing, first of all, was kind of mocking me, which doesn't really bother me one way or the other. The thing is a person that ridicules others is adding to the unkindness in this world. In nearly every act we offer kindness or unkindness, and we have a choice.

Another thing this gentleman was doing was bringing the environment down. We are either lifting or lowering any environment we are in, and the people we are around. And, we have a choice.

Lastly, what this gentleman was also doing was practicing his fear, which is at the foundation of nearly all mental illnesses. Think about paranoid schizophrenia! It's being paranoid, and although we are all a little paranoid in some way or another, anyone of us could practice it into permanent perfection. That permanent perfection of paranoid is diagnosable.

Crazy!!! I know!!!

Now, contrast that incident with less than a week later, I met a man who lost his right leg. He has a really cool black prosthetic with red flames. This man was so kind, and so loving to me. 

What is the difference between these two gentlemen? One is focus on the bad by default, and the other has exquisite focus on the good, i.e., benefits and blessings, by desire.

The difference between these two gentlemen is one has misery and the other has love.

Bitterness and misery loves company just as kindness and love does too. Meaning, a miserable person brings misery to others, and makes people feel bad. Moreover, a loving person brings others love, and makes people feel good. 

We lift or lower others by who we are and what we do.

Another difference between these two gentlemen is the more loving man has knowledge and wisdom.

Some say there is power in knowledge. I say there is only power in knowledge if we access the wisdom to use that knowledge! Knowledge is the information one has, and wisdom is putting that information into practice.

What often keeps a person from absorbing knowledge is the needing to be right, which comes from insecurity of being wrong, aka fear of being wrong. The illusion of the human experience shows us that being wrong makes us dumb therefore, some need to be right so they won't be dumb. 

The first gentleman most likely would not see the misunderstanding of his obsessive compulsive focus on the horrible things in this world because his insecurity may have given him a mental wall not only to the knowledge, but to the wisdom to put the knowledge into effect in his favor. 

Not that I said anything to him, because I didn't. I just listened and smiled at him from a place of love. His paranoia about how horrible this world is... is his path. My purpose is to lift and love, and so I did. It is not my job to fix him, it is my job to love him, so I did.

The second man had the knowledge and wisdom of gratitude. It is my opinion that gratitude is the opposite of taking things for granted. Some people are very grateful beings and some people take things for granted.

I really believe that confidence comes from a place of appreciation and love for self and life. And I know that complete confidence comes from a connection to God. Insecurity comes from fear.


To live more and stress less...

We could choose to be focused on our benefits and blessings in this life.

We have authority over our intelligence to choose our behaviors and beliefs, and that is our free agency. That is freedom!

Living more and stressing less is done by focusing on benefits and blessings in our life because there are so much more wonderful things than there are bad.

When we practice focusing on our benefits and blessings, we not only put things in true perspective, we eliminate our misunderstanding.

Misery is misunderstanding from the human experience.

Happiness, joy, and vitality is from the spiritual experience of being connected to God, and others by love.

Happiness is success!

Happiness allows us to live more and stress less!!!

Living more and stressing less is all about the focus!!!

Trust me on this! 

The truth is confidence, not fear!

The truth is connection to God, not negative emotion!

The truth is cooperating with God, being thankful, focusing on and looking for the good, i.e., benefits and blessings from God.

"In every thing give thanks: For this is the will of God..." ~1 Thessalonians 5:18, The New Testament, The Holy Bible, KJV

That is all...


Oh, except...

I love you!!!



Thursday, May 9, 2019

Relationship With God

Hello! Hello!

How are you?

Praying, praying, ever praying you are okay!

Responding to a request that I write about how I have a close relationship with God.

But first, let me preface this post with the idea that I write this for one reason, and one reason only...

The reason I will write about my relationship with God is I have hope and a prayer in my heart that this will help anyone, someone, or even just one. The help I hope and pray for is the pointing a person in the direction of relief from any stress he or she may have. The stress I talk about is the mental and emotional strain of fear, which is the opposite of love.

My relationship with God is based on a 




And this is not the superficial kind where I go to church on Sunday, feel and profess the love of God, and then go about my business through out the week, forgetting about this love and faith I have for the Divine and others.

In fact, there is no segregation between my personal life, and my professional life. I believe we are all brothers and sisters in this world. I know we are sons and daughters of our Heavenly Father. I love no matter what, and I serve no matter what. 

Jesus the Christ said in Matthew Chapter 21 Verse 22, "And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive."

Most of the first half of my life I suffered enormously with deep moments of despair and confusion about my worth. In that despair and confusion there was always an asking God for connection to Him. My continued, never ending asking, brought more and more connection.

In Mathew Chapter 22 Verses 37 through 40 Jesus answers the question, which is the great commandment in the law, and He says, "Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.  This is the first and great commandment.  And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.  On these two commandments hang all the law and all the prophets."

I love these two scriptures because they are the way to a closeness with God.  

Asking, faith and love.

Ask, have faith and love!!!  

Pretty good affirmations, mantras, and reminders, wouldn't you agree?

I know, without a doubt, that God loves me and I am to ask, have faith, and love Him and others. 

So, I have been asking, faithing, and loving.

I know, without any doubt that my asking has brought me evidence, which has lead to my knowing God is real.

I know, without a doubt that my faith in God gives me confidence, happiness, energy, joy, and vitality and therefore, this knowing is the reason I maintain and sustain my relationship with Him.


Faith and Love, and the closeness, connection, and cooperation with the Divine truly eliminates doubt, fear, and worry, which is what destressing yourself is all about.

I have discovered, in my journey thus far, there are two emotions, and they are fear and love. Every emotion falls under one or the other. 

I have also discovered that all negative emotions fall under fear. I have, for the most part, released my fear, negative emotions, and that is how and why I love so much.

"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love."~ 1 John 4:18, New Testament, The Holy Bible, KJV

Please! Please! Please!

Understand, I have practiced this love over fear for many, many, many years, and I have pointed multiple people in the direction of finding their practice of destressing, i.e., overcoming fear, and living in love

Certainly I am not perfect at it, and therefore, I continue to practice everyday.

An important thing I have discovered is that years of conditioning is very powerful. My anger, anxiety, depression, and despair was practiced for years, and they were all very powerful. 

Without God, meditation, and study, I could not, and would not know what I know about asking, faith, and love, and continue to practice it.

Something else very important is, the human conditioning trains us up in beating ourselves up, which is not conducive to love and/or faith in our self. Love and faith in our self is part of the path to a true connection to God. 

I practice the art and skill of NOT beating myself up, or criticizing me. This is a humongous part of connecting to God, and creating happiness, energy, and vitality for life.

I know I am not better than anyone, and I do know that my value and worth has everything to do with communicating, connecting, and cooperating with God.

I know we are all extremely important to God, and what is important to God is important to me. That is what life is about, knowing spiritual things, and living that knowing.

That is the crux of my relationship with God.

Praying for your asking, faithing, and loving.

That's all I gots my friend.

God bless...

Speak soon...


Friday, May 3, 2019

Changing Stressful Habits

Hey! Hey! 

Changing Stressful Habits is what I'd like to ramble about this day.

Happy Friday!

How are you doing? I hope and pray that you are getting off on the right foot today.

Getting off on the right foot, and getting up on the right side of the bed are very stress free habits.

Do you know that sometimes I say things that people do not want to hear? What I mean is, I say something about stressful habits, a person may disagree, and then they get upset with me.

This is the deal... 

I will present to you some stressful habits you may or may not have, and if it applies, it applies, and if it doesn't, it doesn't, and it is completely normal for you to disagree with me. No reason to get upset here.

This is also the deal...

Wherever you go there you are. What that means is if a person gets irritated, offended, or upset easily or regularly, which are very stressful habits, sooner or later that person will get irritated, offended, or upset with me because that is what he or she does.

Hear me out now! Please!!!

I've known many people over the years who have been miserable with their job or significant other, and they lose one or both because of the misery. Then they wish for another better job, a better significant other, and go to great lengths to obtain one or the other. Soon after the obtainment, the same person with constant complaints, and criticism is complaining and criticizing about the new career or partner.

I'm not saying everybody does this, and I'm not saying you do this!

What I am saying, in this ramble, is you may want to consider if you have the stressful habits of getting up in a bad mood, and/or getting offended by others.

People do, and will defend their anger, irritation, and moodiness, and blame it all on others but the truth is they are just practiced habits into permanence. In addition, the truth is, they can, and will be practiced out of permanence.

It is not necessary to be irritable or moody, and it is not your fault if you are. It can be your responsibility to recognize it and intentionally change it.

Your value and your worth is the knowing and practicing of being the best you that you can be. This, my friend begins with believing in you! Believing that you can do it! Believing that you are worth it.

No one is driving this vehicle of life, of your life, but you.

If you have frequent irritation or moodiness, try this...

An affirmation...

A mantra...

A reminder...

First thing when you wake up, all day, and everyday for at least thirty days, say to yourself, "I am going to be kind to me by choosing kindness."

Being kind to others is being kind to yourself because it will make you feel better. Negative emotions make us feel like poop!

Ha Ha, I said poop again.

Life is not a competition, it is a cooperation with God. God is love, and when we love God abides in us. So, love yourself enough to be kind to yourself by setting your intention to release negative emotions. Love yourself enough to be kind to others even if you don't think you ought to be.

Could it be, you may be so focused on complaining and criticizing that you may be missing all the good?

If a person believes another person is being mean to him or her, he or she has the right to be mean in return. But! Leveling up is understanding that mean people are hurting inside and begging for significance. Mean people are begging for value and worth from others when all along it is within.

I really believe, I know rather, that anyone can, and will discover his or her value and worth when he or she discovers the power to connect to, and cooperate with God. When we connect to and cooperate with God, we learn our free agency to govern our beliefs and behaviors.

Our beliefs and behaviors lead to heaven or hell on earth.

Think about that one eh?!?

Everyone wants happiness, joy, and vitality, and these particular things come by practice. 

Hocus Pocus Focus on happiness, joy, and vitality!

Hocus Pocus Focus on connecting and cooperating with God!

If you want to. ~wink~

Praying you a successful week my dear sweet brother/sister of this world!

Having faith that you will experience happiness, joy, and vitality more and more my dear sweet one.

Speak soon...


Friday, April 26, 2019

Creating Faith

Creating Faith is the ramble this day.

Hello, Hello!!!  How are you doing dear one?

It is my faith and prayer that you are doing wonderful.

You must know that faith is believing but did you know that worry is also faith? Worry is faith that the worst thing can, and will happen. Worry is stress, and it makes us feel like poop.

Ha ha... I said poop.

Worry is faith by default because we are taught up, and trained to worry. It is human nature.

Spiritual nature is believing, knowing rather, that God is in charge, and all things are for our good. Everything is for our good because whatever happens is for our spiritual expansion. Spiritual expansion is leveling up to enlightenment, which is the ultimate connection to, and confidence in God.

When we create faith we believe the best will happen, and we obsess over that best thing instead of obsessing over the worst thing. Obsessing over the worst thing is anxiety.

If we want to overcome worry, and create faith, we must focus on what we want to happen, not on the worst that will happen.

Creating faith is all about the focus and using the imagination by desire, rather than by default.

Doubt, fear, and worry is the kind of faith that happens by default do to human conditioning.

The short and sweet of creating faith is, think about what you want, and think about that over and over and over again. This will do two amazing things. It will help you relieve the stress and feel better, and it will recondition your thoughts to create desired faith rather than worry,

Whenever you are obsessed about the future, or anything, in a fearful way, ask yourself, "What do I want to happen?' Then think about the wanted in this way, "Wouldn't it be nice if..." and use your imagination for the desired outcome.

You do not have to worry! 

Worry is stress and creates negative emotions!

Negative emotions disconnect us from God!

Negative emotions are unnecessary and they come from our human training!

Retrain yourself with practice on obsessing about what you want, and imagine how good it will feel when you have it.

Do this all day, and every day. Practice it into permanence, and it will create a habit of faith for life, for others, and for yourself.

Trust me on this one. 

You can do it!!!

That's it...

Except, you know...

I love you! ~in my not so tuned opera singing voice. ~wink


Friday, April 19, 2019

Words of Faith to Destress

Hello my friend

How's life?  Great, I hope and I pray!

So, I am at this cafe I frequent and I am talking to the gal that works the register and I ask her, "How's life?"

She says she is stressed.  Can you believe that? 

She goes on and on about how she is overwhelmed, she is taking 17 units in school, and she has to pay bills.

It takes every ounce of my energy to NOT speak the words of how to destress yourself and I didn't.

Why don't I?  

Well, I use to all the time, to everybody because I want to heal the world. I want to tell people that stress is created by fearful beliefs, and thoughts. But, I have discovered that many people need someone to listen with love rather than preach and teach.

There are so many people who are anxious, angry, depressed, fatigued, moody, and unhappy and they need, more than anything in the world, to be listened to and supported.

I have learned to listen, and love. I have learned to feel more, and talk less when someone is venting about their stress.


What I want to ask is...

Do you believe in God?

Do you, deep down in your heart believe in God and that He will do what He says He will, in the bible?

Do you believe His words when He says 'have faith'?

What I want to say is...

Have faith my friend. 

Have faith in God and that He will take care of you. 

Have faith in yourself and that you can handle it. 


What I want to say is...

Your stress, my friend, is fearful thoughts you keep thinking by default.  

Stress is created by thinking of all the bad things that "might" happen. 

Stress is sustained by obsessed fearful thoughts of not being able to handle the future. 

You may be so focused on beliefs that you are overwhelmed and those beliefs create fear and anxiety. 

I want to ask...

Have you ever gone through a really tough time or had an experience that had you thinking that this is the worst thing that has ever happened to you?

What happened?  

Did you survive?  

Of course you did because you are still here and you are still standing.

What if you were to think, no matter what happens, I can handle it, because I always do? 

What would be the best thing that could happen to you, right now?

What if you focused on that? The best possible outcome? 

What if you knew choosing beliefs is free agency, and the difference between default and desire?

What if you were to think thoughts of faith, in yourself, and thoughts that the best thing that you think can happen will?

What I want to say is...

Take your thoughts of doubt and turn them into faith. 

No matter what happens, you will be fine. 

Quiet your mind and think and feel this truth.

That's what I really want to say, sometimes. ~wink~


There's a lot more of that, where that came from... 

TRUST ME! he he he...

I pray you feel the truth of faith in God, and in yourself!

If you truly believe...


you may contemplate it, practice feeling the truth in it and allow it to fill your entire being.

When you do, you will feel your way into destressingyourself.

Big ole hugs to ya...

Speak soon...


Monday, April 15, 2019

Something to think about...

Hello there my dear brother/sister...

How are you doing this day?

I pray with all my heart and soul you are doing okay!

One of my theories about life is..

There are three types of people:

There are those who will lift themselves and others because they know their value and worth. These are people predominately whom have overcome immense struggle and suffering, and have figured out happiness, i.e., success, comes from within.

There are those who will lower themselves and others because they are unaware of their value and worth. These individuals have had harsh conditioning at a young age and/or a devastation, or devastation's, they have experienced, which gives way to thoughts of insecurity towards life. These are people whom are not easy to be around.

There are those who lift and lower themselves and others in any given moment based on their mood. These are the average functioning people of our society.

The first category of people mentioned are very confident because they know their value and worth. The second and third types mentioned are those who experience much insecurity. 

Another theory I have is that insecurity is a humongous wall to development, and healing because it is more important for an insecure person to be right about themselves than to improve. Thus, all the blaming of their unhappiness on others, and/or their label. This behavior can, and will keep any being stagnant.

To believe that others could, and should, control their behavior towards us to make us happy, and not believe in the control of our own behavior is a bit insane.

We, unlike animals, have the free agency, the power, and the responsibility to choose what we can, and will do, say, and think. 

I was meditating this morning, as I do every morning, and I felt compelled to write this theory of mine.

This may, or may not resonate with you. But, if it does, it does, and if it don't, it don't. Either way, it's okay!

That's it!


You know...

I love you!

Speak soon...


Friday, April 12, 2019

How to Destress Despair

How to Destress Depair is what I would like to blog about this day.

Hello! Hello!

Hello there my lovely friend. My dear brother/sister!

In my last post, I indicated that I wanted to begin a journey of Destressing Moments of Despair

So, here I go...

The number one thing I talk about with people with critical stress is how to destress their life, and I always, always, always speak the words of faith, hope, and charity.

Do you believe in God?  

I do!  

I believe in God with all my heart, mind, and soul.  

Why do I believe in God? One of the reasons I believe in Him is all the miracles I have seen, and all the opportunities He gives me to participate in these miracles.

So, what does believing in God have to do with destressing your despair? Excellent question my friend, and thank you for asking... ~wink~

The scriptures are all about God, and the teachings about, and from the Lord are all about destress techniques, stress management, and stress relief.

One of my favorite scriptures is 1 Corinthians 13:13, which states, "And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity."  ~The Holy Bible, KJV

The reason this is one of my favorites is because it is the remedy for stress, especially critical stress, and despair.

Stress is caused by our reaction of doubt, fear, and worry to any event, or experience.  The opposite of doubt, fear, and worry is faith.  So, if we have faith, and believe in the best possible outcome that can happen, we relieve our stress.  If we don't have faith, and we have fear, we most certainly will have anxiety.

The opposite of despair is hope.  If we have hope we can feel motivation, and inspiration. However, if we don't have hope, we become hopeless, which often causes depression.

Another one of my favorite scriptures is Colossians 3:14, which states, "And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness." ~The Holy Bible, KJV

Charity is said to be the pure love of Christ.

Matthew 5:48 states, "Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect." ~The Holy Bible, KJV

I believe that "perfect" is like Christ, pure love, i.e., unconditional love!

God is pure unconditional love. 

Love is the most powerful emotion in the world. 

When we feel love more often we can feel really great most of the time, and I believe living the pure love of Christ, aka charity, we live near perfection.

If we live with the pure love of charity, we become nearer to perfection. Without a doubt, this state of unconditional love can, and will give the gift of living with less stress, it's as simple as that.

My friend, my friend, one of the best ways to destress your life is to have faith, hope, and charity.  Eliminate your stress by replacing fear with faith, despair with hope, and anger or hate with charity.

Destress your life with faith, and hope that the best possible outcome can, and will come to pass.  Abide in charity so that you may feel the love that comes from you by being connected to God.

The way to having faith, hope, and charity is to practice. 

When you feel fearful, and hopeless, ask yourself, "What am I thinking about right now?" And then consciously spin that thought around to what you want. It really is that simple, but may not be easy. With practice though... You can and will succeed.

The best way to practice charity is being kinder to yourself. Caring enough about yourself that it really matters how you feel and think because how we feel and think is what makes or ruins our moments in life.

That last sentence may be a little, or a lot, difficult for some to comprehend and/or hear but it is the truth.

God has given us the freedom to choose our thoughts. Choosing our thoughts IS our free agency.

The human experience most often teaches us to think like the masses, which creates thoughts of competition. Competitive beliefs creates habits of comparing, complaining, condemning, criticizing, dramatizing, and gossiping. We do not have to compete!

In fact, no where in the Bible does it say we are to be contestants in, or of this world. However, it is written to love one another.

"For this is the message that ye heard from the beginning, that we should love one another." ~1 John 3:11, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV

Dear sweet brother/sister of this beautiful world, when we practice faith, hope, and charity it can, and will destress despair.

That's what I know...

Have a wonderful day.

I Love you, I truly do... 

And not just because the Bible tells me to.


Tuesday, April 9, 2019

Destressing Moments of Despair

Hello there!

Today, I want to begin a journey of destressing despair.

How are you doing my friend?

I hope and pray you are doing more than okay.

For many years I suffered deep moments of despair. For many years I responded to people in distress, as an EMT, on 911 (emergency) calls, and then I began my profession of responding to Emergency Personnel in deep moments of despair. Now, on occasion individuals will contact me who are experiencing the same. 

It is my personal opinion, when a person is suffering emotionally to the point of anguish, desperation, and hopelessness, it is quite possibly the worst feeling anyone can, and will experience. I know this because I personally experienced it for years, and have seen thousands of people suffer from it. 

The most important part of my experience is, I've witnessed relief in others and myself! I've witnessed healing from despair over and over and over again, and continue to see it. Additionally, I want to help anyone suffering and point him or her to the direction of peace.

If you are suffering emotionally, I would like to help point you in the direction of solace. It is my prayer that you will find a way to lift yourself from your broken heart no matter the cause. For it is you, and only you, who can, and will find rest for yourself if you seek it.

This is what I know for sure...

God is real, and if you turn to Him, He will comfort and strengthen you in that moment. 

This is what I also know...

Comfort and strength does not always last long when we are suffering. Matter of fact, we may only get glimpses of relief, one moment at a time. Therefore, we must continue to turn to God, every minute, of every hour, of everyday for our entire life here on earth.

Many people go to church on Sunday, and find respite from their emotional suffering. Then the week begins and life sets in with family, finances, relationships, and work, and so goes the stress, and the week. Then Sunday comes again, and more emotional rest. So goes the cycle.

I have learned that connecting to God, throughout the week, with quiet contemplation, and conversation, not only gives me guidance and inspiration but, comfort and joy. Yes! I converse with God, and I listen. He shows me evidence that He is real and I show Him faith that I know He is real.

I have frequent inner knowings of numerous things, and I know that these knowings are guidance and inspiration from God.

I've known God is real since a very young age of about four years old, and now at the young age of fifty four, my time is very much consumed with this knowing. There is no more despair because I turn to God more often than I ever have, and I just continue to.

There is no more anger, anxiety, or depression in my life because I feel God every moment, of every hour, of every day. Straight up! He is my life, and I talk about Him in nearly every conversation, and I walk with Him in nearly every step.

Please know that I am very human, and so I am imperfect. Sometimes I do get feelings and thoughts that I do want to get angry, anxious, or depressed but for only very teeny weeny moments. When I do want to have negative emotions, I will immediately giggle at myself because I have learned to laugh at me. 

Fearful feelings are human habits of this human experience that do diminish with proper practice, just as they grew with practice. 

It's alright if you do not believe me, but that is where it all begins, in a belief. To just believe is a glance at faith, then it takes repeated belief, and repetitive behaviors to get to where I proclaim to be. Certainly, my faithfulness and fearlessness for love and life did not happen over night.

Please understand, I do not believe I am better than anyone, and I am not bragging! I'm trying to prove there is destressing despair. Also, I believe in my capabilities within my confidence in God only because of the past fifty years of personal evidence, and the past twenty-seven years of witnessing others heal in a professional environment.

I know with all my heart and soul it takes faith and practice my friend.

The first step is to turn to God, and just keep on a practicing. That's all I do is practice and I love unconditionally. Love is the remedy for all despair. 

God is love...

"He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love." ~1 John 4:8, New Testament, The Holy Bible, KJV

"And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him." ~1 John 4:16, New Testament, The Holy Bible, KJV

God is the solution...

"God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble." ~Psalms 46:1, The Old Testament, The Holy Bible, KJV

If you do not believe in God, doubt your faith in Him, or just want to strengthen your conviction, ask Him for help, quiet your mind, and listen. He will show you He is real, especially if you are in despair.

This is the beginning... connecting to and turning to God, is the first step for relief from moments of sadness and sorrow.

That's all I gots...

Except, I love you!

God loves you!

You are so very special to Him! Seek Him more, and you will know, if you don't already know that this is true!

God bless you my dear sweet friend! My dear sweet brother/sister of this world.

Speak soon...