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Thursday, November 28, 2019

Destressing Your Hurry

Happy Thanksgiving my dear friend...

Destressing your hurry is what I'd like to write about this day...

How are you doing? 

Praying you are grateful and thankful this day.

The next item on the stress test is, are you in a hurry?

You may recognize right away that you are always in a hurry or you may not even realize that you are. The number one sign of stress is denial, which means you believe everything is alright when in fact, you and your family are suffering. The suffering I am talking about is not enjoying life, and/or living with anxiety, which is detrimental to health. Most of all, anxiety is detrimental to children in the house hold because they are conditioned up in it, and causes great distress in the future.

But, if everything is alright that's cool. But if it's not, you, and your families happiness, health, relationships, and wealth may be at stake.

How do you know if you are in denial, and need to destress your hurry, which I call the hurry up disease.

In my book, How to Destress Via Stress Test & Stress Relief, I discuss the possible problems caused by always being in a hurry, and some solutions. 

What I'd like to discuss a little more is how does one know if he or she is always in a hurry. Allow me to ask some questions so that you may discover for yourself if you have the hurry up disease.

Do you know how to relax? This is huge. If you do not know how to relax, or you think you need a vacation to relax but can't even relax on your vacation, you probably have the hurry up disease.

Do you jump out of bed in the morning with the attitude that you have so many things to get done?

Do you say to anyone, in your head or out loud, "Hurry up?"

Are you always late because your schedule is full? Or do you always say you're busy? If the answer is yes to either, you may have the hurry up disease.

I understand that you may have excuses that you call reasons, and that's fine, the only thing about that is it doesn't relieve the problem of the hurry up. It doesn't relieve the issues of potential dangers to you or your families happiness, or health. It does, however, sustain denial.

So, I have an experiment for you. Whether you believe you do or don't have the hurry up disease, try this...

Just intentionally notice if you are in a hurry.

Today, tell yourself that you are going to observe, to make sure, you do or don't move your life in a state of hurry.

Just notice it. 

Just observe it.

If you do find that you are in a hurry, I'd just like to suggest that you may want to do something to remedy it so that you may prevent illness, or injury.

The hurry up disease is a form of stress, aka strain, on the emotional, mental, and physical state of being.

The hurry up disease also allows for accidents to happen because of the state of urgency and lack of focus, aka as paying attention to what you are doing.

The hurry up disease also sustains thoughtless behavior, which leads to regrets.

The most important thing is your happiness, which leads to health, love, good relationships, and wealth.

The solution to destressing your hurry is to practice relaxation into permanence so that you can be calm, confident, and relaxed no matter where you are or what you are doing.

Practice is the greatest form of conditioning, and we are habitual beings by way of conditioning what we practice no matter if it's anxiety, hurry up, or calmness.

Some posts that may help...

Mindful Based Stress Reduction

Destress Quickly Via Visualization

Connecting to God

Hope that points you in the right direction, if you need it.

God bless you my dear friend, and Happy Thanksgiving.

Speak soon...


Tuesday, November 19, 2019

Destressing Addiction & Binging

Hello there...

Destressing Addiction and Binging is the item of this day...

How are you doing my friend?

Hoping and praying that you're finding relief if you need too.

The number six item on the stress test is, "Do you binge on or are you addicted to certain activities, alcohol, caffeine, tobacco, or any form of pharmaceutical, over the counter, or illegal drug?

In my book, How to Destress via Stress Test & Stress Relief, I discuss connecting to God when it comes to addiction. For with God all things are possible.

The thing about addiction and binging is, a person that has struggled with anything can, does, and will beat him or herself up over it.

The indulgences become a hate/love relationship. We love doing the addiction but we hate our self afterwards for doing it.

Weird, I know!

The most powerful thing anyone can do besides quit the unhealthy behavior, is to turn to God for help, which I write about in my book.

There is more...

When we turn to God, I believe, the thing we must ask for is belief in Him to help us, and our self to have the strength to overcome this particular weakness.

Addiction is something that is not easy to give up because the individual does not believe he or she can, and/or wants to. A person may have, or believe he or she may have tried everything, and so they give up trying. A person may not want to give up the addiction at all, and so they don't believe in trying.

Turning to God for faith in Him, and the self will give great power to anyone's belief. Not only great power but also evidence that God truly is real.

There's more...

Turning to God is just the beginning. One must contemplate, and work it out in his or her mind what they can, and want to do.

For example: if you want to quit drinking, think about it more often in the faithful way because what a person does is beat him or herself up for drinking, and not quitting. The contemplation would be how good it can, and will feel without a drink. 

Turning to God in faith, and contemplating success is your authority, and free agency to govern your mind in your favor.

The human experience teaches and trains us to do, do, do rather than think, think, think.

Turn to God...

Ask for faith in Him, and yourself...

Contemplate your success...

Stop beating yourself up...

And, add some meditation in the mix for quieting the insecure mind.

This is all very simple stuff, and may not be easy, but you have the authority, and the free agency to choose your thoughts and govern your mind, which can, and will lead to success.

Finally... Never, Ever, Ever Give Up!

Endure to the end, and be faithful to you!

I'm hoping and ever praying that helps, if you need it.

God bless you my dear friend...

I love you so much, because that is what I do.

I love...

Speak soon...


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Friday, November 8, 2019

Destressing So You Can Sleep

Hey, Hey! How you doing today?

Destressing for sleep is what I'd like to discuss this day...

The next question, numero cinco, on the stress test is...

Do you have trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or getting essential hours of sleep because you can't stop thinking of things you have to do or because you have too much going on in your life?

If you answered yes, I'm going to give you three simple ways that may help you fall asleep and not only stay asleep but, get deep restful sleep that will rejuvenate you. The only thing is, you gotta care about yourself enough to do them. At least care about yourself to do one of them, and as you get better and better do another one, and sooner or later do the third.

Just choose one, or two, or all three. But do it for you because lack of sleep causes fatigue of the body, mind, and spirit. Fatigue is not conducive to a healthy life.

Just saying...

Okay, here we go...

Oh wait! One more thing before we begin. Let's treat this like an experiment, like you are the spiritual scientist of your life, and notice how it works. 

The hypothesis being, these exercises will indeed help your sleep patterns. Now, a scientist always documents the evidence.

I believe, I know rather, that if you get a notebook, or notepad, and document how well you did the exercise, and how well you slept, you will enhance, your sleep patterns.

What say you? Would you be willing to do this experiment for you? If you are, it may just change your entire life. You may just feel, and think better, for you.

Okay, here we go...

Exercise number one: before you get in bed, and lay your head on your pillow get on your knees and pray. If you can't get on your knees, sit on the side of your bed and pray. But, pray a prayer of appreciation. Thank Heavenly Father for all the things you have, and are thankful for. Only appreciation!!! And then, ask Him to help you sleep deep, and wake up with energy. That's it!

Appreciation, and one request.

Exercise number two: after you get in your bed but, before you lay your head on your pillow, read some of the New Testament in the Holy Bible before you retire. I don't know if you read the Bible but, it has inspiring stories and words from Jesus and his disciples.

Hold on!!! Before you claim you already read, or you don't believe in God, Jesus, or the Bible, remember, this is an experiment. You do not have to believe in God to do an experiment and/or read something. Have an open mind. You can look at it as they are just stories. Plus, you may be enlightened as to why people believe in God, and this will only enhance your understanding.

If you don't have a bible, Google,"New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV," for King James Version, only because I believe that is the most correct version. Google will provide you with a website that has the bible online that you may read.

Exercise number three: when you get in bed, and lay your head on your pillow at night, right before you retire, focus on your breathing, and your heart beat. When you do this, you quiet your mind, and focus on life. The heart beat and breathing lungs are what gives you physical life, for without them your physical body cannot exist.

At first it may not be easy, or it may, just don't give up. Practice, practice, and practice some more, and you will make it not only permanent but easier.

There are so many people who have been assisted with sleep by this exercise alone. When I give a person this exercise, the next day, they proclaim to me how amazed and easy it works.

Okay dokay, there you go, the three exercises to enhance your sleeping patterns, which will help you destress yourself.

Do not forget to document your findings, dear scientist. ~wink~

You are the scientist of your life whether you know it or not. Experiment to find out what works, and keep doing what works.

Ha ha ha!!! Can't wait for you to do this. It is going to relieve so much strain and help you become such an expert at deep sleep.

You can do this!

I know you can...

Believe in yourself enough to do this for at least thirty days, and if you find it works, make these habits into permanence.

One thing I know for sure is that God is real, and if you do these three things, if you do not know that God is real just yet, I am confident you will discover the truth that He is.

If you need to.

Big Hugs to you my dear friend.

God bless you!

Speak soon...


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Monday, November 4, 2019

Destressing Your Temper

Hello there my friend.

Destressing your temper is what I'd like to discuss this day.

How are you doing? I am ever praying you are in the midst of happiness and health.

In my last post Destressing Anger, which is the third item on the Stress Test, I talked about anger not being necessary and that anger is not who we are.

In similar fashion, losing our temper is quite unnecessary and not who we are. 

Is there a difference between losing our temper and being angry? Not really, because in both situations there is lack of control of thought, which leads to emotion.

Are you getting angry easily and losing your temper often? If you are I'd like to provide some probable solutions but first, the theory.

Normally, when a person gets angry easily, and loses his or her temper it is because something has happened to cause stress, and if the stress, or thoughts of the stress continue over long periods of time, the temper becomes who we are.

Let's say a devastation happens like a death, a divorce, or someone is dying. This type of situation is very overwhelming, and causes severe strain on a person emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. 

In the case of devastation, it is very normal to be on edge, lose control of the temper, and get angry easily.

But what if the situation is healed, and the person continues to have temper issues? It could be possible that the situation caused such a devastation that the fear, and insecurity continues to be practiced. In this case, it is also quite normal.

Therefore, it is important to keep an eye on the reaction, and encourage the self towards a more confident reaction by reminding the self that everything is alright.

Sounds simple, yes, but may not be easy.

Another theory I have is practiced displeasure into losing the temper often.

This is my theory of focus by default. Our brains, quite brilliantly, are focusing mechanisms by default or desire. If we become so focused on what we don't want, i.e., fear of what might happen in the future, we can and will react with a short temper.

We could also, by default, focus on all the things wrong in our life by complaining and criticizing, which gives way to lack of control and misery. The only control that can and will be had here is our thoughts by desire.

This is basic human conditioning by default or by desire.

So, what is the solution.

Truly, the solution to any problem is God.

Even if you do not believe in God, the words from the scriptures can heal you by practicing faith instead of fear.

Practicing faith by desire, rather than fear by default.

So, I've posted a little list of links to practicing faith below...

Hope it helps you with your temper if you need it...

Here it is...

Increasing Habits of Faith

Powerful You

Creating Faith

Mindful Based Stress Reduction

Hoping and praying that helps...

Side note, I understand much of my exercises and words are repeated eh-em... repeatedly. Repetition is the great law of learning. That is how anyone and everyone absorbs and obtains information, so, let it be repeated. ~wink~ Consider them reminders.

In addition, I understand that some of my practices may be similar in nature and I do this to invoke a desire in you to practice these destressing exercises into permanence. Hoping the new habits of health will replace the stressful habits of unhealth.

That's all ~wink~

I do this for you, faithing that you will relieve the emotional, mental, and spiritual strain that you may be experiencing.

If you want to destress your life, you gotta do the work. No one but God and you, can and will change your life into what you'd like it to be.

That's my lecture ~wink~

Said with utmost love...

Speak soon my dear friend.


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Saturday, October 19, 2019

Destressing Anger

Hey, Hey!

Destressing anger is what I'd like to discuss this day.

How are you doing? I am praying that you are alright my dear friend.

I had a dream, my all wise Grandpa came to me (he passed when I was 15 years old), hugged me, kissed me on the forehead, and said, "You're doing really, really, really good, and I'm proud of you. Keep blogging because there is one individual who is eager to read your words. You are helping someone who really needs it."

And that was it! That was my dream. It made me cry because I love and miss my Grandpa, always.

What do you think about that dream? I'm a dreamer, and it is not unusual for me to have this type of dream. I'd venture to say, many of you experience the same.

Anyway, I'm gonna keep blogging my words of destress because my Grandpa said so, and if I am helping one person, that is important to me. I know, with all my heart and soul that we all are, I am, very important to God, our Heavenly Father, and because I love Him, what's important to Him is important to me.

I digress...

Just thought I'd share though...

Back to destressing anger, which is the third item on the stress test, in my how to destress eBook.

I recently read this chapter in my eBook, How to Destress via Stress Test & Stress Relief, which is offered free again by Amazon today, October 19, 2019. You can get it by clicking here.

I gotta tell you, as I read it, I decided that it is my favorite chapter in my book because the first half of my life I was probably the most angry person I had ever met. Now, I am the least angry person I know. It is amazing to me because as I read the chapter, I felt really good that I have come such a long way.

Helping others overcome their anger is so very important to me because I know the misery and suffering that anger, moodiness, and irritability gives. In my youth, I would have never believed I could, or would overcome my anger issues. 

Now, I would like to convince people that anger, moodiness, and irritability can be relieved. It's important for the individual to believe this because this negative emotion truly hurts the self the most.

When I think of anger, the first thing I think of is the person believes he or she is not going to be okay. That feeling of not okayness is insecurity, which can be relieved.

The other thing I think of with anger is, it is a place of competition, i.e., you against me, which I believe is the most common cause of divorce. The opposite of competition is cooperation. The cooperation I am talking about is cooperation with the self. Cooperation with the self is learning to work things out in the mind for understanding rather than reacting with the habit of anger.

Are you angry, irritable, and/or moody?

Is this negative emotion out of control, and out of proportion to the situation? 

Are you reacting like someone is going to die, when it's just that you are not getting your way?

These are tough questions but, very important questions for self-help and relieving despair in life.

If you answered yes to the questions above, start here...

Contemplate the truth that anger truly is unnecessary.

Further, contemplate the truth that maybe the insecurity that you are feeling from this negative emotion has become a habit, and you can get better at escaping this habit.

Releasing and relieving anger is for you...

For bettering your life...

This is enhancing life for your family and friends too...

What am I talking about? I'm talking about releasing anger so that peace and serenity may be cultivated by practicing these states of being into permanence.

I'm talking about your authority to consciously choose your habits of reacting with being calm for you and your life rather than being bitter. Let's face it, anger is bitterness.

Remember, what ever we practice, we practice by default or desire, and we practice it into permanent habit. It is the law of human behavior. We are focusing mechanisms, and we are habitual beings.

We can use our focus and habits to work in our favor. 

What do you say?

If you are having a hard time with anger just contemplate what I have discussed thus far, and see if it does not relieve the suffering just a little bit. That is where the healing begins, in the knowledge to destress your emotional strain.

If you believe you have to get angry, that's alright, you are not really at a place where you are willing to release your anger. The only thing I would ask you at this time is, is it more important to be right or is it more important to be happy and healthy?

If you believe you have to get angry, it is my humble opinion that you are hanging on to needing to be right. That needing to be right is a huge part of insecurity. I do not mean to be unkind, what I mean to do is provoke contemplation and thought about the unwillingness to let go of anger.

Anger is not who we are.

Anger is a negative emotion we acquired, and somewhere along the way, we decided it was okay to be angry.

There are many people out there rarely getting angry, if ever.

Let me be proof to you that an angry person can become an easy going, never angry person, it just takes recognition, and practice.

I remember when I first discovered that anger wasn't necessary, and there were amazing people around me that never got angry. I was about thirty years old. 

Releasing and relieving my anger was not easy, and it didn't happen over night. Believe me, it took years but I got better and better at it because it was important for my happiness, my health, my family, and my friends.

What I know, and see now is everyone gets better at life, or they get more bitter because of what they allow to happen. It is our authority to consciously choose, and some do and some don't. It is up to the individual and how important happiness and health is to him or her.

The human experience conditions us to believe that we can't control ourselves so we try to control others. The only thing we can control is ourselves, and to believe we can control others to ease our anger can, and possibly will be oh so very disappointing and lonely.

That's all I got...

Praying for your relief, and for your willingness to release your anger if you need to.

God loves you my dear friend, and I do too.

Speak soon...


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Friday, October 11, 2019

Destressing Your Mind

Hi Dee Ho...

Destressing the Racing Mind is what I'd like to discuss this day...

How are you doing my sweet friend?

Ever praying for your strain and stress of this life to be relieved.

As I mentioned a couple posts ago, I am revisiting the items on the stress test in my eBook, How to Destress Via Stress Test & Stress Relief.

The second item happens to be, "Do You Experience a Racing Mind?"

Some people live in a very busy world, and their mind can, and will race as fast as that world they live in.

Some people are born with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder), or ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder), which gives way to a noisy mind.

Some people experience Acute Stress, and/or PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), which also lends to a nonstop racing mind.

Many people that experience any of the above mentioned may not know, and/or may not believe they can consciously quiet their mind with practice into permanence. 

It is my humble opinion, through education, evidence, and experience, that anyone can, and will quiet their racing mind if they choose to practice without giving up, and without beating the self up. 

With God all things are possible.

"But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible." ~Matthew 19:26, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV

I believe, and know that this is so...

If you have a racing mind, and would like to practice it into a more calm, and confident place and space, try this...

Sit up quietly, in an uninterrupted environment, and close your eyes. Focus on following your breath in and out, feel your heart beat, and feel your body relax by allowing gravity to do it's job. 

Do this for five minutes first thing in the morning, and consciously feel yourself relax, feel yourself being secure and safe in this present moment.

Then, throughout the day, bring yourself back to that place of a quiet mind, and a relaxed body with focus on relaxation, safety, and security.

This is so good for anyone to practice. This practice allows a person to see he or she can feel calm and confident at anytime, and anywhere.

Practice this into permanence.

For some people this may not be an easy thing at first because one may not believe in him or herself. But know this!!!

We can choose or reject our authority to govern our mind by consciously focusing on what we want. In this case, we want to practice quieting the ever busy mind.

We can choose or reject our power to condition and train our self into a more calm, confident connection to God.

I know that we are more guided and inspired by God in the stillness of our mind. 

"Be still, and know that I am God:" ~Psalm 46:10, The Old Testament, Holy Bible, KJV.

If you have a racing mind, and you feel out of control with anger, anxiety, depression, irritability, and/or moodiness, I would suggest you begin the practice into permanence of quieting your mind with the exercise given above.

This exercise can also be done as you lay your head on your pillow at night before you go to sleep. If you have a hard time falling asleep, you just may be surprised that the exercise given can, and will remedy that.

That's all I got for now my dear sweet friend.

God bless you...

Enjoy your day...

Enjoy your weekend...

Take good care...

Speak soon...


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Friday, October 4, 2019

Destressing Worry

Who dee who, boogaboo...

Destressing worry is what I'd like to discuss this day.

How are you doing my friend?

Hoping and praying that you are destressing yourself everyday. It takes practice into permanence, you know?

In my last post on the Stress Test, I mentioned revisiting the stressful habits within my book How to Destress Via Stress Test & Stress Relief, which you can find free on Amazon today. 

The first item is worry.

Worry is mostly thinking about a least desirable outcome, and maybe even the worst outcome. Worry is practicing faith of the undesirable kind, i.e., believing in what one doesn't want.

Worry leads to stress because it is fearful, and the stress response is activated by fear.

It is my belief, through education, evidence, and experience that stress is the number one cause of every illness, even mental illness.

Many people argue the above statement but it's true. The worst part of the argument is that many people are unaware of what stress is. They argue that they have no stress. 

There is a common misconception that stress is an event or occurrence. Therefore, a person may not know that they stress via worry because it's habitual, it's normal to them, and they don't even know they are doing it.

We are not taught to pay close attention to our habitual thoughts, and so many do not recognize their focus.

The human conditioning teaches us to worry about what others think, and much of human behavior stems from that worry. This behavior comes from a place of insecurity, which is the opposite of confidence.

In order to destress worry, a person must train their mind to think about the best possible outcome, the desired outcome. By doing this we are not only building our confidence, we are building our trust in God, and our trust in our selves.

So many people believe we have to worry, and they will argue for that insecurity, and stress. It is but the human conditioning that these people are arguing for.

I'm on God's side, in the confidence, and trust. God, through Jesus' words, asks us to have faith, and tells us that faith can move mountains. Worry is not the kind of faith God, and Jesus are talking about.

The faith that is discussed in the Holy Bible is the faith in God, the faith in His plan, the faith in our brothers and sisters in this world, and the faith in our own common sense that can, and will build our confidence. 

It takes conditioning, and practice to build confidence, and faith but first a person must learn to quiet the racing worried mind that has been in practice for all the years of his or her life.

Quieting the mind through meditation can, and will help anyone notice the momentum and speed the habit of worry has developed in the mind. 

Once a worrier has learned to quiet his or her mind, he/she can then begin to develop the habit of faithful and fearless thoughts, knowing God is in charge, and all things are for our good, our spiritual expansion.

God loves us, and cares for us. He is giving us all good things for our spiritual development. We are His spiritual sons and daughters. This life here is for our learning to become more like Him, and to lift others through our passion and purpose. 

We all have a purpose here on earth, and that purpose is to discover our passion and help one another by lifting each other through our desires. 

It is my humble opinion, through education, evidence, and experience, the desire in a person's heart and soul is the seed planted by God. Better said, we are all here for a reason, we all have talents and traits that are planted in us by God, and we discover these by living, and searching out the good desires of our hearts.


In order to destress worry, one must quiet the mind via meditation, and practice reconditioning the habitual thoughts of the mind towards the desired outcomes.

Whether a person chooses to trust, or chooses to worry, he or she cannot tell the future, therefore to say worry is being realistic is nonsense. To choose to trust is building confidence, to continue to worry is solidifying more insecurity, which leads to, if not already is, mental illness.

The human conditioning gives way to worry by default. 

The spiritual conditioning gives way to confidence, safety, and security by desire.

We are all given the authority, power, and right to choose what we will think.

You, and I, have been given the free agency, and authority to choose what we will think.

You and I, have been given the power to choose, moment by moment, to think thoughts of confidence, and faith.

I have a memory of when my Agape (my only offspring) was very young. I remember thinking to myself, I shall always be loving and kind in the morning for him, no matter what. I knew that if I was loving and kind, he would have a wonderful start to his day, but if I was moody I could, and would ruin his day. He is thirty three now, and I still live by that conscious choice. 

The reason I share that memory is because I want you to know that we can choose to think thoughts that will curve our habits, including that of worry. I wanted more than anything for my Agape to feel happy, safe, and secure first thing in the morning, and throughout the day. That was my choice to give him confidence rather than stress and worry. It is my choice to be confident by example, rather than stressed.

We can choose.

That's all I got my dear friend.

God bless you...

May God bless you in your endeavor to overcome worry, and build trust, if you are needing to.

Love, love...

Speak soon...


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Friday, September 27, 2019

Stress Test & Free eBook

Hello there my friend...

How are you doing this day?

Ever praying for your comfort and joy...

Have you ever taken my stress test?

I created this stress test to help raise awareness to some stressful habits a person may have.

This is not a diagnosis tool or a psychology test, it is a test I developed many years ago to help identify stressful behavior. 

This survey was not developed via hard research, and the stressful habits presented are not in any particular order.  These are THE STRESSFUL HABITS that have been brought to my attention via survey from the many classes I have taught to relieve stress.

This is for adventure, education, and enjoyment.

So, enjoy...


1. Do you worry?

2. Do you experience a racing mind?

3. Are you angry moody or irritable?

4. Do you lose your temper or become impatient easily?

5. Do you have trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or getting essential hours of sleep because you can't stop thinking of things you have to do or because you have too much going on in your life?

6. Do you binge on or are you addicted to a certain activity, food, caffeine, tobacco, alcohol, or any form of pharmaceutical, over the  counter, or illegal drug?

7. Are you in a hurry?

8. Do you set simple goals or continuously tell yourself you are going to do something and don't do it?

9. Do you feel like you are in a constant state of going nowhere?

10. Do you notice that it is important to you or you spend a lot of energy proving you are right, or things should be done the "right way", your way?

11. Do you frequently complain about people, places, and things?

12. Do you get offended easily and/or talk negatively about other people?

13. Are you unable to enjoy yourself even when you are doing something you enjoy?

Add up your results...

If you would like to utilize a truth scale, ask someone, who knows you really well, to take this test on your behalf, and then compare answers.


1-13 a very destressed person

14-25 almost always destressed

26-38 more often destressed than stressed

39-52 you need to destress yourself

53- 65 you seriously need to destress yourself

If you chose 5 for any of the questions above, you may want to destress that particular habit.

For example, if you answered a 5 on number 6, you may want to overcome and eliminate the very stressful habit of addiction.

This stress test is part of my first book, "How to Destress Via Stress Test & Stress Relief". If you haven't read it, and would like to, Amazon is promoting the eBook free this Sunday, September 29, 2019.

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Thursday, September 19, 2019

Happy Birthday to Me

Hey! Hey!

How are you doing today?

It is my birthday, and I am 55, still alive. Double nickles!

At this very moment it is the day before my birthday but I'm compelled to write this post and send it out tomorrow, on my real birthday. But, I'll be on the beach meditating, napping, and swimming in the waves in between. The perks of living in Southern California.

Any who! I just wanted to share something dear and near in my heart that I have learned in my fifty five years of living and that is...

God is very real!

I know that this is so because I talk and walk with Him every single day of my life. I know Him because I know love.

"And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in Him," ~1 John 4:16, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV

Another thing that is in my heart and I know for sure is it is absolutely possible to release the negative emotions like anger, anxiety, depression, and despair through this love, through God.

"But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible." ~Matthew 19:26, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV

When a person releases their negative emotions that stem from the human conditioning, which teaches us fear, a person can live a life of calm, confidence, and connection to God through faith, which is very much love.

"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love." ~1 John 4:18, The New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV

The opposite of fear is faith, and I believe that perfect faith is love, which casts out fear. I think the opposite of love is torment, which is felt through anger, anxiety, and depression.

Anger is fear that one will not be okay if he or she doesn't get his or her way. But that person can and will be okay if he or she connects to God, to love.

Anxiety is fear of the future; fear created by the thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry, of the worst thing that may happen. But a person can and will overcome anxiety if he or she connects to God, to love.

Depression is fear that a person is not, and will not be good enough. But everyone is good enough and can, and will see the truth of their value and worth when he or she connects to God, to love. 

It takes practice and prayer, daily practice of prayers, and in loving the self and others, to overcome the fears of the world.

When we put our energy into talking and walking with God, eternal things become more important than earthly things. The human conditioning gives us the illusion that earthly things will make us happy, when the truth is that eternal love, our connection to God, is pure bliss. 

Everyone is reaching for calm, confidence, and connection to God, which gives way to unconditional love. Everyone wants to feel unconditional love but we cannot find it in earthly things. It is an illusion of the human conditioning.

That's all I got for my birthday ramble and what I know and have learned in my fifty five years here on earth.

I have cried every day, all my life. The tears that flowed the first half of my life were to rid of the suffering that did not belong to me. The tears that flow now are from the overwhelming feelings of bliss from the love that I feel from my connection to God.

There is no greater thing than talking and walking with God. That is the purpose of life really, to reconnect with and know God. That is the spiritual expansion we are here to obtain.

I love you dear friend.

I love you with all my heart and soul.

I am ever praying for your connection to God and the blissful feelings of His unconditional love.

Take good care...

Speak soon...