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Sunday, January 20, 2019

Is There a Science to Behavior?

Hey there! How you doing? I'm praying you are okay! I'm doing pretty good. 

I'll tell you a secret... I'm in Texas! I love Texas and Texas loves me!

I guess it's not a secret anymore. No matter... I just love Texas, I'd be living here but then I'd be too far from my family.

Today, I'd like to write about a science to human behavior and that is what ever we practice, we can and will become really good at, and will become habit.

This is very true when it comes to beliefs, and behaviors.

The most important thing to consider about this science is it can help us or it can hurt us.

For example, if you have a habit of worrying about the future, or money, or a family member, you will be really good at worrying. Worry basically is stress.

Did you know that stress is the number one cause of every illness?

The great news is, I believe, we can change any habit that we want. With God all things are possible. I know this is true. I know it deep down in my heart and soul because I have witnessed it in my life as well as in others.

So the questions are... What kind of habits do you have? Are your habits helping you or hurting you?

We all have bad habits and good habits. Some of us have more bad habits than good, and some more good than bad.

Our business is our own habits, not someone else's. Our business is what we do here in this human experience. Our business is between God and our self.

Are there stressful habits you'd like to change using the Science of Behavior?

Negative emotions are stressful habits. Anger, anxiety, depression, doubt, fear, irritability, moodiness, and worry are all negative emotions that provoke the stress response which reeks havoc in the body. That's what causes illnesses.

If you'd like to change a stressful habit using the Science of Behavior, all you gotta do is pick it's opposite and practice it until you are really, really, really good at it.

If you got anger practice patience.

If you got anxiety replace it it with relaxation, and practice it into permanence.

If you got depression, replace it with appreciation, and practice it into permanence.

Sounds simple doesn't it, but not easy. The only thing that can hinder anyone in this endeavor of changing unhealthy habits is the belief one can't, the unwillingness to try, and the habit that exists because of the momentum of it. The momentum is the power of any habit and it can be used for our benefit just as it is being used as a hurdle.

So! Your mission, should you choose to accept it is...

Pick an unhealthy habit, replace it with a healthy one, and practice it into permanence. Do this for at least a week, and if it works, make it permanent. 

Then! Watch your stress lift just a little bit more!

Watch yourself destress!

You can do this! 

You got the Power!

That's it...

Except, I love you my friend! I do! I do!

God bless...

Take Care...

Elizabeth

Thursday, January 17, 2019

Ignorance is NOT Bliss!

Hello! Hello! 

How are you doing? 

I pray, I pray you are having a wonderful day!

Have you ever heard the phrase, "Ignorance is bliss?"

Do you know that people have actually said that to me indicating I am ignorant? Isn't that ignorant? Just kidding, or maybe not! Ignorant is such a harsh word that it is unkind when you say it to someone. It's like calling someone stupid. I do not have any desire to be unkind so I certainly wouldn't say that to anyone, I prefer the word naive.

It's alright that people have called me ignorant in their naivete because I understand that people don't know they are being unkind or naive. 

In my experience, when people have said ignorance is bliss to me, it's because of my outlook on life. It is my tendency to give people the benefit of the doubt, and have compassion for their circumstances. Some people believe that my outlook is ignorant because they think the world is so horrible, but let's look at it a little bit and see who's naive.

It is a fact that we are all imperfect, yes? Except Jesus.

It is a fact that we all make mistakes, yes? Except Jesus.

It is a fact that we all would like to be given the benefit of the doubt, yes?

If we understand that we are all imperfect, and we all make mistakes, and we all have been given different struggles, and if we give others the benefit of the doubt, we can focus on being kind to ourselves, and others by focusing on what's right, and what's good in life.

It is naive to focus on what is bad because we unknowingly do it by habit, it makes us feel bad about life, and it is being unkind to ourselves and others.

Focusing on what's wrong in life makes us feel bad, and focusing on what's right in life makes us feel good. It's all about habitual behavior. 

People who are successful are confident, and people who are confident are focused on what's right, and they are about the business of enjoying life.

People who are insecure are insecure because they are focused on what's wrong and you know it because they are always complaining and criticizing others, and themselves. If you are focused solely on what's wrong you are going to feel bad.

Brilliance is knowing that we have the authority, power, and responsibility to our own state of confidence, i.e., faith, and happiness in life. 

It is brilliant to desire happiness!

It is brilliant to focus on creating habits of happiness by desire!

It is naive to continue to focus on what is wrong by complaining, criticizing, dramatizing, and gossiping so that one creates misery in his or her own mind, in other peoples' lives, and the environment in which he or she stands. That is not normal, it's adolescent behavior when we ought to be about adult behavior.

There are so many great people in this world, and this world is functioning beautifully. If it wasn't people would be living in chaos, no body would be following laws, or going to work on a daily basis helping this world function as good as it does. 

If the world wasn't functioning properly, we'd be living like one of the apocalyptic movies where people are eating people. (insert me lol here)

What I'm trying to say in all of this ramble is, if you are primarily complaining about and criticizing others and life it may be creating a stressful life for you naively. Our thoughts, what we think about creates feelings of safety and happiness or insecurity and misery. It's a choice if you'd like it to be.

We are creators of our reality. We are either lifting others, ourselves, and the environment in which we stand by what we do and say, or we are lowering.

To be unkind to others, yourself, and the environment is naivete. 

To be kind by focusing on the good, giving people the benefit of the doubt, and understanding we all have struggles and that's why we do what we unknowingly, or knowingly do, is brilliant. 

It's brilliant because it's God's work! 

One last thing. That person or thing that you may be focusing on what is wrong in them or it, has so much more good than the one or two things you are solely focused on that is bad. You can choose to focus on the so many things that are good and right than on the one or two things that are wrong.

Love one another! 

Love is kind!

Just something to think about. Just something to destress your behaviors, beliefs, and life a little bit.

If you want relief from feeling bad, focus on good more. All good things are from God, and when we focus on the good, we focus on God.

That is all...

Except... I love you!

Elizabeth

Sunday, January 13, 2019

Relieving Despair

Hello my friend. How are you doing today? I pray that you are doing okay. I always ask how you are doing because I care! I understand that I can't hear your response, and I just want you to know I have a prayer in my heart for you, for the one whom is having a hard time or suffering.

For many years I suffered with despair, and through those years there were many people who were there for me. These individuals listened to me, and loved me no matter what. When I look back I know that I would not have survived if it weren't for them. They never abandoned me no matter how crazy or negative I was.

Now, I want to be that person for others that they were for me.

Despair is when a person loses all hope, it is when a person rather die than live, and it could create suicidal thoughts.

In my experience, the number one way to relieve despair is a person must have an open mind, and be willing to learn.

If I said to you that you could relieve your despair if you'd try certain things, to see what works but you are unwilling to try anything because you believe no things will work, that would be a very closed mind, and that could be the very obstacle to any relief.

Life is like a science experiment of trying what works and doing more of what works. If you are doing things that do not work repeatedly it could create constant havoc.

Do you suffer from despair? 

Wouldn't you like some relief? 

Do you have an open mind?

If you answered yes to all of the above, I'd like to propose you try something for an entire week to see if it works, and if it does, keep doing it.

What I'd like to propose is for you to be for others, what you need others to be for you. The reason I offer this is because I know that when we help others we feel better, and feeling better will relieve despair.  Also, when we are in the service of others we forget our own troubles, and despair is trouble.

Often times when we are in despair, we are so focused on what is wrong in our life that the despair gains momentum, and the feelings get unbearable.

What a person needs, when in despair, is for another to learn by listening and loving, and trying to understand.

So! Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to learn about others by listening and loving, and trying to understand. No advice giving, no judging, and no words! Just learn, listen, love, and understand. That's it! For an entire week to see if it relieves your despair, and if you aren't in despair, try it anyway and see what amazing things come out of it! I'll do it with you!

Everyday, for at least a week, remind yourself this, "I will learn by listening and loving and try to understand! No words, just learn, listen, love, and understand!"

Do that, and watch yourself feel better, and feel God even more because all good things come from God, and what you are doing is not only good, it is great!

God bless you my friend!

I love you! I truly truly do, and if you've ever met, or meet me, you'll know it's true!

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

Wednesday, January 9, 2019

Purpose in Life

Hey there! How are you doing today? I hope and pray that you are alright, and that you are enjoying life.

Today I'd like to ramble (I do ramble) a little bit about purpose in life. The entire reason I blog, and ramble is because I want to help people relieve any emotional heartache. I have suffered emotionally, severely and deeply, so I know what it's like to live misery. Misery is something I would never wish on anyone, and it is something I'd do nearly anything to relieve in another person.

The opposite of misery is happiness, joy, and vitality for life, and I have discovered this coming through pain and sorrow.

It is my humble opinion that the purpose in life is spiritual expansion. I know with all my heart and soul that we are eternal spiritual beings having a human experience and this experience is for our spiritual expansion.

Spiritual expansion is about developing a connection to God so that we may live above our human nature and through our spiritual nature.

When we connect to God and live a more spiritual life, we can and will find happiness, joy, and vitality. When we live from this place of spirituality we can and do discover our value and worth.

My purpose in life is to connect to God, which will expand my living from a more spiritual place. When I connect to God, He guides me, and inspires me. This connection provides me with the ability to learn of spiritual things, and listen to the weary soul from a compassionate place. This connection also allows me to have more charity for myself and others, which allows me to love unconditionally and understand the sufferings of my brothers and/or sisters in this world.

We are all brothers and sisters because we are all spiritual children of God.

I am compelled to blog for one reason, and one reason only! I blog because I could lift that one person from despair. I will write my little ramblings in the hope that you are relieved.

I know that when we lift another by relieving their misery, we lift them to a better place in life even if it is for that moment. Life is lived from moment to moment and it is my prayer that you, and I will live that moment connected to God with happiness, joy, and vitality.

My connection to God has shown me unconditional love for life, others, and myself, and that is my value and worth. If I could help you, and point you to the direction of connecting to God, I know, without a doubt that you can and will know your value and worth. This is the most highest value and worth because it comes from within the soul where God resides, and not from anyone else on this earth.

That's all...

Except, I love you!

Take care...

God bless...

Elizabeth

Monday, January 7, 2019

Connecting to God

Well Hello! 

How are you doing today? I pray that you are happy, healthy, and wealthy! (insert me winking here)

In my last post I wrote about letting go of stress by appreciating more. Did you read it? If so, did you practice appreciation more?

When we are feeling appreciation we are so close to the feeling of love and it's a great way of connecting to God.

The scriptures say to be thankful in all things. They also say that God is love and when we love God abides in us.  Therefore, appreciation, which is so very close to the feeling of love, and loving others is a great way of connecting to God.

When we connect to God we feel good and that's probably why people go to church every Sunday, or when times are really hard. When times are difficult, everyone wants to feel better, and that's why we turn to God because we feel better, we feel good, we feel love, and we feel relief from our stress.

I hope with all my heart and soul you took upon yourself the mission to practice appreciation by searching for the good in others, in the environment in which you stand, and in yourself.

I also hope and pray that you will practice loving the person before you, the environment you are in, and yourself more. When you do, you connect to God, and that provides amazing relief from stress, it destresses you!

It's all about focus and practicing into permanence. We have the free agency to choose what we focus upon. We can choose thoughts of happiness or heartache. We can choose to heal our beliefs, behaviors, and emotions or we can choose to hurt them. Desire versus default.

Holding on tightly in your mind to what is wrong makes it difficult to see what is right, and makes it challenging to heal.

Hold on tight to what is right, what you appreciate, what you are thankful for, and what there is to love in life and let what's wrong dissipate and fall away, it's the law of faith.

If you find no things to appreciate or love it may be a big indicator you are very much out of practice. 

What about appreciating the simple things like eyes to see with, a nose to smell with, a tongue to taste delicious food, arms to hug your loved ones with, legs to walk on, ears to hear awesome music, and family and friends that are always there for you?

My dear friend, my sweet friend, my prayer for you is that you may consider connecting to God in these big ways of practicing appreciation and love more.

That's all I got, except a prayer held tight in my heart that you will consider these things for you because you are the most important person in your life, and you are very important to God, and to me.

God bless...

Take care...

Elizabeth

Friday, January 4, 2019

Letting Go of Stress

Hey! Happy New Year!

How was it? Did you enjoy bringing in the New Year? Did you start your New Year off right?

Well, I pray that your experience in bringing in the new year was perfect, and if not, let it be water under the bridge. That's an old saying for letting it go.

Stress is provoked by fear. Did you know that? 

Doubts and worry about the future is fear, and so it provokes stress.

Anger is fear that one will not be okay if things don't go his/her way, and it provokes stress.

Anxiety is severe worry about future events, and it provokes stress.

Depression is practiced fear that one is not good enough. Stress!

I understand that many people would disagree with what I have just written and that's alright. 

I also understand that people don't want to hear certain things about themselves because it makes it seem like it's their fault but it's not.

Negative emotions are never any one's fault. Negative emotions are normal human behaviors and conditions.

So, if your not mad at me for saying those things, I'd like to give you a way to release your negative emotions, or at least minimize them. 

A really great way to minimize stress is practicing appreciation because when we are thankful we focus on what is right in our life rather than what is going wrong.

The scriptures say to be thankful in all things and that is one of the most brilliant pieces of advise. 

It is my humble opinion that if God were to speak to us He would tell us how great we are doing because He would be focused on all the good we do. He would also tell us we are much too hard on ourselves, and that's what is the foundation of our negative emotions.

So! Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to practice appreciation more often, and watch how things feel better. Just focus on what's right in others, your environment, and yourself. 

That's it, except Happy New Year my wonderful friend! And, I pray you have the most abundant, and happy year yet! 

God bless you!

I love you!

Take care...

Elizabeth

Monday, December 31, 2018

Peace of Mind...

Hey there! How are you doing today? I pray, I pray that you are having the most beautiful day.

Have I ever told you that I was the most angry, anxious, depressed person I had ever met?

It's true! I was pretty much an emotional wreck the first half of my life, I was even very suicidal.

Have I ever told you that right now, the majority of the time I feel like the happiest person in the world?

When I was younger, I really believed anger was necessary. If you would have told me that anger was unnecessary, and that I could, and would, live without it, there is no way I would have believed you.

If you would have told me that I could relieve my own anxiety there is no way I would have believed you. I really believed that my anxiety came from somewhere besides me, from external events.

If you would have told me that I could, and would eliminate my depression, I could not and would not believe you.

The opposite of anger, anxiety, and depression is peace of mind.

Peace of mind feels like calm, confidence, safety, and security.

The most powerful thing I have learned, and that has helped me overcome my crazy emotional world is some how, some way, I discovered that I had the authority, power, and responsibility to govern my life and find peace.

Peace first came often, and quickly when I would get down on my knees and ask God for it.  It also came on Sundays when I would attend church. Although I had glimpses of relief, it wasn't enough.

Finally, nearly twenty years ago I began to meditate and quiet my mind. This allowed me to practice a calm, relaxed state on a regular basis. Now, the peace of mind I have is nearly permanent.

Many people are opposed to quieting their mind because they just don't believe they can do it, and I get that! I didn't either because my negative emotions were practiced into a nearly permanent state. When I did begin to practice the calm quieting of my mind it felt so good to me I kept it up.

If you'd like some peace of mind, I'd give sitting for five minutes and quieting your mind a go.

Try this...

Click on this link here and focus on the sounds. It's a five minute YouTube video I made for a friend whom needed to learn to quiet his mind.

Try it for thirty days, same time everyday. Find a quiet uninterrupted space where you can sit comfortably, close your eyes, and just listen to the sounds. If you do, you will begin the journey of a peaceful mind, and it just may be the beginning of you letting go of all of your anger, anxiety, and depression because you have discovered a way to find relief.

That's all I got... a prayer for you to find relief with peace of mind.

Enjoy your day...

Take care...

and HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Elizabeth


Friday, December 28, 2018

Is There Permanent Stress Relief?

Hey there! How are you doing today? I'm praying you are alright.

Have you made any New Year Resolutions? Mine are the same as my everyday wish, learn, listen, and love more. It's just a practice I want to make permanent and perfect.

I get so much out of life when I learn, listen, and love.

It is my humble opinion that we are spiritual beings having a human experience, and the purpose of life is for us to expand spiritually. Expanding spiritually connects us to God, and guides us to our individual, specific, purpose in life.

There are three stages of our human life, according to my theory, and they are:

Innocence: pure loving beings wanting nothing more than to eat, learn, listen, love, play, and sleep.

Adolescence: in a place of competition with the world complaining, conditional loving, controlling, criticizing, dramatizing, and gossiping, which leads to insecurity (another word for stress because stress is provoked by fear, and insecurity is feeling unsafe/fearful).

Enlightenment: connected to and cooperating with God, faithful and fearless, knowing your value and worth, residing in a place of unconditional love, and understanding all things are for our spiritual expansion.

I'm confident that many of you may disagree with me but I'll expand more as 2019 moves along. If you are patient with me you just may develop a wisdom for permanent stress relief. Not just permanent stress relief but a pure calm, confidence, and certainty for your life. What do you think about that?

What is important to you? Have you decided what's important and thought about practicing "that" into permanence, which will become perfected sooner than later. 

The true science to human behavior is practice makes habits, and habitual behavior can, and will make you nearly perfect at that practice.

Have you been practicing anger, anxiety, depression, or even worry? If so you may be perfect at it.

If you want to relieve any of these habits you could practice appreciation, calmness, fun, or trust. 

It's all about the focus and practice. I wrote about focus on my last post, Merry Christmas! Check it out!

I just wanted to write about some things you may want to consider in making your New Year Resolutions.

Happy New Year my friend! 

Happy Abundant Prosperous New Year!

God bless...

Take care...

Elizabeth

Tuesday, December 25, 2018

MERRY CHRISTMAS!

Merry Christmas my friend!

How are you doing this holiday season? It is my prayer that you are doing really, really, really great!


As I am writing this I'm sitting up in bed at my parents' house. It's 0940 and everyone is still asleep. I've been up for hours though. I don't sleep much because I do not require a lot of sleep. It seems as though I have a lot of energy these days because I have a lot of love. It is my experience that love multiplies energy.

That proclamation may sound silly but if you really think about it, negative emotions and energy can and will drain anyone, and when a person is in love he or she is full of energy. It's a fact.

The reason I have so much love is because of my focus. I have discovered, in my fifty-four years of living that I have the authority, power, and responsibility for the focus in my life. Focus truly is a vital key to success.

As human beings we have exquisite focus. The focus any individual has may be by default or desire.

Sometimes we have a hard time in life, or a devastating event, and that may lead to exquisite focus on what is wrong in our life, and the world, which causes fear. This focus is very much human nature and it is by default.

When we focus by desire, we focus on what we do want on a minute to minute, and day by day basis.

This is really helpful to know when setting goals and/or New Years Resolutions.

The reason I am rambling about this is because focusing by default can, and will cause distress. Focusing on desired outcomes can, and will relieve stress because it points our thoughts of fear towards faith.

Fear and stress are so draining, and exhausting. Faith is energizing, and inspiring!

Did you know that fear is the foundation of the stress response.

I have a prayer in my heart that if you want to relieve your stress you will focus on what you want, and not what is going wrong, so that you may have more energy and joy.

This is a perfect post for New Years Resolutions.

In the past, I use to have resolutions with tangible goals but now I just have resolutions to learn more, listen more, and love more. These goals are my focus by desire and they give me more energy, and make me happier. Energy and happiness are my real goals, and oh what a beautiful life these goals give me.

I am rambling! LOL

That's all I got! A prayer for you... Focus by Desire so that you can, and will Destress Yourself.

God bless you my friend!

Enjoy your Holidays!

Take care...

Elizabeth

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