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Friday, June 21, 2019

Reminding Yourself to Destress

Hey! Hey! 

Reminding yourself to destress with purposeful affirmations is the topic of this day...

How are you doing my dear friend?

Hoping and praying you are doing okay.

One thing I know for sure is that we, as spiritual beings having human experiences, have great authority and power over our behaviors and beliefs. I know that this is so because I have learned, and keep learning, this lesson of what we are capable of.

I believe, with all my heart and soul that anyone can change! Everyone changes! The goal is to change for the better though, right?

Anyone can change by overcoming addiction, anger, anxiety, depression, and despair. I know that this is so, and I know it because of my personal and professional experiences. Millions of people change emotionally, mentally, and physically, for the better, every day!

A great way to improve upon any negative behavior or belief we have, is to watch carefully our phrases of affirmations. Affirmations are basically reminders, and they may be intentional or unintentional. When they are intentional we can be more in control of our beliefs and behaviors. To govern our phrases and vocabulary is to govern our reality because words have power!

Some phrases and words that I have eliminated from my thoughts and verbalization are difficult, fat, hard, hate, and tired.

I use to say things like, "Life is so difficult, I'm so fat, this or that is so hard, I hate this or that, and I'm so tired." The reason I have eliminated these so called affirmations/reminders from my life is because I know the power of the subconscious mind. Whatever we believe, the body and mind comply.

Not only does our body and mind cooperate with our thoughts and words but, there is a lot of fear in those statements, and fear is the drainer of confidence and energy. Fear is stress, and so stress is actually the drainer of confidence and energy.

Affirmations become our beliefs, and if we govern our affirmations, we can, and will govern our beliefs a little bit more each day.

This is not faking it until you are making it, or pretending, this is choosing beliefs via exquisite focus. We are intellectual beings, and we can choose what we focus on intentionally rather than by default. This is leveraging the subconscious mind to work in our favor.

Whatever you want, you can and will move towards it if you govern your faith and focus a little bit more. 

So, the question is, what do you want?

Do you want better health?

Do you want love?

Do you want wealth?

Alls you gotta do is govern your thoughts and words towards what you want a little bit more, and you can and will see changes for the better.

Let's say you want more positive emotion, or maybe more mental focus, or maybe more energy. Just take a moment and think about your thoughts and verbal affirmations that are holding you in the place you do not want.

For example, saying things like, "I'm so anxious, angry, or depressed. I have a hard time remembering things. I'm so drained, fatigued, or tired," will keep you exactly right there, where your words proclaim.

If you are saying things similar to those mentioned above, your subconscious mind is complying by solidifying the thoughts you keep thinking into deep unwavering beliefs. These strong beliefs are activated and created by you my friend.

I know that any belief can be changed by changing the way we think about things.

Regular negative affirming can be changed by consciously choosing better words. 

I have learned to say things like, "I am relaxed, I can handle this, I can handle anything, I am doing really good, I can practice anything into permanence, or I got this!"

Do you see how encouraging yourself with your affirmations can, and will make a difference in your life if you but choose to speak and think better about yourself? This is really quite brilliant because the world teaches us to be afraid and to discourage ourselves and others. This is just playing a more active role in our own training.

This is taking an active role in living with confidence, ease, and grace rather than anger, anxiety, depression, or despair.

Destressing yourself with affirmations/reminders is a really great way of taking charge in your own part of getting better and better at life versus getting more bitter. We can choose you know? We can choose what we want to be for ourselves and then be that, what we want. That choosing is our authority, power, value, and worth.

The best way to actively use affirmations, in order to destress, is to first begin a practice of meditation, which I wrote about in my last post, and you can read it by clicking here. 

Meditating, is a practice that will help an individual with focus, and with quieting the mind. Meditation can and will assist an individual in becoming more aware of the negative affirmations that are holding him or her in a stressful state of being.

So, if you wanna destress a little bit more, and if you wanna level up in life a little bit more, decide what you want, believe that you can accomplish it, create an affirmation that will confirm that belief, and state it often, over and over again. If you do this, you can just watch yourself evolve a little bit more. I'd do it for thirty days, at least, and if it works, which I believe it will, keep on a doing it.

Don't forget to meditate daily because it will enhance the change.

What say you?

You can do it!

Praying you will do it for you!

Have a great weekend, and stay tuned for more direction, and guidance on using meditation, and affirmations to destress.

God bless you my friend...

Speak soon...


Friday, June 14, 2019

Why Meditation?


Why I meditate and why I want to teach the world to meditate are the topics I wanna ramble about this day.

How are you? Summer is here in the United States, and people are busy, busy, busy.

When people are busy, busy, busy they tend to get momentum of the hurry-up disease, which causes anxiety and the lack of awareness of self, and others.

When I was a young single mother I was always busy, and I had the hurry-up disease momentum. This hurry-up disease has no mercy on the soul. The habit of being in a hurry does not allow for time to think about others, or actions of the self because the focus is to hurry and get things done.

Let me tell you about my actions when I had the hurry-up disease. My most prevalent behaviors were anger, anxiety, complaining, criticism, debt, depression, drama, exhaustion, inappropriateness, insecurity, insomnia, irritability, moodiness, negativity, overeating, and worry. Just to name a few ~wink, wink~

All of these habits I mentioned, I call addictions because an addiction, in my mind, is something a person believes he or she cannot quit. Individuals get so good at practicing a particular behavior they tend to live with a belief that they cannot quit that behavior.

Some people believe they have to hurry, hurry, hurry. Some people believe they cannot quit their anger, their anxiety, their depression, their despair, their moodiness, or their worry. No matter the action, it's just like an addiction, a person has to want to quit, and begin to believe he or she can, in order to find change.

Practice makes habits of permanence, whether they are thoughts, feelings, or actions!

Connecting to God, and meditating has helped, and still does help me lessen the negative behaviors I speak of above. I have been meditating since 1999, and I have, I believe, eliminated much of the negative addictions/behaviors of my past. Most of all, I have eliminated anger, anxiety, depression, and despair.

If something even tries to annoy me within seconds I giggle because God, and meditation have taught me that when I quiet my mind I realize that life is not as serious as I use to make it out to be.

Please believe me when I say, I know that I am human, and not perfect therefore, I keep practicing daily because I do not believe one can, or does become perfect without negative beliefs and behaviors. Practicing into permanence is more of what life is about rather than perfection. When we make things permanent we leverage the habitual human behavior.

Meditation is simply, the quieting of the mind, which gives awareness to the thoughts, feelings, and actions of the self, and a greater connection to God.  This awareness, and connection allows one to recognize the negative thoughts, feelings, and actions and intentionally change them to more enlightening, inspiring, motivating, and positive thoughts, feelings and actions.

The quiet mind allows one to practice the feelings of calmness, confidence, relaxation, and safety, which are the very opposite of stress.

I have meditated for twenty years, and I know no one, personally, with more consistent joy than me. I do not say that to brag, I say that to convince you of the fantastic joy God and meditation has brought me.

Now, God, and this joy I speak of have brought me out of the depths of despair, and PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). Now I am the very opposite person of whom I was 27 years ago (that's half my age by the way). That my friend, is the greatest thing of them all because I was misery much of the time, and now I am in bliss the majority of the time.

I love life!

Could you imagine deep, deep, deepest moments of despair to the point of not wanting to live, and then becoming so in love with life? That question right there is a primary reason I write this blog in hopes to help my brother or sister here on earth. To help anyone I can, go from misery to joy.

The very act of moving from misery to joy is why I want to teach the world to meditate!

Could you imagine someone (possibly you) living in constant crisis, or even periodic crisis, discovering meditation, making it a practice, and then never knowing or even experiencing crisis again? Could you imagine being in a state of confidence no matter what happens because you know how to remain calm and connected to God?

I have talked thousands of people out of the state of anxiety, and the way I did it was by remaining calm, and talking them through quieting their body, mind, and soul. Quieting others like that is something a person can do for themselves, on a regular basis, and through a regular meditation practice.

I have talked to many suicidal individuals, and I did it from a calm place, pointing them towards calming themselves, and to the faith they have in themselves, life, and others. Building on faith comes from a connection to God and a meditative mind of relaxation and feeling secure.

It may sound like I am boasting, and I am but, I do not boast of myself, I boast of God, and a practice of meditation.

All of that calming and faith is much more complicated than just a few words of explanation. But, I know no other way than connecting to God, and a regular meditation practice that creates the success of bringing the self, as well as other people from crisis to calm. There is no way I could have ever done what I have done, and still do, for others, and myself, if it weren't for my connection to God, and my meditation practice that enhances that connection.

I shall meditate until the end of my days because life just gets better and better.

I shall teach people to meditate until the end of my days because I see more and more success.

So... that, my friend is why I meditate and want to teach the world to meditate.

The best part is, meditation doesn't take long at all. Five minutes a day is where anyone can begin. That five minutes can, and will help anyone bring that quiet mind to full force of the present moment at anytime and anywhere.

You can begin by listening to the five minute meditation video I created by clicking this link here. The only thing required is focusing on the sounds. You can have your eyes closed or open. It's a start. Every journey begins with one simple step, eh?

I pray that I have inspired you to meditate so that you may develop a calm, certain, and confident mind, so that you may learn what a constant state of relaxation, safety and security feels like, and eliminate any anger, anxiety, depression, or any other negative emotion, especially despair.

Warning! Warning! Warning!

Once you meditate you can never go back!

What I mean by that is, if you begin to meditate you will become so aware of your beliefs and behaviors that when you continue the meditation, life just gets better and better and better because you become more connected to God. That connection to God becomes very clear via guidance and inspiration toward others, you, and your future. 

When a person meditates he/she begins to feel so good that if that person stops the meditation practice, the negative emotions experienced in the past become so much more intense. It is my personal opinion that when an individual discontinues a meditation practice, the negative emotion becomes so much more profound because the feeling good, from meditation, was so powerful. That contrast can, and will be so clear that anyone would long for that distinct good feeling place.

It takes practice for anything to become permanent and so one must continue meditation to remain in that good feeling place of a calm, clear, confident connection to the true self and God.

That connection, my friend, is very real, and that is exactly why I will meditate to the end of my days, and quite possibly beyond. 

There is not one thing more important to me than being connected to God! There is not enough money, recognition, or titles in the world more important to me than knowing, talking, and walking with God. I've been asking for that closeness and connection for the whole of my life! And, if you feel the same way too, you will learn to, and make time for meditation.

Have a wonderful weekend, and week ahead.

Take good care!

Hug, hug, hug...

I love you...


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Sunday, June 9, 2019

Do You Have an Open Mind?

Hello! Hellol!

How to destress yourself with an open mind is what I want to talk about today. 

Hey, hey!  How are you?  I hope you are having the time of your life, I really do.

In my last post I wrote about 
The Three Most Important Things When Destressing Despair.

Did you happen to read it?

The first thing, of the three, is having an open mind. So, I thought I'd just discuss that a little bit.

Do you believe you have an open mind?

When an individual has an open mind, he or she wants to learn, and listens for possibilities, is teachable, and willing to try new things. 

When an individual has a closed mind, he or she may not necessarily be open to information that may be a healing help to them.

The healing help I am talking about is the journey to happiness. Happiness is healing the emotional hurt, and emotional hurt is negative emotion.

When a person is angry, anxious, depressed, and/or in despair he or she may be suffering and unhappy.  

When a person is unhappy, what he or she is doing is probably not working, and having an open mind can, and will assist in the possibilities of new things that can, and will relieve the sorrow.

Do you believe you have an open mind?

Are you willing to try something new that may possibly enhance your life for you?

Do you believe your life needs enhancing?

Some people believe their life needs enhancing, and some people don't.

I'm here to help those who want an enhancing. ~wink~

But if you don't want an enhancing, I say, and think that's cool too...

Have you ever meditated?

Have you ever created and applied affirmations?

Have you ever visualized what you really want out of life?

The reason I ask these questions is because I preach meditation, to quiet the anxious and worried mind, affirmations, to assist in new habit forming, and visualizations for inspiration and self motivation.

Some people struggling with negative emotions are unwilling to try any of the things mentioned above because sometimes people who are having a hard time with despair have shut down to learning new things, which is basically closing the mind.

Are you willing to open your mind and destress yourself by trying new things?

Are you willing to destress yourself by practicing meditation?

Are you willing to destress yourself by applying affirmations that will assist in creating new habits?

Are you willing to destress yourself by visualizing what you want, in order to overcome the stressful habits of doubt, fear, and worry?

If you said yes to these questions, awesome! 

If you said no to these questions, and you are distressed, then chances are, you may have a closed mind to hope.

Could you consider new things like learning to meditate, create affirmations, and visualize?

I have meditated, affirmed, and visualized for years now, and it is the most effective goal obtaining enhancers in the world.  Trust me on this one!

Everyone affirms and visualizes. Did you know that? The worried person affirms and visualizes his or her doubts and fears by default. I'm suggesting to set the intention of affirming and visualizing by desire, and meditation helps with that process.

I have clients who have learned to meditate, affirm, and visualize, and they have made explosive jumps in their personal and professional performance.

What do you think?

I kid you not, this stuff is amazing, you just have to be willing to try something new to change your life from stress to destress, if you think you need to.

If you have never meditated, affirmed, or visualized intentionally, and are unwilling to do such for yourself, thinking this stuff won't help your despair, or unhappiness for that matter, you may have a closed mind. Part of that closed mind comes from the  unwillingness to do anything for the self. When we are unwilling to do anything for the self, the next step is to work on believing in the self.

If you don't have a lot of faith in yourself, and you do open your mind to trying new techniques, you may just begin to see your real value, and your real worth. When a person realizes his or her value and worth, he or she begins to believe in the self more.

When a person learns to believe in his or herself, that person begins to discover his or her true capabilities and power. Then, that person begins to open his or her mind even more, knowing that he or she is the only one who can make his or her life an amazing one or a suffering one.

What I am trying to say in all of this ramble is, an open mind will get you somewhere you want to be and if your mind has been closed off to new things you may want to try something new like meditation, affirmations, and visualizations.

If you do want to open your mind a little bit more and try, please stay tuned for the next posts on how to apply the meditation, affirmation, and visualization techniques.

Okay dokay pokay?!?

Have a great day!  

Have a great week!  

I love you Sugah!


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Monday, June 3, 2019

Three Most Important Things When Destressing Despair

Hey! Hey!

Destressing Despair is what I'd like to discuss this day...

How are you doing dear one?

I am hoping and praying for you... it is true!

In my last three posts I've issued a challenge and persuasions to relieve self insecurities...

You can click and read them here...

Increasing Habits of Faith

Leveling Up on Faith

The Art and Skill of Confidence

If you haven't read them, or you have read them and haven't attempted the challenge, you may want to reconsider, for it may just relieve any stress you may be having, especially despair.

The three most important things, in my humble opinion, in destressing despair are...

1) Having an open mind.

2) Believe in yourself.

3) Make a commitment to you.

These three ideas are the very beginning of relieving any kind of despair because if a person does not have an open mind, believe in the self, or make any kind of commitment, he or she may not try, let alone endure anything, to change his or her current environment. The thing is, a person must try something different, if he or she wants different results. The crux is, people in despair are often unwilling to listen to much, even from experts.

Crazy, I know... I was there! I've seen people there, in that state of a closed off mind with rigid beliefs.

Insecurity closes the mind. Despair is a deep state of insecurity. That statement is not meant to be unkind to anyone, by any means. Unfortunately, insecurity is a part of despair, and fortunately there is relief.

In my younger years of suffering emotionally, I was very closed minded, unbelieving in myself, and lacking in dedication to change. But now, after my studies and helping others, I still do experiments to evolve myself further into spiritual expansion.

I'm even doing the thirty day challenge I mentioned above, and it is doing wonders for further understanding myself spiritually.

I feel very good much of the time.

We are suppose to feel good!

We are suppose to have joy.

I do know that it is up to me to feel joyful. I know this with all my heart and soul. And I want nothing more than to help others feel relief from despair. Despair can be, and was for me, the worst feeling in the world. It is a suffering that I'd never, ever, ever, ever wish on anyone, and I want nothing more than to help my brothers and sisters, in this world, find relief.

There is hope!

There is relief!

It is my most humble opinion, from evidence, education, and experiences that nearly anyone can find respite from despair if he or she is willing to have an open mind to new beliefs, believe in the self, and discover what even a little commitment to the self can do.

Something to consider eh?

Could you? Would you? Consider it for you? If you need to...

That's all... ~wink~

Big Hugs!!!

Speak soon...


Wednesday, May 29, 2019

The Art And Skill of Confidence

Hey! Hey!

Confidence is the ramble this day!

How are you doing my friend?

I am hoping and praying you are getting better and better each and every day.

The reason I want to discuss confidence is because the opposite is insecurity, which is a way of describing feelings of not feeling safe, which is a way of describing stress.

Confident people make really good decisions because they come from a place of believing in themselves. Insecure people often make poor decisions because they come from a place of fear.

Some people are, and were lucky enough to have parents whom exuded confidence, and so they learned by example to be confident. Some people, may have had insecure parents, and became confident because they observed it, in other people, in their lives.

What I'm trying to say is, everyone's story is different. Although the story is different the art and skill of confidence is built the same in everyone who has it. It is built by learning, observation, and practice.

You have probably guessed by now, this is just another ploy to get you to do the thirty day challenge I offered in the post Increasing Habits of Faith. 

You see, we have emotional, mental, and physical habits, which are all created by practice. The thirty day exercise I am offering is a little experiment on evolving insecurity to confidence via mental habits of focus.

I'll tell you a little secret...

For the first twenty years of my career I worked in the Emergency Field responding to 911 calls, and overlapping some of those years, I spent another twenty years helping Emergency Personnel overcome emotional emergencies. What I have discovered in both arenas is there is respite from crisis, which is the ultimate insecurity. In addition, there is relief from day to day practiced uncertainty, which is chronic stress.

Chronic stress, and crisis can be interrupted by beliefs and behaviors of confidence, and there lies the relief.

What say you?

Are you feeling unsafe about the future much of the time?

If you are, I would do the challenge offered in the post I wrote, Increasing Habits of Faith. And you may want to read the post written right after that, Leveling Up On Faith. 

This is all about practicing the art and skill of confidence into a permanent habit by replacing the doubt, fear, and worry of what you don't want, to thinking about what you do want.

You may not be convinced that this will work for you, and that my friend is exactly what we are trying to evolve, the lack of belief in you.

Have a super duper day dear one!

ps... If you think I repeat myself much, don't mind me, just rambling along trying to help people heal through the great law of learning called repetition.

If I but help one person heal the hurt, I am doing what God wants me to do. That is how important we are to Him! We are instruments in God's hands or we are not! I will be as much as my focus allows me to.

Big Hugs!!!

Speak soon...


Friday, May 24, 2019

Leveling Up On Faith

Hoodie Hoo Boogaboo!

Leveling up on faith is what I'd like to discuss this day.

How are you doing? Did you read my last post, Increasing Habits of Faith? 

Hopefully you did because I issued a thirty day challenge on increasing habits of faith

If you didn't read it, and you'd really like to work on overcoming feelings of insecurity, I'd check it out and take the challenge.

If you did read it, and you aren't doing the work, maybe because you don't think it will work, I want to assist in a little persuasion. 

Please allow me to provoke some thoughts.

I'm about to say something that some people with anger, anxiety, depression, and/or despair don't/won't like to hear, quite possibly because they disagree. 

Please forgive me in advance. 

Please have an open mind. 

Please know that I have been an agent in God's hands for healing and helping people for many, many, many years, and I come from a place of love. You know this is true especially if you've been reading this blog for a while, read one of my books, and/or we've talked in person.

So I begin...

First, and foremost, anger, anxiety, and depression are based in a conditioning/practice of fear/insecurity. Therefore, these emotions have great momentum if we have practiced anyone of them everyday, and for many years.

We humans, much like animals, are conditioned with habits. The difference between the animals and humans is, we have the intellect to choose our actions, feelings, and thoughts over our training. 

Due to the fact that we aren't necessarily taught to choose our habitual behavior, much of it is done by default. 

Second, the practice of doubt, fear, and worry, for many years, which creates anger, anxiety, depression, and/or despair, is done in a similar way as the practice I presented in the last post. It's a conditioning exercise.

Doubt, fear, and worry are all about what a person does not want. 

Chronic stress is caused by many years of focusing on these unwanted things. This long term focus creates habitual feelings of insecurity.

The thirty day challenge presented is a way to evolve that focus on fear by default into focus on possibilities by desire, by using creativity, and the intellect.

We are not here to be afraid of the future, become more bitter, and lose our creativity of our mind by patterns and practices done by default.

We are here to focus on our desires so that we may discover our dreams and have passion and purpose in our life.

Living a happy, lovely life is all about the focus, and we can use the blessing of our mind to create patterns and practices of faithful, and hopeful thoughts, which will govern our performance here on earth.

"For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." ~1 Timothy 6, The New Testament, The Holy Bible, KJV

One of my favorite scriptures!

Our power, love and a sound mind are gifts from God, and I issued a challenge, in my last writing, that will point a person in the direction of using these gifts.

Bam! Shockuh Lockuh!

Hoodie Hoo Booga Boo!

I know, I'm silly... 

But! I love you...

Have a great day, and please consider the challenge, won't you?

Speak soon...


Sunday, May 19, 2019

Increasing Habits of Faith

Hello there!

Increasing habits of faith is what I'd like to write about this day!

How are you doing my dear friend? My dear brother/sister of this world!

I am praying that you are enjoying life

Summer is coming, and that is a great thing! Summer is a great thing because stress is low. People are going on vacation, having a good time and enjoying life.

Have you ever heard someone say that they want to live the kind of life they don't need a vacation from?

Do you think that is possible? 

Do you think that it is possible to enjoy life so much that it feels like a vacation?

It may sound crazy to you but it is entirely possible. I know it's possible because that is exactly how I feel about my life. There is no thing extraordinary about my life except for the fact that I suffered so much emotionally, and I have found respite from the internal struggle through God, and reconditioning my beliefs, focus, and thoughts about life.

Do you live the kind of life you need a vacation from?

What if you could live a life you don't need a vacation from?

What if you could live a life of near complete happiness?

What if you could live happier by increasing your confidence and faith in life, others, and yourself?

What if you could increase your confidence and faith by evolving your habits?

Would you like to evolve your habits so you have more confidence and faith in life, others, and yourself? 

What I am talking about here is the kind of confidence and faith that is the opposite of insecurity.

Are you feeling insecure about life, others, and yourself much of the time?

Did you know stress is insecurity? The stress response is provoked by fear. Have you heard of the fight or flight response? That response is the stress response. That response was given to us by God to help us in fearful situations and, as humans, we unknowingly activate that response by our thoughts of fear, which creates chronic insecurity.

Blah, blah, blah, right?

What I am trying to do is lead you into a challenge I have for you to increase a habit, or habits, of confidence.

Do you wanna do the challenge that will increase feelings of happiness, and decrease feelings of insecurity?

The challenge I have for you is like homework, it's like homework for life, and so it's life work... get it? Ha ha ha...

Before I issue you the challenge, you gots to get a notebook of some sort, like a journal. It doesn't need to be fancy, it just needs to have blank pieces of paper so that you may do some life work.

So here's the challenge...

It's a thirty day challenge, so you gotta do it for thirty days! Capeesh?

For thirty days, everyday, at the same time of the day, write down what you want by answering the question, "What do I want most?"

Do you want more confidence?

Do you want energy?

Do you want to govern your behaviors and beliefs more?

Do you want happiness?

Do you want health?

Do you want love?

Do you want wealth?

Whatever it is, write down what you want, everyday, and then read it! After you read it, if you find that you wrote down what you don't want, scribble it out. The reason you will scribble out the things you don't want is because writing what is not wanted defeats the exercise.

This entire challenge is to change, and evolve the habit of focusing on what you don't want, which creates fear, to focusing on what you do want, which creates less insecurity.

Happiness, or unhappiness, is all about the focus, the habitual focus.

This is a spiritual experiment, and I really believe, with all my heart and soul that if you make a commitment to do this, for you, things will change for the better.

This challenge is to help create a habit of confidence, by replacing the habit of insecurity via focus.

The Challenge 

Step one: get a notebook
Step two: everyday, and at the same time of day, for example at 8:00 a.m., go to a quiet, uninterrupted place, and ask yourself, "What do I want most?" Take a few moments to really think about it.
Step three: write the answer to the question after you have taken time to really think on it, which will most likely evolve everyday, and that is okay.
Step four: read it, and scribble out anything written that is not wanted. Then contemplate what it will/would feel like to have what you really want. 
Step five: through out the day contemplate what is written by thinking about what it would feel like having whatever it is. Notice any thoughts of discouragement and remind yourself discouragement is not the focus, therefore, not a part of this exercise.
Step six: document any positive aspects of this exercise NOT negative ones. Remember! Confidence, and happiness are all about the focus, and this exercise is to evolve the habitual mind away from insecurity and towards faith.
Step sevenKEEP IT SECRET! KEEP IT SAFE! this is only a suggestion... I would keep this exercise to yourself because outside influences may discourage you, and if you are discouraged, you may not complete the exercise. 

Do this for exactly thirty days!

That's it!

Oh! except...

If you are really stressed out, it may be helpful for you to make a commitment to do this for you! For destressing! For your happiness! For your family and relationships! You are the only one who has the authority over the way you feel. Although the human conditioning would have us believe that other people are responsible for our happiness, it is not true. No one can focus for you, only you can do that! This exercise can, and will help you increase your habits of faith in you.


Stay tune for more on this challenge...

This is gonna get good!

This is gonna be fun!

You got this!

You can do this!

It may be time for you to take responsibility for your happiness, which lies in destressing your stressful habits.

Speak soon...


Monday, May 13, 2019

Live More And Stress Less

Hey! Hey!

Live more and stress less is what I'd like to discuss this day!

How are you doing friend?

I'm faithing, hoping, and praying you are connecting to God, lifting yourself, and on the mend.

The other day I was standing in line to check into a facility, and the gentleman in front of me, within five minutes, said to me, "You're so happy, and it must be nice to be so ignorant to all the bad that is going on in the world."

He was sooo cute! I love people like that! And I am not being sarcastic whatsoever, because I know and I understand what chronic stress and/or devastation can do to a person. This is how people act and speak when they misunderstand.

I am compelled to tell this story because people who criticize others for ignoring the horrible things in life are unaware that they are ignoring all that is good... In other words, God's blessings upon them.

Ignorance is not bliss... Is a post I wrote about people who are ignorant to the good in life and obsessively focused on the bad.

Did you read it? Take a gander if you'd like.


Ignorance is such a harsh word, I like to use the word misunderstanding.

This is the misunderstanding on the part of the gentleman I speak of above.

There are more good things in this world than bad, particularly people.

There are people who do kind things all the day long.

There are more good things in this gentleman's life than there are bad, he just happens to be focused on the bad, by default.

He has a voice to speak his opinion, as he did. Could he imagine standing in line with me, unable to speak at all?

He had eyes to see me. Could he imagine standing in line unable to see at all?

He had legs to stand on. Could he imagine sitting in a wheelchair waiting in line?

He had arms and hands to use to carry things. Could he imagine asking others to reach for his identification, and sign his name for him?

What I am trying to articulate in this ramble is, we are not meant to focus on the bad that happened yesterday, or what might happen in the future. We are meant to appreciate and be grateful for what we have, including the safety and security of the very moment, right here, and right now.

What this gentleman was doing, first of all, was kind of mocking me, which doesn't really bother me one way or the other. The thing is a person that ridicules others is adding to the unkindness in this world. In nearly every act we offer kindness or unkindness, and we have a choice.

Another thing this gentleman was doing was bringing the environment down. We are either lifting or lowering any environment we are in, and the people we are around. And, we have a choice.

Lastly, what this gentleman was also doing was practicing his fear, which is at the foundation of nearly all mental illnesses. Think about paranoid schizophrenia! It's being paranoid, and although we are all a little paranoid in some way or another, anyone of us could practice it into permanent perfection. That permanent perfection of paranoid is diagnosable.

Crazy!!! I know!!!

Now, contrast that incident with less than a week later, I met a man who lost his right leg. He has a really cool black prosthetic with red flames. This man was so kind, and so loving to me. 

What is the difference between these two gentlemen? One is focus on the bad by default, and the other has exquisite focus on the good, i.e., benefits and blessings, by desire.

The difference between these two gentlemen is one has misery and the other has love.

Bitterness and misery loves company just as kindness and love does too. Meaning, a miserable person brings misery to others, and makes people feel bad. Moreover, a loving person brings others love, and makes people feel good. 

We lift or lower others by who we are and what we do.

Another difference between these two gentlemen is the more loving man has knowledge and wisdom.

Some say there is power in knowledge. I say there is only power in knowledge if we access the wisdom to use that knowledge! Knowledge is the information one has, and wisdom is putting that information into practice.

What often keeps a person from absorbing knowledge is the needing to be right, which comes from insecurity of being wrong, aka fear of being wrong. The illusion of the human experience shows us that being wrong makes us dumb therefore, some need to be right so they won't be dumb. 

The first gentleman most likely would not see the misunderstanding of his obsessive compulsive focus on the horrible things in this world because his insecurity may have given him a mental wall not only to the knowledge, but to the wisdom to put the knowledge into effect in his favor. 

Not that I said anything to him, because I didn't. I just listened and smiled at him from a place of love. His paranoia about how horrible this world is... is his path. My purpose is to lift and love, and so I did. It is not my job to fix him, it is my job to love him, so I did.

The second man had the knowledge and wisdom of gratitude. It is my opinion that gratitude is the opposite of taking things for granted. Some people are very grateful beings and some people take things for granted.

I really believe that confidence comes from a place of appreciation and love for self and life. And I know that complete confidence comes from a connection to God. Insecurity comes from fear.


To live more and stress less...

We could choose to be focused on our benefits and blessings in this life.

We have authority over our intelligence to choose our behaviors and beliefs, and that is our free agency. That is freedom!

Living more and stressing less is done by focusing on benefits and blessings in our life because there are so much more wonderful things than there are bad.

When we practice focusing on our benefits and blessings, we not only put things in true perspective, we eliminate our misunderstanding.

Misery is misunderstanding from the human experience.

Happiness, joy, and vitality is from the spiritual experience of being connected to God, and others by love.

Happiness is success!

Happiness allows us to live more and stress less!!!

Living more and stressing less is all about the focus!!!

Trust me on this! 

The truth is confidence, not fear!

The truth is connection to God, not negative emotion!

The truth is cooperating with God, being thankful, focusing on and looking for the good, i.e., benefits and blessings from God.

"In every thing give thanks: For this is the will of God..." ~1 Thessalonians 5:18, The New Testament, The Holy Bible, KJV

That is all...


Oh, except...

I love you!!!



Thursday, May 9, 2019

Relationship With God

Hello! Hello!

How are you?

Praying, praying, ever praying you are okay!

Responding to a request that I write about how I have a close relationship with God.

But first, let me preface this post with the idea that I write this for one reason, and one reason only...

The reason I will write about my relationship with God is I have hope and a prayer in my heart that this will help anyone, someone, or even just one. The help I hope and pray for is the pointing a person in the direction of relief from any stress he or she may have. The stress I talk about is the mental and emotional strain of fear, which is the opposite of love.

My relationship with God is based on a 




And this is not the superficial kind where I go to church on Sunday, feel and profess the love of God, and then go about my business through out the week, forgetting about this love and faith I have for the Divine and others.

In fact, there is no segregation between my personal life, and my professional life. I believe we are all brothers and sisters in this world. I know we are sons and daughters of our Heavenly Father. I love no matter what, and I serve no matter what. 

Jesus the Christ said in Matthew Chapter 21 Verse 22, "And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive."

Most of the first half of my life I suffered enormously with deep moments of despair and confusion about my worth. In that despair and confusion there was always an asking God for connection to Him. My continued, never ending asking, brought more and more connection.

In Mathew Chapter 22 Verses 37 through 40 Jesus answers the question, which is the great commandment in the law, and He says, "Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.  This is the first and great commandment.  And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.  On these two commandments hang all the law and all the prophets."

I love these two scriptures because they are the way to a closeness with God.  

Asking, faith and love.

Ask, have faith and love!!!  

Pretty good affirmations, mantras, and reminders, wouldn't you agree?

I know, without a doubt, that God loves me and I am to ask, have faith, and love Him and others. 

So, I have been asking, faithing, and loving.

I know, without any doubt that my asking has brought me evidence, which has lead to my knowing God is real.

I know, without a doubt that my faith in God gives me confidence, happiness, energy, joy, and vitality and therefore, this knowing is the reason I maintain and sustain my relationship with Him.


Faith and Love, and the closeness, connection, and cooperation with the Divine truly eliminates doubt, fear, and worry, which is what destressing yourself is all about.

I have discovered, in my journey thus far, there are two emotions, and they are fear and love. Every emotion falls under one or the other. 

I have also discovered that all negative emotions fall under fear. I have, for the most part, released my fear, negative emotions, and that is how and why I love so much.

"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love."~ 1 John 4:18, New Testament, The Holy Bible, KJV

Please! Please! Please!

Understand, I have practiced this love over fear for many, many, many years, and I have pointed multiple people in the direction of finding their practice of destressing, i.e., overcoming fear, and living in love

Certainly I am not perfect at it, and therefore, I continue to practice everyday.

An important thing I have discovered is that years of conditioning is very powerful. My anger, anxiety, depression, and despair was practiced for years, and they were all very powerful. 

Without God, meditation, and study, I could not, and would not know what I know about asking, faith, and love, and continue to practice it.

Something else very important is, the human conditioning trains us up in beating ourselves up, which is not conducive to love and/or faith in our self. Love and faith in our self is part of the path to a true connection to God. 

I practice the art and skill of NOT beating myself up, or criticizing me. This is a humongous part of connecting to God, and creating happiness, energy, and vitality for life.

I know I am not better than anyone, and I do know that my value and worth has everything to do with communicating, connecting, and cooperating with God.

I know we are all extremely important to God, and what is important to God is important to me. That is what life is about, knowing spiritual things, and living that knowing.

That is the crux of my relationship with God.

Praying for your asking, faithing, and loving.

That's all I gots my friend.

God bless...

Speak soon...