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Tuesday, March 19, 2019

Destress Yourself With Appreciation And Sleep

Well Hello Again My Friend!

Destressing by way of appreciation and sleep is what I'd like to ramble about this day!

How are you doing?

I pray a powerful prayer that you are clear, happy, and healthy.

Got some questions for you...

Are you experiencing any fatigue?

Do you have difficulty falling asleep?

Do you have a hard time staying asleep?

Did you know that sleep is vital because it takes energy to handle stressful life situations?

Do you know that stressful times can, and will make it difficult to fall asleep and/or stay asleep?

If it is not easy for you to fall asleep, or stay asleep, it may be due to a racing mind. Therefore, one of the most important things one can do before sleep is quiet the mind so that the thousand thoughts in the head cease. 

One way you can quiet your mind is to focus on the sounds as you listen to this video.

But what if it is too challenging to lay in bed at night and focus on listening? 

The answer to that is, you could change your thoughts by way of appreciation. 

You could think of things that you really appreciate and are grateful for. 

You could think of things that happened during the day that you really liked. 

You could think of any angelic beings that crossed your path this day. 

You could think of anything fun or funny that happened this day.

The thing about stress is it is provoked by things we think about in the state of anger, anxiety, or depression, aka states of fear. We may be angry about something at work, or at home. We may be anxious about the future due to finances or health. We may have deep sadness over any life situation.

When we are thinking thoughts of stress it is quite impossible to relax because stress is the opposite of relaxing.

When we think of people, places, and things we appreciate, we feel better, and we are able to relax.

Please know, and understand, I am not asking or telling anyone to ignore the horrible things that are happening in life, I am asking stressed out people to change their focus so that they may sleep.

We have the power to choose our thoughts, and if you do not believe that is true, one day you will. One day you will know the power that is within you to choose healing or hurting, helping or hindering.

Every night, before I go to sleep, I pray a powerful prayer of appreciation. What that means is, I thank God for everything I have, and all the wonderful things that happened throughout the day. With practice, I've become so good at it, I can, and do, go on and on about the beautiful and brilliant things that happened.

Every night I fall asleep, right away, right after my prayer.

Every morning, I wake up eager, excited, and exhilarated for the day.

I know with all my heart and soul that my deep sleep, and my energy renewed are because of the habit that I have of appreciation for life, and my connection to God.

That's it!

Try it!

Choose to focus on appreciation for all the thingys before you sleepy. Go on and on and on in your head, and make it a habit.

Practice it into permanence, and just watch you destress yourself and your sleep.

Your life is really the most important thing in this world to you because the choices you make will break or make it.

You've got the power my friend!

Have a wonderful day!

I care for you!

I love you!

God cares for you and loves you!

He is giving you all good things for your spiritual expansion.

Until next time!

Speak soon...


Wednesday, March 13, 2019

Questioning Insecurity, i.e., Stress

Hoodie Hoo Boogah Booh!


How are you doing today?

You know I pray that you are alright everyday!?!

Today I'd like to ramble a little bit about confidence and insecurity because one brings happiness and the other brings stress.

I am compelled to tell this story...

About seven years ago, I worked at this facility, and one of the security personnel was articulating dissatisfaction concerning his own life. When he was done explaining, I asked him a question that went something like, "Why don't you..." He then responded very rudely with, "I know what I am not capable of!"

What he was saying to me, in a very angry manner, was that he did not believe he was good enough, or smart enough to do for himself. The reason I am sharing this story, but not the specifics, is because the most insecure people would rather argue their limitations and be right about themselves than think a thought in their favor and/or be wrong.

You may be saying, "I'm pretty sure I know my limitations."

I know! That was me too!!! That was the more self-conscious, younger me.

Really insecure people believe that their entire worth is based on being right. It's an illusion and provides a very stressful life. Could you imagine having to be right even if it means sacrificing your happiness, health, love life, or wealth?

Being insecure is the ultimate type of stressful personality because it's a practiced fear. 

Every person has some doubt about career, health, money, relationships, or wealth. It's totally normal. 

But not every person has insecurity about all or at least most of the above mentioned. Individuals who have severe uncertainty, have a practiced stress that holds on to being right more than nearly anything.

Don't believe me? Do you believe you have to be right?

In my younger years, I believed that being right was one of the most important things to me, and that belief supplied me with a very closed mind.

The opposite of a closed mind is an open mind, which leads to enlightenment.

In my younger years I was angry, anxious, depressed, and full of despair. And I spent a lot of time there because I was unwilling to learn from others by listening. My views of myself were narrow and, although at an intellectual level I understood that I was responsible for my happiness, I wasn't listening to anyone for solutions. This self-conscious state made me a coward.

I'm not calling anyone a coward! I said I made me a coward, and it was all because I wouldn't believe in myself enough to even think a thought in my favor. I had to be right more than I had to be happy, healthy, loving, or wealthy. All of which create confidence and joy.

Here I go again with the practice makes permanent...

In my younger years I was practicing a closed mind, with fear of being wrong because my worth was based on being right and that practice created only dissatisfaction for life.

Now, in my wiser years ~wink~ I practice learning by listening to understand. I practice understanding that I can look for the truth in anything, and agree or disagree without saying a word.

What I am trying to elude to is open your mind to listening IF you are experiencing unhappiness from anger, anxiety, depression, or despair.

If you want happiness, joy, and vitality in your life, please open your mind to suggestions how to get there, especially from anyone who is extremely successful at being there.

You wouldn't take financial advise from anyone who never has any money, or may not even have money at their own disposal.

You wouldn't take weight loss advise from someone who is obese, and/or has been obese their entire life.

You wouldn't take any relationship advise from anyone who's been divorced several times, or even two times, or even one time.

Part of creating a destressed life is developing confidence, enlightenment, and wisdom by looking at those whom are successful at what you want to be successful at. Listen to them and watch them, and discern what you want to do, then do THAT!

I practice calming myself, and connecting to God because that is what I want out of life. So, I learn by listening to and watching people whom are calm and connected to God.

The old insecure me would only speak complaints, and criticism because that was my focus. But now, my focus is on practicing calmness, and connecting to God. I am so imperfect at it so I just keep on a practicing, never ever beating myself up, and always trying to have an open mind.

Do you? Could you? Would you believe in yourself enough to question your open mindedness towards yourself? 

Just something to think about so that you may relieve your stress of unwanted feelings of fear.

That is all...



God bless...

Take care...


Monday, March 11, 2019

How to Destress Yourself Now!

Hey, Hey!

How you doing today?

I hope and pray you are alright!

There are so many ways to Destress Yourself. 

One of the most instantaneous ways is to learn a stress management technique I call the pause button. 

Literally, you pause everything from your thoughts to your emotions to your physical tension in your body. 

This is so easy to do but it takes discipline.

Maybe you have stress at work that is causing you anger and anxiety. 

This is the perfect time to use the pause button and no one will even know you are doing it.

This is how it goes, when you are experiencing difficulties at work that is causing emotional stress, you simply close your eyes and imagine yourself hitting a big fat red button in front of you and you pause everything around you. 

Take a deep breath, notice your body relax, take your thoughts out of your mind and into your body by feeling your heart beat.

This is so awesome because it freezes your thoughts, feelings, actions, and your stress. 

What's really awesome is that it's funny as hell. As you practice it, you will think it is so silly, you will literally laugh out loud, and you will chill.

Try it, you will like it!

Remember, practice makes perfect and this is definitely a way to instantly destress yourself, which really means to be stress free.

Have fun with this and be playful because it is in your nature.

Just do it, and watch what your imagination does for you.

You will crack up, and you will want to keep doing it.

That's it Sugar...

I love you..

Speak soon...


Saturday, March 9, 2019

Destressing Insanity

Hello! Hello!

How are you my dear sweet friend?

Praying a special prayer that you are super duper allie ooper, and that you are having tons of fun!

I just wanna discuss insanity for a moment. Actually, my insanity...

When I was a younger me I use to complain, criticize, dramatize, and gossip. 

Yup! I did...

It was crazy because I didn't want people to complain about me or criticize me yet I was complaining about and criticizing others. 

What's even crazier is I did not want drama, and I did not want other people gossiping about me yet I was creating drama, and gossiping about others. 

In other words, I was doing to others what I didn't want others doing to me. I was doing what I did not love. Also, I was bringing myself, and others down because of this behavior.

Now I know that, and I know that those were habits of reaction. So, I changed focus, and I created habits to replace the crazy ones.

Another thing, I don't necessarily want people all up in my business, and so I try my hardest to stay out of other peoples' business. 

I know, with all my heart and soul that my business is between God and me. What I do, say, and think has everything to do with God, and me. Therefore, I try my hardest to behave accordingly.

So... I have changed those crazy habits with much more fun ones. That's right! Matter of fact, I'm still in the process of changing them because I am human, I am imperfect, and I just keep on a practicing. 

And... I'm still crazy, just a different funner kind, ask anybody who knows me.

Are you complaining, criticizing, dramatizing, and gossiping?

These are all very stressful habits because of the focus on things that are unpleasant. The opposites would be appreciating, complimenting, and living in the present moment with confidence, which not only provides relief from stress but also lifts the environment in which one stands. 

Do you believe in the necessity of focusing on the unpleasant? If you do, that is your human right, and it is very human of you. (wink)

Do you also believe that we have a choice on what we focus on?

Whether a person believes we can choose what to focus on or not, we can. Human nature begs to focus on the emotionally negative aspects of this life which provokes fear, aka stress. Spiritual nature begs for focus on the details that will pursue faithfulness and fearlessness, aka unconditional love.

Practiced fear supplies anger, anxiety, and depression. Practiced faith creates calm, confidence, happiness, joy, vitality, and well-being. When we are practicing faithful and fearless focus we are lifting the environment, and it is impossible to bring anyone down, including the self.

Which will you choose? Faith or Fear? Stress or Well-Being?

Just some thoughts I wanted to throw your way...

Have a wonderful day my dear sweet friend.

God bless you...

I love you...


Monday, March 4, 2019

How to Destress Yourself Within a Minute


How are you doing this day?

I pray that you are okay!

I just want to share with you a way that you can Destress Yourself within a minute. 

If you experience negative emotions like anger, anxiety, and/or depression, stress relief may not come within a minute but if you practice this on a regular basis you can, and will discover calmness more regularly, anytime, and anywhere.

Remember practice conditions into permanence...

First, find yourself sitting upright and relaxed in a quiet uninterrupted environment. 

Second, close your eyes and take a slow deep breath in through your nose, filling your lungs to full capacity, like balloons. 

Third, hold your inhalation for three seconds. 

Fourth, exhale slowly through your mouth, imagining yourself releasing all of your tension as you breath out, and intentionally feel your body relax. 

Do this three times. 

Finally, sit for a moment and see if you can feel your heart beat.

When we do this exercise we intentionally relax and take our thoughts, which might be racing due to stress, out of our head and bring our focus into our body. 

This can be done at anytime and anywhere but the most desirable place would be in the quiet privacy of your home when alone. 

Make this a regular practice and you will notice your ability to relieve yourself from stress immediately when needed.

I just wanted to give you a simple way to release strain and tension if needed, especially in light of one of my last posts and trying to persuade you to meditate.

This is a path of practice into safety and security in the present moment when the mind is tricking you into fear.

In other words, practicing the self out of insecurity into confidence, which will not only help you in the moment but, it will help you in your future.

Try it...

You'll like it...

And, you will begin to discover the real relief is within you.

God bless you my friend...

I love you!


Friday, March 1, 2019

February Fun Outlined Para Ti

Hello there...

How are you doing today friend?

Got a special prayer held tight in my heart of a fun life for you...

Here are the posts from/of February Fun for you just in case you missed it, and just in case you'd like easy access to exercises that will help destress your life with fun. ~wink~

February Fun


Powerful You


Unconditional Love

Fun Relieves Stress

Destressing You

Destressing With Faith in You

Just for you...

Have a wonderful day my friend, and a wonderful weekend!

God bless you...

I love you, oh yes I do!!!


Sunday, February 24, 2019

Destressing with Faith in Yourself



How are you doing???

I pray, I pray you are doing fantabulous today!

Got another fun exercise for you, last one, but first I have some questions for you.

I mean, I have a lot of questions for you!

Please play along with me...

Are you enjoying life?

Are you really, really, really enjoying your life?

Are you enjoying life all the time or just periodically?

Do you want to enjoy life 99% of the time?

Is that even possible?

Absolutely, without a doubt, it is totally possible to enjoy life most of the time!

Do you complain and criticize sometimes?

Did you know that complaining and criticizing is a matter of focused attention on what is not wanted?

Of course you know it! ~wink~

Did you know that complaining and criticizing is absolutely unnecessary?

Did you know that calm, confident, and successful people rarely complain or criticize?

Did you know that exquisite focus on what is wanted, and desirable personality traits are the things that assist people in there success?

Did you know that exquisite focus and personality traits are conditioned into practice, and therefore become practically permanent?

Did you know that complaining and criticizing not only deter people from success they also bring disappointment and discomfort?

Did you know that appreciating is the opposite habit of complaining?

Did you know that complimenting is the opposite habit of criticizing?

Did you know that whether you complain and criticize, or appreciate and compliment, it is all a matter of present life conditioning and focus by default or desire?

One of the most stressful things about the human experience is that it is very human to focus on what's not right, i.e., to complain and criticize. If a person complains and criticizes a lot, sometimes, or even just a little bit, they're habits, and these habits are done unto thyself, as they are done unto others.

People who complain about and criticize others are openly, or secretly, doing it to themselves. These very stressful habits, as you know, create very negative, not so feel good feelings. ~wink~

Why do these habits make not so good feelings? Because they are focused on what we don't want, and what we think is wrong in life rather than what we want, and what we think is right.

Feeling bad comes from thoughts we continue to think based on fear of the future slash, insecurity slash, unsafeness, which all provoke the stress response. 

Do you beat yourself up? If you are human, and you experience sadness, and depression, chances are you do.

I use to worry about the criticism from others, and I think it was because I was focused on criticizing myself.

Now I revel in my skills of what I do instead and it's all about my focus.

My value, and my worth come from the ability and skill to be alert and aware, and to govern my thoughts, which determine my feeling.

I refuse to beat myself up, ever! I pray you will understand that and refuse to beat yourself up ever too. Or, at least begin the practice of not beating yourself up, and then create the permanence of that habit. (insert me here puckering my lips at and kissing you)  lol

I understand that I repeat myself repeatedly (insert me winking), and I tend to ramble. I understand that people would like me to be a better writer by way of grammar and sentence structure. I also understand that I don't write for them, or those reasons. I write for God, and to do what I can, the best I can, to lift my brothers and sisters up in the world that He has created, even if it's just one person at a time. 


God has shown me that what I love to do is what I am suppose to do. How has He showed me? He has showed me by way of money and statistics. 

When I first started to blog I made money the very first month, and every book I have written and published thus far continue to sell every month! Meaning, I get moneys. This is quite unusual wouldn't you say?

The first year of me writing this blog, I was elated when a hundred people would read it in a month, and now over one hundred people read it in a day. Crazy, don't you think?

I do not do paid advertising for my books or my blog like some people do whom want to make moneys. To me, that is a glimpse of the evidence that I am doing what I am suppose to be doing.

The greatest evidence of me doing what I am suppose to be doing is the fact that people read what I am writing, people buy what I am writing, and they do so because they want relief. God wants people to feel better and that is done by way of relief. That relief is the path of healing the human and connecting him/her to God.

Please understand, I am not saying these things to boast, or brag, I am saying them because it is my belief it's evidence that shows me my direction, and I think it's God showing me. 

In other words, I've learnt that I work for God and no one else. God is my boss, he pays me, and takes care of the advertising. It is my humble opinion that helping others heal is God's work, it is our work as spiritual beings in this human experience, and I am eagerly engaged in that work. Crazy, I know, but it's true.

"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness: and all these things shall be added unto you." ~Matthew 6:33, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV

If I wanted, I could focus on the negative emails, messages, and comments that I receive but that is not my business. My business is being about lifting those individuals whom suffer with anger, anxiety, depression, despair, and traumatic stress.

People who are about the business of complaining about and criticizing me are not evidence of my failure, and therefore I do not focus on it. I do not let it get to me because that would be a form of beating myself up.

What I am trying to say in all of this ramble bamble is, if you are feeling bad much of the time, you may have the stressful habit of beating yourself up like I use to. You may have the stressful habit of focusing on what is not right about you rather than what is.

What I am also trying to say is you can relieve that stressful habit by focusing on the good you do. You could focus on what you are suppose to be doing, which is between God and you, and NO ONE else.

The most powerful thing we can do when we are changing habits of focus is to quiet our mind on a regular basis so that the momentum of negative thoughts in our mind is slowed, and eventually stopped.

Many people, actually most people, are unaware of their negative thoughts because we aren't taught in our culture, or society on how to be alert and aware of them.

I quiet my mind through simple awareness of my breath, my heart beat, and the present moment all day long, and I formally meditate at least twice a day. This practice really helps with my clarity to the safety, and security of the present moment.

This practice that I have conditioned into permanence is where my confidence comes from by way of my connection to God. Calm, confidence comes from the connection to God, which provides ultimate clarity in life.

This practice has given me the ability to really, really, really enjoy my life 99.9999999% of the time.

If you do not believe you can quiet your mind or meditate that is the perfect place to begin replacing the beating thyself up with believing in yourself. It is the perfect place to show yourself your capabilities, and your value and worth.

God is in the quiet of our mind. We are disconnected from God by our negative thoughts which happen to create negative emotions.

We are alert, aware, and connected to God when we love because He is love. He always loves us, and we can feel Him through love, especially through loving our self.

God is always with us, we do not know the truth of this when we are feeling and thinking negatively, which disconnects us from Him.

Connect to God, and build your faith by quieting your mind, and making it a habitual practice so that you may be alert and aware of your negative self doubts and replace them with constant faith.

You could listen to the sounds of this video I created, on a daily basis, and it will help you begin the art of quieting your mind. Just focus on the sounds.

It will help you destress even more.

It will help you become more alert and aware of the safety in your present moment.

It will help hush the racing mind and provide a way to practice calmness.

Connection to God, in the quiet of the mind, is where great calm, confidence is.

Okay, now your fun exercise...

Your mission, should you choose to accept it is to look for reasons to appreciate and compliment others, and yourself. Speak the words out loud to others and yourself, or don't. It's up to you and your comfort level. Some people never appreciate or compliment, and if you are one of those persons, saying it in your mind is enough. 

At times it may be not easy to find appreciation or compliments but do it anyway, it'll be fun because it will be funny.

Have fun with this!

Have fun! 

Be playful! 

You will feel better because this is destressing, and building faith, trust me on this!

Remember... practice, practice, and more practice makes permanent.

I know, I know, I know... that's two exercises: quieting your mind and looking for reasons to appreciate and compliment but, they will go hand in hand due to the fact you will become more aware of your focus.

You got this! 

Don't forget to continue the other fun exercises of "Loving It!", "Seeing Mean People as Toddlers," and "Repeat Favorite, Fun, and Funny Stories Constantly."

These are fun habits that are intended to replace the stress filled ones, and don't forget to write at least one sentence in your journal

Have you read what you have written yet? If not, go back and read it, and you will smile.

That's all I got!

Except, I love you!

Speak soon...


Tuesday, February 19, 2019

Destressing You?


How you doing?

I pray, I pray you are wonderful today!

Are you doing the fun exercises I've provided for you recently?

If not, I just want to throw a thought your way and that is...

Regular doses of fun and laughter can help you create energy and relax, which will assist you in destressing your life.

If you do not have fun on a regular basis, it may just be that you are out of practice. As you know, practice at anything can make you really, really, really good at it.

You have the power to create whatever you want in your life. That power is what separates us humans from animals. We have the intellect to choose.

If you are not choosing fun, could you, would you at least try for you?

The most stressed out people in this world may not even know they are stressed out. They may not even know they have the authority and power to change their fatigue to energy, unhappiness to happiness, or their misery to fun.

Just a thought I'm throwing your way...

Consider it won't you?

Have a great day Sugar!

Big Hugs...


Saturday, February 16, 2019

Fun Relieves Stress!

Hey! Hey!

How are you doing today?

I have hope, and I pray that you are being kind to yourself everyday.

I have another assignment for you to destress with fun, but first I'd like to put some thoughts into perspective.

Everyday I have the fortunate opportunity to speak to total strangers, whether it is in a personal or professional environment. Many times, people I have never met before tell me much about themselves, and their stress. My Agape once said it's the therapist in me. Ha!

I am not a therapist, I don't even really believe in therapy, I am an unconditional lover of others. *INSERT ME WINKING HERE*

There is no segregation between my personal life and my professional life. I am a daughter of the most High, God, Heavenly Father, and I will learn about and lift the person in front of me by listening, loving, and understanding because that is why I am here. 

That is why we are all here! 

That is the spiritual expansion overcoming the stressful human conditioning.


The other day, I spoke to a young woman who could not stop talking about how she had been wronged. I do believe that she told me about every man in her life who had ever wronged her. This continued story telling is causing much of her stress.

Right now, she is with an amazing man who loves her very much, and who treats her a thousand times better than any man she had ever met but she continues to tell the stressful story of being wronged.

Her human conditioning has made it so she is focused on what has stressed her out in life. Do you see her experiences have given her a habit that is very critical and focused on what has made her unhappy?

She could create a habit of incessantly speaking about the amazing right things her new man is doing couldn't she?

I totally understand where she is at because I was there too in my younger years. I could, and would, go on and on about how people wronged me. The crazy thing about that is I had so much right in my life, I could have gone on and on about what was right.

Now, that's exactly what I try to do!

I've always had an amazing career, an awesome home, and beautiful and brilliant beings in my life but all the while I was complaining and criticizing. 

Complaining and criticizing are just habitual focus by default.

Don't believe me?

Do you ever drive to work in the traffic and notice the thousands of people who are following the traffic laws or do you allow the few drivers that are impolite and unkind to stress you out?

Do you ever notice how lucky you are to have arms to hug others, ears to hear, eyes to see with, and legs to walk on or do you complain and worry about your body?

Do you ever tell your favorite fun, funny experiences over and over and over again to others and make them laugh out loud and smile? Or do you tell the devastating story about how something went wrong to someone else, or to you, over and over and over again in the same day and bring others and yourself down?

Do you ever think about lifting others, and yourself by your actions and words or do you tend to dramatize and gossip about others?

It's human to focus on what is stressful and it takes spiritual strength to change that...


Your mission this week, should you choose to accept it is to pick a favorite, fun, funny stories about others, or yourself and tell them over and over and over again. If you can't think of fun stories then tell sweet ones.

Do not! I repeat!!! Do not pick a story that belittles or makes fun of anyone, that is defeating the purpose. Stories that make fun of others are negative, and this exercise is positive!

One of my favorite things to talk about is my Agape (my one and only offspring) because he is so fun, funny, kind, and so loving. Every time I visit him he does something funny, or really sweet, and when I return to work I talk about my experiences with him.

He's amazing!

He's beautiful and brilliant!

Repeat and speak of the amazing, beautiful, and brilliant things!

This exercise is intended to do two things...

First, it is creating a less stressed, more fun environment where ever you are.

Second, it is creating a habits of desired focus on fun rather than a default focus on what is stressful in life.

That's it!

Oh, except keep up the other exercises of loving it, seeing dragons as toddlers, and don't forget to write at least a sentence of favorite, fun, or funny in your journal!

It's all about destressing yourself!

Have a wonderful day my dear sweet brother/sister of this world.

God bless you!

I'm praying, and rooting for you!


speak soon...