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Sunday, February 23, 2020

The Lesson of Life

Hey, hey...

It's Sunday...

So, happy Sunday...

He, he...

Do you know what the lesson of life is?

The lesson of life is... when we are suffering and struggling, we turn to God for comfort and strength. When we turn to God, He shows us He's real.

That's the lesson!

If we suffer, and if we struggle over, and over, then turn to God over, and over, sooner or later we discover that we can turn to Him at all times. 

When we turn to Him at all times the comfort and strength for life comes. When the comfort and strength becomes a part of our everyday living, life is filled with ease and grace.

This ease and grace makes way for a feeling, and knowing of the unconditional love God has for us. Soon after, the human training of conditional love falls away, and we can know, and stand in a place connected to God, in perfect love without fear.

The fear I am talking about is anger, anxiety, depression, and despair. It may be hard for some people to believe that these negative emotions fall away. The point is, a person really has to learn for his or herself by turning to God regularly, not just on Sunday, or just when stuff hits the fan, if you get my meaning.

Some people may never learn this lesson in this lifetime. There are people who go to church every Sunday and are taught this every week, but do not live it. 

We can be taught this lesson, and we can know it intellectually but, until we live it, we will continue in our suffering and struggling.

To know deep down in the soul that God is real, is to believe it, and behave as though one believes it. This is faithfulness and fearlessness in practice.

The above average person resides in a spiritual state of being, connected to God. 

The average person, in my humble opinion, cannot be above average through human behavior. Meaning, lack of spiritual nature.

I do not believe in human nature, I only believe in human conditioning versus spiritual nature. 

Human conditioning teaches us about conditional love, and searching for happiness from others, which creates chaos rather than control.

Spiritual nature is the fruit of the spirit, and is who we really are, some of us just forget. This spiritual nature, our nature, allows us to be connected to God, with the state of confidence, and poise, and undaunted, and unfazed by the world around us.

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law." ~ Galatians 5:22-23, Holy Bible, KJV

We really are love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and temperance. 

Look at any child, and you will see that they are the fruit of the spirit. We all have been a child, and so we all are spiritual first. You can also see that life teaches, and trains all of us to be human, as compared below.

Spiritual Nature versus Human Training

Perfect love versus conditional love.

Joy versus misery.

Peace versus disturbance.

Longsuffering versus instant gratification.

Gentleness versus abrasiveness.

Goodness versus meanness.

Faith versus fear.

Meekness versus insecurity.

Temperance versus addiction.

The lesson of life is to constantly turn to God, so we may know He is real, and He will lead us and guide us back to remembering and returning to who we are.

If you are having a hard time, in life, and are struggling to find relief, I believe, with all my mind, body, and soul, if you turn to God, unceasingly, you will find relief. 


This relief is a practice into realization, as often as you seek it. Keeping reaching and this comfort comes with every search.

That's the lesson.

God has given us free agency, and authority to choose, which leads to our power, which leads to knowing our true value and worth comes from God, and within our own mind, not from anything outside of us.

"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." ~ Matthew 6:33, Holy Bible, KJV

That's the lesson my dear, caring, kind, reader...

If you'd like to practice this lesson, into permanence, read this post first thing in the morning, and again last thing in the evening. Furthermore, contemplate it, focus on it, and practice it by turning to God. 

Reconditioning and retraining can be done by reminding, and repetition, which are the great ways of learning.

If you keep God at the forefront of your mind, I believe, you will find much relief, and much purpose.

We are but infants in our spirituality if we are not receiving guidance and inspiration from God, and we are not talking and walking with God.

And if that is not enough for you to do this week, may I suggest you learn to meditate, if you don't already. Quieting the mind is one of the greatest paths to free agency of thought and governing thy mood. ~wink~

"Be still and know that I am God." ~ Psalm 46:10, Holy Bible

The quiet mind gives respite from the worry of life, and develops a listening way.

The belief, or thought, is the cause, and the emotion is the effect. I do believe that is the law of cause and effect.

You're doing really good, and you're going to be just fine.

God bless you my dear sweet friend...

Speak soon...


Sunday, February 16, 2020

Getting Closer to God

Hey, hey... Happy Sunday!

Getting closer to God is what I'd like to write about this day...

One thing I have desired all my life is closeness with my Heavenly Father.

I remember the very first time I learned about God, I was about four years old because it was before I was in kindergarten.

My Mom had a very good friend who had only one daughter, and we use to get together and play often. My MaMa's friend's daughter was an only child, and I had no sisters, so it was very nice to spend time with her.

One night, when I was sleeping over, my MaMa's friend peeked into the bedroom door, as we were going to bed, and said, "Don't forget to say your prayers." I was like, "What are prayers?"

That very question led to my first knowing about God, and I remember it like it was yesterday.

My friend explained to me that prayers are when we talk to God. I asked, "Who is God?"

My friend: He is the one who made everything you see, including you and me.

Me: Everything, including the air we breath?

My friend: Including the air.

Me: When we pray to Him does He answer, or talk back to us.

My friend: Yes, He always listens and always answers but it's real quiet, you have to listen.

In that very moment, at a young age of about four years old, I knew, deep inside my soul
that what she said to me was very real, that God, was/is in fact real.

Throughout my life, since that very young age, I have been asking to know God better, and asking to be closer to Him. It has been a long road thus far, but I am closer to Him than I could ever imagine.

All my life, since that very moment of learning, I have been asking to be closer to God. Whenever I saw a shooting star, my wish would always be, "Be closer to you God." Whenever I had a birthday cake, my wish would always be, "Be closer to you God." My prayers every evening, before bed, were the same in my asking.

Whenever someone would ask me to go to church with them, I'd go. When I was a young child in elementary school, I remember attending several different churches, searching for God.

It has been a long road. At this very writing, I am the young age of fifty-five, and I am closer to God than I could ever imagine. The long road has been one of severe suffering from anger, anxiety, depression, and deep, deep, deepest moments of despair. 

I know, without a doubt in my heart and mind, I could not be as close to God as I am now if it weren't for the suffering. The suffering I speak of brought me to my knees, and the time on my knees has brought me closeness to God.

The greatest thing about getting close to God is the understanding of myself, and the understanding of my place in this world.

The suffering gave me closeness to God, but it could not have happened if I did not have the desire. 

The reason I write the words I write, whether in this blog, or my books, is because I know there are so many of my brothers and sisters, in this world, who have the same desire as me, to get closer to God.

That very desire is what has lead me on an eternal search for the truth. This eternal treasure hunt for the truth to get closer to God, has brought me to a place where I know that spiritual expansion is the purpose of this human existence. Our spiritual expansion cannot be realized without a personal relationship with God.

When we move towards a personal relationship with God, we learn to hear, and see His guidance and inspiration. This guidance and inspiration gives greater testimony to our eternal soul that God, is in fact, very real.

This testimony gives way for a greater personal relationship with our eternal Father in Heaven. It takes desire, and work. 

Do you have the same desire that I have? I know many people do, and therefore, I want to point a way in doing the work.

It takes desire to get closer to Heavenly Father. If you have the desire, I will give you some work.

In my last post, Standing in Your Power, I give the way to begin a very personal relationship with God, you can read it by clicking here, if you haven't read it already.

If we want a close, and personal relationship with God, we must do the work, and we can. Doing the work is homework for life. As human beings, we are given the gift of focusing ourselves into habitual behavior, which can help us or hurt us, depending on our power of desire versus giving up our power by default.

It's all about the desire my friend.

If we talk and walk with God on a regular basis, and we believe He is not answering, the best thing to do is begin the habit of listening.

"Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth." ~ Book of Psalm 46:10, Holy Bible, KJV

Doesn't it make sense to listen for God? We are trained up in this human existence to beg God for answered prayers, yet are not trained to listen. At least, I wasn't trained, and I do not know of many people who are.

If you have the desire to get closer to our Heavenly Father, try the exercise given in my last post, Standing in Your Power. If you have been doing the exercise already, keep on doing it, and try this...

First thing, every morning, and last thing every evening, before closing your prayer, for five minutes, quiet your mind by focusing on your breathing, and heart beat. Your breath and heart beat are what God gives your life.This is a brilliant way to listen to God through quieting your mind. This is being still my friend. 

If you add this to the exercise of talking and walking with God, and keeping God at the forefront of your mind, and in your heart, which was given in the last post, I believe you will level up immensely in your closeness to God.

The benefits and blessings of desiring a closer relationship with our Heavenly Father are guidance and inspiration to living by the fruit of the spirit.

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law." ~ Galatians 5:22-23, Holy Bible, KJV

Isn't that what everyone really wants? Love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and temperance? These are all the things given to us from a close relationship with God. It is my humble opinion no one else but God, can give us these ways of being. 

The human conditioning will have us think we get these things from what we have, what our title is, how much money we have, or by controlling other peoples' behaviors towards us. When all in all, it is an inside job between God and me, God and you.

I ramble much...

When I write these posts, I connect to God by prayer and listening, and I am guided, and inspired to write the words I write, as though I am talking to you personally, my dear sweet reader. I write these words for you. I write these words for me, and my dutiful relationship with God, which I will never ever ever take for granted.

My training is not in writing, and so I may not be a great writer, but my words about God are real, and if you are searching, you will find what is true for you...

I love you my dear sweet reader...

God loves you...

Seek Him in all things and you will receive benefits and blessings beyond anything you could, or would comprehend, or expect.

Speak soon...


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Sunday, February 9, 2020

Standing in Your Power

Hey, hey! Happy Sunday...

Standing in your power is what I'd like to ramble about this day...

It's my only offspring's birthday today...

He is amazing, and fun! I love him so much.

Do you know he taught me about God, and love? God and love are the same thing, so basically he taught me the truth about God.

God and love are the source of our power. 

Even if you do not believe in God you can believe in love, couldn't you?

Therefore, whether you say God or love, either way, that is where our power lies.

Stay with me. 

Read these bible versus and I'll explain more about how standing in your power will destress you.

Not just destress you, but heal the hurt you may be suffering, and lift you just a little bit if you are needing it. Sometimes we just need a little lifting when we are stressed.

"Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love." ~1 John 4:7-8, Holy Bible, KJV

"And we have known and believed the love that God hath for us. God is love, and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in Him." ~1 John 4:16, Holy Bible, KJV

Wait... there's more

"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love." ~ 1 John 4:18, Holy Bible, KJV

"Let us love one another..." not hate ~wink~

"He that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in Him."

"There is no fear in love..."

Our power is our connection to God, and we connect to God by loving life, others, and ourselves. Fear is the opposite of faith, therefore, there is faith in love because there is no fear in love.

The human conditioning trains us up to believe other people are responsible for our happiness, which is a lie. We cannot, and aren't suppose to, control how other people behave but we can understand that we are all imperfect, and we all have a unique path, so we can love other people for living their life the best they can.

Although, we cannot control other peoples' behavior, no matter how much we pitch a bitch, we can cultivate, and develop governing our own actions, and beliefs.

Here in lies our power, that we love, and it takes exquisite focus on the good things in life, the good things in others, and the good things in ourselves.

There are people of all colors, nationalities, careers, religions, and political views, and some are happy and some are miserable. The result is all about the focus.

If you are unhappy, maybe you may want to look at your connection to God. Meaning, do you love more or hate more? Meaning, do you have faith or are you fearful? 

Faith feels like love. Being connected to God, feels like being in love.

Fear feels like hate. Being in a place of fear is the opposite of faith. The greatest fear has to be hate if perfect love casteth out fear.

Okay, so, back to standing in your power.

Your power is being connected to God, who is love, and we live in this power by using the authority and free agency that God has given us to choose what we will contemplate, focus on, and practice.

Seriously my friend, we contemplate, focus, and practice all day long because as human beings we are focusing habitual mechanisms. You my friend, are either focusing by desire or by default.

People practice anger, anxiety, depression, and despair by default or they practice calm, confidence, happiness, and joy by desire.

We have the authority to choose, to choose God, to choose love, and to choose our power. Sounds simple but may not be easy, so we practice.

The number one thing anyone of us can do to be more consistent in standing in our power is to develop a more personal relationship with God. Seriously, He is real, and He is there for us. We can connect to Him by contemplating and focusing on faith, and love, all day, every day, and in every moment.

"Wisdom is the principal thing: therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding." ~ Proverbs 4:7, Holy Bible, KJV

Maybe you believe these words you read, and maybe you don't. The thing is, I know with all my heart and soul God is real, He has saved my eternal soul because I believed enough to learn, listen, and I am still understanding. 

If you want relief from whatever you suffer from in this temporary human experience, with all thy getting get understanding, and the best way to do that is to talk, and walk with God every second, of every minute, of every hour, of every day, of every year.

I've been talking and walking with God for many years, and life just gets better and better and better. There is no other way, that I know of.

If you want relief right now try this...

Everyday, first thing in the morning, and the last thing in the evening, get on your knees and let God know you believe, and that you need help believing. Pour your heart out to Him, and then all week long, everyday, keep a conversation with Him in your heart and mind. Practice listening for guidance, and inspiration from a place of love for yourself because His guidance and inspiration will always be loving.

This is faith with works because faith without works is dead. Faith with works is alive!

Do this for you! 

If you want to. ~wink~

Do this for your future.

It is my experience, a person can cultivate and develop a relationship so close to God that he or she will never need guidance from human sources on spiritual things. An individual can always turn to God, and receive guidance and inspiration from Him, if he or she listens, talks, and walks in regular practice.

Sound crazy? Maybe, but I am living proof.

I am not perfect, by any means, but I am connected to God more than I ever was, and that has always been my greatest desire.

Believe in God, not just on Sunday, and when you are suffering but, every moment. If you aren't there, it's gonna take some practice and a never give up attitude because it's a life long journey.

This life long journey can be bitter if you never use your power, or it can be very sweet if you practice your authority to choose, all the day long, every single day, and make it your most pressing habit that it is the only addiction you have.

I believe, and know, with all my heart and soul, if a person makes their relationship with God the most important thing, God can, and will show you understanding that will make all fear, and negative emotions fall away.

God bless you my dear sweet reader. 

Stay tuned for more exercises to destress yourself. In other words, exercises pointing toward ways to get closer to God. God is perfect love that casteth out fear, and stress is fear.

I want to point my brothers and sisters, of this world, towards a firm place of faith and love, talking and walking with God. I know, with all my heart and soul, there are people out there who are asking for, and desire this, because I was one of them. God has answered my asking, and continues to do so.

I love you...

You may say, you can't love me, you don't know me...

I love you because I am unconditional love.

You are unconditional love, perfect love, we all are, and some of us may have forgotten.  

We were born of God, and God is perfect love, unconditional love.

Speak soon...


Sunday, February 2, 2020

Relieving Depression

Hello dear friend...

Relieving depression is what I'd like to write about this day...

Happy February...

Last February I wrote about fun. It's all outlined in a post just for you and you can read it by clicking here, if you want to.

The reason I'd like to talk about depression is because it is the last item, number thirteen, on the stress test.

Question thirteen asks, " Are you unable to enjoy yourself even when you are doing something you enjoy?"

If you scored a three, four, or five on this question, chances are you may be sad. There are varying degrees of sadness. It ranges from mild, moderate, or severe. Degrees of unhappiness are accompanied with the length of time a person has felt sorrow.

Some things in life make us sad. For example, a death or a divorce, are occasions that nearly always creates varying degrees of sadness. It is absolutely normal to feel unhappy when unwanted things happen.

However, life is not meant for anyone to live in a space of unhappiness, which is the opposite of enjoyment.

This is a very delicate subject because people who are depressed are often sick and tired of people telling them what they should do in order to feel better.

If you are reading this post because someone else is depressed, and you'd like to help them, the best thing you can do is stop giving advice, love, and just listen. People dealing with chronic depression do not need the pressure of making you feel okay because they don't feel okay.

If you are reading this post because you feel unhappy, the only thing I REALLY want to say to you is you are so very important. 

You are so very important to God.

You are so very important to your family and friends.

You are so very important to me.

But most of all...

You are so very important to you.

In my, How to Destress, book I describe reasons why people may be unhappy, and I also provide things a person can do to overcome lack of enjoyment.

The most important thing a person can do, in my humble opinion, is begin to believe in him or herself. Believing in the self does not sound like an easy thing to do, to a person who has been with sadness for long periods of time.

If I could get a sad person to care enough about him or herself to connect to God, I know he or she could, and would find comfort, and would find strength. I know that he or she would learn the reality of God, and then begin to believe in his or herself.

The crux of depression, often times, is that the individual does not believe in his or herself enough to think a thought in his or her favor, and for any length of time. Any work is hard work to a person suffering with sadness.

If a person could do one thing, and make a long term commitment to do that one thing, I believe he or she can, and would be lifted. That one thing is to turn to God, then listen and look for spiritual things. Spiritual things are love and joy.

Turn and look, that's all you gotta do but, you gotta do it all day long, every day, for the rest of your life. Practice makes permanent in this human existence.

Turn to, talk to and walk with God, and He will show you He is real. Turning to, talking and walk with Him, is just a thought away.

If you could think that one thought of turning to God regularly, I believe you will see how real He is, and you will see how important you really are.

Focus on God!

Focus on Love!

Focus on talking to God!

Focus on walking with God!

I believe, and know, with all my heart and soul He will comfort you, and strengthen you. When you are comforted, and strengthened it is easier to feel self-empowerment, which leads to believing in yourself.

Depression can, and will be relieved a little bit at a time, if a person will continuously try to think a thought in his or her favor. That's all it takes, is a thought pointed towards God. I do not believe it will happen over night, or even over a year, especially if you've dealt with it for a long time.

The goal is to believe, focus, and never give up.

Never give up!

Never give up on God!

Never give up on you!

One last word to the wise, if you are reading this post for someone you believe is suffering from sadness. The best thing you can do besides shutting your mouth ~wink, wink~, loving, and listening is you could turn to God as well. Words rarely ever teach a depressed person how to relieve their depression but unconditional love always heals. Take the advice given above about connecting to God, and you can, and will be the unconditional love a sad person needs.

That's all I got my friend except a hug and a prayer held tight in my heart for you.

I suffered for years with depression, and because of God, I have learnt He is real, and that He is a true comfort in my lonely times of need. The healing didn't happen over night, in fact, it took years. The best part of it all, I am so grateful for the relief that I have that nearly every moment is pure joy.

God bless you my dear friend...

Speak soon...


Sunday, January 26, 2020

Destress Yourself with Compassion

Hello dear one...

Destress yourself with compassion is what I'd like to write about this day.

This post is a bit of a continuation of my last post, Destressing with Focus. Did you read it? You can, if you'd like to, by clicking here.

Item number twelve on the stress test just so happens to be... do you get offended easily and/or talk negatively about other people?

In my How to Destress book I wrote how getting offended easily and talking about it over and over to others is a very stressful habit.

Basically, when we retell a story that we are offended by, we relive the stress again and again.

Destressing yourself with compassion is all about caring enough about yourself to care how you feel. What we speak is what we think and the thoughts and words are the pathway to our emotions because it's all about what we believe.

Many people, on an intellectual level, know that we have authority over what we will think of ourselves and others. But, even though we may know it intellectually, we may not live it by practice.

It is absolutely normal to get offended, as the human conditioning goes. It is absolutely the fruit if the spirit to have compassion, which leads to happiness and understanding.

This business about 'choose happiness' is about choosing our behaviors by choosing our beliefs by governing what we will think over and over. 

For example, many people have been going to church every Sunday, all their lives, professing to believe in God yet, many of these same people are dramatizing and gossiping about others. To go to church, profess to believe in God, and then shamefully act out of accordance with what God asks us to do in loving one another, is not behaving in the way one proclaims to believe.

Cooperation between our behaviors and beliefs is all about our authority to choose our focus and practice.

If we want happiness, if we believe we want happiness we cannot look for things to get offended over, and then punish our very being by retelling the story over and over.

If you and I were to make a list of all the things we are blessed with, the list would be one hundred, if not one thousand, to one over what we are offended by. Do you see the distortion? To focus on that one thing we are offended by, when we can brag all the day long about our blessings, is quite a magnanimous distortion of reality. This distortion is from the human conditioning, not from our spiritual nature.

"In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you." ~1Thessalonians 5:18, Holy Bible, KJV

Leveling up in life, your life, is all about the focus (I know, I know, I know... my lecture repeating myself repeatedly ~wink).

If you want to live the truth, you may want to replace getting offended and gossiping with looking for what you can appreciate about the person, place, or thingy before you.  My last post, Destressing with Focus, is all about putting appreciation, and focus into practice.

Destressing yourself is all about you, and governing your authority to choose how you will behave, and believe. This authority in practice leads to our power to overcome anger, anxiety, depression, and despair. This authority and power will reveal a person's value and worth.

The value and worth of a soul is great in the sight of God, and knowing your own value and worth will lead you to your greatest potential and wisdom in this life.

It is my prayer, that you can, and will find your authority and power, and your value and worth, if that is what you want. So that you may live with passion, your life's purpose.

Have a wonderful week my dear friend...

Speak soon...


Sunday, January 19, 2020

Destressing with Focus

Hello dear friend!

Destressing with focus is what I'd like to ramble about this day...

It just so happens that item number eleven, on the stress test, is... Do you frequently complain about people, places, and things?

Do you?

Do you know if you do?

My last post was about destressing 2020 with the truth. Did you read it? You can check it out by clicking here.

Let us get ready for destressing 2020, with the truth. The truth I am talking about is, connecting to God, living with purpose, and moving back to the spiritual being that you and I are.

The truth is about leveling up in life, if you want to.

This can be for you! Because you are the most important person in your life, and you can be an even more amazing person than you already are, if you want to.

So, I ask you... are you a complainer? 

Do you frequently criticize?

I know some people who constantly complain all the time. The majority of their words are criticisms, and I do not believe they even know it. I do believe the average person grumbles but, it is not normal to gripe all the time.

In my youth, I found fault with people, places, and things a lot, and didn't even know I was doing it. My frequent complaints about everything maintained a negative attitude.

There are people who are very negative and they don't believe, or even know they are. What's worse is, they don't know it is not normal, and they don't know that they aren't normal. Whatever normal is, right?

So, what does all of this have to do with destressing with focus?  Well, if you have a bad attitude, it comes from focus on the doom and gloom of life.

Happiness or misery comes from focus. 

Some individuals who are suffering with anxiety, depression, or despair do not like to hear that it is their focus because they don't want to believe it is their fault. It is not anyone's fault that he or she has misery but it can be any persons' responsibility to believe in the self enough to change focus.

It is my humble belief, from education, evidence, and experience that we can focus our way into destressing our life.

When we destress, we can, and do live from the Spirit. 

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law." ~Galatians 5:22-23, Holy Bible, KJV

I've spent much time practicing my own focus, and teaching others to. Some discoveries I have found within this practicing and teaching are: it is very easy for people who have spent time in their life practicing focus, to focus and, it takes patience, practice, and a never give up attitude to cultivate and develop concentration, for people who weren't taught to.

To destress with focus, one must, if they want to, remove the complaining, criticizing, dramatizing, and gossiping. This kind of attention creates misery because it is about negative aspects in life. Some people will get this, and some won't. 

If you believe that complaining, criticizing, dramatizing, and gossiping is okay, this post might not be for you. If you believe this post isn't for you, with all due respect, and all the kindness and love in my heart, you may want to read my post on Ignorance is Not Bliss by clicking here. ~wink~

If you believe the mentioned behaviors are not okay, and you'd like to eliminate these miseries of life, read on.

Either way, it's all good. I don't want to improve anyone, or think I know what's best for anybody. I just want to point the person, who is asking, in the direction of connecting to God, and living by the fruit of the Spirit, which is the permanent stress relief in this life.

So, here I go... pointing, for whomever is asking for connection to God and life by the fruit of the Spirit.

Creating a focused mind is all about practiced attention on the desired things an individual wants. In order to destress, the desired things are required over the undesired. Governing your thoughts by desire rather than thinking by default.

So, what do you want?

Certainly you do not want doubt, fear, and worry, which happens to be the human conditioning. Indubitably, you want calm, confidence, happiness, and health.

To destress, one must practice calm and confidence, and the result will be happiness and health.

It's all about the contemplation, focus, and practice into permanence.

Let's experiment shall we?

Try this...

For seven days, choose one of the statements below, and keep it at the forefront of your mind. This is practicing a reminder, in order to relieve an unwanted attitude. What better way to destress by replacing a stressful behavior with a calming one?

Also, if you'd like to enhance the experiment, get a notebook and at the end of everyday, write down what worked. Do not write down what didn't work. We are focusing on destressing, remember, not stressing. ~wink~

Choose one of the mantras, aka reminders, aka statements below and for seven days contemplate it, focus on it by keeping it at the forefront of your mind, all day long, and practice it into permanence.

1. "I am focused, organized, and productive in my thoughts." Meaning I'm thinking about the benefits and blessings in life rather than the faults of what is wrong.

This was my mantra for months about twelve years ago. I was setting goals and I would say it over and over and over so I was reminded to stay focused, organized, and productive. It was so helpful and it worked.


2. "Hocus, pocus, focus on what I want. What do I want?" This is just a fun, and funny one I still use when I need to focus. Often I say it to others, in a playful way, when we ought to be concentrating on something particular.


3. "I am alert. I have a quiet mind, and relaxed body." This is the best one if you need to teach yourself to relax. Can you imagine saying this all day long to yourself, practicing quieting your mind, and relaxing your body continuously? You'd be an expert at it. Repetition is the great law of learning, reconditioning, and retraining. Some people believe they can't relax, and want a way to learn. This is an excellent exercise for the very purpose to train your brain to quiet, and your body to relax.


4. "I appreciate and I am aware of (fill in the blank here)." This statement points a person in the direction of thinking about what he or she appreciates about the person, place, or thing that is in front of him or her in the very moment. This is a method to the power in your now. Contemplating, focusing, and practicing this very statement is the very opposite of complaining and criticizing. This exercise can, and will create a more positive attitude by replacing the negative one.

Your mission, should you choose to accept it is to pick one of the statements given above. Choose one you believe will help you, and stick with it all day everyday for seven days. First thing in the morning, consciously think this thought, and it will start your day in a magnificent way. When you lay your head on your pillow, in the evening, let this thought be what you contemplate, and focus on as you fall asleep.

Contemplate, focus, practice, and keep the statement, you have chosen, at the forefront of your mind, so that you may enhance destressing habitual thoughts.

This can be a spiritual experiment in order to overcome human conditioning of negative emotions that disconnect us from God. The goal is to destress with the truth, with focus, and to move back towards the spirit of who we are.

Make a commitment to yourself, and to your leveling up in life, to do this, and watch what good things happen.

Let me know how it goes if you'd like...

Big hugs my dear friend...

Speak soon...


P.S. Amazon is featuring my How to Destress via Stress Test & Stress Relief eBook for free today, January 19, 2020. If you haven't got one, I hope you go get it free.

Thursday, January 9, 2020

Destressing 2020 with the Truth!

Hey, hey! Destressing 2020 is what I'd like to ramble about this day.

Hello! How are you? How are you doing thus far in 2020? I really wanna know, and I really am praying destress your way...

I'm doing pretty good, just in case you are wondering. Actually, I am more happy, more healthy, and more in love with life than I have ever been.

It is my prayer, and I am ever praying that some how, some way, I am able to point any one of my brothers and sisters, of this world, in the way to peace in the body, mind, and soul so that he or she can/will find the joy of life that I am feeling.

It is true, I have suffered much, and I do not discuss it a whole lot because I don't relive the past to punish my mind. It is also true that I have found happiness, joy, and much laughter. It is possible to have pure joy, and I want to help anyone in this world who is looking for the peace that I have found.

I know I can help because I have found my truth in life, and this is my truth...

I know that God is real!

I know with all my heart and soul that God is real, and so I spend much time connecting to Him for my compassion, confidence, faith, guidance, inspiration, patience, and trust.

In this human experience I have come to discover that our conditioning teaches us to love conditionally. In my experience of healing myself, and others, I have come to discover that this human training distorts our thoughts on who we really are. Conditional love is what we do as humans, love is what we are as spirits.

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law." ~ Galatians 5:22-23, New Testament, The Holy Bible, KJV

We are Spiritual Beings in this human experience, and we are born pure Spirit, which is love, until we are trained out of it by the distorted view of comparing ourselves to others and competition. Think about it! Children are pure love! 

So destressing 2020 with the Truth is getting back to who we really are, which is Spiritual, and pure love and joy.

People argue with me and tell me how I am so wrong, how ignorance is bliss, and how I have a distorted view of reality.

If I am connected to God, learning, lifting, listening, and understanding others, how could I have a distorted view of reality?

If I am healing, helping, and pointing people to the way of happiness and health, how can I have a distorted view of reality?

If fear, aka stress, leads to mental illness and personality disorders, and I am pointing people in the way of faith, aka confidence, how can I have a distorted view of reality?

If  fear, aka stress, is the number one cause of every illness, and I am assisting people in the way of faith, aka love for life, aka the opposite of fear and stress, how can I have a distorted view of reality?

People pay mega monies for mental and physical health when it can be found in the way of reconditioning, and retraining the self back to who we are, which is pure unconditional love.

It takes love for the self to realize that everyone of us has the authority and power to cultivate and develop a lifestyle of truth. The truth will set you free! The truth is intelligence and wisdom. The lies of this world, the comparing and competition, will bind you in a prison of suffering. The lies dumbs the most intelligent beings down.

The truth is, we are conditioned and trained away from what we are, which is pure love without conditions. 

The truth is, we have the authority and power to practice ourselves back into who we really are, which is the fruit of the spirit.

We can live a life of unconditional love, which brings our connection to God, and then guidance and inspiration ensues, intelligence and wisdom rule, and like water runs down hill, anger, anxiety, depression, and despair fall away.

"And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him." ~1 John 4:16, New Testament, Holy Bible, KJV

I ramble...


I have not forgotten the next item, number ten, on the stress test. ~wink~

I just wanted to sing the song of my soul, which is pure unconditional love for life, and you...

Here is a post I wrote some time ago, How to Destress with Self-Worth, which will go well with item number ten on the stress test, which is... "Do you notice that it is important to you or you spend a lot of energy proving you are right, or things should be done the "right way", your way?" If you gotta be right, it's all about knowing your worth, and appreciating other peoples' value.

I appreciate you...

I pray with all my heart, soul, and spirit for your connection to God, which brings the love and joy we are meant to have in this world. It is our free agency to choose to believe...

God bless you my dear friend...

God loves you!

I love you! And if you really knew me, know me, you know it's true.

Take good care...

Speak soon...


Wednesday, December 25, 2019

New Year Resolutions

Merry Christmas my dear friend!

Setting goals and New Year Resolutions are what I'd like to discuss this day.

How are you doing this Christmas Day?

I am ever hoping, ever praying you are doing alright, especially during the holiday season.

It is a very stressful time of year for many people and it is my prayer that if you are struggling or suffering, in any kind of way, you hang on tight, and never give up. 

Don't ever let go of God, hang in there, and hang on tight. 





Sorry about the shouting, it's just important to me that you be alright. I've been there in the place of despair, and I write these words because I don't want others to be there or stay there. I've learnt my connection to God and I'll never go back, and I want nothing more than to be a healing help to those whom suffer.

I'm glad I said/wrote it, now, I'll get back to New Year Resolutions and setting goals...

In my last post, Destressing Procrastination, I discuss cultivating the inner voice of encouragement, rather than having a voice of discouragement. In the post I delineate a simple way to encourage, which can and will be very helpful for setting goals for New Year Resolutions.

Today, I am attempting to write about the next item on the stress test in my book.

The next item being number nine: Do you feel like you are in the constant state of going nowhere?

This post is perfect timing for the person who sets the same New Year Resolutions every year and the goals remain unobtained.

Does that sound familiar?

Maybe you have a goal to be happier, healthier, or wealthier, and you haven't obtained the goal even though you try a new, every year.

If that sounds like you, I just wanted to provide you with some links that may help you on your way...

These are the vital subjects that I find very important in moving forward in life, if you want to...

Here they are...

Destressing Procrastination


Powerful You!

Your Mind is the Center of Divine Operation

That's all I gots for now...

Merry Christmas my dear sweet friend...

I have a prayer for you held tight in my heart. I know with all my heart and soul how important you are, and if you don't know you are important, I am ever praying you will discover it.

It is my humble opinion that when you really know God, you know we are all in this together. If you don't know that we are all in this life together, it's just because the human conditioning has allowed you to forget for a time. I am here to help anyone heal back to the place of their spiritual nature, which is a powerful connection to God.

God bless you dear sweet one...

Speak soon...