Hello my dear reader...
Happy Sunday...
Destressing Deep Despair is what I'd like to discuss this day.
Some of you may have other things pressing on you besides world news. You may have personal crisis or difficulties that are causing deep despair.
If you do, please let me help and try to point you in the direction of destressing any despair.
If I could just bring you to the future, maybe a year or two from now, you may find yourself saying, "Oh my goodness, I really was freaked out over (insert whatever you might be struggling with now)."
Do you remember the hard times in the past and how you are doing much better, than then, now?
When I was a young, unwed, pregnant woman, thirty four years ago, I was in great turmoil. Could you imagine? What was I going to do? How was I going to support myself? How on earth was I going to raise another human being when I still needed growing up myself?
I was more afraid of the future than I ever was. The best part of it all is, having my son was the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. I've learned to love like I have never loved before. I've learned that I am brave, courageous, resilient, and full of tenacity.
We all have the capability to see how the struggle can and will make us stronger. That strength I am talking about is the faith, patience, and trust in God.
This faith, patience, and trust in God is within us, we just have to practice it. We can reach for it within our mind, and practice it moment to moment.
Think about your past for a second.
When were you in despair before, prayed to your Heavenly Father, and then an answered prayer came? If you really think about it, sometimes it was immediate, and sometimes it was delayed a little while.
Were you ever in financial crisis, and relief came?
Were you ever in deep loneliness, or sadness, and relief came?
Were you ever in a dark place because of health, and prayers were answered?
Did you ever have a relationship end, and you thought it was the end of the world but you survived?
We can look in the past at our struggles and suffering, and see with clarity, the relief always came. The relief will always come.
I have suffered very much, and without going into detail, I have come to know a great lesson, and that is... everything is going to be alright, no matter what, because it always is. It always works out.
If we could but know, it always works out, before we freak out in our mind over the future, on what might happen, we can have serenity in our soul.
The crux of fear, aka insecurity, is we can freak out over the future, and our mind can make us crazy because we believe the thoughts we are thinking. Sometimes it's not so easy to relieve despair in another person, because of frightening thoughts of the future.
I've helped thousands of people in despair and there are two things I know for sure: first, people will argue for their despair, and you cannot argue with fear. Therefore, I let them work it out, in their mind, and with God. Arguing with despair becomes about being right, and I do not need, or want to be right.
Second, people who are in their lowest place, and want to suffer no more, will try almost anything to relieve the sorrow. Wanting relief from despair is probably why so many people, in anguish, are willing to listen, and can hear God's words.
The difference between the two, I present above, about despair are arguing, and listening. Arguing to be right because the insecure person is tired of being wrong. And listening for respite because the person is tired of a weary soul.
If you are in deep despair, and weary, because of what is going on in your life, and/or the world, I have listed links to posts below, and hopefully it will help you, if you need it.
I just want to point you towards healing, if you need it, and if you want it. That's all I can do, is be here for you.
There is a lot going on in the world right now, and I have faith that everything is alright, and that everything is going to get even better. My belief is based on my faith in God, life, others, and myself.
God bless you my dear reader...
Ever praying for your comfort, and strength.
Ever here for you when you need it.
Speak soon...
Elizabeth
Destressing Deep Despair Link List
Relieving Despair
Three Most Important Things When Destressing Despair
Destressing Moments of Despair
How to Destress Despair
Why Meditation
Do You Have an Open Mind?
Deepest Moments of Despair Part II
Ungrateful Me
Relationship with God
The Most Important Thing to Do
Hello! Hello!
How are you?
Praying, praying, ever praying you are okay!
Responding to a request that I write about how I have a close relationship with God.
But first, let me preface this post with the idea that I write this for one reason and one reason only...
I will write about my relationship with God because I have hope and a prayer in my heart that this will help anyone, someone, or even just one. The help I hope and pray for is pointing a person in the direction of relief from any stress he or she may have. The pressure I talk about is the mental and emotional strain of fear, which is the opposite of love.
My relationship with God is based on a
DEEP DOWN IN MY HEART AND SOUL FAITH AND LOVE FOR GOD AND ALL MANKIND.
REALLY!!!
FAITH AND LOVE.
And this is not the superficial kind where I go to church on Sunday, feel and profess the Love of God, and then go about my business throughout the week, forgetting about this love and faith I have for the Divine and others.
In fact, there is no segregation between my personal life and my professional life. I believe we are all brothers and sisters in this world. I know we are sons and daughters of our Heavenly Father. I love no matter what, and I serve no matter what.
Jesus Christ said in Matthew Chapter 21, Verse 22, "And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive."
For most of the first half of my life, I suffered enormously, with profound moments of despair and confusion about my worth. There was always an asking God for a connection to Him in that despair and confusion. My continued, never-ending asking brought more and more connection.
In Mathew Chapter 22, Verses 37 through 40, Jesus answers the question, which is the great commandment in the law, and He says, "Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and all the prophets."
I love these two scriptures because they are the way to a closeness with God.
Asking, faith and love.
Ask, have faith, and love!!!
Pretty good affirmations, mantras, and reminders, wouldn't you agree?
I know, without a doubt, that God loves me, and I am to ask, have faith, and love Him and others.
So, I have been asking, faithing, and loving.
I know, without any doubt, that my asking has brought me evidence, which has led to my knowing God is real.
I know, without a doubt, that my faith in God gives me confidence, happiness, energy, joy, and vitality; therefore, this knowledge is why I maintain and sustain my relationship with Him.
MY FAITH AND MY LOVE FOR EVERYTHING ON THIS EARTH, ABOVE IT AND BELOW IT, ENHANCE MY CLOSENESS, MY CONNECTION, AND MY COOPERATION WITH GOD.
Faith, love, closeness, connection, and cooperation with the Divine eliminate doubt, fear, and worry, which is what destressing yourself is all about.
In my journey thus far, I have discovered that there are two emotions: fear and love. Every emotion falls under one or the other.
I have also discovered that all negative emotions fall under fear. For the most part, I have released my fear and negative emotions, which is how and why I love so much.
"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love."~ 1 John 4:18, New Testament, The Holy Bible, KJV
Please! Please! Please!
Understand, I have practiced this love over fear for many, many, many years, and I have pointed multiple people in the direction of finding their practice of destressing, i.e., overcoming fear and living in love.
Certainly, I am not perfect at it, so I continue to practice every day.
An important thing I have discovered is that years of conditioning are very powerful. My anger, anxiety, depression, and despair were practiced for years and were all very strong.
Without God, meditation, and study, I could not and would not know what I know about asking, faith, and love and continue to practice it.
Something else significant is that human conditioning trains us to beat ourselves up, which is not conducive to love and/or faith in ourselves. Love and faith in ourselves are part of the path to a genuine connection to God.
I practice the art and skill of NOT beating myself up or criticizing myself. This is a huge part of connecting to God and creating life's happiness, energy, and vitality.
I know I am not better than anyone, and my value and worth have everything to do with communicating, connecting, and cooperating with God.
I know we are all critical to God, and what is essential to God is vital to me. That is what life is about, knowing spiritual things and living that knowing.
That is the crux of my relationship with God.
Praying for your asking, faithing, and loving.
That's all I got, my friend.
God bless...
Speak soon...
Elizabeth Stanfill
