Who dee who, boogaboo...
Destressing worry is what I'd like to discuss this day.
How are you doing my friend?
Hoping and praying that you are destressing yourself everyday. It takes practice into permanence, you know?
In my last post on the Stress Test, I mentioned revisiting the stressful habits within my book How to Destress Via Stress Test & Stress Relief, which you can find free on Amazon today.
The first item is worry.
Worry is mostly thinking about a least desirable outcome, and maybe even the worst outcome. Worry is practicing faith of the undesirable kind, i.e., believing in what one doesn't want.
Worry leads to stress because it is fearful, and the stress response is activated by fear.
It is my belief, through education, evidence, and experience that stress is the number one cause of every illness, even mental illness.
Many people argue the above statement but it's true. The worst part of the argument is that many people are unaware of what stress is. They argue that they have no stress.
There is a common misconception that stress is an event or occurrence. Therefore, a person may not know that they stress via worry because it's habitual, it's normal to them, and they don't even know they are doing it.
We are not taught to pay close attention to our habitual thoughts, and so many do not recognize their focus.
The human conditioning teaches us to worry about what others think, and much of human behavior stems from that worry. This behavior comes from a place of insecurity, which is the opposite of confidence.
In order to destress worry, a person must train their mind to think about the best possible outcome, the desired outcome. By doing this we are not only building our confidence, we are building our trust in God, and our trust in our selves.
So many people believe we have to worry, and they will argue for that insecurity, and stress. It is but the human conditioning that these people are arguing for.
I'm on God's side, in the confidence, and trust. God, through Jesus' words, asks us to have faith, and tells us that faith can move mountains. Worry is not the kind of faith God, and Jesus are talking about.
The faith that is discussed in the Holy Bible is the faith in God, the faith in His plan, the faith in our brothers and sisters in this world, and the faith in our own common sense that can, and will build our confidence.
It takes conditioning, and practice to build confidence, and faith but first a person must learn to quiet the racing worried mind that has been in practice for all the years of his or her life.
Quieting the mind through meditation can, and will help anyone notice the momentum and speed the habit of worry has developed in the mind.
Once a worrier has learned to quiet his or her mind, he/she can then begin to develop the habit of faithful and fearless thoughts, knowing God is in charge, and all things are for our good, our spiritual expansion.
God loves us, and cares for us. He is giving us all good things for our spiritual development. We are His spiritual sons and daughters. This life here is for our learning to become more like Him, and to lift others through our passion and purpose.
We all have a purpose here on earth, and that purpose is to discover our passion and help one another by lifting each other through our desires.
It is my humble opinion, through education, evidence, and experience, the desire in a person's heart and soul is the seed planted by God. Better said, we are all here for a reason, we all have talents and traits that are planted in us by God, and we discover these by living, and searching out the good desires of our hearts.
So...
In order to destress worry, one must quiet the mind via meditation, and practice reconditioning the habitual thoughts of the mind towards the desired outcomes.
Whether a person chooses to trust, or chooses to worry, he or she cannot tell the future, therefore to say worry is being realistic is nonsense. To choose to trust is building confidence, to continue to worry is solidifying more insecurity, which leads to, if not already is, mental illness.
The human conditioning gives way to worry by default.
The spiritual conditioning gives way to confidence, safety, and security by desire.
We are all given the authority, power, and right to choose what we will think.
You, and I, have been given the free agency, and authority to choose what we will think.
You and I, have been given the power to choose, moment by moment, to think thoughts of confidence, and faith.
I have a memory of when my Agape (my only offspring) was very young. I remember thinking to myself, I shall always be loving and kind in the morning for him, no matter what. I knew that if I was loving and kind, he would have a wonderful start to his day, but if I was moody I could, and would ruin his day. He is thirty three now, and I still live by that conscious choice.
The reason I share that memory is because I want you to know that we can choose to think thoughts that will curve our habits, including that of worry. I wanted more than anything for my Agape to feel happy, safe, and secure first thing in the morning, and throughout the day. That was my choice to give him confidence rather than stress and worry. It is my choice to be confident by example, rather than stressed.
We can choose.
That's all I got my dear friend.
God bless you...
May God bless you in your endeavor to overcome worry, and build trust, if you are needing to.
Love, love...
Speak soon...
Elizabeth
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Friday, October 4, 2019
Sunday, January 27, 2019
Releasing Negative Emotions
Hello!!!
How are you doing my dear sweet friend? I pray that you are having the most wonderful time in your life. That is my prayer for you...
It has been a looooooooong time since I've had negative emotions like anger, anxiety, depression, doubt, fear, irritability, moodiness, or worry. I'm not talking about the normal everyday glimpses of mild negative emotions. I am talking about the I want to kill you anger, anxiety attack anxiety, and the want to die depression.
I know, without a doubt, what negative emotions feel like, why we have them, and how to release them. I'm an expert on negative emotions because I lived with them for years, and I'm an expert at releasing them because I haven't had them for years. Not only have I NOT had them, I've helped thousands of people, if not more, release and relieve them. I don't say those things to brag, I say them to convince you that I quite possibly may help you release your negative emotions.
Do you believe, as I believe, that we are born innocent beings straight from God with the desire to grow by learning, listening, and loving? Think about that one for a sec. You know when you hold or see a baby there is pure unconditional love, so eager to learn.
When we are born, I do not believe we have an ounce of negative emotions. It is the human experience and existence that teaches them to us.
Think about the negative emotion that you feel the most often. Is it anger, anxiety, depression, frustration, irritability, moodiness, or maybe insecurity? I'd venture to say you could look at your life experience and figure out who taught you that particular emotion.
The greatest thing about life is we can, and many do, go back to that innocent unconditional love that we were born with, and with all the knowledge that we/he/she has gained in life thus far. It is my humble opinion that is why we are here... to gain spiritual enlightenment by returning to the love that we are.
Okay, okay, ramble, ramble, lol, getting to releasing negative emotions.
One of the best things to know when one begins to release the negative emotions that don't belong to us is that they don't belong to us. We are not our negative emotions. We are so much more than that. We are eternal, spiritual beings having a human experience to gain and grow.
Knowledge is very helpful to healing.
So, I gotta mission for you... if you choose to accept it.
This is so very simple but may not be easy.
Here we go...
This week, when you are experiencing anger, anxiety, depression, insecurity, or any other dominant negative emotion, say to yourself, "This does not belong to me! This negative emotion does not belong to me!" Then, take a deep breath in and exhale, imagining you releasing the negative emotion.
Side note: you may not want to do or say this out loud (wink~wink). Just do and say it inside your head, secret like.
Do it for a week, and if it works, keep on a doing it. Life is a science project... hypothesize, experiment, and keep on a doing what works. Practice into permanence. Practice into a habit that is healing and healthy.
Practice destressing you!!!
Too simple? Good! It ought to be easy. It is effective, trust me on this. I have years of experience soothing people out of negative emotions in several unique capacities, and I've become really, really, really good at it and I know you can too for you!
Got it?
Great!
I've got a prayer held tight in my heart for you that you will venture this journey so that you may heal.
I believe you can heal!
I know you can heal! My personal opinion because I know your value and your worth as a human and a spiritual being!
You Got This!!!
I LOVE YOU!!! (singing in my not so in tune opera voice)
God bless you Sugar!
Big Hugs!!!
Speak soon...
Elizabeth Stanfill
How are you doing my dear sweet friend? I pray that you are having the most wonderful time in your life. That is my prayer for you...
It has been a looooooooong time since I've had negative emotions like anger, anxiety, depression, doubt, fear, irritability, moodiness, or worry. I'm not talking about the normal everyday glimpses of mild negative emotions. I am talking about the I want to kill you anger, anxiety attack anxiety, and the want to die depression.
I know, without a doubt, what negative emotions feel like, why we have them, and how to release them. I'm an expert on negative emotions because I lived with them for years, and I'm an expert at releasing them because I haven't had them for years. Not only have I NOT had them, I've helped thousands of people, if not more, release and relieve them. I don't say those things to brag, I say them to convince you that I quite possibly may help you release your negative emotions.
Do you believe, as I believe, that we are born innocent beings straight from God with the desire to grow by learning, listening, and loving? Think about that one for a sec. You know when you hold or see a baby there is pure unconditional love, so eager to learn.
When we are born, I do not believe we have an ounce of negative emotions. It is the human experience and existence that teaches them to us.
Think about the negative emotion that you feel the most often. Is it anger, anxiety, depression, frustration, irritability, moodiness, or maybe insecurity? I'd venture to say you could look at your life experience and figure out who taught you that particular emotion.
The greatest thing about life is we can, and many do, go back to that innocent unconditional love that we were born with, and with all the knowledge that we/he/she has gained in life thus far. It is my humble opinion that is why we are here... to gain spiritual enlightenment by returning to the love that we are.
Okay, okay, ramble, ramble, lol, getting to releasing negative emotions.
One of the best things to know when one begins to release the negative emotions that don't belong to us is that they don't belong to us. We are not our negative emotions. We are so much more than that. We are eternal, spiritual beings having a human experience to gain and grow.
Knowledge is very helpful to healing.
So, I gotta mission for you... if you choose to accept it.
This is so very simple but may not be easy.
Here we go...
This week, when you are experiencing anger, anxiety, depression, insecurity, or any other dominant negative emotion, say to yourself, "This does not belong to me! This negative emotion does not belong to me!" Then, take a deep breath in and exhale, imagining you releasing the negative emotion.
Side note: you may not want to do or say this out loud (wink~wink). Just do and say it inside your head, secret like.
Do it for a week, and if it works, keep on a doing it. Life is a science project... hypothesize, experiment, and keep on a doing what works. Practice into permanence. Practice into a habit that is healing and healthy.
Practice destressing you!!!
Too simple? Good! It ought to be easy. It is effective, trust me on this. I have years of experience soothing people out of negative emotions in several unique capacities, and I've become really, really, really good at it and I know you can too for you!
Got it?
Great!
I've got a prayer held tight in my heart for you that you will venture this journey so that you may heal.
I believe you can heal!
I know you can heal! My personal opinion because I know your value and your worth as a human and a spiritual being!
You Got This!!!
I LOVE YOU!!! (singing in my not so in tune opera voice)
God bless you Sugar!
Big Hugs!!!
Speak soon...
Elizabeth Stanfill
If you love what you read here, you may find my books by clicking, books by Elizabeth Stanfill.
Thursday, January 17, 2019
Ignorance is NOT Bliss!
Hello! Hello!
How are you doing?
I pray I pray you are having a wonderful day!
Have you ever heard the phrase, "Ignorance is bliss?"
Do you know that people have actually said that to me, indicating I am ignorant? Isn't that ignorant? Just kidding, or maybe not! Ignorant is such a harsh word and it is unkind when you say it to someone. It's like calling someone stupid. I do not have any desire to be unkind, so I certainly wouldn't say that to anyone; I prefer the word naive.
It's alright that people have called me ignorant in their naivete because I understand that people don't know they are being unkind or uneducated.
In my experience, when people say ignorance is bliss to me, it's because of my outlook on life. I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt and have compassion for their circumstances. Some people believe my perspective is ignorant because they think the world is so horrible, but let's look at it a little bit and see who's ignorant.
It is a fact that we are all imperfect, yes? Except for Jesus.
It is a fact that we all make mistakes, yes? Except for Jesus.
It is a fact that we all would like to be given the benefit of the doubt, yes?
If we understand that we are all imperfect, we all make mistakes, and we all have been given different struggles, and if we give others the benefit of the doubt, we can focus on being kind to ourselves and others by focusing on what's right, and what's good in life.
It is naive to focus on what is wrong because we unknowingly do it by habit, it makes us feel bad about life, and it is being unkind to ourselves and others.
Focusing on what's wrong in life makes us feel bad, and focusing on what's right makes us feel good. It's all about habitual behavior.
Successful people are confident and optimistic. They are focused on what's right, and they are about the business of enjoying life.
Insecure people are uncertain because they are focused on what's wrong, and you know it because they are always complaining and criticizing others and themselves. You will feel bad if you are focused solely on what's wrong.
Brilliance is knowing that we have the authority, power, and responsibility to our own state of confidence, i.e., faith and happiness in life.
It is brilliant to desire happiness!
It is brilliant to focus on creating habits of happiness by desire!
It is naive to continue to focus on what is wrong by complaining, criticizing, dramatizing, and gossiping so that one creates misery in his or her own mind, in other people's lives, and in the environment in which he or she stands. That is not normal; it's adolescent behavior when we should be about adult behavior.
There are so many great people in this world, and this world is functioning beautifully. If it wasn't, people would be living in chaos, and nobody would be following laws or going to work daily to help this world oprate as well as it does.
If the world wasn't working correctly, we'd be living like one of the apocalyptic movies where people are eating people. (insert me lol here)
What I'm trying to say in all of this ramble is that if you are primarily complaining about and criticizing others and life, it may be a stressful life for you. Our thoughts and what we think about develop feelings of safety and happiness or insecurity and misery. It's a choice whether you'd like it to be or not.
We are creators of our reality. We are either lifting others, ourselves, and the environment by what we do and say, or we are lowering it.
To be unkind to others, yourself, and the environment is misunderstanding.
To be kind by focusing on the good, giving people the benefit of the doubt, and understanding we all have struggles, and that's why we do what we unknowingly or knowingly do, is brilliant understanding.
It's brilliant because it's God's work!
One last thing. That person or thing that you may be focusing on what is wrong in them, or it, has so much more good than the one or two things you are solely focused on that is terrible. You can choose to focus on the many things that are good and right rather than on the one or two things that are wrong.
Love one another!
Love is kind!
Just something to think about. Just something to destress your behaviors, beliefs, and life a little bit.
If you want relief from feeling bad, focus on good more. All good things are from God, and when we focus on the good, we focus on God. This is not only understanding and wisdom it's true bliss and brilliance.
That is all...
Except... I love you!
Elizabeth Stanfill
How are you doing?
I pray I pray you are having a wonderful day!
Have you ever heard the phrase, "Ignorance is bliss?"
Do you know that people have actually said that to me, indicating I am ignorant? Isn't that ignorant? Just kidding, or maybe not! Ignorant is such a harsh word and it is unkind when you say it to someone. It's like calling someone stupid. I do not have any desire to be unkind, so I certainly wouldn't say that to anyone; I prefer the word naive.
It's alright that people have called me ignorant in their naivete because I understand that people don't know they are being unkind or uneducated.
In my experience, when people say ignorance is bliss to me, it's because of my outlook on life. I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt and have compassion for their circumstances. Some people believe my perspective is ignorant because they think the world is so horrible, but let's look at it a little bit and see who's ignorant.
It is a fact that we are all imperfect, yes? Except for Jesus.
It is a fact that we all make mistakes, yes? Except for Jesus.
It is a fact that we all would like to be given the benefit of the doubt, yes?
If we understand that we are all imperfect, we all make mistakes, and we all have been given different struggles, and if we give others the benefit of the doubt, we can focus on being kind to ourselves and others by focusing on what's right, and what's good in life.
It is naive to focus on what is wrong because we unknowingly do it by habit, it makes us feel bad about life, and it is being unkind to ourselves and others.
Focusing on what's wrong in life makes us feel bad, and focusing on what's right makes us feel good. It's all about habitual behavior.
Successful people are confident and optimistic. They are focused on what's right, and they are about the business of enjoying life.
Insecure people are uncertain because they are focused on what's wrong, and you know it because they are always complaining and criticizing others and themselves. You will feel bad if you are focused solely on what's wrong.
Brilliance is knowing that we have the authority, power, and responsibility to our own state of confidence, i.e., faith and happiness in life.
It is brilliant to desire happiness!
It is brilliant to focus on creating habits of happiness by desire!
It is naive to continue to focus on what is wrong by complaining, criticizing, dramatizing, and gossiping so that one creates misery in his or her own mind, in other people's lives, and in the environment in which he or she stands. That is not normal; it's adolescent behavior when we should be about adult behavior.
There are so many great people in this world, and this world is functioning beautifully. If it wasn't, people would be living in chaos, and nobody would be following laws or going to work daily to help this world oprate as well as it does.
If the world wasn't working correctly, we'd be living like one of the apocalyptic movies where people are eating people. (insert me lol here)
What I'm trying to say in all of this ramble is that if you are primarily complaining about and criticizing others and life, it may be a stressful life for you. Our thoughts and what we think about develop feelings of safety and happiness or insecurity and misery. It's a choice whether you'd like it to be or not.
We are creators of our reality. We are either lifting others, ourselves, and the environment by what we do and say, or we are lowering it.
To be unkind to others, yourself, and the environment is misunderstanding.
To be kind by focusing on the good, giving people the benefit of the doubt, and understanding we all have struggles, and that's why we do what we unknowingly or knowingly do, is brilliant understanding.
It's brilliant because it's God's work!
One last thing. That person or thing that you may be focusing on what is wrong in them, or it, has so much more good than the one or two things you are solely focused on that is terrible. You can choose to focus on the many things that are good and right rather than on the one or two things that are wrong.
Love one another!
Love is kind!
Just something to think about. Just something to destress your behaviors, beliefs, and life a little bit.
If you want relief from feeling bad, focus on good more. All good things are from God, and when we focus on the good, we focus on God. This is not only understanding and wisdom it's true bliss and brilliance.
That is all...
Except... I love you!
Elizabeth Stanfill
If you love what you read here, you may find my books by clicking, books by Elizabeth Stanfill.
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