Thursday, April 1, 2021

How to Destress Your Stress

How to destress your stress is what I would like to blog about this day.

Hello, my dear reader...

This is an older post from February 2015 that I came across and decided to edit and repost.

Forgive me for not blogging for the last two months. I've been in training. Spiritual training, that is.

I've been reading up on and researching the science of God, basically scientists explaining God, and I have been doing spiritual experiments that have shown me I am learning to crawl into my spirituality.

It might sound crazy, but I have had more dreams, guidance, and inspiration than ever. At this particular time, because I am so infantile in my learning, I am not ready to report and share with the world yet.

Therefore, I am not sure what to write about. Nevertheless, I've been searching my mind and reading my old posts in search of direction to give to anyone seeking it.

I do not want to boast; I do, however, want you to know that I have over one hundred readers a day, and with that, I want to be here for anyone who needs it. 

We all are brothers and sisters in this world. I believe that with all my heart and soul. We are our Heavenly Father's spiritual children, and our purpose, whether we know it or not, is to help and lift one another. That is the fruit of the spirit and who we really are.

With that said...

Here is the post...

Are you enjoying life?

Are you having a good time?

Are you having a hard time?

Are you having a hard time financially?

Are you having a hard time emotionally?

Are you having a hard time enjoying life?

Do you have a hard time sleeping?

Are you having a hard time with your relationships?

What if I told you that when we are having a hard time doing anything, we are stressed?

What if I told you I could point you in the direction of relieving stressful times?

What if I told you that doing this particular thing every day would destress your stress? Would you do it?

What have you got to lose?

The only thing you have to lose is your stress!

Stress is strain, and strain comes when we have a hard time, whether it be financial, emotional, sleep, or with our relationships.

The purpose of life is to get better and better so that we may have happiness, joy, and vitality.

Do you feel like you are getting better and better at life?

If you are getting better and better, then you are aware of how to do it and taking steps to get there.

You might be saying, "Elizabeth! I know how to get better and better, but my circumstances prevent me! I have people around me that are making things difficult. My responsibilities at home are just too overwhelming, and I never have enough money to pay my bills, let alone to do something I enjoy."

Trust me, I totally get what you are saying! 

Devastation and difficult times can be super challenging. I get it, believe me!

When I was a young single Mother, I had to work full time, pay the rent and, eventually, the mortgage, and make sure there was food on the table. I had to be sure my son was not neglected so that it would be easier for him to live his potential while attending college and doing homework.

Kid you not; I probably didn't get a full night of sleep for about five years straight, from when my son was eight years old until he was thirteen. That, my friend, was not easy. I was so stressed out, I had anxiety attacks, I cried myself to sleep when I did get sleep, and I felt all alone, I mean really alone.

To top it off, work was so very hard for me. I was a female EMT among primarily men and had a horrible reputation because I struggled with specific individuals at work.

This girl was mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually exhausted. 

Thank goodness my undergraduate degree was in Behavioral Science, so I began to observe my own behaviors from my beliefs, and this is what I found...

I was allowing society to not only teach me how to be angry, anxious, and depressed, I let it enable me to be.

Nearly everywhere I turned, people were getting angry, they were anxious, and they had depression because it was more and more the normal thing to do.

Another thing was the TV, especially movies and sitcoms, glorifying drama, including irritability, lack of impulse control, and moodiness. It's simply conditioning called entertainment.

This daily and weekly observation of behavior and entertainment became 'normal' to me; it crept into my subconscious mind. Then I was living by habits of default, which is basically being on autopilot.

When I lived by the autopilot of my mind, I was giving up my free agency because I was acting by stressful habit rather than thinking before behaving.

Do you believe you think before you react via habit?

Let's examine this.

If we think rather than react by habit, we must think of faith, hope, and charity. This way of thinking happens to be the pure love of Christ, who was the only perfect person that has ever lived. If we are Christian, we are behaving what we believe, are we not? If we aren't, it may be because we do not think before we react.

Faith, hope, and charity are the opposite of fear, hopelessness, and selfishness.

Thoughts of fear create feelings of fear, which is where anxiety comes from.

Thoughts of hopelessness create despair, and that is where depression comes from.

If we really think before we act, we know that thoughts of faith, hope, and charity create happiness, energy, and vitality, and that is what we want, right? So if that's what we want, we could intentionally think in a way that creates it.

If we are feeling stressed, i.e., anxious and/or depressed, we could be reacting from a habitual place of the subconscious mind.

What do you think about that? Have you ever considered that?

Better yet, have you ever thought about how to overcome the habitual, subconscious mind?

Please let me tell you about the one thing I talked about earlier that will point an individual toward relieving trying times.

One thing that can help nearly anyone destress is consciously choosing thoughts towards faith, hope, and charity, which will create feelings of faith, hope, and charity.

Why would anyone choose conscious thoughts of faith, hope, and charity?

I choose conscious thoughts of faith, hope, and charity because it gives me happiness, energy, and vitality, and it also gives me calm, confidence, and certainty in life, others, and myself. This is a way of choosing my thoughts and making them into habits. This is leveraging the subconscious mind in my favor by desire.

Pretty cool, eh?

Have you considered that for yourself?

Wouldn't you enjoy that?

Yes? Awesome! Let me tell you how you can obtain it.

You do it through a simple Meditation, which only takes five minutes daily.

It's a five-minute meditation that helps an individual practice using their conscious mind, and practice makes it nearly perfect.

I have been meditating for over fifteen years (edit: over twenty-one years now) and teaching meditation for over ten years.

This is the most effective procedure I have seen.

This Meditation Practice will help an individual evolve the anxious, racing, and worrisome mind into a calm, confident, and quiet mind. I know this is so.

Practice makes nearly perfect; you know that, and I know that because it is a big part of the science of behavior.

If you have been angry, anxious, or depressed for a long time, especially since childhood, it is very possible that you are nearly perfect at it. The only way to replace this negative emotion is to practice the opposite, and we can do that with meditation.

Try it! As a matter of fact, dedicate yourself to it and just watch yourself teeter into the feelings of security, which is the opposite of feeling stressed.

I have witnessed many people who have come out of despair through meditation. Many of these individuals continue to meditate years later, and I am one of them. I shall never stop meditating because it gives me inner peace, which leads to considerable self-control.

This is how to destress your stress and help ease and prevent the effects of crisis, despair, and/or devastation.

This is also a way to reduce moderate to mild stress and major chronic stress.

Edit to post (March 2021)...

Another way of meditating is conscious concentration and contemplation of a phrase or a word. We are concentrating, contemplating beings, and if we choose our focus consciously, I know we can evolve the doubt, fear, and worry of anything into faith, hope, and charity for ourselves and others.

If one could and would keep the words faith, hope, and charity intentionally at the forefront of his or her mind, thoughts to destress ensue. Try it for at least four days, and see how it can destress your stress. And if you are brave enough, make it a commitment to do it for thirty days.

Consider doing both meditations given above. Practicing calm and quiet by listening to the video and intentionally contemplating the words faith, hope, and charity. This application can cultivate great confidence and faith, which will assist in the prevention and release of stress.

Please understand that I understand the repetition of exercises, phrases, and words in my blog posts. Also, please consider the great part of reconditioning and relearning is repetition. Repetition is the great law of learning. In my humble opinion, this great law of learning is a significant way to relieve strain, stress, and misery, basically destressing yourself.

Never beat yourself up! 

Never give up!

This is enduring to the end in creating a spiritual life of energy, joy, and vitality. You cannot go wrong in this way.

This is spiritual research via experiments.

Take good care...

Speak soon...

Elizabeth Stanfill  

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