Showing posts with label stress at home. Show all posts
Showing posts with label stress at home. Show all posts

Monday, December 20, 2010

STRESSFUL EMOTIONAL HABITS

Hey, hey! How are you doing today? Hope and pray you are alright.

Gonna talk about stressful, emotional habits today.

When we think of habits, we think of food, cigarettes, alcohol, or drugs. We can also add caffeine, shopping, and sex to that list. These are apparent habits that we are well aware of, and we know the consequences if we continue.

Another habit that may be evaluated is our emotions. When we are presented with a stressful situation, it may be a habit to feel fear or worry.

Some people may even react to stressful situations with anger, frustration, or irritability. These emotions are the cause of our stress. For example, when we work on the car or the house and the job gets complicated, we may get angry, frustrated, or irritable. Sound familiar? This habit of reacting to certain situations is the source of our stress.

Another example may be when we have something big that breaks down, like a car, washer or dryer, air conditioner, or water heater, and we don't have the money to pay for it, we may feel fear or worry. That is another habit we may have of reacting to circumstances that are the culprit of our stress.

When we become aware of the habitual reactions of our emotions, we can take responsibility and change these habits for the better. If we get angry or irritable often, we may have created patterns of anger and irritability, which can be changed through education.

Awareness is the number one key. If we are aware of these adverse emotional reactions, we can take responsibility and change these emotions to the opposite.

We can change anger, frustration, or irritability to patience and tolerance.

We can change doubt, fear, and worry to confidence, security, and hope.

It is not necessary to get angry, frustrated, or irritable. It is not required to have doubt, fear, or worry. We can take control of our reactions.

Sounds simple but is not necessarily easy. The hard part is the 20, 30, 40, or more years of the tendency to react this way.

What can we do to destress our negative habits of reacting?

The first key is awareness. Like an addict, we cannot get help unless we think we need help.

The next step is to talk to a professional or read a book on anger or stress. Bibliotherapy is one of the best ways to change.

Another great way of being aware of our emotions is being aware of our thoughts because it is the thoughts we are having that causes our feelings.

And finally, never-ending goal setting of changing our habits. If we want to change behavior that we have had for years, it may take some time and hard work. Never-ending goal setting is the way to move forward. If we don't move forward, we are stagnant; if we are fixed, our problems get bigger, and if our problems get bigger, that causes an increase in our stress.

If you get angry, frustrated, or irritable frequently, or even once in a while, you are creating great stress on yourself mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Make it a goal to stop negative emotions and replace them with positive ones like calmness, happiness, satisfaction, and cheerfulness.

You can discover your stressful habits by destressing yourself. When you destress yourself, you learn to change your stressful thoughts, feelings, actions, and attitudes to more successful thoughts, feelings, actions, and attitudes, which means changing stressful habits into successful practices.

Have a super duper week, and don't forget to have fun and be playful.


Elizabeth Stanfill If you love what you read here, you may find my books by clicking, books by Elizabeth Stanfill.

Thursday, October 14, 2010

HOW DO WE CREATE FAITH IN OURSELVES?

Excellent question!  How do we create faith in ourselves?  The answer?  Destress Yourself!

Faith is the confident belief or trust in something.  I just blurted that meaning out of my head, lol.  It is true, isn't it?  Faith is the confident belief or trust in something...  I like that.

If you have a lot of stress, stress at work, stress at home, stress with finances, stress in your relationships, or just difficulty coping with stress, chances are you do not have faith.

When I say faith, I mean faith in yourself, faith that things will be okay, or faith that you can handle your stress.

What is stress?  Stress is the consequences of our thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry.  Therefore, the opposite of stress is our consequences from our thoughts of faith or the confident belief or trust in something.

Let me just clarify that I am, in a general sense, talking about negative, everyday stress, which is distress.  Although, this can apply to eustress, as well, which is positive stress.  But, I am not speaking about cumulative stress (burnout), or critical (incident) stress, at this time.  With that said, if you have stress, chances are you have doubt, fear, and worry.

Stress at work is caused by thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry about work.  Stress at home is caused by doubt, fear, worry about home.  Stress with finances is caused by doubt, fear, and worry about finances.  Stress in relationships is caused by doubt, fear, and worry about relationships.  GET THE PICTURE???

Difficulty coping with stress is caused by a habit of doubt, fear, and worry about outcomes.  We can eliminate this habit by creating a habit of focusing on solutions, making these solutions our goals, and focusing on obtaining these goals.

How do we create faith in ourselves?

We create faith in ourselves by discovering what we want out of life, what our purpose is, and living what we want and living our purpose.  For example, I want to enjoy life (this has many meanings to me but I will save it for another post) and my purpose is to help create happiness, energy, and vitality by teaching people to find joy in their lives (destress yourself). 

Living with what we want is not a destination, it is a journey.  Therefore, we are constantly moving towards what we want by living our purpose.  We can create faith in ourselves by finding out what we want, finding out our purpose, and setting goals to constantly obtain this.

If you are living in the constant state of going nowhere, doing the same ole thing, living the same ole life, then you are not creating faith in yourself.  But, by moving forward, in life, setting your goals, having a vision, and living your purpose, faith in yourself will come naturally because of the great accomplishments you will make.

Right now, I know a lot of people who are out of work and they are not doing anything about it.  It is sad really.  If I had a lot of time on my hands, I would be working on the things I want out of life and if I didn't know what I wanted, I would spend all of my time searching.  It doesn't take money, it only takes the internet.  Google it!

Take a moment and look back one year ago, three years ago, or even five years ago.  Are you doing the same ole thing or are you moving forward in life? 

Discover what you want out of life, move towards it, and live it!  That, my friend is how we create faith!

Discover your purpose, move towards it, and live it!  That will create faith!

Set goals towards what you want, using your purpose, and keep moving forward, everyday!  That will create faith!

You can do it!  You got the power to be, do, have anything you want, you just have to think you can!  That my friend, is faith.

Have a great weekend!!!

Until next post...  Don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Elizabeth