The Art And Skill of Confidence

Hey! Hey!

Confidence is the ramble this day!

How are you doing my friend?

I am hoping and praying you are getting better and better each and every day.

The reason I want to discuss confidence is because the opposite is insecurity, which is a way of describing feelings of not feeling safe, which is a way of describing stress.

Confident people make really good decisions because they come from a place of believing in themselves. Insecure people often make poor decisions because they come from a place of fear.

Some people are, and were lucky enough to have parents whom exuded confidence, and so they learned by example to be confident. Some people, may have had insecure parents, and became confident because they observed it, in other people, in their lives.

What I'm trying to say is, everyone's story is different. Although the story is different the art and skill of confidence is built the same in everyone who has it. It is built by learning, observation, and practice.

You have probably guessed by now, this is just another ploy to get you to do the thirty day challenge I offered in the post Increasing Habits of Faith. 

You see, we have emotional, mental, and physical habits, which are all created by practice. The thirty day exercise I am offering is a little experiment on evolving insecurity to confidence via mental habits of focus.

I'll tell you a little secret...

For the first twenty years of my career I worked in the Emergency Field responding to 911 calls, and overlapping some of those years, I spent another twenty years helping Emergency Personnel overcome emotional emergencies. What I have discovered in both arenas is there is respite from crisis, which is the ultimate insecurity. In addition, there is relief from day to day practiced uncertainty, which is chronic stress.

Chronic stress, and crisis can be interrupted by beliefs and behaviors of confidence, and there lies the relief.

What say you?

Are you feeling unsafe about the future much of the time?

If you are, I would do the challenge offered in the post I wrote, Increasing Habits of Faith. And you may want to read the post written right after that, Leveling Up On Faith. 

This is all about practicing the art and skill of confidence into a permanent habit by replacing the doubt, fear, and worry of what you don't want, to thinking about what you do want.

You may not be convinced that this will work for you, and that my friend is exactly what we are trying to evolve, the lack of belief in you.

Have a super duper day dear one!

ps... If you think I repeat myself much, don't mind me, just rambling along trying to help people heal through the great law of learning called repetition.

If I but help one person heal the hurt, I am doing what God wants me to do. That is how important we are to Him! We are instruments in God's hands or we are not! I will be as much as my focus allows me to.

Big Hugs!!!

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

Are You In Crisis Mode?

Crisis mode is what I wanna discuss this day.

Hello there my beautiful friend. How are you? It is my prayer that you are enjoying every minute of your life but if you are not, then this post just may help you.

What is a crisis?

A crisis is when an individual is experiencing a serious situation, possibly an emergency of some sort.

A crisis can be when a catastrophe or disaster has or may hit.

What is crisis mode?

It is an emotional, mental, and/or physical reaction to a presented crisis. It feels like anxiety and stress.

Are you experiencing a crisis? A catastrophic event? A major disaster?

If you are, please let me speak some words to you with a prayer in my heart that maybe I can bring you from crisis to calm right at this moment.

First, you are very very very important to those around you, and you are very loved. Some people do not believe it but it's true. The individuals in our lives love us. Sometimes it seems like they may not but, I think, everyone shows their love the best they know how.

Second, please do not go through this crisis alone. Please, please, please choose at least one person you trust to share your story so they may listen to you and support you. If you do not believe this person exists, and you do not believe anyone is there for you then, if I were you, I would drop down on my knees, pour my heart and soul out to God, and ask Him to help. 

If you, do not believe in God, for whatever reason, here is your chance to receive proof that He is real.

I have struggled with the pains of crisis and the deepest moments of despair. Every time I have turned to God, from my knees, He has comforted me. This is how I know deep down in my soul that God is real.

If you are truly alone, this is the perfect time to test your theory about God, and just watch the comfort and strength come.

God never ever promised this life would be easy but He did and does, promises that He will comfort you when you turn to Him.

Third, you are going to get through this! You are a powerful person, and you quite possibly have been through worse than this and made it. Keep encouraging yourself with the words, "I'm going to get through this, and everything is going to work out because it always does!"

So often we look to others to encourage us when we can do it for ourselves. 

You got this!

You can do this!

You can handle this!

You are a powerful warrior!

You are a child of the highest God, and He has your back!

Fourth, you are never alone! If you think you are alone, you are wrong. There are unseen forces beyond the veil of life and death. You have guardian angels, people who have left this life, who are watching out for and over you.

I know, I know, I sound cray crazy but! But!!! It is true... That is all I can tell you.

Fifth, and finally, you are safe right now. Your mind may tell you otherwise but if you are able to sit and read this blog post, I will venture to say you are safe at this moment.

Sometimes our minds might trick us into crisis mode because of panic about fear of what the future holds. Our minds have the ability to freak us out as though we are in an emergency state when we aren't.

Now if your neighborhood is on fire, or there is a madman with a machete in the house, then you are definitely in the middle of a crisis. Otherwise, if there is not an immediate impending doom then you are alright at this moment, right?

Could it be possible that you are living in a state of fear when in reality you are alright?

Could it be possible that you are practicing anger, anxiety, depression, doubt, fear, or worry and you are getting really really good at it with great momentum?

If so, consider practicing knowing that you will be alright.

I know that you will be alright. I don't even know you, and I know you will be alright.

How do I know this? Because life is full of stuff that we love and don't love, and no matter what we always manage to make it. It all depends on how we are looking at things that determines if we make it through with difficulty or ease.

I have no idea what you may be going through but I do know that you are going to make it through it. If you could consider other times of crisis you can know you made it through.

Have faith my friend!

Hope for better things and better times!

Be kind to yourself, and believe in you!

You are so very important!

Do not go through this alone!

You are going to get through this!

You are never alone!

You are safe right now!

Believe me when I say, you are getting better and better at knowing all of these statements I have just proclaimed! I know that this is so because that is what life is all about.

God bless you, my friend!

I love you...

Elizabeth Stanfill

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