DESTRESS YOURSELF AND YOUR HEADACHE ;)

Hi everyone ;)  How are you?  I hope you are doing absolutely fantastic ;)

Got a question for ya!  Do you have frequent headaches?  Dang, that sounded like the beginning of an ad, lol.

The reason I ask is because many people I know experience frequent headaches and they are constantly taking medication to relieve the ache.

Whenever a person tells me that they have a headache, my first thought is, "STRESS!"


Maybe you get tension headaches, or sinus headaches, or migraines, or maybe your pony tail is too tight ;)

If you get frequent headaches, I can guarantee that I can find your stress that is causing it.

It is easy to see, for me, the stress in peoples lives because that's what I do.

I have clients and friends, several in fact, who would experience headaches on a daily basis and when their stress was removed, the headaches disappeared.  Isn't that amazing?

Maybe you have stress at work, or stress in a relationship, or stress at home, or stress over finances.  Whatever it is, if you remove the stress, you can remove your headaches.

When I say remove the stress I don't necessarily mean quit your job, or end the relationship, or leave your home.  What I mean by removing your stress is, destress yourself.  When you destress yourself, you discover your stressful habits, eliminate them, and then replace the bad habit with a successful practice.

For example, if you worry (stressful habit), you can eliminate worry and replace it with confidence that everything will be okay, and faith that the best thing can happen for you.

Let's say you are worried about work.  Maybe it is someone at work or your work load.  Whatever it is that your worried about is just a thought.  Possibly you are thinking about this person, or your work load, before, during, and after work, and your thoughts are obsessive, racing thoughts about the worst that can happen.  This thought process, thinking the worst that can happen, is just a conditioned response (habit) that you have developed and therefore, you can reverse the conditioned response to be one of thinking about the best outcome rather than the worst.

I know that this is so.  I know that this is possible!  I have helped thousands of people see their stressful way of thinking, which is just a habit/conditioned response.

So, what in the heck does this all have to do with headaches?

It is my humble opinion, speaking from experience of the eliminating headache kind, that when we are stressed out, we tend to tense up.  Our body tenses from the aggravated thoughts we are having, not to mention if you can't sleep well or at all, you could very well be experiencing physical stress from fatigue, which also causes headaches.

What is a person to do?  Well, we gotta learn to relax so that we can eliminate the tension.  We gotta learn to destress ourselves so that we can live life with happiness, energy, and vitality so we can eliminate all of the stressful thoughts, feelings, and actions that we take.

When we learn to relax, we learn how to be more calm in all situations because we replace the habit of being uptight and tense.  When we learn to destress we learn to handle things, aka life, a lot better because we eliminate the conditioned responses of anger, agitation, anxiety,depression, irritability, moodiness, and the list goes on and on.  These ways of being are just conditioned responses that you can replace with the opposites.

Trust me, I know about building certainty, confidence, and faith, and the elimination of doubt, fear, worry, and negative emotions.  I have experienced it in myself and now I experience it in others.

Well, I hope you have the best week ever.  That's all I got!

Until next post, don't forget to have fun and be playful.  I know I always end my posts with that but I really mean it.  You can forget, or remember, to have fun and be playful.  I see it in many people and I bet you do too.

Big Hugs to you all!!!

Elizabeth

WHY IN THE HECK DON'T WE DESTRESS???

Well, hello there, my friend!  How are you?  I hope that you are absolutely perfect today.

 

I have another question for you!  My question is, why in the heck don't we de-stress?

 

I know the question is broad and general.  Well, why don't certain people with stress learn how to handle stress better?  Is it because they don't want to?  Or is it because they don't know how to?  Or is it because they love being miserable?  Or is it because they do not believe they can?

 

The answer......................is........................YES!  

 

Yes to all of the above.

 

People don't learn to manage stress because they don't want to, don't know how to, love being miserable, or believe they cannot.

 

Oh, I cannot wait to get the emails on this one, he he he.

 

Let's start with why people don't want to manage their stress.  I believe people want to manage stress but do not want to do the work.  It is so easy not to do anything.  Call it laziness, lack of motivation, or inability to act.  Whatever you call it, it all boils down to not wanting it bad enough.  If you want 'it,' meaning a better life, happiness, energy, vitality, and joy, you will do something to manage your stress.

 

What could you do?  You could read a book on stress, Google stress management, talk to your Bishop or clergy, or seek professional help.  You could eat for energy, exercise vigorously, learn to have faith in yourself and others, and learn to relax to know how anytime and anywhere.

 

That takes care of wanting to and how to; now, let's talk about loving misery.  People will say, I don't love misery or being miserable, but I would argue, "If you don't do anything about it, you must love it."  Harsh, I know, but some people are so engulfed in drama and misery every day that they must love it.  People always come to me asking for help, and the people who always have an excuse as to why they can't improve this or that, I am convinced that they love misery.  Maybe it brings them attention or a purpose in life, I don't know, but they refuse to live without it.

 

I'll give you an example.  This individual came to me because of the stress in the business that they own.  This person was overwhelmed because employees were flaky, wouldn't hit deadlines, would call in sick or late, and would do whatever they wanted.  We discussed boundaries; this business owner had every excuse for why each boundary would not work.  We are discussing boundaries like disciplinary action if employees do not adhere to company policy.  We also discussed learning not to get upset when employees display this behavior, but there were more excuses.  This business owner suffered because of the unwillingness to do anything about the distress.

 

This person has to love suffering!

 

Lastly, I suggest that people do not manage their stress because they believe they cannot.  This is a consequence of a lack of self-confidence.  People have a fear of poverty, old age, criticism, loss of love, ill health, or death, and all of these fears cause low self-confidence.  Any fear causes low self-confidence.  

 

So, what can we do?  We can discover our fear and turn it into faith.  Yes, yes, yes, a lot easier said than done.  But you have a choice; you can choose to have fear, or you can choose to create faith, it's just a thought.

 

My friend, if you want to de-stress yourself and haven't taken the steps yet, maybe you need to evaluate why.  Is it that you don't want to?  Or is it that you don't know how?  Or is it that you love being unhappy?  Or is it that you do not believe you can?

 

Once you have evaluated your reason, work on that as a goal.  If you want happiness, energy, vitality, and joy in your life, then learn to want to de-stress yourself, learn how to de-stress yourself, learn how to love happiness instead of misfortune, or learn how you can believe you can.

 

IF YOU ARE UNHAPPY, SOMETHING MUST BE DONE!

 

If you are not living with happiness, energy, joy, and vitality, something must be done. You can learn to be happy by de-stressing yourself, and I can show you how for free. The only thing you gotta do is read my blog and apply the practices.

 

If you want to live your dream life, let me help you. Learn to de-stress yourself by me for free, and experience permanent stress relief. There are many de-stressing exercises throughout my blog, and you can apply them throughout your week or month. Practice can make permanent stress relief.

 

Praying for your success, and thank you for visiting my blog.

 

Remember to have fun and be playful.

 

Elizabeth Stanfill

Gotta Have Faith Faith Faith...

Hello there my friend!  How are you this fine day?  I hope you are having the best day ever!

Got a couple questions for you! 

Do you believe in yourself?

Do you believe you can accomplish your goals?

Well???  Do you???  Do you have faith in yourself?

A stressful habit we may have, at times, is lack of faith in ourselves.  This is a stressful habit because we worry about if we will be able to accomplish what we set out to achieve.  This worry causes stress.

You can believe that you can obtain any goal you set your heart and mind to.  Whether you believe it or not is just a thought, and we have free agency to choose our thoughts.

When I help individuals overcome serious stress, the majority of the stress is caused because of the thoughts that we have about the future.

I know a man who is very successful.  He is successful in that he makes over $250,000 a year, he has a great relationship with his wife and child, and he has all the luxuries that most people dream about.  His wife sent him to me because his stress at work was getting out of hand and intruding on his personal life.  After talking to him for about an hour, I spent three hours with him, we discovered that his stress was coming from a belief that he would not be able to sustain his business and his income. 


As we talked more, we discovered that there was no evidence to support that he would not be able to continue to be financially successful.  Matter of fact, all the evidence pointed to him always having clients waiting for his service.  What it all boiled down to was the belief that he would not achieve and lack of faith in himself.  This lack of faith was generated through a habit of his thought process, a belief that he could not obtain his goals.

My friend has the power to obtain anything he sets his heart on.  We all have this power!  I may not know you but I know the power within you.  You can achieve all that you want.  How do I know this?  I know this because you are successful.  If you have made it this far in life (no matter how far that is), you are successful.  Look at all the things you have accomplished thus far.  Look at the relationships you have created, look at the jobs/careers you have or had, and look at all your successes so far.

You, my friend, are capable of doing anything you set your heart and mind to, all you have to do is set your heart and mind to it.

If you are having a hard time with having faith in yourself, then do this exercise.

List all of your accomplishments and mile stones in your life.  Include elementary school, Jr. high school, high school, sports, band, chorus, church, arts, relationships, vacations, careers, purchases, and anything else you can think of.  After you make this list, look back at these times and see how you did it.  Chances are you will see that you had ambition, desire, and drive.  I guarantee if you make this list and ponder these accomplishments they will remind you how great you really are and how great you continue to be.

Sometimes, as we get older, we stop setting goals, and then we become stagnant.  This may be happening to you and stagnation may increase doubt in yourself.

Remember all the goals you have set and accomplished so far in your life and ponder them.  This will increase your faith in yourself.

Detress yourself by having faith in yourself and that you can accomplish your goals.  When you do this you will discover what you can create in your life.

When you destress yourself, you change your thoughts, feelings, and actions, and attitude.  You change your thoughts, feelings, actions and attitude from stressful to successful.

IF YOU ARE UNHAPPY, SOMETHING MUST BE DONE!

If you are not living with happiness, energy, joy, and vitality, something must be done.  You can learn to be happy by destressing yourself and I can show you how, for free.

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If you would like to live the life you dream of, let me help you.  Learn to destress yourself, by me, for free, and learn what permanent stress relief truly is.

Thank you for visiting my blog.

Until next post...don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth