DESTRESS

HOW TO DESTRESS YOURSELF

Hello there!  How's life?  Stressed?  Okay, silly question.

The craziest thing is happening.  It is July now and I have more visitors to my blog than EVER!  Why is that crazy?  Well, the greatest number of visitors to my blog begins in October and tapers off in March.  You know, the holidays, then the bills in January, and then tax season.  Summer time is usually the slowest time of the year for me.

Stress is high and it shouldn't be because it is Summer time and we should be at the beach enjoying ourselves.

So, let's DESTRESS.

In order to destress, we gotta know what it means.

It means, to get rid of your stress. 

So, how do we get rid of our stress. 

Stress is caused by thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry.  What are you worried about?  Bills?  Relationship?  Your job? 

It is so funny when people tell me they know what stresses them out and then they blame some external force like their kids, their spouse, their job, or even the economy.  It is funny to me because stress is not an external force.  Stress is caused by our reaction to this external stimuli.

When we are stressed, this is what we do; in our mind, we think of the worst thing that can happen.  For example, if you have stress at work, in your mind you may play, over and over again, the worst possible scenario and then how you are going to react.  Or, if you don't have enough money for your bills, you may think about how you are going to be homeless.  Really!  This is what we do that causes our stress.

Why do we think about the worst possible thing that can happen?  Because it is a habit we have.  When we were younger our parents or teachers told us things like, "don't do that or you will get hurt." Or, "If you don't do this (whatever it is), you will fail."  It is just a mentality that goes on in our culture. 

Honestly, how many times have you told your child not to do something or else something bad will happen?  What happens when we do this?  We create habits of focusing on the worst outcome.

Trust me, I observe enough human behavior to know this is true. 

So, what do we do to destress?  We think about the best thing that can happen and then focus on that.

The big question would be, what is your intention?  What do you intend to happen?  Do you intend to fix your relationship?  Do you intend to make more money?  Do you intend to have a better life than you do now?

What do you intend to happen today, tomorrow, next week, this year, and even for the next five years?

Do you intend to double your income?  Do you intend to lose 100 pounds? 

Whatever it is you intend to do, focus on that, and make it a goal.

Go from doubt, fear, and worry to certainty, confidence, and faith. 

Eliminate the habit of focusing on the worst thing that can happen and focus only on what you intend to happen.  Make this a habit and just watch yourself DESTRESS!

Think about what you want and then tell yourself, "I CAN!"  Because you can!

I KNOW THAT THIS IS TRUE.

That's all I got!  Just wanted to give a few words of destressing yourself before my favorite weekend of the year!

Have the greatest Fourth of July weekend EVER.  Go to the beach, lake, pool, or river, and enjoy yourself.

I LOVE YOU!!!  I REALLY DO!!!  AND IF YOU KNOW ME, YOU KNOW IT IS TRUE!!!

BIG HUGS!


Elizabeth

THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS STRESS?

Hello there my friend.  How are you this wonderful winter day?  I must say, I am very happy and grateful!!!

Last night, I attended a Christmas Program, which was MAGNIFIQUE!!!  Any who, I was talking to a lady who, you guessed it, is really stressed out.  She is currently going through her second wedding (for her second daughter) this year. 

Sooo, I told her that there was no such thing as stress, only stressful thoughts.  She didn't get it.  Do you get it?  Do you get that there is no such thing as stress, only stressful thoughts? 

When we feel stressed it is from our thoughts of thinking that we can't handle it.  Stress is from our thoughts of worry.  What is this woman's stress?  She is overwhelmed by a busy schedule, as well as work, and her other children.  So, she is worried.  She is worried that she can't handle it, and that everything won't be perfect unless she get's everything done that she needs to get done.  Hence, her stressful thoughts.

Whenever I talk to someone who is stressed, I know that they are worried about something.  There is no reason to worry.  Worry is just a habit, a habitual way of thinking.  People worry about what they don't have, they worry about how to get what they want or don't have, they worry about what others' think, and/or they worry about if they can handle IT, whatever IT is.  IT can be finances, relationships, health, weight, an overwhelming schedule, a child that is not good enough, and/or work.

What are you worried about?  "Oh Elizabeth, I'm not worried about anything."  Oh reeeeeeally???  I know that I can have a conversation with you and within 5 minutes or so, you will say what you are worried about.  Are you worried about the future?  Are you worried about the past, or yesterday?  Are you worried about money?  Are you worried that you will never find Mr/Mrs Right?  Are you worried that your boss doesn't treat you well?  Are you worried about Christmas? 

Well, whatever it is you are worried about, this is what I want you to know. 

NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, YOU CAN HANDLE IT!
Everyone, including me, has had some serious shizzz happen and we made it through whatever rough time there was and you will make it through this. 


RELEASE YOUR WORRY!
This is a lot easier said than done but, stay in this moment, stay right here, right now, with whoever you are with, or where ever you are at, and enjoy yourself.  If you are unable to enjoy yourself, then you have a habit to learn.  Enjoying yourself is just a habit, a habitual way of thinking, just like worrying.  One of the best things anyone can do is replace the habit of worry with the habit of enjoying yourself. 

If you know me, you know it is possible!!!

Destress Yourself with an affirmation.  Whenever you feel overwhelmed, or stressed, say to yourself, "I can handle this, I can handle anything, and I can be, do, have anything I set my heart and mind to."

YOU GOT THE POWER!!!


Have a great day and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

I LOVE YOU!!!  I REALLY DO!!!


Elizabeth