Releasing Negative Emotions

Hello!!!

How are you doing my dear sweet friend? I pray that you are having the most wonderful time in your life. That is my prayer for you...

It has been a looooooooong time since I've had negative emotions like anger, anxiety, depression, doubt, fear, irritability, moodiness, or worry. I'm not talking about the normal everyday glimpses of mild negative emotions. I am talking about the I want to kill you anger, anxiety attack anxiety, and the want to die depression.

I know, without a doubt, what negative emotions feel like, why we have them, and how to release them. I'm an expert on negative emotions because I lived with them for years, and I'm an expert at releasing them because I haven't had them for years. Not only have I NOT had them, I've helped thousands of people, if not more, release and relieve them. I don't say those things to brag, I say them to convince you that I quite possibly may help you release your negative emotions.

Do you believe, as I believe, that we are born innocent beings straight from God with the desire to grow by learning, listening, and loving? Think about that one for a sec. You know when you hold or see a baby there is pure unconditional love, so eager to learn.

When we are born, I do not believe we have an ounce of negative emotions. It is the human experience and existence that teaches them to us.

Think about the negative emotion that you feel the most often. Is it anger, anxiety, depression, frustration, irritability, moodiness, or maybe insecurity? I'd venture to say you could look at your life experience and figure out who taught you that particular emotion.

The greatest thing about life is we can, and many do, go back to that innocent unconditional love that we were born with, and with all the knowledge that we/he/she has gained in life thus far. It is my humble opinion that is why we are here... to gain spiritual enlightenment by returning to the love that we are.

Okay, okay, ramble, ramble, lol, getting to releasing negative emotions.

One of the best things to know when one begins to release the negative emotions that don't belong to us is that they don't belong to us. We are not our negative emotions. We are so much more than that. We are eternal, spiritual beings having a human experience to gain and grow.

Knowledge is very helpful to healing.

So, I gotta mission for you... if you choose to accept it.

This is so very simple but may not be easy.

Here we go...

This week, when you are experiencing anger, anxiety, depression, insecurity, or any other dominant negative emotion, say to yourself, "This does not belong to me! This negative emotion does not belong to me!" Then, take a deep breath in and exhale, imagining you releasing the negative emotion.

Side note: you may not want to do or say this out loud (wink~wink). Just do and say it inside your head, secret like.

Do it for a week, and if it works, keep on a doing it. Life is a science project... hypothesize, experiment, and keep on a doing what works. Practice into permanence. Practice into a habit that is healing and healthy.

Practice destressing you!!!

Too simple? Good! It ought to be easy. It is effective, trust me on this. I have years of experience soothing people out of negative emotions in several unique capacities, and I've become really, really, really good at it and I know you can too for you!

Got it? 

Great! 

I've got a prayer held tight in my heart for you that you will venture this journey so that you may heal. 

I believe you can heal!

I know you can heal! My personal opinion because I know your value and your worth as a human and a spiritual being!

You Got This!!!

I LOVE YOU!!! (singing in my not so in tune opera voice)

God bless you Sugar!

Big Hugs!!!

Speak soon...

Elizabeth Stanfill 

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Self-Love

Hello my friend! How are you? I really want to know! Are you alright? It is my prayer, in my heart that you are.

Self-love is what I would like to ramble about this day. 

Did you read my last post... Love is For Giving? If you did you know that my frequent
contemplation's are about love, which is the ultimate antidote to stress.

Before I ramble on about self-love, let me begin with self-hate because I do believe it will define it all in a better way.

Back in the day, when I first began blogging I had time to work with people one on one. This was not therapy but more of a one session education on stress relief, aka destressing yourself.

There was this gentleman who sought me out because he was absolutely miserable. We spoke on the phone and he went on and on about how horrible his life was. He was very critical of himself and others, and he was very discouraged about his future.

The obstacle to his happiness was self-hate. He had no faith, hope, or kindness towards himself or others. We can only give what we have. He was giving criticism and discouragement to himself, and others because that is all he had.

The discovery of his focus on criticism and discouragement opened his mind to the doorway of self-love. This literally changed his life. This literally can change anybody's life.

What happened was, he became so negative because of a devastation he had experienced in recent months. Anybody can, and will experience a devastation and quite possibly, unknowingly create a doom and gloom attitude, which is equivalent to self-hate.

Self-hate is an unkindness to the self and is displayed through being unkind to others. Therefore, self-love is shown through kindness to others, and ultimately to the self.

The remedy to this unpleasantness is really a choice on what one focuses on. Basically, it is a person's choosing the mood of the mind. If your predominant mood is negative, chances are you carry self-hate, and if your mood is predominantly positive, you carry self-love.

It's all about our power to select.

We can either choose to be positive or negative, kinder or unkind, happy or unhappy, and joyful or miserable. These are the choices for deciding if we want to live in a space of self-love or self-hate.

This individual I spoke of at the beginning of this post was, and still is a very powerful man. But now, he is even more powerful because he has literally learned to love himself by being kinder through his thoughts, feelings, words, and actions.

It takes practice to change your focus, especially if you have experienced a devastation.

Now, this gentleman is healed, and I believe this with all my heart and soul. He has been healed through self-love. It certainly didn't happen over night, it took some practice but, this practice, when remembered, can heal anyone no matter what one experiences.

This is what I really want to say...

If you are in a place of criticizing and discouraging others, it just means that the mood of your mind is doom and gloom, which is very stressful and a bit on the hateful side I might add (okay a lot on the hateful side, I was just trying to be nice).

This is what I really want you to hear...

Life can be so very lovely, full of love, and full of self-love if you but make a choice to focus on complimenting, encouraging, and being kinder to others, as well as yourself. Not only will this help destress yourself, you will increase your happiness, energy, joy, and vitality for life.

Your thoughts really do matter, and you have an option to choose those thoughts.

That's my ramble on self-love!

I love you... You know I do...

Speak soon...

Elizabeth