How to Destress Your Anger, And Anxiety

How to destress your anger, and anxiety is what I want to blog about this day.

Hello, my dear friend... How are you doing? I hope and pray you are doing okay, and I mean that with all the love in my heart.

In my younger years, I must have been the angriest and most anxious person I knew.

In my youth, I was so angry, and anxious and I didn't even know it.

Sure, I knew how to be happy and enjoy life but I would teeter into anger, and anxiety too often.

What finally brought all of this to my attention was my bout with burnout.

All of these negative emotions brought me to a place where I was emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually exhausted.

This multilevel exhaustion came from the distress of the combined hurtful emotions I was wavering in and out of on a daily basis. These harming and negative emotions came through in the form of chronic fatigue.

No matter how much sleep I got, how good I ate, or how much exercise I did I continued in exhaustion.

Eventually, there were three things that alleviated my burnout.

First, and foremost, was my relationship with God.

The second was my relationship with my son.

The third was my education in Behavioral Science. 

Knowing that God is real, I went to church every Sunday, prayed every day, sometimes throughout the day, and studied the scriptures every morning.  I've been reading and analyzing the scriptures for over twenty-five years. This has given me great comfort and understanding.

Jesus said, "Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls." ~ Matthew 11:29, The New Testament, The Holy Bible, KJV

I know, with all my heart and soul this is true.  I experienced it first hand.

The relationship I had, and continue to have, with my son is based on pure unconditional love.  We always had, and have fun, and were, and are very playful.

My son taught me, through his example, how to learn, lift others, listen to understand, love, and play which relieved much of my stress and worry.

Loving my son, and studying the scriptures, my heart has steadily removed any room for hate.  In fact, this love has replaced all of my hate.

When we played, whether on the beach, on the playground, or in the swimming pool, I practiced enjoying myself more and more.  This practice of joy healed my hurt.

Heavenly Father blessed me with the most lovable son in the Universe.  Heavenly Father and my son have taught me unconditional love and kindness for others, and myself, which is the opposite of stress.

"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love." ~1 John 4:18, Holy Bible, KJV

Fear is stress.

During my undergraduate studies, and my upper division classes, I researched, studied, and wrote about stress at all levels.

Obtaining my degree showed me that there are solutions to stress via behavioral modification.

A few other things that I have done for myself besides believing in God, my son, and my education were meditation, knowing that with God I can handle anything, and commanding my consciousness with compliments and encouragement.

Heavenly Father, my son, my education, meditation, faith, and taking responsibility for the voice (my thoughts) in my head helped me overcome anger and anxiety.

These gifts also allow me to help others heal from their anger and anxiety.

Meditation provides manifestations through intentional mantras.

Meditation is a mental exercise that creates awareness of the ability to quiet the mind and to hear the hurtful thoughts that are running on without control.

Manifestation is seeing the results come to fruition from practiced efforts.

Mantras can be intentional words or phrases created to bring about application, remembrance, and work for deliberate change. When we are living in despair we have mantras coming from hurtful unintentional thoughts within our minds.  Therefore, we have mantras by default or desire. We have a choice to make them healing rather than hurting.

Meditation is vital for mental cooperation because this is where our connection to Heavenly Father is, and this is where the connection to our spirituality is. When we are connected to Heavenly Father, and our spirit we live in bliss, inner peace, and joy. 

This very spiritual place is where true insight, understanding, and wisdom reside.  This is the place where creative and critical thinking is located and found in the quiet conscious mind.

When we meditate we can contemplate what we desire and discover the place of compliments and encouragements, which replaces criticism and discouragement brought on by the default of human conditioning.

The love of God, the love of family, education, and meditation are pathways to destress your anger and anxiety.

Learning, lifting, listening, loving, meditation, and playing. All you gotta do is pick one or more and hocus pocus focus.

Thank you so much for visiting my blog.

Have an amazing weekend...

Speak soon...

Elizabeth Stanfill

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EMAIL RESPONSES TO "HOW DO I DESTRESS MYSELF?"

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I have received several emails in response to the last post, "HOW DO I DESTRESS MYSELF?"

I have received emails regarding job loss, unable to get a job, losing a home, losing a loved one, having a hard time with the boss, depression, anxiety, chronic fatigue, anger towards a spouse, anger towards an ex-spouse, problems with a child, having a hard time with weight control, and...even...sexual frustration.

As I read these emails, I was going to answer them each individually but, the main theme was that these individuals disagreed with me.  They either disagreed with me on that they cannot control their thoughts, they do not have a choice in their thinking, they do not think their stress comes from their thoughts, or that they don't need to change their thoughts.

So, basically, I have been disagreed with on each one of the points I made last post.

What it all boils down to is this, if you do not or cannot believe or wrap your mind around the concept that you are the boss of you, that you are the only thinker of your thoughts, or that you have a choice to choose the way you think, then you will have to live in the state that you are living until you do.

I don't know what else to say.  The thing is, the reason I am not a therapist, or a counselor anymore is because I cannot help people who do not want to be helped, which are, in my opinion from experience, many of the people who are in therapy. 

I am not knocking therapy, it has helped so many people.  What I am saying is, that I help people who want help.  I help people who are willing to open their mind and let new ideas in.

This is education, not therapy, and so if you want to learn more about stress, you can learn it here. 

Stress is NOT caused by your situation or the people you are upset with.  Stress is caused by your thought process about what is happening to you. 

Yes, stress is a part of life and I don't know anyone who lives stress free, not even me, but you can reduce any stress you have by changing habitual stressful reactions, which begins with your thought process.

It is not my intention to be unkind, I am trying to be a loving confronter.  If you know me now, you know that I have nothing but love for you or anyone I meet.  I love you!  I love people!  I have nothing but love in my heart.

Please, if you want help, it has to start with you.  With you choosing to open your mind to a new way of thinking.  Listen to your destress yourself specialist, and I say that with a wink and a smile.  I have helped and help thousands of people, all over the world, and I know I can help you.

Have a great day and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

ps  thanks for the emails, I LOVE IT!!!