Friday, March 13, 2015

How to Destress Your Anger, And Anxiety

How to destress your anger, and anxiety is what I want to blog about this day.

Hello, my dear friend... How are you doing? I hope and pray you are doing okay, and I mean that with all the love in my heart.

In my younger years, I must have been the angriest and most anxious person I knew.

In my youth, I was so angry, and anxious and I didn't even know it.

Sure, I knew how to be happy and enjoy life but I would teeter into anger, and anxiety too often.

What finally brought all of this to my attention was my bout with burnout.

All of these negative emotions brought me to a place where I was emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually exhausted.

This multilevel exhaustion came from the distress of the combined hurtful emotions I was wavering in and out of on a daily basis. These harming and negative emotions came through in the form of chronic fatigue.

No matter how much sleep I got, how good I ate, or how much exercise I did I continued in exhaustion.

Eventually, there were three things that alleviated my burnout.

First, and foremost, was my relationship with God.

The second was my relationship with my son.

The third was my education in Behavioral Science. 

Knowing that God is real, I went to church every Sunday, prayed every day, sometimes throughout the day, and studied the scriptures every morning.  I've been reading and analyzing the scriptures for over twenty-five years. This has given me great comfort and understanding.

Jesus said, "Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls." ~ Matthew 11:29, The New Testament, The Holy Bible, KJV

I know, with all my heart and soul this is true.  I experienced it first hand.

The relationship I had, and continue to have, with my son is based on pure unconditional love.  We always had, and have fun, and were, and are very playful.

My son taught me, through his example, how to learn, lift others, listen to understand, love, and play which relieved much of my stress and worry.

Loving my son, and studying the scriptures, my heart has steadily removed any room for hate.  In fact, this love has replaced all of my hate.

When we played, whether on the beach, on the playground, or in the swimming pool, I practiced enjoying myself more and more.  This practice of joy healed my hurt.

Heavenly Father blessed me with the most lovable son in the Universe.  Heavenly Father and my son have taught me unconditional love and kindness for others, and myself, which is the opposite of stress.

"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love." ~1 John 4:18, Holy Bible, KJV

Fear is stress.

During my undergraduate studies, and my upper division classes, I researched, studied, and wrote about stress at all levels.

Obtaining my degree showed me that there are solutions to stress via behavioral modification.

A few other things that I have done for myself besides believing in God, my son, and my education were meditation, knowing that with God I can handle anything, and commanding my consciousness with compliments and encouragement.

Heavenly Father, my son, my education, meditation, faith, and taking responsibility for the voice (my thoughts) in my head helped me overcome anger and anxiety.

These gifts also allow me to help others heal from their anger and anxiety.

Meditation provides manifestations through intentional mantras.

Meditation is a mental exercise that creates awareness of the ability to quiet the mind and to hear the hurtful thoughts that are running on without control.

Manifestation is seeing the results come to fruition from practiced efforts.

Mantras can be intentional words or phrases created to bring about application, remembrance, and work for deliberate change. When we are living in despair we have mantras coming from hurtful unintentional thoughts within our minds.  Therefore, we have mantras by default or desire. We have a choice to make them healing rather than hurting.

Meditation is vital for mental cooperation because this is where our connection to Heavenly Father is, and this is where the connection to our spirituality is. When we are connected to Heavenly Father, and our spirit we live in bliss, inner peace, and joy. 

This very spiritual place is where true insight, understanding, and wisdom reside.  This is the place where creative and critical thinking is located and found in the quiet conscious mind.

When we meditate we can contemplate what we desire and discover the place of compliments and encouragements, which replaces criticism and discouragement brought on by the default of human conditioning.

The love of God, the love of family, education, and meditation are pathways to destress your anger and anxiety.

Learning, lifting, listening, loving, meditation, and playing. All you gotta do is pick one or more and hocus pocus focus.

Thank you so much for visiting my blog.

Have an amazing weekend...

Speak soon...

Elizabeth Stanfill

ps... Today only Amazon is featuring my ebooks for free.  Get your copy here.