Saturday, April 19, 2014

How To Destress Hopelessness

How to destress hopelessness is what I wanna ramble about this day.

Hello there! How are you? I pray you are fantastico! Happy Saturday...

In my last post, I wrote about how to destress yourself with hope, but what about hopelessness?  I really should have written this post first.

Hopelessness is having no hope, and it can bring you down to the depths of despair. If you are feeling hopeless, there are three things that can really help you.

First, seek intervention. What I mean by intervention is go see your doctor, find out if you have a chemical imbalance, or if you have a medical problem, and then listen to your doctor's advice, which includes taking medications if necessary. Medication is so very important and can really help but you don't want to be on them forever, so with the advice, and medications the next step can help you from being on med's too long.

Second, change your focus, which is changing your mind. Every human has a habitual way of thinking, and usually when someone is depressed, and hopeless they tend to focus on what they do not have, what they are not, and how they cannot be as good as others.  This my friend is a mindset that is backed by years of very strong neuro pathways, which is how our brain snares us with things we do not want (I'll save that topic for another post).

The best ways to change focus, and habitual ways of thinking are writing in a journal, meditating, centering your thoughts, and telling a different story. The first, and only thing a hopeless person ought to journal about are only the things they love, and the things they are grateful for. This practice is most effective first thing in the morning, and everyday for at least a year, which can only take about one minute of your day.

Meditation is quieting the mind, helps us listen to the unhealthy thoughts that we ramble in our mind, and allows us to change that thought because of our awareness. A centering thought is a small, loving, and kind sentence that we can choose, which will help take charge of unhealthy, negative thoughts, and feelings. Finally, telling a different story from the sad one we tell over and over, every day, will remove our focus from sad stories of our life to happier ones we can hold like how amazing something is that we have done recently.

The third, and final thing, that anyone can do when they are desperately hopeless is, forget him or herself. How in the heck does someone forget his or herself? That is easy, think of, and help another. Ways we can help another are; call someone, and listen to them, I mean really listen to them, buy and write a little note in a, "thinking of you," friend card, visit someone who needs a visiting, and/or buy a small gift, bring it to someone who needs lifting, or send it to them.  If you have ever done any of these things, you know, as well as I know, that it will help you feel better than you do.

Also, very important fact here, if you do these things, which is basically serving the Lord, you will, without a doubt, learn what love is. Now, you may not learn what love is over night, but if you live your life like this, you will learn, and know what love is. TRUE STORY!!!

Okay, so those are the three things that you can do to overcome hopelessness BUT!!! That is a big BUT! But what if you cannot bring yourself to do any of these things, what next?

This is the thing about not being able to get yourself to do anything for yourself; first of all, if you do not, or will not do anything for yourself, it is my humble opinion that you do not believe that you deserve to be happy, or deserve anything for that matter. Besides the chemical imbalance, or medical problem that one may have, the other thing that is a brewing is low, low, low self-worth, and is at the very heart of hopelessness, and not being able to do things for the self.

The only way I know how to lift someone's self worth is by talking to them in person, and since I cannot do that with you, this is what I can type...

You are so very important, you are a child of God, you have a spirit inside you, and your Heavenly Father loves you so very very much. There is more to this life than looking good or bad, owning things, or not, having money, or not having money, and having a lot of people love you, or hate you. There is a purpose to life, and your purpose, right now, is to overcome whatever is keeping you from joy, and you can do it. With God, anything is possible, so turn to God. Read your scriptures daily, and talk to Him like He is your best friend, because He is.

God is the only one who is always there for you, and if you cannot overcome hopelessness, God is the only one who can help you out of it, especially if you do not see any other way. Pray to Him, and pray often.

Well, that's all I got for rambling about overcoming hopelessness. I pray, with all my heart and soul this helps you, if you are feeling hopeless.

I love you, I truly do, because I know what love is, I know where it comes from, I know who you are, and I know where we come from.

Have hope, my friend, know your worth, and that you are worthy of happiness, and hope.

Okee dokee?

Speak soon...