Monday, January 25, 2021

Destressing Fear

Hey, hey! How're you doing today?

Destressing fear is what I'd like to consider this day...

I'm praying a special prayer in my heart that you're alright but, if you are not, maybe this post will help you.

I'm not going to ask if you did the exercise in the last post but, if you didn't, and you'd like to, you can by clicking, Destress Yourself with a Heart Full of Love

My prayer is that you did it because reaching out to others and lifting by listening is a great way to release emotions of fear, and increase faith. It's a default factor in the human existence. We cannot fear and faith at the same time. Therefore, feeling good, and feeling faith, relieves feeling fear. Cool, wouldn't you say?

Nevertheless, I did the exercise, and it felt really, really great! I was literally on top of the world, feeling so good inside, I had to cry to let the beatific emotions out. It is overwhelming to feel the true love of God in the human body. Hard to explain if you've never felt it, maybe I'll try to sometime in another post.

Today, I want to examine the idea of destressing fear because recently I went onto a social media platform (which I rarely do these days) and I noticed a very good friend of mine losing it.

Literally losing it on his posts like a teenage girl throwing a tantrum because she isn't getting her way. 

Okay, okay, I understand that what I just wrote is very unkind but, think about it! A grown man on social media saying things like a thirteen year old girl and not even knowing it.

Two men, I love very much, and I had a rich conversation last night that pertains to this.

One was explaining to me, when people have bad breath everyone in the room knows it except the person with bad breath. I'm paraphrasing of course but, what he is saying is sometimes people lack self-awareness.

This can happen to anyone. More often for some than others yet, it's pretty normal.

The other was saying that we create our own reality. I'm paraphrasing again, still, very true.

When I was a young EMT (Emergency Medical Technician), about twenty six years ago, I had two very bad 911 calls in very close time proximity. These calls involved deaths of children. Immediately afterwards, I was behaving in a way that was not normal for me. 

In other words, I was losing it, very much like my friend on social media.

When I was losing control, something spoke to me within that said, "this is not normal."

I'm very grateful for that still small voice within because once I was aware, I quickly softened my anger and irritability, which was not common for me.

I was lucky to recognize the "not normal-ness" and I was able to change my behaviors, which were coming from my beliefs, which were coming from the thoughts that I kept thinking of not being safe.

I was literally losing my faith in God, in life, in others, and in myself. This is what leads to feeling afraid, and unsafe.

I call this place I was in, teetering on the fence of testimony.

It is my humble opinion that my friend is teetering on the fence of testimony, on social media because of the thoughts he keeps thinking about his fear of the future, and that makes him feel unsafe. But he is safe! The stressful thoughts that he keeps thinking convinces him that he is not.

This occurs among Emergency Personnel, which he happens to be, and has been for over twenty years.

There is not one word I could say to him that would make things better unless he wanted to hear them, and so I will say them here, as though I am talking to him, and maybe you need to hear these words too. If not, that's cool too. I guess I'm praying out loud, on my blog for him.

This is what I would say...

"Dear friend, dear sweet friend, please, have a seat, and take a deep breath, exhale, and relax your body and mind." 

"Dear friend, my dear sweet friend, you are alright right now! You are safe, your family is safe, and you are lucky to have your health, and your family that loves you so very much."

"I want to tell you something, with all the love in my heart, and that is your behavior is not normal. You are smart, you are strong, you are a brilliant soul, and your behavior of late is very unnatural for you."

"It's not normal!"

"Please, for one moment consider you may be letting fearful thoughts of the future take hold of you. This fear can hurt you, your health, and your family."

"You are alright! You are safe! You have everything anyone could ever ask for, and if you recognize this you will gain your power back, right now." 

"The only thing you have is this moment. The only thing any of us has is this moment, right here, and right now, and we have the power to choose to feel safe or give up our choice and feel fear by default."

"Everything we do is from a place of faith or fear. Everything we do lifts our self or lowers, and we have a choice. This is a will that God has given nearly every human being."

"You are alright!"

"Choose your focus and take back your power, and practice it moment by moment and you will see, everything is fine, you are fine, and your family is magnificent."

That is probably what I would say to him, that is my prayer for him. I know with all the confidence in my soul that he could and would hear these words, and chill. 

Most people can hear the truth, and the truth is he is alright, right here, and right now. He is not in any imminent danger even though he is acting like he is.

He is a man of God who is forgetting his faith by default. 

This default of human conditioning is exactly why I do the spiritual experiments that I do, and it is exactly why I offer them to you, the reader. It is so we can destress our fear that we have been conditioned and trained up in. So we can eliminate the habitual thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry.

Fear is a lie! If you disagree, you may have been convinced by default, when we know that God is very real.

Doing the experiments and conditioning ourselves towards confidence and faith is the design, and eliminating the fear, misery, and stress is the desire.

No matter what anyone wants, whether it be health, love, possessions, or wealth it is because we believe it will make us feel better. The truth is, we all want happiness, and we get that by living a life of confidence, faith, patience, and trust because the alternative is misery.

Misery comes from anger, anxiety, depression, and despair, which comes from fear, insecurity, and mistrust.

You may believe that misery comes from what happens to us but, I can show you that it is our thoughts about what happens to us.

Certainly death, dismemberment, divorce, or dying can cause veracious misery in life. But the question would then be, "is your behavior out of proportion to your circumstances?" much like my friend's is or mine was?

Think about these questions...

Are you acting like someone is trying to kill you when in fact, nothing is going on right now? Are your thoughts of what might happen ruining your moments now?

Do you believe you must freak out because of what might happen in the future, and those people who don't freak out are ignorant beings? Is freaking out a part of emotional and mental stability and confidence and self-control uneducated?

Silly questions? My good friend, an old colleague,  would say I'm being facetious.

Confidence and self-control are characteristics of a destressed person. Insecurity and loss of emotional and mental stability are mannerisms of stress.

Do the questions and words that I have written upset you? 

It is my prayer that you are not offended, and if you are, and you aren't experiencing the D's of devastation mentioned above, you may want to seek some healing help.

Something to reflect. And I say that with all the love in my heart, and I have a whole lot of love in my heart.

Please know, I am not trying to be unkind, I am, however, trying to provoke some self awareness in anyone who may need it for the healing of his or her world.

My only desire is to love, and to be a healing help to anyone because I rather people not feel despair and/or sorrow if they don't want to.

I write with charity, the pure love of Christ, in my heart, and a prayer of helping anyone who wants it.

Trust in that my dear brother/sister of this world.

The lesson is always faith, patience, and trust in God, and we must apply it into permanence. 

I don't necessarily have any homework, or spiritual experiments for you today but, I have a link list below that will offer very much on exercising your faith.

Increasing Habits of Faith - this post has a thirty day challenge to help increase your faith.

Mindful Based Stress Reduction - this post offers a exercise on mindfulness.

Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction  - another post with an exercise on mindfulness.

Peace of Mind - a post on eh-em... peace of mind ~wink~

God bless you my dear sweet reader.

It is my prayer, if you have fear, it has been relieved. 

It is also my prayer, if you want permanent stress relief, you will practice spiritual exercises, and experiments into perfect permanence.

Speak soon,

Elizabeth Stanfill