Sunday, January 19, 2020

Destressing with Focus

Hello dear friend!

Destressing with focus is what I'd like to ramble about this day...

It just so happens that item number eleven, on the stress test, is... Do you frequently complain about people, places, and things?

Do you?

Do you know if you do?

My last post was about destressing 2020 with the truth. Did you read it? You can check it out by clicking here.

Let us get ready for destressing 2020, with the truth. The truth I am talking about is, connecting to God, living with purpose, and moving back to the spiritual being that you and I are.

The truth is about leveling up in life, if you want to.

This can be for you! Because you are the most important person in your life, and you can be an even more amazing person than you already are, if you want to.

So, I ask you... are you a complainer? 

Do you frequently criticize?

I know some people who constantly complain all the time. The majority of their words are criticisms, and I do not believe they even know it. I do believe the average person grumbles but, it is not normal to gripe all the time.

In my youth, I found fault with people, places, and things a lot, and didn't even know I was doing it. My frequent complaints about everything maintained a negative attitude.

There are people who are very negative and they don't believe, or even know they are. What's worse is, they don't know it is not normal, and they don't know that they aren't normal. Whatever normal is, right?

So, what does all of this have to do with destressing with focus?  Well, if you have a bad attitude, it comes from focus on the doom and gloom of life.

Happiness or misery comes from focus. 

Some individuals who are suffering with anxiety, depression, or despair do not like to hear that it is their focus because they don't want to believe it is their fault. It is not anyone's fault that he or she has misery but it can be any persons' responsibility to believe in the self enough to change focus.

It is my humble belief, from education, evidence, and experience that we can focus our way into destressing our life.

When we destress, we can, and do live from the Spirit. 

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law." ~Galatians 5:22-23, Holy Bible, KJV

I've spent much time practicing my own focus, and teaching others to. Some discoveries I have found within this practicing and teaching are: it is very easy for people who have spent time in their life practicing focus, to focus and, it takes patience, practice, and a never give up attitude to cultivate and develop concentration, for people who weren't taught to.

To destress with focus, one must, if they want to, remove the complaining, criticizing, dramatizing, and gossiping. This kind of attention creates misery because it is about negative aspects in life. Some people will get this, and some won't. 

If you believe that complaining, criticizing, dramatizing, and gossiping is okay, this post might not be for you. If you believe this post isn't for you, with all due respect, and all the kindness and love in my heart, you may want to read my post on Ignorance is Not Bliss by clicking here. ~wink~

If you believe the mentioned behaviors are not okay, and you'd like to eliminate these miseries of life, read on.

Either way, it's all good. I don't want to improve anyone, or think I know what's best for anybody. I just want to point the person, who is asking, in the direction of connecting to God, and living by the fruit of the Spirit, which is the permanent stress relief in this life.

So, here I go... pointing, for whomever is asking for connection to God and life by the fruit of the Spirit.

Creating a focused mind is all about practiced attention on the desired things an individual wants. In order to destress, the desired things are required over the undesired. Governing your thoughts by desire rather than thinking by default.

So, what do you want?

Certainly you do not want doubt, fear, and worry, which happens to be the human conditioning. Indubitably, you want calm, confidence, happiness, and health.

To destress, one must practice calm and confidence, and the result will be happiness and health.

It's all about the contemplation, focus, and practice into permanence.

Let's experiment shall we?

Try this...

For seven days, choose one of the statements below, and keep it at the forefront of your mind. This is practicing a reminder, in order to relieve an unwanted attitude. What better way to destress by replacing a stressful behavior with a calming one?

Also, if you'd like to enhance the experiment, get a notebook and at the end of everyday, write down what worked. Do not write down what didn't work. We are focusing on destressing, remember, not stressing. ~wink~

Choose one of the mantras, aka reminders, aka statements below and for seven days contemplate it, focus on it by keeping it at the forefront of your mind, all day long, and practice it into permanence.

1. "I am focused, organized, and productive in my thoughts." Meaning I'm thinking about the benefits and blessings in life rather than the faults of what is wrong.

This was my mantra for months about twelve years ago. I was setting goals and I would say it over and over and over so I was reminded to stay focused, organized, and productive. It was so helpful and it worked.


2. "Hocus, pocus, focus on what I want. What do I want?" This is just a fun, and funny one I still use when I need to focus. Often I say it to others, in a playful way, when we ought to be concentrating on something particular.


3. "I am alert. I have a quiet mind, and relaxed body." This is the best one if you need to teach yourself to relax. Can you imagine saying this all day long to yourself, practicing quieting your mind, and relaxing your body continuously? You'd be an expert at it. Repetition is the great law of learning, reconditioning, and retraining. Some people believe they can't relax, and want a way to learn. This is an excellent exercise for the very purpose to train your brain to quiet, and your body to relax.


4. "I appreciate and I am aware of (fill in the blank here)." This statement points a person in the direction of thinking about what he or she appreciates about the person, place, or thing that is in front of him or her in the very moment. This is a method to the power in your now. Contemplating, focusing, and practicing this very statement is the very opposite of complaining and criticizing. This exercise can, and will create a more positive attitude by replacing the negative one.

Your mission, should you choose to accept it is to pick one of the statements given above. Choose one you believe will help you, and stick with it all day everyday for seven days. First thing in the morning, consciously think this thought, and it will start your day in a magnificent way. When you lay your head on your pillow, in the evening, let this thought be what you contemplate, and focus on as you fall asleep.

Contemplate, focus, practice, and keep the statement, you have chosen, at the forefront of your mind, so that you may enhance destressing habitual thoughts.

This can be a spiritual experiment in order to overcome human conditioning of negative emotions that disconnect us from God. The goal is to destress with the truth, with focus, and to move back towards the spirit of who we are.

Make a commitment to yourself, and to your leveling up in life, to do this, and watch what good things happen.

Let me know how it goes if you'd like...

Big hugs my dear friend...

Speak soon...


P.S. Amazon is featuring my How to Destress via Stress Test & Stress Relief eBook for free today, January 19, 2020. If you haven't got one, I hope you go get it free.