Tuesday, March 6, 2012


Hello there.  How are you this lovely Tuesday?  I am very well, thank you for asking.

Every day I start my day on my knees.  The first thing I do is get out of bed and then get straight to my knees to thank God for my wonderful life and all of my blessings.  

One of the things that I am most grateful for is my Agape, my son.  Not only am I grateful for him, I am grateful for our relationship.  

How lucky am I that I have a son who loves me, is always there for me whenever I need his help, and I get to have dinner with him at least two times a week.

It is my hope for every parent that they can have such a wonderful relationship with their child.

My poor son, all of his life he has heard the words of destressing yourself because of my schooling, my work, and my passions.  

Every where I go, I speak the words of destressing yourself, and my son does this eye rolling thing (in good fun of course) and then he says something like, "here we go again," or, "don't listen to a word she says."  

It's funny, and it's cute because he is being playful. 

One thing I know for sure is, I do not have to worry about my son because he lives the life of destressing.  He can't help it, it's in his genes, and it has always been in his environment.

When I was younger, I wanted to be a Child Psychologist.  I love children but, I discovered that I always blame the parents when the child has problems, and that doesn't necessarily make a good Child Psychologist, know what I mean?

The reason I believe it is the parents fault when the child has problems is because we often cause the behavioral problems in our child(ren) because of our relationship, or lack of, and our own stressful habits are inherited by our children.

The best parenting practices include being warm, accepting, being able to enjoy time spent with one's child, understanding and meeting the child's emotional and practical needs, and having a good balance of control and discipline, not over control or under control.  

The most important parenting practice for one's child's well-being is the skill of destressing yourself.  

These parenting practices tend to develop children who are more socially and emotionally competent, have fewer behavioral problems, and have higher self-esteem.  

It is my humble opinion that these characteristics in parents, and their children, are  mannerisms that constitute people who naturally know how to destress.

So...  In order to destress your child(ren), evaluate and compare your parenting practices, evaluate and compare your child's behavioral habits.

Consider your ability to be warm.

Ponder your capacity to be accepting.

Are you able to enjoy time with your child often?

Do you understand and meet your child's emotional and practical needs?

Do you have a good balance of control and discipline.  

Prayerfully ponder these things, and strive to improve any weakness that you discover, and I promise you will be on your way to destress yourself and your child.

In order to destress one's child, one must destress him or herself.

That's all I got, for now!

Have a great week, don't forget to have fun, and be playful.