Monday, November 4, 2019

Destressing Your Temper

Hello there my friend.

Destressing your temper is what I'd like to discuss this day.

How are you doing? I am ever praying you are in the midst of happiness and health.

In my last post Destressing Anger, which is the third item on the Stress Test, I talked about anger not being necessary and that anger is not who we are.

In similar fashion, losing our temper is quite unnecessary and not who we are. 

Is there a difference between losing our temper and being angry? Not really, because in both situations there is lack of control of thought, which leads to emotion.

Are you getting angry easily and losing your temper often? If you are I'd like to provide some probable solutions but first, the theory.

Normally, when a person gets angry easily, and loses his or her temper it is because something has happened to cause stress, and if the stress, or thoughts of the stress continue over long periods of time, the temper becomes who we are.

Let's say a devastation happens like a death, a divorce, or someone is dying. This type of situation is very overwhelming, and causes severe strain on a person emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. 

In the case of devastation, it is very normal to be on edge, lose control of the temper, and get angry easily.

But what if the situation is healed, and the person continues to have temper issues? It could be possible that the situation caused such a devastation that the fear, and insecurity continues to be practiced. In this case, it is also quite normal.

Therefore, it is important to keep an eye on the reaction, and encourage the self towards a more confident reaction by reminding the self that everything is alright.

Sounds simple, yes, but may not be easy.

Another theory I have is practiced displeasure into losing the temper often.

This is my theory of focus by default. Our brains, quite brilliantly, are focusing mechanisms by default or desire. If we become so focused on what we don't want, i.e., fear of what might happen in the future, we can and will react with a short temper.

We could also, by default, focus on all the things wrong in our life by complaining and criticizing, which gives way to lack of control and misery. The only control that can and will be had here is our thoughts by desire.

This is basic human conditioning by default or by desire.

So, what is the solution.

Truly, the solution to any problem is God.

Even if you do not believe in God, the words from the scriptures can heal you by practicing faith instead of fear.

Practicing faith by desire, rather than fear by default.

So, I've posted a little list of links to practicing faith below...

Hope it helps you with your temper if you need it...

Here it is...

Increasing Habits of Faith

Powerful You

Creating Faith

Mindful Based Stress Reduction

Hoping and praying that helps...

Side note, I understand much of my exercises and words are repeated eh-em... repeatedly. Repetition is the great law of learning. That is how anyone and everyone absorbs and obtains information, so, let it be repeated. ~wink~ Consider them reminders.

In addition, I understand that some of my practices may be similar in nature and I do this to invoke a desire in you to practice these destressing exercises into permanence. Hoping the new habits of health will replace the stressful habits of unhealth.

That's all ~wink~

I do this for you, faithing that you will relieve the emotional, mental, and spiritual strain that you may be experiencing.

If you want to destress your life, you gotta do the work. No one but God and you, can and will change your life into what you'd like it to be.

That's my lecture ~wink~

Said with utmost love...

Speak soon my dear friend.