Hello there my fine fellow friend. How the heck are you? I am doing quite well, thank you for askin.
Have you noticed that I am one day shy of three weeks from writing my last post? Ya, well, I wanna say it has to be my laziness, and that we moved my son back to the Uni, and I had a little bit of a surgery. No biggy, I handled it, after all, I am the stress specialist, right?
Lately, I have been hung up on saying, "Happiness comes from within." What do you think about that?
Do you believe that happiness comes from within? Do you believe that is a crock of hooey and that happiness is external from yourself? Or, do you think, "What in the heck is Elizabeth talking about?"
What am I talking about? Well, I will tell you but first let me tell you why I say happiness comes from within using me as an example.
You are about to find out about all of my vices... Okay, here goes. I used to be a smoker, I used to be a drinker, and I have always been addicted to food. Man oh man, I love me some yummy food.
I used to smoke because I have a lot of energy, smoking is like a sedative, makes me feel good, and mellows me out. I smoked because I had the illusion that it made me feel better.
I used to drink, because, back in the day, everyone else my age was drinking, it felt like fun, and I had the illusion that it made me feel better.
I am addicted to food because I love the delightful textures, the yummy flavors, and I have the illusion that it makes me feel better.
All these things are illusions of happiness that comes from outside of myself just like shopping/spending money/getting stuff I don't need, drama filled relationships, and other inappropriate behaviors like fighting with others, or trying to control others thoughts about me, feelings about me, and actions towards me.
For a very long time I have known that my happiness is up to me, and somewhere along the line of living life, I learned that my happiness comes from my own thoughts, feelings, and actions towards life, others, and myself.
Now, I am going to tell you something very important, and because you are so intelligent, you are totally gonna get this. How do I know you are intelligent, because you read my blog silly. ~wink, wink~
What I am about to tell you is something you might already know, and it is just a reminder, or you never heard it before but, you will recognize the truth in it.
Okay...here goes... Your feelings of happiness, or unhappiness, comes from the current thought that you are thinking, and you, my friend, can control your every thought so that you can create happiness. That is exactly what I mean when I say that happiness comes from within.
Every thought you have can be for the better good of your feelings, every thought you have can be looking at the positive aspect of your very own life, and every thought you have can be of certainty, confidence, and faith in life, others, and yourself.
How do you like them apples?
I am living proof of this theory! I do not drink, smoke, or indulge obsessively on food any longer because I know without a doubt, with all my heart and soul, that my happiness comes from within, from my positive, loving, thoughts, and not from what I take into my mind, or body, what possessions I own, or what other people think or say about me.
What I know is this... Addictive behaviors are because of illusions that we have that they make us feel better, and that we cannot live without them. WRONG! WRONG! WRONG! We can live without them! How do I know, I know because people quit them all the time. ALL THE TIME! EVERYDAY!
Every addictive behavior we have makes us feel yucky, yucky, yucky about ourselves. When I say addictive, what I mean is habits that are unhealthy for us, and we have not been able to stop thus far.
When I use to eat too much, and was glutenous, I found myself belittling myself in my head, saying stuff like, "I am so fat, I will never loose weight, and I am disgusting." Those words only made me feel bad, I recognized it, and they became controlled by me.
For those of us who eat like a piggy pig and think it makes us feel better, the evidence shows otherwise, doesn't it? Sure the food is yummy, it gives instant gratification, and then lasts only until the thoughts begin and we realize how fat, yucky, and disgusting it all is. So, in essence, food makes us feel good while we eat it but when we are done, the feel good is no more.
When I use to smoke, I felt very guilty because it is so unhealthy, and guilt is a very negative, stressful emotion. I use to think there is no way I can quite but guess what? I started to tell myself that I can quit, and I use to say in my head, "I am a non-smoker." By the way, I am a non-smoker ;0)
When I use to drink alcohol, I punished my body, wasted my money, and it ruined the next day because I was hungover. Where is the happiness in that?
So, back to the happiness comes from within stuff. What I am trying to say in my rambling post is, look at your habits and discover if and how they are causing you stress. A good question to ask yourself is, "What are my habits telling me?"
These habits may include eating, exercising (or not), drinking too much (alcohol, soda, or caffeine), not drinking enough water, relationships, communication styles, your interpretation of life (looking at what is so wrong vs counting your blessings), spending money, making money, focusing (or not), organizing (or not), producing (or not), nagging others, fearing life, trying to control people's thoughts, feelings, and actions, getting angry, being anxious, being depressed, and/or anything else you can think of.
So happiness comes from within when you eliminate the illusions that outside sources are making you feel better and when you create thoughts of faith in life, others, and yourself.
You are the only thinker of your thoughts. I told my son this many many moons ago, like when he was in kindergarten, and to this day, he never let's me forget it. So, think better thoughts about yourself, think better thoughts about others (by giving them the benefit of the doubt and realizing, like you, they are doing their best), and think better thoughts about life (by looking at the good in EVERY situation).
You my friend are worthy of the best life you could ever imagine. You are a child of God, He loves you, and He wants you to have the very very best in this mortal existence. What Father does not want the best for His child? If you could imagine that Heavenly Father loves you more than a thousand times any Father could even love, you would realize the value of your soul.
Think better of yourself, for yourself, and encourage yourself to be the best you can be, because you got the power, and you got it in you. There is no one on this earth who will cheer you on like you can. But, be ware, there is no one on this earth who can discourage you like you can.
So, watch your thoughts, make them full of faith, hope, and love.
Happiness does come from within, get your inner belief system believing it by enjoying the journey of life, loving your life, and taking action everyday. Take action to think better to feel better.
I LOVE YOU!!! I TRULY DO!!! And that's all I got to say about that.
Have a wonderful weekend.
Don't forget! Have fun! Be Playful!
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