Saturday, July 13, 2019

Training Your Brain to Destress

Well hello there...

How are you doing this day?

Are you angry, anxious, depressed, irritable, or moody?

If you are, read on, and hopefully this post will help you.

Years ago, when I began helping people with stress, a few wives sent their husbands to me in hopes that I could help them.

These men were the first one's outside of the Emergency Field or Military that I assisted.

One of them actually told me that he was cooperative in seeing me due to the threat of divorce from his wife.

Back then, the economy was bad, and everyone of these individuals was afraid of the future, which is basically stress. Stress shows up mostly via anger and anxiety in men, which displays as irritability and moodiness. Nevertheless, all of it was fear of the future, and when we are afraid, the stress response kicks in, we lose control, and our family, and health suffers. 

These men were big money makers, and smart enough to know that what ever they did can and will affect their family and future. Each one of them wanted improvement because their family, especially their wife, was a priority, and very important to them.

We focused on meditation, affirmations, and visualizations.

As human beings we are trained up to be afraid and discouraged because of what might happen, and this creates a racing mind. The remedy for a racing mind is meditation because it quiets the mind, which is the opposite. A quiet mind gives confidence, safety, and security.

Also as humans, our fearful thoughts gives us unsupported vocabulary of discouragement like, "I'm so overwhelmed, and I don't think I can handle this." These thoughts and words lead to insecurity. These thoughts and words are unhelpful affirmations by default. The remedy for hurtful phrases by default are intentional phrases by desire like, "I am doing very well under the circumstances, and I can handle whatever comes my way because I always have and I really don't have a choice." You may not believe that affirmations work, but you have a choice, default or desire.

Another thing we do by default, as humans, is visualize. Do you know that all three of these gentlemen were visualizing the worst possible outcome just by habit? That's what stress does to us. Stress makes us afraid of the future especially because we think of, and visualize in our mind, the absolute worst possible thing that can happen.

Some people say that fear is good because it makes us move forward. I do not believe this to be true. What if the habit of fear makes a person move forward only some of the time, and immobilizes their actions the majority of the time? 

Stress promotes and sustains insecurity. 

No one wants insecurity.

What if a person could replace the awful habit of being afraid of the future with calm, confidence? It's absolutely possible for anybody to practice confidence and overcome insecurity but he or she must be consistent and never give up.

If you have practiced anger, anxiety, and depression for twenty, thirty, forty, fifty, or more years, it may take a while to overcome these habits. But certainly worth it!

I understand that people may believe that the anger, anxiety, and/or depression is not in his or her control. I get that! I hear it all the time, and I actually believed it too. Not only did I believe it, I argued for it. But now, having changed myself, and helped the numerous people that I have in healing, I know without a doubt that if I can overcome negative emotions, anyone can!

The way to heal is to recondition, and retrain your brain to destress. 

Meditation for healing the doubt, fear, and worry of the racing mind, and intentional affirmations and visualizations for habits of creating confidence, are the keys to relieve stressful behaviors, and beliefs.

Try this...

Everyday for at least thirty days, do these three things...

1) Go to a quiet uninterrupted environment, at the same time everyday, sit up, and focus on your breath and/or heart beat for at least five minutes. If you find that too difficult sit and focus on the sounds of this meditation video. Then, through out the day, bring yourself to that calm, quiet, and relaxed state as often as you can remember to. That's called practicing, and it is very helpful to practice any destressing habit into permanence. 

A calm, quiet, and relaxed body, and mind create a peaceful soul, and oh what a blissful life it makes.

2) Memorize this affirmation, and repeat it in your mind, all day, and everyday "God loves me, God cares for me, and He is giving me all good things for my spiritual expansion." But don't just repeat it, contemplate it, and watch yourself focus more intentionally towards your faithfulness towards you.

3) When you feel anxious or nervous about anything, ask yourself, "What would be the perfect outcome for this situation I am concerned/worried about?" And try to cultivate the habit of visualizing the best outcome. This is visualizing by desire, and if you do it often enough, you can, and will replace the default of the fearful future mentality with the desired outcome mindset. 

You cannot tell the future whether you are optimistic, or pessimistic, but you can build your confidence.

All three of these habits can and will assist with confidence, which is the opposite of insecurity, which is basically stress.

Another thirty day challenge.

I'm just trying to point you in the direction of healing, and relieving the negative emotions that come due to years of practiced stressful habits. If that's what you want, then make a commitment to do the proposed exercises and retrain your brain to destress.

It's all up to you, and it's all about you...

and your family...

and your future...

and your happiness...

and your health...

and, believe it or not, your wealth as well...

Big Hugs Friend!

I'm praying for you!

I'm praying for your confidence and faith in you!

God bless you!!!

Speak soon...