Saturday, July 13, 2019

Training Your Brain to Destress

Well, hello there...

How are you doing this day?

Are you angry, anxious, depressed, irritable, or moody?

I hope you are not, but if you are, read on; hopefully, this post will help you.

Years ago, when I began helping people with stress, a few wives sent their husbands to me in hopes that I could help them.

These men were the first ones outside the Emergency Field or Military I assisted.

One of them told me he was cooperative in seeing me due to the threat of divorce from his wife.

Back then, the economy was terrible, and everyone feared the future, which is basically stress. Stress shows up mostly via anger and anxiety in men, which displays irritability and moodiness. 

Nevertheless, all of it was fear of the future, and when we are afraid, the stress response kicks in, we lose control, and our family and health suffer. 

These men were big money-makers and intelligent enough to know that whatever they did could and would affect their families and future. Each wanted improvement because their family, especially their wife, was a priority and very important to them.

We focused on meditation, affirmations, and visualizations.

We are trained to be afraid and discouraged because of what might happen, creating a racing mind. The remedy for a racing mind is meditation because it quiets the mind, which is the opposite. A quiet mind gives confidence, safety, and security.

Also, as humans, our fearful thoughts give us a vocabulary of discouragement, like, "I'm so overwhelmed, and I don't think I can handle this." These thoughts and words lead to insecurity and are unhelpful affirmations by default. 

The remedy for hurtful phrases by default is intentional phrases by desire like, "I am doing very well under the circumstances, and I can handle whatever comes my way because I always have, and I really don't have a choice." You may not believe affirmations work, but you have a choice, default, or desire.

Another thing we do by default, as humans, is visualize. Do you know that all three of these gentlemen were visualizing the worst possible outcome just by habit? That's what stress does to us. Stress makes us afraid of the future, mainly because we think of and visualize the absolute worst possible thing that can happen.

Some people say that fear is helpful because it makes us move forward. I do not believe this to be true. What if the habit of fear makes a person move forward only some of the time and immobilizes their actions most of the time? 

Stress promotes and sustains insecurity. 

No one wants insecurity.

What if a person could replace the awful habit of fear of the future with calm confidence? Anybody can practice assurance and overcome insecurity, but he or she must be consistent and never give up.

Overcoming these habits may take a while if you have practiced anger, anxiety, and depression for twenty, thirty, forty, fifty, or more years. But certainly worth it!

I understand that people may believe that anger, anxiety, and depression are not in their control. I get that! I hear it all the time, and I actually thought it too. Not only did I believe it, I argued for it. But now, having changed myself and helped the numerous people I have in healing, I know without a doubt that if I can overcome negative emotions, anyone can!

The way to heal is to recondition and retrain your brain to destress. 

Meditation for healing the doubt, fear, and worry of the racing mind and intentional affirmations and visualizations for creating confidence are the keys to relieving stressful behaviors and beliefs.

Try this...

Every day for at least thirty days, do these three things...

1) Go to a quiet, uninterrupted environment; at the same time every day, sit up and focus on your breath and heartbeat for at least five minutes. If you find that too challenging, sit and focus on the sounds of this meditation video. Then, throughout the day, bring yourself to that calm, quiet, and relaxed state as often as you can remember. That's called practice, and it is beneficial to practice any destressing habit into permanence. 

A calm, quiet, relaxed body and mind create a peaceful soul, and oh, what a blissful life it makes.

2) Memorize this affirmation, and repeat it in your mind all day and every day "God loves me, God cares for me, and He is giving me all good things for my spiritual expansion." But don't just repeat it; contemplate it, and watch yourself focus more intentionally on your faithfulness towards you.

3) When you feel anxious or nervous about anything, ask yourself, "What would be the perfect outcome for this situation I am concerned/worried about?" And try to cultivate the habit of visualizing the best outcome. This is visualizing by desire, and if you do it often enough, you can and will replace the default of the fearful future mentality with the desired outcome mindset. 

You cannot tell the future whether you are optimistic or pessimistic, but you can build confidence.

All three of these habits can and will assist with confidence, which is the opposite of insecurity, which is basically stress.

Another thirty-day challenge.

I'm just trying to point you in the direction of healing and relieving the negative emotions due to years of practicing stressful habits. If that's what you want, commit to the proposed exercises and retrain your brain to destress.

It's all up to you, and it's all about you...

And your family...

And your future...

And your happiness...

And your health...

And, believe it or not, your wealth as well...

Big Hugs, Friend!

I'm praying for you!

I'm praying for your confidence and faith in you!

God bless you!!!

Speak soon...

Elizabeth Stanfill 

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