Making a commitment to destress is all about creating a life skill of emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual strength. When we destress our life, we create success. One big part of success is the habit of making great decisions everyday. One of the best decisions we can make for ourselves is to commit to our life, and to commit to our success.
If you are addicted, angry, anxious, depressed, or dissatisfied, you have stress. If you have stress, it is nearly impossible to see your success.
If you are stressed out because you have stress at work, stress at home, stress in your relationships, stress with your health, stress due to emotional difficulty, stress over money, and/or any other stress, you can make a commitment to destress yourself.
Making a commitment to destress yourself is all about making great decisions. Making great decisions is all about intentional choices. When we make intentional decisions about our life, and our success, we are strong. When we do not make intentional choices, we are making choices by habitual reactions, and this brings life stress by default.
Choosing what we will create for our life is a very powerful habit that can create explosive jumps in personal and professional achievement. We choose what we will create by intentional decision making.
Lets begin the powerful habit of making intentional decisions by deciding to make a commitment to destress. Decide, today, that you will make a commitment to destress, which is basically a decision towards your success.
1. Decide to make a commitment to destress for at least 30 to 90 days.
2. Decide on at least one thing that you will make a commitment towards to destress your life. In other words, choose a weakness and make it strong. If you have addiction commit to overcoming it, if you have anger commit to replacing it with charity, if you have anxiety commit to calmness and relaxation, if you have depression commit to making it hope, or if you have low self-esteem commit to creating self-confidence.
3. Decide on, and say an affirmation that will remind you to commit to your change.
4. Decide to give five minutes in the morning, and five minutes in the evening to your commitment.
5. Decide to breath, and say your affirmation all day, everyday, to remind you of, and hold you in the space of your commitment.
6. Decide to make conscious and beneficial choices towards your success, every minute of every hour, of every day, and make it a habit.
In order to destress ourselves we must learn to manage our stress by taking care of ourselves, creating focus, and getting organized. But, what if we are so stressed out that we feel like we are unable to manage our stress by taking care of ourselves, creating focus, or getting organized? This is normal when we have a lot of stress.
One stress symptom is immobilization, due to feeling overwhelmed and that is why I suggest to make a commitment to destress ourselves. How do we make a commitment to destress? Well, destress means to discover and eliminate our stressful habits and it all begins with our thoughts.
Are you paying attention to your thinking? Do you think you cannot take care of yourself, create focus, or get organized? If we are thinking this way, then we are promoting our own stress. We can take care of ourselves, create focus, and get organized, and in order to begin, we ought to think we can.
Here is how we make a commitment, we start with deciding what we want and write it down. Do we want more money, a better relationship, better health, a better job, or just to be happier? Then we set goals and as many goals as we want. We can think of all the things we want and write them down. Next, we pick our top three goals or our top one goal, if we want. We then work on our goal(s) by making a list of all the things we can do to obtain our goals and prioritize them. Also, we can create an affirmation that we can say all the time, everyday, to remind ourselves what we want.
After we have an affirmation, we can make a list of all the things we can do today in order to obtain our goals and then do it. We can do one thing a day, even if it is to just look at our list of what we want. This will help keep our goals in the front of our mind and we will move forward, I guarantee it. But, we have to make a commitment to do this.
We can commit to do it everyday for 30 days or better yet, do it everyday for at least one year and I guarantee we will make explosive jumps in our personal and professional performance.
When we make this kind of a commitment we create a successful habit.
Summary of making a commitment to destress yourself.
1. Think that you can! Whatever it is YOU CAN!
2. Decide what you want and write it down.
3. Set some goals and write them down.
4. Pick your top one to three goals.
5. Work on your goals by making a list of all the things you need to do to accomplish your goals and prioritize.
6. Create an affirmation, say it all day long, as a reminder to always focus the goal(s).
7. Make a list of all the things that can be done today in order to work towards the goal(s).
8. Do at least one thing a day.
9. Make a commitment to work on your goals for at least 30 days, preferably 1 year.
Often times clients tell me they don't know what they want or where to begin. My suggestion, to you, if you don't know what you want, is to make your goal to discover what you want.
If you don't know where to begin, I suggest you Google it! You can Google anything and get free information.
Now, you may be asking, "how is setting goals going to destress me?" And the answer is, when we are stressed it is usually over something in our life that is not going right. If something in our life is not going right we must fix it.
When we set goals, we can set goals to fix any problem with a solution and make the solution our goal.
When we are working on a solution we feel better about ourselves because we create hope and faith.
Faith is the opposite of worry and worry is what creates our stress. Some Helpful Suggestions
1. Read what you have written, often, two to three times a day is very desirable.
2. Brain storm goals, to do's, and affirmations.
3. Google it!
Monday, May 13, 2013
Monday, May 6, 2013
How To Destress With An Open Mind
How to destress yourself with an open mind is what I want to talk about today.
Hey, hey! How are you? I hope you are having the time of your life, I really do.
What the heck does having an open mind have to do with destressing you ask? What a great question.
When we have an open mind, we are teachable, and willing to try new things.
If you are unhappy, angry, anxious, or depressed, you are stressed. If you are stressed, what you are doing is probably not working, and therefore, having an open mind, being teachable, and being willing to try new things like meditation (quieting the worried stressful mind), affirmations (intentionally being faithful and hopeful), and creating intentional visualizations (thinking about the best instead of playing the worst possible scenario out in your mind over and over), you can, and will, help you make a stress free you.
Have you ever meditated?
Have you ever created and applied affirmations?
Have you ever visualized what you really want out of life?
The reason I ask these questions is because I preach meditation, to quiet the anxious, worried mind, affirmations, to remind ourselves to change for the better, and visualizations to motivate ourselves to do what we always talk about doing.
Are you willing to destress yourself with an open mind?
Are you willing to destress yourself with meditation?
Are you willing to destress yourself by creating and applying affirmations?
Are you willing to destress yourself by visualizing the best possible life you could ever have?
If you said yes to these questions, awesome!
If you said no to these questions then chances are, you are not willing to destress your stressed out self.
You can learn to meditate, create affirmations, and visualize by clicking here.
I have meditated, affirmed, and visualized for years now and it is the most effective goal obtaining enhancers in the world. Trust me on this one!
I have clients who have learned to meditate, affirm, and visualize, and they have made explosive jumps in their personal and professional performance.
Try it, you will like it. If you are really brave, make a commitment to destress yourself by doing meditations, affirmations, and visualizations for at least one year.
I kid you not, this stuff is amazing, you just have to be willing to try something new to change your life from stress to destress.
That's all I got!
Hey, hey! How are you? I hope you are having the time of your life, I really do.
What the heck does having an open mind have to do with destressing you ask? What a great question.
When we have an open mind, we are teachable, and willing to try new things.
If you are unhappy, angry, anxious, or depressed, you are stressed. If you are stressed, what you are doing is probably not working, and therefore, having an open mind, being teachable, and being willing to try new things like meditation (quieting the worried stressful mind), affirmations (intentionally being faithful and hopeful), and creating intentional visualizations (thinking about the best instead of playing the worst possible scenario out in your mind over and over), you can, and will, help you make a stress free you.
Have you ever meditated?
Have you ever created and applied affirmations?
Have you ever visualized what you really want out of life?
The reason I ask these questions is because I preach meditation, to quiet the anxious, worried mind, affirmations, to remind ourselves to change for the better, and visualizations to motivate ourselves to do what we always talk about doing.
Are you willing to destress yourself with an open mind?
Are you willing to destress yourself with meditation?
Are you willing to destress yourself by creating and applying affirmations?
Are you willing to destress yourself by visualizing the best possible life you could ever have?
If you said yes to these questions, awesome!
If you said no to these questions then chances are, you are not willing to destress your stressed out self.
You can learn to meditate, create affirmations, and visualize by clicking here.
I have meditated, affirmed, and visualized for years now and it is the most effective goal obtaining enhancers in the world. Trust me on this one!
I have clients who have learned to meditate, affirm, and visualize, and they have made explosive jumps in their personal and professional performance.
Try it, you will like it. If you are really brave, make a commitment to destress yourself by doing meditations, affirmations, and visualizations for at least one year.
I kid you not, this stuff is amazing, you just have to be willing to try something new to change your life from stress to destress.
That's all I got!
Have a great day! Have a great week! I love you Sugah!
Elizabeth
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Wednesday, April 24, 2013
How To Destress? Commit!
How to destress by commitment is what I am all about today!
Hey hey, how are you? I hope you are super duper!
A little over a month ago I posted 'How To Destress' and then I posted 'Destress Your Life'
Today I want to talk about how to destress by making a commitment.
When we move from stress to destress we are making weak things strong, and we are moving away from things that give us stress, and we move towards things that will make us feel success.
What the heck is success? Many people think that success is related to money but in reality, success is defined by the person who will live it.
What does success mean to you? Whatever you said to answer that I can bet you a million bucks that whatever it is, it will make you happy. Better yet, you think it will make you happy.
In my mind, success means different things to different people, but it all boils down to happiness. Happiness equals success. I betcha I am right about that. How do I know? I know because everyone who I have ever talked to names the success for them and it is what makes them happy.
Okay, blah, blah, blah, back to how to destress by making a commitment.
Let's make weak things strong, shall we?
Pick one thing that you think that is your weakness, and you want to make it strong.
For example, do you worry? I ask that because worry is the culprit of stress. If you worry, and worry is stress, then worry is a weakness and you can make it strong by moving towards the opposite, which is faith.
My weakness, right now, is physical. There was a time, not so long ago, I would run three miles a day, and ride a bike about thirteen miles a day. What do I do now? Nada! Nada thing! Well, that is not entirely true. Last Monday, I started to walk five miles every morning in my effort to make a commitment to myself so that I may destress.
So, destress with me by picking something weak, and make a commitment to make it strong.
Have you picked the thing that is your weakness that you want to make strong?
Okay...
Let's make a commitment to change for the better.
First, write down your weakness. Mine is physical, I am out of shape.
Second, write down the opposite of the weakness, which is what you will commit to. Mine is, I will be in shape.
Third, write it out as a specific goal of what you will do by what time frame. Mine is, I will cut my walking time in half within thirty days, and I will ride my bike in the evening, for ten miles within 60 days. So, within the first thirty days I will be run/walking 5 miles in half the time, and within sixty days I will do the 5 miles by foot in the morning, and 10 miles by bike in the evening.
That's it!
1. Write your weakness.
2. Write the opposite, which is what you will commit to.
3. Make it a goal that is specific as to what you will do, and by what time frame.
Let's do this! We got this!
Destress with me by making a commitment, and if you wanna, email it to me, and we can hold each other accountable.
Have a great day! Have a great week! I love you Sugah!
Elizabeth
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Hey hey, how are you? I hope you are super duper!
A little over a month ago I posted 'How To Destress' and then I posted 'Destress Your Life'
Today I want to talk about how to destress by making a commitment.
When we move from stress to destress we are making weak things strong, and we are moving away from things that give us stress, and we move towards things that will make us feel success.
What the heck is success? Many people think that success is related to money but in reality, success is defined by the person who will live it.
What does success mean to you? Whatever you said to answer that I can bet you a million bucks that whatever it is, it will make you happy. Better yet, you think it will make you happy.
In my mind, success means different things to different people, but it all boils down to happiness. Happiness equals success. I betcha I am right about that. How do I know? I know because everyone who I have ever talked to names the success for them and it is what makes them happy.
Okay, blah, blah, blah, back to how to destress by making a commitment.
Let's make weak things strong, shall we?
Pick one thing that you think that is your weakness, and you want to make it strong.
For example, do you worry? I ask that because worry is the culprit of stress. If you worry, and worry is stress, then worry is a weakness and you can make it strong by moving towards the opposite, which is faith.
My weakness, right now, is physical. There was a time, not so long ago, I would run three miles a day, and ride a bike about thirteen miles a day. What do I do now? Nada! Nada thing! Well, that is not entirely true. Last Monday, I started to walk five miles every morning in my effort to make a commitment to myself so that I may destress.
So, destress with me by picking something weak, and make a commitment to make it strong.
Have you picked the thing that is your weakness that you want to make strong?
Okay...
Let's make a commitment to change for the better.
First, write down your weakness. Mine is physical, I am out of shape.
Second, write down the opposite of the weakness, which is what you will commit to. Mine is, I will be in shape.
Third, write it out as a specific goal of what you will do by what time frame. Mine is, I will cut my walking time in half within thirty days, and I will ride my bike in the evening, for ten miles within 60 days. So, within the first thirty days I will be run/walking 5 miles in half the time, and within sixty days I will do the 5 miles by foot in the morning, and 10 miles by bike in the evening.
That's it!
1. Write your weakness.
2. Write the opposite, which is what you will commit to.
3. Make it a goal that is specific as to what you will do, and by what time frame.
Let's do this! We got this!
Destress with me by making a commitment, and if you wanna, email it to me, and we can hold each other accountable.
Have a great day! Have a great week! I love you Sugah!
Elizabeth
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Friday, April 12, 2013
How To Destress Ebook Promos On Amazon
How to destress eBook Promos on Amazon for both of my eBooks going on right now.
Hey there! How are you? I hope you are doing super duper. Please forgive me for blogging less than usual. The last two real blog posts I wrote were 'How To Destress' and 'Destress Your Life'.
I have no idea what it is, but I think I have writer's block. No lie!
I gotta make a commitment to make this weak thing strong. My weak thing is procrastinating blog posts.
Sure, sure, I have excuses but to me that just means I am excusing and rationalizing my responsibilities away.
Just in case you haven't bought one of me eBooks, and you wanted to, I am sharing with you the eBook promos available on Amazon right now. Enjoy...
Hey there! How are you? I hope you are doing super duper. Please forgive me for blogging less than usual. The last two real blog posts I wrote were 'How To Destress' and 'Destress Your Life'.
I have no idea what it is, but I think I have writer's block. No lie!
I gotta make a commitment to make this weak thing strong. My weak thing is procrastinating blog posts.
Sure, sure, I have excuses but to me that just means I am excusing and rationalizing my responsibilities away.
Just in case you haven't bought one of me eBooks, and you wanted to, I am sharing with you the eBook promos available on Amazon right now. Enjoy...
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Monday, April 8, 2013
EMS STRESS BOOK
Hello there...
Have you read my latest book? EMS Stress?
It is now available on Amazon.com, for all of you EMS Peeps...
Let me know what you think, and if you really want to be nice to Elizabeth, write me a lovely review.
Speak soon...
Elizabeth
Have you read my latest book? EMS Stress?
It is now available on Amazon.com, for all of you EMS Peeps...
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Speak soon...
Elizabeth
Monday, March 4, 2013
Destress Your Life
You can, without a doubt, destress your life, if you but take responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Hello there my friend. The day before yesterday I wrote about How To Destress, and the number one item was to take responsibility for your life.
When we take responsibility for our life, we are designing our life by desire, and not allowing it by default.
If we do not take responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, and actions, then things will happen to us by default.
Many years ago, my life was on autopilot because no one really showed me how to set and obtain goals. When I wanted something I went after it but, I did not aggressively set goals. About twenty years ago, I made the decision to take responsibility for my life, and my future, and constantly set goals, which means to always have at least three to six goals for my life.
Somewhere along the line of me setting and obtaining goals aggressively, and teaching stress relief, I discovered that a big part of accomplishing my desires is having control of my thoughts, feelings, and actions. This is so very important because, if I did not feel well about myself or life, I did not progress, and I became in the constant state of going nowhere.
How are you feeling about your life? How are you feeling about yourself? If you are addicted, angry, anxious, depressed, or hopeless about your future, your life, and you, I would plead with you to take responsibility for you thoughts, feelings, and actions, and learn how to feel better.
If I am not feeling well about life or myself, I look at the mood of my mind. If I am thinking negatively, I am not going to feel, or do, well, but if I am thinking positively, I feel, and do, better. Therefore, I intentionally create positive thoughts, and then positive feelings follow.
Having a passion, and a purpose really helps for a happier self, and a happier life. When I am living my passion and purpose (helping people with their stress), I feel magnificent, and I feel unstoppable. When I feel magnificent, and unstoppable, life is super duper allie ooper.
In order to take responsibility, one must know what they really want out of life. Do you know what you really want out of life? If you do, then write it down. Write down everything your heart desires, and be very very specific.
If you don't know what you want out of life, then seek out some help to find out. You can do this several ways; first, you can Google it. There is free resources to almost any answer on the internet. Nearly most websites will give free information so, Google, 'how do I find my passion, or purpose?' Keep at it by rephrasing the phrase, and reading all the information on the websites that pop up.
The second thing you can do is make a list of all the things you love to do, and search out that list for a possible way to spend time doing things you love. Maybe you can find your passion, and purpose, in that list.
Another thing you can do is ask for help. If you know someone who helps people find their passion, or purpose, get them to help you discover yours.
When you know what your desires are, you can design your life by constantly thinking about ways to obtain your desires. I would say, everyday make a list of six, which means list six things you can do everyday to move towards your desires, and then prioritize that list. At first, you don't even have to do anything on that list, just get in the habit of making that list. Eventually, you will have to make the decision to pursue the list, but by making the list, you begin the habit of designing your life, versus allowing crudola to happen by default.
Now that you have the skills to design your life by desire may I make a couple suggestions about taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Firstly, if you cannot get yourself to do any of the suggested above, chances are, your self-worth is shot all to heck. What I mean by that is, you do not think that you are even worth doing all this work for, and maybe you think, "Why do any of this, it won't work anyway?"
If you are thinking you are unworthy of a better life, do this...
Get a journal, or a blank notebook, and every night make a list of all the things you did that day. You could write that you got up, took a shower, brushed your teeth, went to work, helped this person or that person, and worked hard all day, etc. What this will do is retrain your brain to see that you do a lot, you accomplish many things, you are important, and you are worthy.
Another thing you can do is breath the mantra, "I am worthy." Breath it everyday, all day long. Inhale, "I am," and exhale, "worthy." And contemplate that mantra through out the day. This will help you think thoughts of your worthiness. This my friend, is taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions, which will destress your life.
Secondly, if you cannot get yourself to do any of the suggested above, it may be possible that you believe it will not work, or that you cannot do it. What this means is you may lack faith in yourself. By creating faith in yourself, you can accomplish a whole lotta lotta.
You, my friend, are the only one who can change your life for the better. You, my friend, are the only one who can make or break your life. There is an older person waiting for you, and that person is you. Will you be fifty and dissatisfied, or fifty and satisfied? Will you be sixty and self loathing, or will you be sixty and healthy? Will you be seventy and in crisis, or will you be seventy and accomplished? What you will do, is up to you!
Believe that you can be, do, or have anything you set your mind to. Breath the mantra, "I can do anything." Everyday, all day long, breath in, "I can," and breath out, "do anything." Take the time to make it a habit to contemplate that mantra, and how you can do anything. This will help you think thoughts of faith in yourself. This, my friend, is taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Thirdly, if you cannot get yourself to do any of the suggested above because you do not feel good due to anger, anxiety, drama, or depression, then seek help. The first, and foremost help one must seek due to emotional disruption is assistance from a Medical Doctor, or Mental Health Professional. Medication is a helper, not a solution, and maybe you need help with medication. In combination with the help of your doctor, if needed, you can create better habitual thoughts, feelings, and actions.
If you have anger, create thoughts of love for yourself, and others. Anger is like hate, and if you have a lot of it, you may hate yourself. When anger is a habit, it is like looking for things that you hate, or things that make you mad. Choose to look for things you love, and if you hate something, say you love it, and it will make you laugh. When we laugh, we can become more playful, and that will easily replace anger.
If you have anxiety, create thoughts of faith, in life, others, and yourself. Anxiety is created by fear and worry. The other day, this lady told me that she was diagnosed with nonspecific anxiety. Seriously!?! If you have any kind of anxiety, it is coming from a habitual way of thinking worry about the future, and you not being okay. Trust me, I have talked thousands of people out of anxiety, and it all boils down to worry, and a deep habit of it. If you learn to meditate, you can discover knowing that you are always safe, right here, and right now.
If you have drama, get help. Some people are addicted to drama, and it takes help to get out of that mess. What I mean my drama is serious disagreements in your relationships, whether at work or at home, and fighting with anyone, often.
Finally, if you have depression, the most powerful thing you can do, in conjunction with seeing a Medical Doctor or Mental Health Professional, is get a journal, and every morning write all of the things you are grateful for. Make this list as long as you can everyday, and try to write at least fifty items. This is amazing. Many of my clients do this, and they are usually cured of depression in a day or week, but if they stop, the depression often returns. If you have severe depression, do this list for a whole year, everyday, because it helps retrain focus towards what is good in life, rather than towards despair.
The last items I would like to discuss in order to take responsibility for you life, so you can destress your life are compliment, encourage, and motivate yourself.
It is very human nature to criticize, discourage, and dissuade. So when we live our lives on autopilot, we tend to hold these negative thoughts by default. Please take the time to intentionally compliment, encourage, and motivate yourself.
There is a voice in my head that always tells me things like, "Way to go Elizabeth!" "You got this!" "This is easy!" "I can do this!" "I want this!" This voice has been developed by me intentionally because I became aware of my own criticism, discouragement, and what I call laziness. I taught myself to be strong mentally, which makes me strong emotionally, and that provides a focused, organized, and productive me.
This voice of complimenting, encouraging, and motivating, is a voice I teach everyone I have the opportunity to, and sometimes they don't even know I am teaching them it.
Just to recap, here is a list for you to do, in order to take responsibility for your life so you can destress your life.
1) Write down what you want out of life, and be very specific.
2) If you don't know what you want, Google it, search it out in your mind, and/or get help finding out what you want.
3) Everyday, make the list of six, and prioritize it.
4) Everyday, do at least on thing on the list of six, and eventually progress to do as many things as possible.
5) Work on what ails you.
6) Think better thoughts by creating, and using a mantra
7) Feel better (because you are thinking better)
8) Act better (because you are thinking better, and feeling better)
9) Create an inner voice that compliments, encourages, and motivates
These items, my friend, are the keys to living life with design, and desire, rather than by default. These are the keys to begin to destress yourself.
Start small by choosing one thing on this list to work on, or start big and do them all. But whatever you do, take responsibility for your life, and just start something, now!
Have a wonderful week Sugah!
Elizabeth
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Hello there my friend. The day before yesterday I wrote about How To Destress, and the number one item was to take responsibility for your life.
When we take responsibility for our life, we are designing our life by desire, and not allowing it by default.
If we do not take responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, and actions, then things will happen to us by default.
Many years ago, my life was on autopilot because no one really showed me how to set and obtain goals. When I wanted something I went after it but, I did not aggressively set goals. About twenty years ago, I made the decision to take responsibility for my life, and my future, and constantly set goals, which means to always have at least three to six goals for my life.
Somewhere along the line of me setting and obtaining goals aggressively, and teaching stress relief, I discovered that a big part of accomplishing my desires is having control of my thoughts, feelings, and actions. This is so very important because, if I did not feel well about myself or life, I did not progress, and I became in the constant state of going nowhere.
How are you feeling about your life? How are you feeling about yourself? If you are addicted, angry, anxious, depressed, or hopeless about your future, your life, and you, I would plead with you to take responsibility for you thoughts, feelings, and actions, and learn how to feel better.
If I am not feeling well about life or myself, I look at the mood of my mind. If I am thinking negatively, I am not going to feel, or do, well, but if I am thinking positively, I feel, and do, better. Therefore, I intentionally create positive thoughts, and then positive feelings follow.
Having a passion, and a purpose really helps for a happier self, and a happier life. When I am living my passion and purpose (helping people with their stress), I feel magnificent, and I feel unstoppable. When I feel magnificent, and unstoppable, life is super duper allie ooper.
In order to take responsibility, one must know what they really want out of life. Do you know what you really want out of life? If you do, then write it down. Write down everything your heart desires, and be very very specific.
If you don't know what you want out of life, then seek out some help to find out. You can do this several ways; first, you can Google it. There is free resources to almost any answer on the internet. Nearly most websites will give free information so, Google, 'how do I find my passion, or purpose?' Keep at it by rephrasing the phrase, and reading all the information on the websites that pop up.
The second thing you can do is make a list of all the things you love to do, and search out that list for a possible way to spend time doing things you love. Maybe you can find your passion, and purpose, in that list.
Another thing you can do is ask for help. If you know someone who helps people find their passion, or purpose, get them to help you discover yours.
When you know what your desires are, you can design your life by constantly thinking about ways to obtain your desires. I would say, everyday make a list of six, which means list six things you can do everyday to move towards your desires, and then prioritize that list. At first, you don't even have to do anything on that list, just get in the habit of making that list. Eventually, you will have to make the decision to pursue the list, but by making the list, you begin the habit of designing your life, versus allowing crudola to happen by default.
Now that you have the skills to design your life by desire may I make a couple suggestions about taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Firstly, if you cannot get yourself to do any of the suggested above, chances are, your self-worth is shot all to heck. What I mean by that is, you do not think that you are even worth doing all this work for, and maybe you think, "Why do any of this, it won't work anyway?"
If you are thinking you are unworthy of a better life, do this...
Get a journal, or a blank notebook, and every night make a list of all the things you did that day. You could write that you got up, took a shower, brushed your teeth, went to work, helped this person or that person, and worked hard all day, etc. What this will do is retrain your brain to see that you do a lot, you accomplish many things, you are important, and you are worthy.
Another thing you can do is breath the mantra, "I am worthy." Breath it everyday, all day long. Inhale, "I am," and exhale, "worthy." And contemplate that mantra through out the day. This will help you think thoughts of your worthiness. This my friend, is taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions, which will destress your life.
Secondly, if you cannot get yourself to do any of the suggested above, it may be possible that you believe it will not work, or that you cannot do it. What this means is you may lack faith in yourself. By creating faith in yourself, you can accomplish a whole lotta lotta.
You, my friend, are the only one who can change your life for the better. You, my friend, are the only one who can make or break your life. There is an older person waiting for you, and that person is you. Will you be fifty and dissatisfied, or fifty and satisfied? Will you be sixty and self loathing, or will you be sixty and healthy? Will you be seventy and in crisis, or will you be seventy and accomplished? What you will do, is up to you!
Believe that you can be, do, or have anything you set your mind to. Breath the mantra, "I can do anything." Everyday, all day long, breath in, "I can," and breath out, "do anything." Take the time to make it a habit to contemplate that mantra, and how you can do anything. This will help you think thoughts of faith in yourself. This, my friend, is taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Thirdly, if you cannot get yourself to do any of the suggested above because you do not feel good due to anger, anxiety, drama, or depression, then seek help. The first, and foremost help one must seek due to emotional disruption is assistance from a Medical Doctor, or Mental Health Professional. Medication is a helper, not a solution, and maybe you need help with medication. In combination with the help of your doctor, if needed, you can create better habitual thoughts, feelings, and actions.
If you have anger, create thoughts of love for yourself, and others. Anger is like hate, and if you have a lot of it, you may hate yourself. When anger is a habit, it is like looking for things that you hate, or things that make you mad. Choose to look for things you love, and if you hate something, say you love it, and it will make you laugh. When we laugh, we can become more playful, and that will easily replace anger.
If you have anxiety, create thoughts of faith, in life, others, and yourself. Anxiety is created by fear and worry. The other day, this lady told me that she was diagnosed with nonspecific anxiety. Seriously!?! If you have any kind of anxiety, it is coming from a habitual way of thinking worry about the future, and you not being okay. Trust me, I have talked thousands of people out of anxiety, and it all boils down to worry, and a deep habit of it. If you learn to meditate, you can discover knowing that you are always safe, right here, and right now.
If you have drama, get help. Some people are addicted to drama, and it takes help to get out of that mess. What I mean my drama is serious disagreements in your relationships, whether at work or at home, and fighting with anyone, often.
Finally, if you have depression, the most powerful thing you can do, in conjunction with seeing a Medical Doctor or Mental Health Professional, is get a journal, and every morning write all of the things you are grateful for. Make this list as long as you can everyday, and try to write at least fifty items. This is amazing. Many of my clients do this, and they are usually cured of depression in a day or week, but if they stop, the depression often returns. If you have severe depression, do this list for a whole year, everyday, because it helps retrain focus towards what is good in life, rather than towards despair.
The last items I would like to discuss in order to take responsibility for you life, so you can destress your life are compliment, encourage, and motivate yourself.
It is very human nature to criticize, discourage, and dissuade. So when we live our lives on autopilot, we tend to hold these negative thoughts by default. Please take the time to intentionally compliment, encourage, and motivate yourself.
There is a voice in my head that always tells me things like, "Way to go Elizabeth!" "You got this!" "This is easy!" "I can do this!" "I want this!" This voice has been developed by me intentionally because I became aware of my own criticism, discouragement, and what I call laziness. I taught myself to be strong mentally, which makes me strong emotionally, and that provides a focused, organized, and productive me.
This voice of complimenting, encouraging, and motivating, is a voice I teach everyone I have the opportunity to, and sometimes they don't even know I am teaching them it.
Just to recap, here is a list for you to do, in order to take responsibility for your life so you can destress your life.
1) Write down what you want out of life, and be very specific.
2) If you don't know what you want, Google it, search it out in your mind, and/or get help finding out what you want.
3) Everyday, make the list of six, and prioritize it.
4) Everyday, do at least on thing on the list of six, and eventually progress to do as many things as possible.
5) Work on what ails you.
6) Think better thoughts by creating, and using a mantra
7) Feel better (because you are thinking better)
8) Act better (because you are thinking better, and feeling better)
9) Create an inner voice that compliments, encourages, and motivates
These items, my friend, are the keys to living life with design, and desire, rather than by default. These are the keys to begin to destress yourself.
Start small by choosing one thing on this list to work on, or start big and do them all. But whatever you do, take responsibility for your life, and just start something, now!
Have a wonderful week Sugah!
Elizabeth
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Saturday, March 2, 2013
How To Destress
How To Destress is my specialization, and this week I want to provide a detailed step by step process on how to do it.
Hello there my friend. How are you this lovely Saturday morning? I am fantastico. About to get ready to help a friend. It's gonna be fun, and I love fun.
I have been blogging for over 6 1/2 years, and it took me about one year to really get traffic and to really start helping people out. Believe it or not, when I started to get busy, I would get upwards of over 50 emails a day, and over the weekend I could get over 150. The reason I tell you that is because I have the greatest opportunity in the universe to help people all over the world with stress.
If you are stressed, the best thing you can do is learn how to destress, and I want to delineate a list of things that must be done, and then through out the week, I will talk about each item in detail. Why am I doing this? Well, I love to help people with stress because stress causes misery, and the other reason is I feel like I have neglected my blog readers lately. I have been so busy, I rarely blog anymore on a regular basis.
So...
Here is the list of things that you can do if you wanna know how to destress.
1. Take responsibility for your life. When we take responsibility for our life, we are truly making things happen for ourselves rather than letting what may come, come by default. The way we take responsibility is by choosing, and being more intentional with, our thoughts, feelings, and actions. If you feel bad the majority of the time you will have stress. If you feel bad the majority of the time, your thoughts are, by default, thinking negatively.
2. Make a commitment to your change. If you are unhappy, angry, anxious, or depressed, you are the only one who can change it. We all know that statement is true, but how many of us really do anything about it? If you are unhappy, angry, anxious, or depressed, you might want to do a little more for yourself than what you are doing now, and that takes a commitment. I always tell my clients, and readers, to make at least a 90 day commitment to change their thoughts, feelings, and actions intentionally. Although, this is a life long commitment, we have to start somewhere, and 90 days is a good place. I commit to myself everyday, all day long, for a stress free me.
3. Have an open mind. When we have an open mind, we are teachable, and willing to try new things. If you are unhappy, angry, anxious, or depressed, you are stressed. If you are stressed, what you are doing is probably not working, and therefore, having an open mind, being teachable, and being willing to try new things like meditation (quieting the worried stressful mind), affirmations (intentionally being faithful and hopeful), and creating intentional visualizations (thinking about the best instead of playing the worst possible scenario out in your mind over and over), you can, and will, help you make a stress free you.
4. Create faith. Oh baby, this is important, oh so very important, in learning how to destress. The opposite of faith is fear, i.e. worry. Fear is the trigger of the fight or flight response, which is the stress response. When we have fear, or worry, we trigger this response. If we have fear, or worry, on a regular basis, we trigger this response on a regular basis. Triggering the fight or flight response on a regular basis is unhealthy because it shifts our bodily functions, which ultimately increases the blood pressure, and heart rate, imbalances the hormones, and slows, or shuts down our immune system. This unhealthy response reeks havoc on the body, which basically creates illnesses. The fight or flight response is in our body to save us from a life or death situation, not everyday situations.
5. Have hope. The opposite of hope is hopelessness, which creates depression. Depression is the opposite of happiness. True success is our ability to create happiness, which comes from the self. When happiness comes from within, we can be happy at anytime, and anywhere.
Happiness does not come from food, TV, money, shopping, others, or addictions. Happiness comes from knowing your worth, and your capabilities. Happiness comes from being connected to your soul, and knowing what is important. Happiness comes from the thoughts that you regularly think, so if you think lack, you will feel unhappy.
People are always trying to monetize me, or improve my looks, which is so silly because money, and me being better looking does not make me happy. Most people think that money, and being better looking creates happiness. That kind of happiness is an illusion. Sure money is nice, and looking good makes me feel good but what if I measure my happiness on how many people I help, so that they can be happy? What if I think that I am perfect, and I don't need to improve? Sure improvement is good, but focusing on my qualities, rather than criticizing myself, is better thinking for happiness, and hope. Thoughts like that make me happy, and thoughts like that come from me.
6. Be charitable; in other words, have charity. Charity is the pure love of Christ, which is unconditional love. There are so many stressed out people who hate so easily, and the only thing that does is make themselves feel like shizola, i.e. poop. Hating easily is unconditional hate. The opposite of hate is charity. Charity is love, understanding, and an attitude of service. Hate is just an attitude of looking for a reason to feel bad. Move towards love, and you will feel better, or move towards hate, and feel like a poop.
7. Become connected to God. I have helped thousands of people in crisis, and despair, and the number one remedy is connecting people back to God. I say back to God because when we are in crisis, or despair, we are not connected to God, and that is how we get into the crisis. This is very deep because there is no other greater comfort than what God gives. I know that this is so, and I see it with every person I help.
The very few people who do not believe in God, that I help, are continuously coming back to me for stress, because they do not get the stress relief from connecting to God, and that is just my experience. Also, there are people who say they believe in God, but don't act like it, which is the same as not believing.
I know a person, who happens to be the most stressed out person I know, who professes to believe in God, but has absolutely no faith, hope, or charity. Well, maybe a little sometimes. But if that person really believed in God, that person would, without a doubt, have, or at least try to have, faith, hope, and charity.
People who do believe in God, that I help, get skills for life when they reconnect to God, and they rarely return for ways to destress. Connecting to God is knowing, or remembering rather, the purpose of life, what is important, and no matter what, everything is gonna be just fine. Not just fine, but super duper allie ooper.
Okay, so there is my pithy post about how to destress. Stay tuned for each item in detail, coming soon, on a blog near you. He he he...
Have a great weekend my friend, I love you, I truly do, and I want nothing but happiness, and joy for you.
BIG HUGSSSS....
Elizabeth
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Hello there my friend. How are you this lovely Saturday morning? I am fantastico. About to get ready to help a friend. It's gonna be fun, and I love fun.
I have been blogging for over 6 1/2 years, and it took me about one year to really get traffic and to really start helping people out. Believe it or not, when I started to get busy, I would get upwards of over 50 emails a day, and over the weekend I could get over 150. The reason I tell you that is because I have the greatest opportunity in the universe to help people all over the world with stress.
If you are stressed, the best thing you can do is learn how to destress, and I want to delineate a list of things that must be done, and then through out the week, I will talk about each item in detail. Why am I doing this? Well, I love to help people with stress because stress causes misery, and the other reason is I feel like I have neglected my blog readers lately. I have been so busy, I rarely blog anymore on a regular basis.
So...
Here is the list of things that you can do if you wanna know how to destress.
1. Take responsibility for your life. When we take responsibility for our life, we are truly making things happen for ourselves rather than letting what may come, come by default. The way we take responsibility is by choosing, and being more intentional with, our thoughts, feelings, and actions. If you feel bad the majority of the time you will have stress. If you feel bad the majority of the time, your thoughts are, by default, thinking negatively.
2. Make a commitment to your change. If you are unhappy, angry, anxious, or depressed, you are the only one who can change it. We all know that statement is true, but how many of us really do anything about it? If you are unhappy, angry, anxious, or depressed, you might want to do a little more for yourself than what you are doing now, and that takes a commitment. I always tell my clients, and readers, to make at least a 90 day commitment to change their thoughts, feelings, and actions intentionally. Although, this is a life long commitment, we have to start somewhere, and 90 days is a good place. I commit to myself everyday, all day long, for a stress free me.
3. Have an open mind. When we have an open mind, we are teachable, and willing to try new things. If you are unhappy, angry, anxious, or depressed, you are stressed. If you are stressed, what you are doing is probably not working, and therefore, having an open mind, being teachable, and being willing to try new things like meditation (quieting the worried stressful mind), affirmations (intentionally being faithful and hopeful), and creating intentional visualizations (thinking about the best instead of playing the worst possible scenario out in your mind over and over), you can, and will, help you make a stress free you.
4. Create faith. Oh baby, this is important, oh so very important, in learning how to destress. The opposite of faith is fear, i.e. worry. Fear is the trigger of the fight or flight response, which is the stress response. When we have fear, or worry, we trigger this response. If we have fear, or worry, on a regular basis, we trigger this response on a regular basis. Triggering the fight or flight response on a regular basis is unhealthy because it shifts our bodily functions, which ultimately increases the blood pressure, and heart rate, imbalances the hormones, and slows, or shuts down our immune system. This unhealthy response reeks havoc on the body, which basically creates illnesses. The fight or flight response is in our body to save us from a life or death situation, not everyday situations.
5. Have hope. The opposite of hope is hopelessness, which creates depression. Depression is the opposite of happiness. True success is our ability to create happiness, which comes from the self. When happiness comes from within, we can be happy at anytime, and anywhere.
Happiness does not come from food, TV, money, shopping, others, or addictions. Happiness comes from knowing your worth, and your capabilities. Happiness comes from being connected to your soul, and knowing what is important. Happiness comes from the thoughts that you regularly think, so if you think lack, you will feel unhappy.
People are always trying to monetize me, or improve my looks, which is so silly because money, and me being better looking does not make me happy. Most people think that money, and being better looking creates happiness. That kind of happiness is an illusion. Sure money is nice, and looking good makes me feel good but what if I measure my happiness on how many people I help, so that they can be happy? What if I think that I am perfect, and I don't need to improve? Sure improvement is good, but focusing on my qualities, rather than criticizing myself, is better thinking for happiness, and hope. Thoughts like that make me happy, and thoughts like that come from me.
6. Be charitable; in other words, have charity. Charity is the pure love of Christ, which is unconditional love. There are so many stressed out people who hate so easily, and the only thing that does is make themselves feel like shizola, i.e. poop. Hating easily is unconditional hate. The opposite of hate is charity. Charity is love, understanding, and an attitude of service. Hate is just an attitude of looking for a reason to feel bad. Move towards love, and you will feel better, or move towards hate, and feel like a poop.
7. Become connected to God. I have helped thousands of people in crisis, and despair, and the number one remedy is connecting people back to God. I say back to God because when we are in crisis, or despair, we are not connected to God, and that is how we get into the crisis. This is very deep because there is no other greater comfort than what God gives. I know that this is so, and I see it with every person I help.
The very few people who do not believe in God, that I help, are continuously coming back to me for stress, because they do not get the stress relief from connecting to God, and that is just my experience. Also, there are people who say they believe in God, but don't act like it, which is the same as not believing.
I know a person, who happens to be the most stressed out person I know, who professes to believe in God, but has absolutely no faith, hope, or charity. Well, maybe a little sometimes. But if that person really believed in God, that person would, without a doubt, have, or at least try to have, faith, hope, and charity.
People who do believe in God, that I help, get skills for life when they reconnect to God, and they rarely return for ways to destress. Connecting to God is knowing, or remembering rather, the purpose of life, what is important, and no matter what, everything is gonna be just fine. Not just fine, but super duper allie ooper.
Okay, so there is my pithy post about how to destress. Stay tuned for each item in detail, coming soon, on a blog near you. He he he...
Have a great weekend my friend, I love you, I truly do, and I want nothing but happiness, and joy for you.
BIG HUGSSSS....
Elizabeth
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If you need help, email me, I would love to hear from you and help you in any way I can.
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Monday, February 25, 2013
HOW TO MANAGE STRESS
How to manage stress is a very popular subject these days. If you have work stress you can read, in more detail, on how to manage work stress by clicking here. Today, I would like to provide two small lists on the things you can do to manage stress, because stress is high. How do I know stress is high? I know stress is high because of the traffic to my blog, and websites, and because of the conversations people are having.
When we are experiencing stress, we benefit by evaluating our habits. The habits I am talking about are the basics; eating right, exercising, and getting plenty of sleep.
How to Manage Stress List #1: Basic Stress Management
1. Eat right
2. Exercise daily
3. Get plenty of rest
When we look at the list above, we can evaluate our success for destressing. Eating right, exercising daily, and getting plenty of rest, helps create energy, and it takes energy to manage stress.
Another thing we can do when experiencing stress is evaluate what we are thinking, feeling, and doing.
How to Manage Stress List #2: Advanced Stress Management
1. Practice thinking with calm, certainty, and confidence
2. Practice feeling good about the self by focusing on what is good, not what is bad, in life
3. Practice making a to do list of six (or seven), everyday, prioritizing the list, and producing based on priority
We can look at the list above, and we can evaluate our successful habits. Thinking, feeling, and doing with focus, organization, and productivity will certainly destress anyone. It takes focus, organization, and productivity to feel good when we are stressed out. It takes intentionally thinking right, feeling right, and doing right to manage stress.
Well, I just wanted to provide a few things to think about on how to manage stress to start your week off on the right foot, just in case you are feeling a little bit stressed out. We can get so busy, and a little reminding always helps.
You can also read my book, "Stress Free: How to Destress Via Stress Test and Stress Relief." It provides a way to evaluate your stressful habits and turn them into successful practices so that you can learn how to destress on a regular basis.
Have a great week my friend...
Have fun!!!
Be playful!!!
Live the life you were meant to live!!!
Love you lots...
Elizabeth
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When we are experiencing stress, we benefit by evaluating our habits. The habits I am talking about are the basics; eating right, exercising, and getting plenty of sleep.
How to Manage Stress List #1: Basic Stress Management
1. Eat right
2. Exercise daily
3. Get plenty of rest
When we look at the list above, we can evaluate our success for destressing. Eating right, exercising daily, and getting plenty of rest, helps create energy, and it takes energy to manage stress.
Another thing we can do when experiencing stress is evaluate what we are thinking, feeling, and doing.
How to Manage Stress List #2: Advanced Stress Management
1. Practice thinking with calm, certainty, and confidence
2. Practice feeling good about the self by focusing on what is good, not what is bad, in life
3. Practice making a to do list of six (or seven), everyday, prioritizing the list, and producing based on priority
We can look at the list above, and we can evaluate our successful habits. Thinking, feeling, and doing with focus, organization, and productivity will certainly destress anyone. It takes focus, organization, and productivity to feel good when we are stressed out. It takes intentionally thinking right, feeling right, and doing right to manage stress.
Well, I just wanted to provide a few things to think about on how to manage stress to start your week off on the right foot, just in case you are feeling a little bit stressed out. We can get so busy, and a little reminding always helps.
You can also read my book, "Stress Free: How to Destress Via Stress Test and Stress Relief." It provides a way to evaluate your stressful habits and turn them into successful practices so that you can learn how to destress on a regular basis.
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Have a great week my friend...
Have fun!!!
Be playful!!!
Live the life you were meant to live!!!
Love you lots...
Elizabeth
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Thursday, February 21, 2013
HOW TO DESTRESS WORK STRESS
Work stress is huge these days. Many people are doing the work for more than one, and that adds stress. In addition to the workload stress, there is boss stress. That's funny; boss stress.
One thing I know for sure is the traffic to my blog starts to increase on Thursday night, increases a little more on Friday, decreases just a tad on Saturday, and then is up, up, up on Sunday night, and Monday. This trend tells me that there is work stress, and besides the fact that people come to me about crazy bosses, and crazy workloads.
So, what does one do when they have work stress?
The first thing, I would suggest, is to evaluate what you are thinking.
When it comes to workload, do you say things like, "I am so overwhelmed," or, "I don't know how I am going to handle all of this?" When we have this type of mindset about work, or anything for that matter, we tend to place fear in our thoughts. The fight or flight response in stress is based on fear. We fight or flee when we are in danger, and when we think thoughts of fear, the reaction is very similar to the fight or flight response. This causes a whole lotta stress.
In addition, when we say things like this, it is not the truth. You can handle it! And that is what kind of thoughts we must cultivate to handle our stress.
Look at the evidence my friend, you are amazing, and magnificent, therefore you can handle it. How do I know? Because you are God's child, and He is your Father, and that alone makes you amazing, and magnificent.
When it comes to dealing with an outright unkind, and unlikable boss, it is very stressful.
Do you have an unkind boss? Unkind is just a nice way of saying other unkind words but I bet you have some excellent adjectives if you have a mean boss.
I've had a couple of outright suckey bosses myself, and that stuff is no fun at all.
The thing about icky bosses is, they seem to consume our minds with anger, nervousness, and the unwillingness to like work. I say unwillingness because when we have horrible bosses, we tend to focus on that, and nothing else. But, if we become aware that there is about a thousand things we like about our job, and that the boss is only one thing that we don't like, we tend to remember the good, and we focus on what is great.
If you have an icky boss, may I suggest you help yourself remember what is good, or great, about your job by making a list of all the things you love about it. This will help you focus on the good, and not the one bad.
Now, if you do not enjoy your work, or your boss, and there is not one thing you like about your career, it is time to put the goals in motion to move on. You must do what you can do to make YOU happy. I am certainly not saying just to up and quit your job. What I am saying is, get your bootay in gear and focus on looking for another job slash career.
You can do it, and it will make you feel better because it will raise your hope. You are the most important person to you. You are the only one who will make or break your life. You are an amazing being who can be, do, or have anything if your heart desires it enough. So desire it my friend.
Okay, so, if your job is super duper and if you just want to destress at the end of the week from work stress, may I please suggest meditation, affirmations, and visualizations. I am always preaching this stuff because it works. You can learn how to do any of these practices by clicking here.
Also, a great way to destress from work stress is to recharge spiritually. We go and go and go, and sometimes we do not recharge spiritually, or emotionally, mentally, and/or physically. But we need to recharge, and the best way to recharge spiritually is to get to church on Sunday.
People are very ritualistic when it comes to going to church, I know I am, and I am because I know the great benefits of having a spectacular week, especially because I am recharged with love. It works you know? This church stuff.
Recap...
Evaluate your thoughts of doubt that you can or can't handle things. YOU GOT THIS! YOU CAN HANDLE ANYTHING BECAUSE YOU ARE A BAD ARS!
Focus on the good in life, and at work. Don't forget to write a list of the great things at work, and in life.
Meditate and quiet the racing mind.
Affirm what you want! You are worthy of, and deserve, to be calm, confident, and certain in your safety.
Visualize what you want, and see yourself in it because that gives way to faith and hope for you and your future. Visualization is a motivator, and it is an encourager for you and your future.
Get to church ;)
Oh, and read my new book ;)
Have a great weekend!
Elizabeth
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One thing I know for sure is the traffic to my blog starts to increase on Thursday night, increases a little more on Friday, decreases just a tad on Saturday, and then is up, up, up on Sunday night, and Monday. This trend tells me that there is work stress, and besides the fact that people come to me about crazy bosses, and crazy workloads.
So, what does one do when they have work stress?
The first thing, I would suggest, is to evaluate what you are thinking.
When it comes to workload, do you say things like, "I am so overwhelmed," or, "I don't know how I am going to handle all of this?" When we have this type of mindset about work, or anything for that matter, we tend to place fear in our thoughts. The fight or flight response in stress is based on fear. We fight or flee when we are in danger, and when we think thoughts of fear, the reaction is very similar to the fight or flight response. This causes a whole lotta stress.
In addition, when we say things like this, it is not the truth. You can handle it! And that is what kind of thoughts we must cultivate to handle our stress.
Look at the evidence my friend, you are amazing, and magnificent, therefore you can handle it. How do I know? Because you are God's child, and He is your Father, and that alone makes you amazing, and magnificent.
When it comes to dealing with an outright unkind, and unlikable boss, it is very stressful.
Do you have an unkind boss? Unkind is just a nice way of saying other unkind words but I bet you have some excellent adjectives if you have a mean boss.
I've had a couple of outright suckey bosses myself, and that stuff is no fun at all.
The thing about icky bosses is, they seem to consume our minds with anger, nervousness, and the unwillingness to like work. I say unwillingness because when we have horrible bosses, we tend to focus on that, and nothing else. But, if we become aware that there is about a thousand things we like about our job, and that the boss is only one thing that we don't like, we tend to remember the good, and we focus on what is great.
If you have an icky boss, may I suggest you help yourself remember what is good, or great, about your job by making a list of all the things you love about it. This will help you focus on the good, and not the one bad.
Now, if you do not enjoy your work, or your boss, and there is not one thing you like about your career, it is time to put the goals in motion to move on. You must do what you can do to make YOU happy. I am certainly not saying just to up and quit your job. What I am saying is, get your bootay in gear and focus on looking for another job slash career.
You can do it, and it will make you feel better because it will raise your hope. You are the most important person to you. You are the only one who will make or break your life. You are an amazing being who can be, do, or have anything if your heart desires it enough. So desire it my friend.
Okay, so, if your job is super duper and if you just want to destress at the end of the week from work stress, may I please suggest meditation, affirmations, and visualizations. I am always preaching this stuff because it works. You can learn how to do any of these practices by clicking here.
Also, a great way to destress from work stress is to recharge spiritually. We go and go and go, and sometimes we do not recharge spiritually, or emotionally, mentally, and/or physically. But we need to recharge, and the best way to recharge spiritually is to get to church on Sunday.
People are very ritualistic when it comes to going to church, I know I am, and I am because I know the great benefits of having a spectacular week, especially because I am recharged with love. It works you know? This church stuff.
Recap...
Evaluate your thoughts of doubt that you can or can't handle things. YOU GOT THIS! YOU CAN HANDLE ANYTHING BECAUSE YOU ARE A BAD ARS!
Focus on the good in life, and at work. Don't forget to write a list of the great things at work, and in life.
Meditate and quiet the racing mind.
Affirm what you want! You are worthy of, and deserve, to be calm, confident, and certain in your safety.
Visualize what you want, and see yourself in it because that gives way to faith and hope for you and your future. Visualization is a motivator, and it is an encourager for you and your future.
Get to church ;)
Oh, and read my new book ;)
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Have a great weekend!
Elizabeth
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