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Monday, July 25, 2016

Are You In Crisis Mode?

Crisis mode is what I wanna discuss this day.

Hello there my beautiful friend. How are you? It is my prayer that you are enjoying every minute of your life but if you are not, then this post just may help you.

What is a crisis?

A crisis is when an individual is experiencing an emergency of some sort.

A crisis is when a catastrophe or disaster has hit.

What is crisis mode?

It is an emotional, mental, and physical reaction to a presented crisis.

Are you experiencing a crisis? A catastrophic event? A major disaster?

If you are, please let me speak words to you that will bring you from crisis to calm right this moment.

First of all, you are very very very important to those around you, and you are very loved. Sometimes we don't believe that but it's true. People in your life love you, and if they aren't showing you that they love you the way you want them to it's only because they only show love the way they know how to.

Second, do not go through this crisis alone. Please, please, please choose at least one person you trust to just listen to you and support you. If you do not believe this person exists, and you do not believe anyone is there for you then, if I were you, I would get down on my knees, pour my heart and soul out to God, and ask Him to help.

If you, do not believe in God, for what ever reason, here is your chance to be proven wrong.

I have struggled the pains of crisis, and the most deepest moments of despair, every time I have turned to God, from my knees, and He has comforted me. This is how I know deep down in my soul that God is real.

If you are truly alone, this is the perfect time to test your theory about God, and just watch the comfort come.

God never ever ever promised this life would be easy but He did, and does, promise that He will comfort you when you turn to Him.

Third, you are going to get through this! You are a very strong person, and you quite possibly have been through worse than this and made it through. Keep encouraging yourself with the words, "I'm going to get through this, and I can do this!"

So often we look to others to encourage us when we can do it for ourselves. 

You got this!

You can do this!

You can handle this!

You are a friggen warrior!

You are a child of the most high God, and He has your back!

Fourth, you are never alone! If you think you are alone, you are wrong. There are unseen forces beyond the veil of life and death. You have guardian angels, people who have left this life, who are watching out for you.

I know, I know, I sound friggen cray cray crazy but! But!!! It is true... That is all I can tell you.

Fifth, and finally, you are safe right now. Your mind may tell you otherwise but if you are able to sit and read this blog post, I would venture to say you are safe in this moment.

Our mind tells us we are in crisis because of our fear of what the future holds but often we are not in crisis mode at all. Often, it is our mind that tells us we are in an emergency state.

Now if your neighborhood is on fire, or there is a mad man with a machete in the house, then you are definitely in crisis mode. Otherwise, if there is not an immediate impending doom then you are alright at this moment, right?

Could it be possible that you are living in a state of fear when in reality you are alright?

Could it be possible that you are practicing anger, anxiety, depression, doubt, fear, or worry and you are getting really really good at it with great momentum?

Either way, practice knowing that you will be alright.

I know that you will be alright. I don't even know you, and I know you will be alright.

How do I know this? Because life is full of stuff that we love and don't love, and no matter what we always manage to make it. It all depends on how we are looking at things that determines if we make it through with difficulty or ease.

I have no idea what you may be going through but I do know that you are going to make it through it.

Have faith my friend!

Hope for better things and better times!

Be kind to yourself, and believe in you!

You are so very important!

Do not go through this alone!

You are going to get through this!

You are never alone!

You are safe right now!

Believe me when I say, you are getting better and better at knowing all of these statements I have just proclaimed! I know that this is so because that is what life is all about.

God bless you my friend!

I love you...

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Friday, July 22, 2016

Destressing Alcohol Addiction

Destressing Alcohol Addiction is what I would like to discuss this day.

Hello there my friend. How are you? I pray that you are happy, healthy, and feeling love in your life.

In my last post I wrote about Destressing Addiction, and I received a couple emails about alcohol addiction so I decided I would talk about that today.

First of all, I want to define alcoholism. If you have been reading my blog for a while you must know I have my own definitions for words like alcoholism, and addiction. There are definitions for the word alcoholic by professionals who research, study, and write about it but I'm gonna give you my definition.

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Okay, so an alcoholic is someone who is unable to stop their drinking. It could be on a daily basis where the person just has to have a drink every day or it could be on an occasional basis where the person can't stop drinking on that occasion. Does that make sense?

If a person has there mind on alcohol through out the day, and is thinking they can't wait until they have a drink, he or she is an alcoholic.

If a person is drinking at anytime, and they can't stop, he or she is an alcoholic. For example, if someone is out to dinner, or at a special occasion like a wedding or party, and he or she is drinking, and keeps drinking without the ability to stop, he or she is an alcoholic.

In my last post on destressing addiction, I explained that an addiction is something we are unable to quit.

So, if you are an alcoholic, how do you destress your addiction?

The most important thing is awareness. What do I mean by awareness? 

Awareness is a knowing the truth rather defending one's behavior. 

Let's say you have a story in your mind why you must drink. This story may be that alcohol helps you relax, or it makes you feel better. These stories may be true in a way but, if you really seek the truth then you are able to see that addiction to alcohol makes things worse, not better.

If alcohol helps a person relax and feel better how does it make things worse? It's an instant gratification versus a long term satisfaction. Alcohol causes long term dissatisfaction.

In my nearly fifty two years of living, I have known my share of alcoholics, and they, and the people that are around them, are truly miserable individuals. 

In my nearly fifty two years of living, I have learned that alcohol only hurts, and never helps with the exception of instant gratification of numbing, and momentary relaxation.

Knowing this truth about alcohol is awareness. Nearly everyone I have dealt with knows this and yet those who drink continue to drink because addiction is real.

Awareness is also knowing that habitual thoughts can heal or hurt the self.

When an individual thinks thoughts like, "I can't wait to have a drink," or, "I need a drink," or, "I have to have a drink," they are living with habitual repetitive thoughts that are hurtful mantras.

If we are aware of these thoughts, we are able to turn them around with healing intentional mantras like, "I don't need a drink today," or "I don't need a drink," or, "I don't have to have a drink today."

This may be so very simple to you that you may be thinking, "That shit ain't gonna work." But guess what? It will work! If you are an alcoholic that can't go a day without drinking, and if you do this, you will find days you will go without drinking.

No shit! Seriously! Sorry about the cuss words but I just want to deliver emphasis.

I want to provide emphasis because NO THING, NOT ONE THING, good comes from drinking alcohol. Matter of fact, I believe there are more direct and indirect deaths caused by alcohol than smoking causes cancer.

Not only does alcohol cause death, it causes destruction of peoples' lives and property. It causes devastation of lives, and it causes divorce, which is a very specific devastation of MANY lives.

Awareness is the key to destressing alcohol addiction!

If you are an alcoholic, begin destressing yourself with awareness, healthy intentional mantras, and watch yourself drink a little less. Drinking a little less is so very powerful because it will show you that you can, and will, not only slow the process of drinking but, eventually quit the drinking.

One last thing...

In early stages of alcoholism, many people believe that everything is hunky dory because they have not lost anything yet. Is that you? If it is, let me ask you this...

Are you in the constant state of going nowhere? In other words, are you in the same place you were last year, two years ago, three years ago, or five years ago?

Better yet, are you in a worse place than you were in last year, two years ago, or five years ago?

If the answer is yes, and you are a drinker, I would urge you to consider destressing your alcohol addiction with awareness, healthy intentional mantras, and the beginnings of watching yourself drink a little less.

In my nearly fifty two years of living I can tell you this... I have meditated for over sixteen years, and I have overcome nearly every hurtful addiction through my awareness of my thoughts, feelings, and actions. Yes! Even alcoholism. 

Life is suppose to get better and better!

Life is suppose to be fun!

Life is suppose to be joy!

I believe with all my heart and soul that life can, and will, get better and better, be more fun, and have more joy for anyone who develops the art of meditation as a regular exercise in their life.

And that is why I want to teach the world to meditate. But first, I have to convince them to.

If I have convinced you, and/or you'd love to learn how to practice awareness, you may click on Meditation for an Addiction Free Mind.

Currently, this meditation audio is on sale for under $5, for a very short time, so that you may be enticed to change your life through meditation.

That's all I got!

If you are a drinker, I hope and pray I have touched your desire to destress your alcohol addiction.

I love you... You know I do!

God bless you my friend...

Speak soon!


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Saturday, July 9, 2016

Destressing Addiction

Destressing addiction is what I'd like to discuss this day.

Hello there, my friend. How are you on this beautiful day in July? I pray you are doing alright. It is always my prayer that you are not only doing alright, but that you are doing better and better everyday.

In order to destress from an addiction there are a couple of things we ought to know first. Actually, there are three things and they are first what an addiction is, second why we are addicted, and third the very first step we can take to relieve ourselves from it.

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An addiction is a habit that we have that has such great momentum we can't quit it. There are healthy addictions, and unhealthy addictions.

Some healthy addictions are eating right, exercising, getting plenty of rest, relaxing, good hygiene, and being kind. These are things that some of us do that we simply cannot quit because the habit of it has such great momentum.

Some not so healthy addictions include alcohol, anger, anxiety, debt, depression, drama, drugs, eating way to much, gambling, insomnia, meanness, and worry.

I understand that you may be saying that your anger, anxiety, depression, drama, insomnia, meanness, worry, and/or any of the other things I mentioned are not addictions. Believe me, I get that but, if an addiction is something that you cannot quit then just consider the thought for now. Consider that if you have an unhealthy behavior, and you are unable to stop it that it quite possibly is an addiction.

Now, the reason why we are addicted is because we start something, it becomes a habit, and then our subconscious mind kicks in and solidifies it with great momentum.

Our subconscious mind is our habitual mind, and it is there to help us and it does that by the sustaining of the idea that if we practice something a lot, we will get nearly perfect at it.

Consider your daily behavior like getting up, brushing your teeth, eating breakfast, getting ready for the day, and driving to work. You have done this so often that you are nearly perfect at it and you could even do it in your sleep. This is all possible because of the subconscious mind sustains habits.

Before I discuss the step to relieve the self from addiction I just want to share how you may tell the difference between a healthy addiction and a not so healthy addiction. A healthy addiction makes you feel really really good about yourself. A not so healthy addiction may make you feel really really good at first but then it ultimately makes you feel really really not so good about yourself.

A good example of a not so healthy addiction is drinking alcohol. Alcoholics love that first drink but, in the middle of the drinking, and there after he or she feels horrible about his or her self because it may be ruining the family, finances, relationships, and the career. Trust me, alcoholics verbally beat themselves up for drinking. It's a love hate relationship. They love the alcohol but hate themselves for not being able to quit.

It is the absolute same thing with any behavior we want to quit deep down in our heart but are, for some crazy reason, unable to.

The unhealthy addiction is the thing that you can't quit and you are not liking yourself so much for it.

The unhealthy addiction is the thing that you beat yourself up over.

The unhealthy addiction is the thing that you know is, deep down inside, ruining your life.

The unhealthy addiction is the thing that keeps you in the constant state of going nowhere.

The unhealthy addiction is the thing that is digging a whole in your life that you may not get out of.

The unhealthy addiction is the thing you believe, no matter what you do, you are unable to quit and that brings me to the step that will relieve your self from addiction just a little bit. Sometimes a little bit at a time is all you can do, and all you need for now.

The very first step you can take to begin to relieve yourself from addiction is awareness.

Awareness that we cannot quit something we believe we do not want to when, in essence, we really want to.

Awareness that we really do want to quit the addiction that is hurting others and our self so much. 

Awareness that we are constantly convincing ourselves that we are unable to quit, when we are able to convince ourselves otherwise.

Awareness that we are absolutely capable of quitting what ever it is that we are determine to quit even alcohol, anger, anxiety, debt, depression, drama, overeating, and worry.

This awareness that I am articulating comes from being still, quieting the mind, and recognizing the hurtful thoughts that are holding us back. Hurtful repetitive thoughts like, "I need it," or "I've tried everything, and nothing works," or "I can't quit." These thoughts are negative affirmations that keep the momentum of the addiction going. 

These negative thoughts are on auto pilot from the subconscious mind, and are the mantras we repeat moment by moment.

Once we are aware of these thoughts we can, and will, change them with more positive ones like, "No! I don't need it," or "I can quit," or "I really want to quit." These thoughts are much more encouraging, and more deliberate.

The subconscious mind keeps our thoughts on constant auto pilot, and we can be more deliberate in our self encouragement rather than being unaware of our hurtful thoughts that keep us in the constant state of going nowhere.

Do you want to quit?

Do you want to quit whatever the unhealthy habit is that is keeping you in the constant state of going nowhere?

Do you want to quit whatever the unhealthy habit is that is digging that deep hole in your life that will, some day, be very difficult to get out of?

If you want to quit, begin with awareness. Begin with the awareness of the habitual mantras you are stating to keep you in the addiction. Begin with the awareness that you are able to quiet your mind, and deliberately create the new healthier mantra.

Lookie here, it won't happen over night, and neither did your unhealthy addiction but, it will happen if you practice it.

Practice makes nearly perfect. However long you have practiced your unhealthy addiction, is how long it has been gaining momentum. So, now it's time to start practicing the healthy, and remove the unhealthy.

Your thoughts have value!

Your thoughts are governing your life!

When we govern our thoughts, we begin to be more deliberate in our living, and this caution and care will create more happiness, more joy, and more vitality.

One more thing!

It is human nature that makes us despise people who condemn us, criticize us, discourage us, or judge us, and that is why I have tried with all my might to eliminate these behaviors from my life. This includes condemning, criticizing, discouraging and/or judging myself.

If you tend to condemn, criticize, discourage, or judge others, I can almost guarantee it's a habit. Therefore, I can almost guarantee you are condemning, criticizing, discouraging, and judging yourself.

What I am trying to say is, do not beat yourself up! 

Part of practicing awareness is recognizing all unhealthy thoughts including self condemnation.

I really want to teach the world to meditate because it is the only way to really practice awareness. When I work with anyone, I am always trying to persuade them to meditate because I know the power in it. Many people I do work with end up meditating, and have for years.

Because I am unable to teach people to meditate on a regular basis, I have created these simple meditation audios for beginners. I have provided a link above, under the picture, if you would like a way to create and provide awareness on a daily basis in your life.

These meditation audios are there to teach you to meditate so you may do it eventually on your own. They are basically just meditation aids.

You can get the meditation audio by clicking on Destressing Addiction. Also, I have dropped the price by nearly 75% because if you are having financial difficulties, I want you to be able to afford it.

Well, that's it! My ramble on destressing your addiction.

Have a fabulous day my friend.

Love you lots!

Speak soon...


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Monday, June 27, 2016

Destressing is All About Focus

Destressing is all about the focus is what I'd like to discuss this day.

Hello my friend! How are you? I am so happy and grateful for you. It's gonna be a great week.

I just want to say something very short and sweet because I truly care about you and I want you to be alright.

What I want to say is whether you are in a place of anger, anxiety, depression, or misery it's all about your focus. Yes, it sounds very simple and I know that these emotions are very complex but, lets talk about the basics, shall we?

The world is full of happiness, hostility, and misery and we can choose which we will focus on.

I try my hardest to focus on all the things that are right because it makes me feel good. Some people tell me I look at life through rose colored glasses. But, looking through rose colored glasses is perfectly okay.

When we are with friends and family should we enjoy the moment we are in or should we complain and whine about all the misery in the world so everyone can feel like crudola?

Right here, right now, we are okay, we are safe, we are secure and so why ruin the moments with thoughts, words, and stories of misery?

Why not focus on what is great in this moment like family, friends, and fun? It's a choice.

Joy is all about the focus.

Many of you are there, in that joy, and this may just be a reminder, but for those of you who are not there, my plea to you is to focus on the joy of the moment, and all the things we are blessed with.

We ARE truly truly blessed, aren't we?

It's my favoritest weekend of the year coming up. The fourth of July holds a very special place in my heart and I celebrate it well every year, and I pray that you will not only choose to celebrate this weekend, but your entire life in every moment, of every hour, of every day, of every month, of every year.

God bless you my friend, I love you! I truly do,

Happy Fourth of July!!!


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Thursday, June 9, 2016

Destress Yourself with Bibliotherapy

Destress with Bibliotherapy is what I would like to discuss this day.

Hello there! How are you? Are you ready for your weekend? I'm gonna venture to guess a yes on that one! I know I am.

Have you ever heard of the term bibliotherapy? If you haven't it literally means seeking therapy through books. I do a lot of bibliotherapy in my life because I read every day, and night, and it is therapeutic.

Right now, on Amazon dot com you can access one of my eBooks on stress for free, I think until Monday. Get the How to Destress Yourself Book by clicking here.

I have written two very short books on stress to help people via bibliotherapy. Both books are super duper short because if you are stressed, reading a big book on stress relief just might stress you out. ~wink, wink~

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Over the next week you can purchase the Paperbacks for a minimal cost also. I do believe one will be marked down 50% and the other 30%. 

The books are...

EMS Stress: EMT & Paramedic Basic Stress Management and 

How to Destress Via Stress Test & Stress Relief

Just click on the title above to access them.

They're super easy, super short reads to help with basic stress management.

Just wanted to share the freebie and discount with you, the reader of my blog, because I appreciate you so much.

Have a wonderful weekend!

Love ya...


Friday, June 3, 2016

How to Destress Your Mood

How to destress your mood is what I'd like to discuss this day.

Hello there my friend. How are you? I pray that you are happy and healthy.

I pray that you are not mad or moody but, if you are, you can relieve that stress.

When we are mad and moody, we are unhappy, and the people around us are unhappy.

Unhappiness can gain momentum if we do not consciously do something about it, and we can do something about it.

A couple of things we can do are written about in my recent posts like...

Destress Technique

destressDestress With a Mighty Change of Heart 

Destress Your Anger

Destress Your Life With Awareness

How to Destress Your Worry

I Want to Feel Good

Remember Your Dream

Now, if I may, I'd love to suggest ways to decrease your moodiness through actions steps.

Okay, so, if you are mad and moody the first and foremost thing you gotta do is recognize it! Recognize that your moodiness is not healthy, and making you unhappy. Of course if you are not moody then there is no recognition needed but then you probably wouldn't be reading this blog post.

The second suggestion is, stop blaming others for your bad moods. My prayer is that I do not offend you by saying that but if I do then you are blaming me for you getting offended. We have a choice, we can choose responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, and actions or we can blame others.

The third suggestion is, stop repeating your drama or devastation to others out loud, and yourself in your own mind. If we repeat our misery (the thing that we think is making us so dern unhappy) we just punish ourselves over and over and over and then... we continue the unhappiness. 

The fourth suggestion is to make a conscious effort to appreciate and look forward to what ever it is we can look forward to. Anytime we have excitement and hope for something we feel good. For example, if you have plans for this weekend that you know you will enjoy then consciously make an effort to think about how excited and grateful you are for this thing. Focus on that! If you focus on your acknowledgment and anticipation of something good coming, you will be in a better mood.

Finally, awaken to your ability to be youthful, to have fun, and to be playful. Just practice having fun and being playful. Not a negative playful of teasing someone and giving them a hard time but, playful in the sense of seeing things as fun, and laughing. Have fun! Be funny! Be playful!

BONUS!!! Ha Ha Ha... I crack myself up! This is your bonus step... Do Not! I repeat!!! Do Not!!! Beat yourself up or criticize yourself for being moody, or for anything else. 

This is huge because I see so many people put themselves down and it hurts, it doesn't help! 

In other words... be the voice of encouragement for you! Do not discourage yourself rather, encourage yourself. 

You are amazing!

You are beautiful and brilliant!

And most of all you are courageous! You are courageous in taking charge of your own life RIGHT HERE RIGHT NOW!

And that, my friend, is how to destress your mood. It's just a habit of choosing to make better choices. ~wink, wink~ Choosing better thoughts, which will create better moods, which will create happiness.

This post is perfect for the weekend. What better time to deliberately practice any or all of the steps provided about than the weekend?

Practice makes near perfection! So, practice good moods, not bad moods. That may sound silly but we honestly have that choice.

Have a wonderful weekend!!!

I love you... You know I do!


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Monday, May 30, 2016

Destress Your Life with Awareness

Destressing your life with awareness is what I'd like to ramble about this day.

Hello there my lovely friend. How are you? Happy Memorial Day.

Did you know that every day you could, and should, wake up on the right side of the bed?

I have no idea where the saying came from but if you wake up on the wrong side of the bed it implies that you are in a bad mood, and so if you wake up on the right side of the bed you are in a good mood.

The best way to wake up, in my personal opinion, is with awareness on the right side of the bed.

Awareness is living in a space where you make moment to moment decisions based on appropriate thought processes by being fully present in the now. The opposite of awareness would be reacting to situations out of sheer habit.

Do you wake up, and struggle out of bed?

Do you wake up, and jump out of bed?

To wake up and struggle and/or jump out of bed is just a way of reacting out of habit.

What if you woke up and just laid there appreciating life, others, and yourself for just a little while?

Every morning, believe it or not, when I wake up I lay there for at least thirty minutes appreciating the warm, soft bed that I am laying in, and whatever else I can think of that I am grateful for. This is one of my ways of cultivating awareness, and it is how I start my day.

Depending on what day it is, and what I have to do, sometimes I wake up, and lay in bed for a couple hours contemplating, or reading, or both. The reason I do this is because I know that it is my duty to myself to begin the day with awareness on the right side of bed, and so I do.

You may be saying, "Who in the hellackey has time to do all that stuff in the morning?" My answer to that is, it only takes a moment to bring yourself to full awareness, and begin the day with appreciation.

How many times have you been in a bad mood in the morning, and just went about your day in that mood, not knowing why or doing anything about it?

That moodiness use to be a huge part of my life but now, I will not allow it. If it is a part of your life you do not have to allow it either.

If I am ever in a not so great mood, I notice it, and ask myself, "Why are you in this not so great mood?" That question alone provokes awareness, and then destresses me.

Whenever we are in a bad mood, we are not enjoying life, and life is suppose to be joy. Life is suppose to be fun. 

This is what I am trying to say...

You can, and will destress your life further if you develop the habit of waking up on the right side of bed with a few moments of awareness and appreciation.

This is what I really want you to hear...

If you are stressed out, I mean really stressed out, you can relieve your stress a little bit more each day if you choose to wake up, consciously become aware and appreciate the soft warm bed that you are in, and think of things you are grateful for, and/or eager for in this day.

Even if you are only a little stressed, this awareness and appreciation practice will allow you to increase your feeling good status. And who in the heck wouldn't want to increase their feeling good status?

You are the most important person in your life.

You can make yourself a priority by being good to yourself first thing in the morning.

You can start each and everyday on the right side of the bed, and begin your day with joy.

And that is how you destress your life with awareness.

Have a wonderful day!!! 

I love you... You know I do...


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Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Destress Technique

Today, I wanna give you a destress technique that will relieve your stress immediately, anytime, and anywhere.

Hello there my wonderful friend! How are you? It is my prayer that you are enjoying life.

So many people are unable to enjoy life and it is most likely because they are practicing doubt, fear, and worry. When we practice doubt, fear, and worry, we practice being stressed.

The opposite of stress is being relaxed. There is a stress response, and a relaxation response. Often times the stress response is activated by habitual thoughts of fear of the future, which is frequently a lie.

The relaxation response can also be habitual but first one must practice it.

You have probably guessed that the destress technique I am going to write about is how to activate the relaxation response so that it may replace the stress response.

The relaxation response is powerful. 

The relaxation response is so powerful that it has taught many others, and myself to be in a place of calm, certainty, and confidence in all situations. Could you imagine that?

It is totally possible to live in a place of permanent stress relief by practicing the relaxation response, and that is why I want to teach you this technique today.

The relaxation response is super easy to learn, and can be practiced at anytime, and any where.

Here are the steps to practice immediate stress relief through the relaxation response.

Step one: Inhale slowly through your nose filling your lungs to full capacity.

Step two: As you feel your lungs expand, notice the pressure of your lungs pushing down on your diaphragm (the muscle between your chest and stomach). 

Step three: Allow this feeling of pressure on your diaphragm to be the button that activates the relaxation response, and feel your entire body, and mind prepare to relax.

Step four: Exhale slowly through your mouth and consciously imagine all of the thoughts and emotions of strain, and tension leave your mind and body with the out bound breath.

Step five: Be aware of your mind clearing and your body giving way to gravity into a relaxed state.

Step six: Enable your entire body, and mind to practice being relaxed.

Step seven: Repeat steps one through six.

There you have it! The relaxation response.

Practice makes nearly perfect so practice, practice, and practice some more.

This is easy, and if you want to destress yourself, you will put this at the top of your priority list.

Practice the response three times a day, or practice it at the top of every hour.

Practice this exercise after you eat, or better yet, as you eat.

Figure out a way to implement this easy destress technique and you will be super duper at permanent stress relief.

Para ti!

Enjoy the rest of your week...

Love you so much.

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Friday, May 20, 2016

How to Destress Your Worry

How to destress your worry is what I wanna talk about this day.

Hello there my friend. How are you? I pray that you are doing okay.

People are worried! Every where I turn people are talking about their worries.

Individuals are ranting and raving about politics.

Some are ranting and raving about religion.

But, most people are voicing their concern about the future.

Are you worried? What are you worried about?

When I was a young single Mother, I was always worried about money, and yet here I am years later totally okay.

The worry is in the mind, and so I want to share a specific activity that can, and will, destress worry.

So, here we go...

Get a piece of paper, and a pen, and lets get to gettin'. If you want to destress your worries then make a commitment to do this little ole exercise. It's easy, trust me.

First thing to do is name what you are worried about. Can you name it and explain it? Are you worried about another person, money, a relationship, or your job?  Whatever you are worried about, write it at the top of the piece of paper that you have.

Write, I am worried about... and then fill in the blank. Try to be as specific as possible.

Got it?

Okay, now, write down the absolute worst thing that you think could happen. I'm talking about if you think you are going to be homeless if you lose your job, divorced if you are going to lose your spouse, or whatever it is that you believe could happen that is the absolute worst outcome. Write it down.

Got it?

Okay, so by now you must know that worry is just faith that the worst thing is going to happen, which believe it or not, is probably not going to happen.

The bad thing about worry, and having faith that the worst thing is going to happen is we tend to move towards the worst thing by way of planning. In other words, this worry unknowingly becomes a goal. Yeap! That's right, a goal. An unintentional goal, nevertheless, a goal.

Now... let us write down the absolute best thing that could happen. Write down the absolute best outcome that could possibly come to pass.

Got it?

Here comes the best part!

Read what you wrote for the absolute worst possible outcome, and ask yourself if it's going to happen. Is it going to happen? What is the chance of it happening? What's the percentage you would put on that actually happening? Write it all down.

This is good!

Next, ask yourself if it does happen could you handle it? It's probably not going to happen but, you could handle it if it did couldn't you?

Wait!!! It's about to get better.

Read what you wrote for the absolute best possible outcome, and ask yourself if you could make it happen. Could you make that happen? What would you have to do to make it happen?

Next, write down everything you have to do to make this happen, and then number the list in priority.

Got it?

Alright now, stop! Stop everything you are doing, put your pen/pencil down, close your eyes, and take five minutes to imagine you doing the priority list that will bring the best outcome to pass. As you imagine yourself accomplishing the to do list, begin to see yourself bringing to pass this best possible outcome that you designed for yourself. 

Imagine yourself in the place of accomplishment. Imagine yourself in the place of living the desired outcome.

Did you do it?  You gots to do this! 

How did that feel? Did you not feel so much better? This process that you just went through to make you feel better is exactly how you destress your worry.

If you do this practice everyday, you will create a belief, and behavior that will eliminate your worry and promote stress relief on a daily basis. This activity is actually creating thoughts and habits of faith in yourself, and eliminating thoughts and habits of worry.

Practice this everyday, and you will become very good at living a less stressed life.

You will not need to write the worst and best outcome down everyday unless it changes but, if you read what you wrote, then ask yourself the questions, and then visualize the best outcome, you will eliminate your habit of worry, and replace it with confidence.

This new found confidence will create inspiration to act on your prioritized list.

If you are stressed out, worried, or are experiencing negative emotions on a regular basis I would encourage you to do the exercise that is provided in this post.

This is what I really want you to hear.

If you are stressed, or even just unhappy, no one, and I mean no one can make things better for you except you. You are the most important player in your game of life, and you deserve to destress your life. You absolutely have the power.

If life is lovely for you, there is no reason for you to create a new practice. But, if life is not so lovely, please try the exercise and see where it takes you. Replacing unhealthy habits with new healing one's is so very powerful, and it all begins with you.

You can do it, if you want to. 

Hope that helps. I just wanted to share a way to pave a less stressed life for you.

If you didn't do the exercise, go back and do it, and then enjoy your weekend!

Let me share a little secret with you. Every night, before I go to sleep, I always think about the best possible outcome for me in any situation that I feel like visualizing. This practice not only keeps me focused on what I want, it gives me passion and energy for life.

That's one of my secrets. Don't tell anyone. 

I love you Sugar! You know I do!



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