Sunday, July 5, 2020

Are You Going Crazy?

Hello, hello, my dear reader.

Sanity will be the topic of this day.

How are you doing? I am ever praying that you are gaining clarity and leveling up in life.

Do you ever feel like you are going crazy?

Do you ever feel like you are losing control?

My humble belief is that if you think you are going crazy, you have sanity. Crazy people do not know they are crazy; isn't that crazy?

Sometimes sane people have events in their lives that cause confusion and drama. Do you know what drama is? Drama is participation and replaying of competition and causes chaos and stress. This competition is your against me type of thinking.

Drama is adolescent behavior, sometimes lived by adults.

Very few people in this world are dramatizing life rather than normalizing it. It may seem like many or most people are dramatizing life because these individuals tend to be the loudest.

The opposite of drama is going with the flow and living with inner peace.

I used to be a bit dramatic (maybe a lot) and had numerous theatrical people in my life. It has become clear that the more I refuse to participate in drama, the more these people fall away.

That's God.

The more I talk and walk with God, the more He blesses me with faith, patience, and trust. The more faith, patience, and trust I have, the less fear, impatience, and mistrust I have, which adds to the drama.

Think about that for a moment, please. The words a person speaks comes from the thoughts he or she is thinking. These thoughts, repeated, become beliefs that are behaved. 

A crazy person will think about a dramatic scenario over and over and over again. Then he or she will post it on social media and tell the story over and over and over again. This is strange and unusual! The craziest part is this person doesn't know they are being crazy.

This is not normal! 

A person with a distorted view of reality may think it's alright and that people are actually like this because they believe it's common. It is not normal, and very few people are like this.

Every day people are quiet when it comes to drama. The everyday person normalizes happenings and can enjoy life and others.

The crazy person is like the addicted individual; they have to know they have a problem to seek help and resolve it.

You may be asking, why on earth is Elizabeth rambling about crazy people?

The reason I am writing this is that when I was going crazy in my young, single, adult motherhood years, I had no idea that I was, in fact, going crazy. Somehow, in some way, I realized that my abnormal behavior was, in fact, not normal.

The abnormal behavior I am talking about is constantly dramatizing life via complaining, criticizing, and gossiping. This kind of behavior seemed normal to me, but I discovered it is actually immature, inappropriate, and unacceptable to the everyday professional. It is more acceptable in the teenage era than in the adult environment.

There are people, who have no idea, whether they are kind about it or not, that drama is not bright or mature. I was one of them. This kind of behavior prohibits growth and promotes insecurity, irritability, and moodiness. These attributes sustain chronic stress and foolishness.

Sure, I'm still crazy, but in an over-the-top loving, I love everybody kind of way. But, I want to speak and write the words, with a prayer in my heart, that a person with a distorted view of reality may be enlightened towards healing if they want it.

This discovery and self-awareness saved my life, my family's sanity, and my career, so to speak. If I can change and grow spiritually, anyone can if they want to! 

My everlasting prayer is to point a person toward faithfulness and fearlessness by connecting to God. That is the sole reason I write the words that I write. These words are for the person who needs to read them, and they are mine to share.

So, what does a person do when he or she has an emotional freak-out button and wants to bring it back to sanity?

A good exercise would be to affirm, acknowledge, listen more, and talk less. 

Silly?

Unreasonable?

The most fantastic thing about confidence is it comes from a reasonable, sensible, and sound mind. This kind of person has an open mind, and he or she learns by listening to understand. An open, confident mind doesn't need to be right because he or she is okay no matter what. He or she understands people have different views, and they are alright with that.

A person that is a little, or a lot, on the crazy side sometimes has an incomprehensible need to be correct. This persistent desire to be right comes from a distorted, insecure view of reality. The need to be right promotes and sustains dramatic behavior, and comes from a competitive perspective, rather than thoughtfulness.

The need to control conversations, and circumstances, to get one's way comes from insecurity and a thought process that says, "If I don't get my way, I won't be okay."

The madness of getting angry because another person isn't in agreement also comes from insecurity and a thought process of, "I find my value in being right. If I am wrong, I have no worth." This is a tricky thing to accept, but sometimes human conditioning trains a person to believe his or her value is in being right. 

A confident person is okay with disagreement and does not view himself or herself as wrong. Instead, a confident person understands uniqueness in paths, thoughts, and views.

With all this ramble, I am trying to point a person back to faith, patience, and trust. I say back because we were the fruit of the spirit when we came into this world, and sometimes we lose that fruit via human conditioning.

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law." ~Galatians 5:22-23, Holy Bible, KJV

Faith, patience, and trust will normalize life, and it takes practice into permanence if we are not living it already. The opposite of this, as mentioned above, is fear, impatience, and mistrust, which are all the fruit of insanity. Better said, they are defense mechanisms from past experiences.

My proposal is but a spiritual experiment. This exercise requires affirming, acknowledging, listening more, and talking less. It also requires working things out reasonably in the mind. 

Affirm your confidence by recognizing drama is adolescent and unnecessary.

Acknowledge you will not participate in any competition, aka drama, and will be more cooperative with life, others, and yourself.

Listen more and talk less.

If you feel like this exercise is something you'd like to do, practice it for a couple days, and continue to remind yourself of your leveling up. A perfect reminder can be, "Chill out!"

Ha ha ha! I tell myself to chill out all the time, and it works. Trust me!

The entire point of this post is to assist a person with direction who may feel like they are losing it. There really are very few crazy people out there, and some people feel like they are going mad every once in a while, which is why I'm writing this post.

The spiritual experiment is to affirm, acknowledge, listen more, talk less, and work the sanity out, quietly in one's own mind.

If you feel like you are going a little or a lot crazy, I pray it helps... 

Also, praying you to have a wonderful week.

Speak soon...

Elizabeth Stanfill 

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