Friday, July 29, 2016

Three Habits to Destressing Discontentment

Destressing discontentment is what I'd like to discuss this day.

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Hello my amazing friend! How are you? It is my prayer that you are enjoying your life, and your summer or winter (depending on which side of the world you are on).

If you are not enjoying your life, it is quite possible that you are experiencing discontentment, and if this is true, I'd love to give you three ways to destress your discontentment.

The three habits to destress that I am about to discuss are habits that you may want to create so that you will feel happiness, joy, and vitality more often than you do on a regular basis.

It's all about destressing the stress.

Number one: Bask in the deliciousness of your life.

This habit that relieves discontentment is done by starting your day waking up on the right side of the bed every single day. This is so very simple, but not necessarily easy.

How do you wake up on the right side of the bed every day? First thing, as soon as you wake up, you just appreciate. I've been doing this for so long now that I am appreciating all the time, even in my sleep. 

You see, the thing about appreciation is that it feels so similar to love, and love makes everyone feel great.

When I wake up, I feel the softness of my bed, sheets, and pillows, and I just think and feel gratitude for them. Then I begin to think of all the things I am absolutely grateful for like my son, my parents, all of my wonderful family and friends. This begins my day with the acknowledgment that I am super duper allie ooper lucky.

This is so very powerful, especially if you are discontent with your career, job, or place of employment. One thing I know for sure, if we are discontent, we are focused on all the things that are not great.

Years ago, I had a boss from hell. Literally, she was the devil. I'm laughing out loud because it really felt that way when I had to go to work and see her everyday. But, I knew that everything else about my job was amazing. My coworkers were amazing, my paycheck was pretty close to amazing, and my actual duties were a delight. In order to enjoy my work, I had no choice but to focus on what was great, and take my focus off of Ms. Satan.

Guess what? It worked. It not only worked for me, when I began helping others, it worked for them too. 

So basking in the deliciousness of life is focusing on all the things one can appreciate. Doing this first thing in the morning will make the world of difference in one's life, and if done every morning, it will no doubt become a habit.

Number two: Fix your visual.

This habit of destressing discontentment will create great hope, inspiration, and great motivation.

Fixing your visual is all about designing the perfect life in your mind and thinking about it often.

I've been doing this, and teaching this, for many many years now.

What I do is I think of the perfect life like living in a beautiful house with an ocean view, and  doing what I love to do everyday. 

Everyday, I do what I love to do, and I got here by focusing on it. I got here by visualizing the perfect life, and thinking of that instead of thinking about the life I would have if I fail.

Thinking about the absolute best possible life keeps me focused on my hopes and dreams. When I am focused on my hopes and dreams life is joy. This wonderful habit has helped me enjoy the journey of my life. This wonderful habit has kept me moving forward with faith, and hope.

Hope and faith feels really really really great!

Number three: Consciously compliment and encourage.

This habit is magnificent! In my younger years I use to criticize and discourage people because it truly is a habit of human conditioning. Some people say it is normal to criticize and discourage. If that is true, I certainly do not want to be normal. 

The thing about people who criticize and discourage is they come from a place of competition, and from a place of insecurity. It is totally okay to compete with others in appropriate situations like sports or interviewing for a position but, it is unnecessary to compete with people in every day life.

When we criticize and discourage from a place of insecurity it is a false sense of needing to be better than another, or needing to be right by making others wrong. I use to do this all the time, and it is, and was absolutely unnecessary.

I guess what I am trying to say is criticizing and discouraging others is an unhealthy stressful habit because it doesn't help anyone feel good. Destressing is all about feeling good. Destressing is all about contentment in life.

When we create the habit of complimenting, and encouraging others, we create a very happy, and healthy habit that makes us feel real great. We feel great because not only are we focusing on the good in others, we begin the habit of complimenting and encouraging our selves. 

Whether we compliment or criticize, or we encourage or discourage, it is a habit, and it is a habit of focusing on the great or not great depending which habit you have.

So there you have it...

Three healthy habits to destress discontentment.

Bask in the deliciousness of your life.

Fix your visual.

Compliment and encourage.

Be brave my friend, and choose one or all of these habits and make them a regular part of your day. If you do, you will just observe the stress dissolve,  you will see the negative feelings fall away, and you will create happiness, energy, and vitality. 

Not only will you create happiness, energy, and vitality you will learn healing habits that will allow you to live the journey of life with passion and purpose.

I know that this is so...

Enjoy your weekend!

Elizabeth Stanfill

God bless...