I have a bit of a dilemma. My dilemma is, I love to help people with their stress, but I don't necessarily enjoy being around stressed out people. That probably sounds a bit unkind but stressed out people are very critical, negative, and pessimistic.
My son always says that if you don't have the same values with a friend you have to cut them loose. My thing is I want to love people, and I want to help people but at the same time, there has to be boundaries. The boundaries are, love them and help them but if necessary, limit your time with them. What do you think about that?
Do you have people in your life that are critical, negative, and pessimistic? Are you critical, negative, or pessimistic? To me, it is just as easy to be complimentary, positive, and optimistic. It really is a choice.
Awareness is key. If we are aware, we can choose to become better at our attitude rather than bitter. The thing about being around really stressed out people is their habits of stress can be so deep that sometimes they don't get it. Sometimes you can tell someone they are too critical, negative, or pessimistic and they get offended, in other words they get bitter. Other times, the person will get it and then try to be more positive.
Truly, I do not want to fix anyone, I just want to love them, but we can be affected by people who are what we do not want to be. When people need help, I help them, but when there are people in my life who need help, I don't try to fixem, I try to love them, and yet I still have to keep boundaries.
Heavenly Father knows that I am far from perfect, sometimes I get in those moods of negativity, and I think everyone does, but some more than others.
If you wanna challenge for the weekend my friend, focus on being complimentary, positive, and optimistic. Focus on lifting others, watch for those who drain you, set boundaries if you must, and you will watch yourself destress. You probably already do all of this but, what I am proposing is to bump it up a notch by being more destressed by focusing on the good in your life, compliment the people around you, have faith for the better, and make the extra efforts to allow the feelings of happiness.
One thing I know for sure is, if we want a stress free life, we have to do the work. When we do the work to destress, we provide a massive amount of prevention for crisis.
Well, I hope with all my heart and soul you have the best weekend ever, that you accept my challenge for the weekend, and if you are brave enough, make it your challenge for the week. Better yet! Make it a life style change.
Don't forget to have fun and be playful, as well. ;0)