Monday, April 9, 2012


Hello!  Happy Monday!  I am gonna guess you had a great Easter!  Hope it's true.

One question I get asked often is, "How do I become successful?"

That is an excellent question, don't you think? 

First of all, if you think you are not successful, and you want to become successful, you probably already are.  I will come back to that in a minute, otay?

In order to become successful, one must define what success means to them so that they know what they are striving for.  So, what does success mean to you? 

Most Americans would define success by finances, and if they are not making the money they would like to, they do not think they are successful.

Success means to me that I am perfect love.  What the heck does that mean, huh?  What it means to me is that I love life and myself enough to enjoy life and treat myself great, which includes thoughts of myself.  Think about it!  If you think great thoughts about yourself, you have super duper allie ooper confidence.  What does confidence get you?  It get's you explosive jumps in personal and professional well being because you have enough faith in yourself to go for what you want.  How many times have you passed up an opportunity that would have been the best experience, but you didn't have enough faith in yourself to pursue it?  Faith is the opposite of fear.

"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment.  He that feareth is not made perfect in love." ~1John 4:18

When I am perfect love, I can love the unlovable person or situation, and then negative persons and things do not get to me.  When I have perfect love, I feel good, ALL THE TIME!  HELLO?!?!  Isn't that what we want?  To feel good all the time?  The opposite of love is hate, and when we hate we feel like poop.  Don't you agree?

This might sound crazy to you, and I am guessing it does, but that is just what success means to me.  What this has gotten me is enjoying every minute, everyday, every place, and every person.  This has also allowed me to love the people I help, and that is part of the success in helping peoples.  You gotta love'em. 

One great thing about all of this is, I love, love, love what I do.  How cool is that?  Another great thing is, when I feel good (aka destressed) I am focused, organized, and I produce.

So, back to the question, "What does success mean to you?"   Define what success means to you, and then move towards that.  If you define what success means to you and then move towards it, you will become more successful in your head, and that is what matters.

But, let's get back to the part where you are already successful.  People often do not think they are successful because they aren't making the kind of money they want to make.  Guess what?  Money is not success.  Money certainly is a part of success but another part, a big big part is happiness, the ability to enjoy life, and feeling good about yourself. 

If we focus on money, and we are not making the kind of money we would like to, we are focusing on what we don't have, which is a very very stressful habit.  You, my friend, are very successful.  How do I know, because you have great relationships, you have great things in your life, and you are a productive person in society.

So many people come to me for their stress, and they do not see that they are successful until they look at what they have and what they have accomplished so far in life.  Look at what you have!  You have a roof over your head, you most likely have a car, and you have excellent relationships with your family, friends, and coworkers.  Look at what you have accomplished so far!  You most likely have successfully completed your schooling (perhaps not yet but are working on it), you have had many successful ventures, you have made it this far in life, and you have many many possessions.

You are successful!

My nephew and I were talking about this very subject yesterday.  He said to me, "Thank you for your wisdom Untie, even though I only understood about 50% of it."  That is brilliant because most people only get about 10% of it.  I am betting that you get it, don't you?

I realize I ramble, and that is all I got, for now.  ;0)

I hope with all my heart and soul that you have a wonderful week.

Speak soon...

Big Hugs...


If you like what you have read, subscribe to my blog by putting your email address in the box at the top of the blog, and you will receive updated posts.  Don't forget to confirm your subscription.