Monday, April 9, 2012


Hello! Happy Monday! I am gonna guess you had a great Easter! Hope it's true.

One question I get asked often is, "How do I become successful?"

That is an excellent question, don't you think? 

First, you're probably already successful if you think you are not. I will come back to that in a minute, otay?

To become successful, one must define what success means to them to know what they are striving for. So, what does success mean to you? 

Most Americans define success by finances. Therefore, if a person is not making the money he or she would like, they do not think they are successful.

Success means to me that I am perfect love. What the heck does that mean, huh? What it means to me is that I love life and myself enough to enjoy life and treat myself great, which includes thoughts of myself. Think about it! If you think great thoughts about yourself, you have super duper confidence. What does confidence get you? It gets you explosive jumps in personal and professional well-being because you have enough faith in yourself to go for what you want. How many times have you passed up an opportunity that would have been the best experience but didn't have enough faith in yourself to pursue it? Faith is the opposite of fear.

"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love." ~1 John 4:18, Holy Bible, KJV.

When I am perfect love, I can love the unlovable person or situation, and then negative persons and things do not get to me. When I have perfect love, I feel good ALL THE TIME! Well, the majority of the time, anyway. Isn't that what we want? To feel good all the time? The opposite of love is hate; when we hate, we feel miserable. Don't you agree?

This might sound crazy to you, and I am guessing it does, but that is just what success means to me. This has gotten me to enjoy every minute, every day, every place, and every person. This has also allowed me to love the people I help, which is part of my success in helping people. You gotta love'em. 

One great thing about all of this is I love, love, love what I do. How cool is that? Another great thing is that I am focused, organized, and produce when I feel good (aka destressed).

So, back to the question, "What does success mean to you?"   Define what success means to you, and then move towards that. If you do, you will become more successful in your mind, and that is what matters.

But, let's get back to the part where you are already successful. People often do not think they are successful because they aren't making the money they want. Guess what? Money is not success. Money certainly is a part of success, but another part, a big big part, is happiness, the ability to enjoy life, and feeling good about yourself. 

If we focus on money and are not making the kind of money we would like, we are focusing on what we don't have, which is a very stressful habit. You, my friend, are very successful. How do I know? Because you have great relationships, you have great things in your life, and you are a productive person in society.

So many people come to me for stress relief. Many do not see their success until we discuss what they have and have accomplished so far in life. What if we look at what you have! Do you have a roof over your head? You most likely have a car and have excellent relationships with your family, friends, and coworkers. What have you accomplished so far? You most likely have completed your schooling (perhaps not yet but are working on it), you have had many successful ventures, made it this far in life, and many possessions.

You are successful!

My nephew and I were talking about this very subject yesterday. He said, "Thank you for your wisdom Auntie, even though I only understood about 50% of it."  That is brilliant because most people only get about 10% of it. I am betting that you get it, don't you?

We are successful in many ways. We can enhance our success by appreciating, defining, and desiring.

I realize I ramble, and that is all I have now.  ;0)

I hope that you have a wonderful week with all my heart and soul.

Please consider appreciating, defining, and desiring your success.

Speak soon...

Big Hugs...

Elizabeth Stanfill

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