Tuesday, November 20, 2012


how to destress
Hello there.  Day 20... ;0)

If you are stressed about the holidays, I got something to say to you, that will help you destress your holidays.  But before I say it, I just want to emphasize that I am saying it with love and kindness even though it may not seem like it.  This is what I gotta say...

Stop saying, "I am overwhelmed!"  "I can't handle this!"  "This is too much!"  "This is too hard!" 

The worst thing people can do, around the Holidays, is speak their fears.  They speak their fears because they are thinking their fears.  

I was talking to a Manager of a retail store the other day and he was saying, "I wish I could just escape, or I wish I could just take a break."  But what he really means is, "I wish I could just escape from my mind, I wish I could take a break from this thought process that is telling me I am overwhelmed, and I can't handle it."

These are my thoughts...I am forty eight years old, so I have forty eight years of handling holidays, and I do fine every year.  Sure there is a lot to do, but I just prioritize, and do them.  No thinking I am overwhelmed, no thinking I can't handle it, but just thinking, "Hey, it's the holidays, I am going to be busy, but heckola, I can handle it!"

However old you are, you have that many years of handling it.  Look at the evidence.  You have handled it every year, and you are fine so far.  The only thing holding you back, and the only thing causing anxiety is the thoughts of being overwhelmed and that you can't handle it.

The best thing we can do for ourselves around the holidays is meditate to quiet the mind, and to escape from the racing mind.  If we learn to meditate, and learn to quiet our mind, then we can focus on what we want to do.  

The best thing we can do for ourselves to help us focus on what we want is to do the list of six.  Every morning, write down six things that need to be done that day, then prioritize that list.  Start with number one, complete the task, and then move on to number two, then three, etc., etc., etc.  If we turn this into a habit, we can be so productive, we can see how good things are, and then we can see that we are not overwhelmed, and YES!  We CAN handle it.

Stop speaking your fears!  Focus on the good!  Focus on what you want!  Stop speaking the words of worry and the worst things that can happen.

Start saying, "I can handle this!"  "I can do this!"  

Start doing the list of six, prioritizing, and producing!

Start noticing that you can handle this, and that you aren't overwhelmed.

Start noticing your fears, and when you are speaking them, and then speak, instead, of what you want, speak the words of faith, and accomplishing what you want.

That's it!  That's all I got to say about Destressing Yourself for the Holidays.

Happy Thanksgiving!  I am thankful for you!

Elizabeth Stanfill

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