Monday, October 8, 2012


Hello there.  How are you?  I hope you are doing great, I truly do.  What a wonderful day it is.  I feel so lucky to live in Southern California, to have such great weather, and to be near my dear family.  Yesterday, I had the wonderful opportunity to spend time with my #1 nephew, meaning my oldest nephew ;0)

He is amazing, he lifts my soul, and I love him.  The reason I am in such a good mood is probably because I was lucky enough to spend quality time with him.  It is crazy that my time with him is so little but is filled with quality.  You see, he just got back from Korea recently, and he was there for a year, this time.  Thank goodness for Facebook, eh?

My nephew, who is 25 years old, is the epitome of self-improvement.  He is always doing something to improve his life.  What a wonderful person to be around, wouldn't you agree?  He is fortunate to have that skill because it takes great talent to create self-improvement.  Some people seem to be born with it. 

The ability to improve thy self is not luck, it is a voluntary action, to some it comes with finesse, and to others it comes with resistance. 

When I speak with people who are in the midst of stress, it is so easy for me to bring them from crisis to calm in minutes, when they are willing to make a move for improvement.  Usually these people are hungry for a better situation, and a better life.  Because they are ready to move beyond crisis and despair, they are willing to do what it takes to improve their life.

There are very few who resist self-improvement, especially when they are in the center of misery.

So what keeps a person from wanting self-improvement?  What an excellent question.  Maybe you are one of these persons who is in a situation of your life, which you believe warrants anger, anxiety, or depression, and you are unable to elevate yourself out of it.  Maybe you struggle with finances, or relationships, or your work environment, or your overwhelming busy schedule.

If you are one of these, it is my humble opinion that maybe, just maybe, you do not realize your worth and that not only do you deserve to overcome your trials but, you most certainly can.

You, my friend, are the most important person in your life!  You are the only one who can help make your weak things strong.  You are your only true coach, fan, and mentor.  If you can realize how important you are to your success, or failure, you can see that you are 100% worth making positive shifts in you life.

The very few that I speak to that are resistant to improving their situation either do not know how, or do not believe they can.  But, you can, and let me give a start on how.

Take a moment to explore some questions regarding unhealthy stressful habits in contrast to successful practices. 

Do I have constant doubt, fear, or worry or do I have certainty, confidence, and faith? 

Do I criticize myself and others, or do I compliment? 

Do I discourage myself and others, or do I encourage? 

Do I compete, and have to be right about everything, or do I collaborate and create win-win situations? 

Do I focus on what I don't have, or do I focus on my blessings? 

Do I focus on the worst thing that could happen in the near or distant future, or do I focus and move towards the best thing that can occur?

Do I eat junk that drains me, or do I eat for energy?

Do I get very little sleep, or do I get essential hours of sleep?

Am I disorganized, or do I focus and produce?

Do I lack impulse control with my life, or do I set goals and obtain them?

Whole lotta questions eh? 

It is my hope that if you believe you are in trouble in your life, you will explore these questions because they are thought provoking as to having stressful habits versus successful ones.  In order to destress yourself it is vital to replace stressful habits with successful practices, and practice makes perfect my friend.

You are so seriously significant to God, to your family, to your friends, to me, but most importantly to your life and the future of your happiness.  You are worth the very best that you can offer, I hope you see that.

That's my rant!  Love you Sugah!  Have a super duper week, and make it your intention to.

My friend, I love you, and I pray for you.

Big Hugs...

Speak soon...

Don't forget!  Have fun!  Be Playful!

Elizabeth Stanfill

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