How to Destress Yourself

DESTRESS YOURSELF BY BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

2012-01-26T04:57:00.000-08:00

Hello my friend. How's your week so far? Hope you read my last post and are increasing your Positive Attitude.

Today, I wanna talk a lil bout believing in yourself. What does believing in yourself have to do with destressing yourself? Excellent question!

Stress is caused by our doubt, fear, and worry. If we believe in ourselves, and others, our doubt, fear, and worry will turn into certainty, confidence, and faith. When we live with thoughts of certainty, confidence, and faith, we truly destress ourselves.

Believing in yourself, and others, is just a matter of being honest with yourself. If you search the evidence, you will find you are very successful thus far in your life. Therefore, you have great reason to be honest with yourself and have faith in yourself.

"Be honest with yourself, with others, and with your Heavenly Father. One who was not honest with God until it was too late was Cardinal Wolsey who, according to Shakespeare, spent a long life in service to three sovereigns and enjoyed wealth and power. Finally, he was shorn of his power and possessions by an impatient king. Cardinal Wolsey cried:

Had I but served my God with half the zeal
I served my king, He would not in mine age
Have left me naked to mine enemies.

Thomas Fuller, an English churchman and historian who lived in the 17th century, penned this truth: “He does not believe that does not live according to his belief.”

Don’t limit yourself and don’t let others convince you that you are limited in what you can do. Believe in yourself and then live so as to reach your possibilities.

You can achieve what you believe you can. Trust and believe and have faith." ~Taken from Thomas S. Monson's message, Living the Abundant Life

When we believe in ourselves we have faith, and we eliminate the doubt, which is a stress inducer fo sho!

"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." ~Hebrew 11:1

"For we through the Spirit wait for the hope of righteousness by faith" ~Galatians 5:5

"But let us, who are of the day, be sober, putting on the breastplate of faith and love; and for an helmet, the hope of salvation." ~1 Thessalonians 5:8

Just a few more things you can think about to destress yourself.

Enjoy the rest of your week!!!

Have fun! Be playful

Love you lots ;0)

BIG HUGS...

Elizabeth

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DESTRESS YOURSELF WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE

2012-01-23T09:12:00.000-08:00

Hello...

How was your weekend? Mine was pretty easy. No stress! Had lunch with my son on Saturday, spent time with some friends, and had din din with my son on Sunday, after church, of course.

Today, I wanna talk a lil bout how we can destress with a positive attitude. When we have a positive attitude, we feel better about ourselves, and when we feel better about ourselves, we feel peace, which is the opposite of stress.

When someone comes to me to learn how to destress for the first time, many times they say they have a positive attitude. Often times, what that means to them is when they are in front of someone, or they are having a conversation, they appear positive. Meaning, they are happy and not sad, they are grateful and not complaining, or they are pleasant and not unpleasant.

If we truly have a positive attitude, we have peace within because we are having positive thoughts, which create positive feelings, and that promotes positive actions. Your thoughts, feelings, and actions are your attitude.

"William James, a pioneering American psychologist and philosopher, wrote, “The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.”

So much in life depends on our attitude. The way we choose to see things and respond to others makes all the difference. To do the best we can and then to choose to be happy about our circumstances, whatever they may be, can bring peace and contentment.

Charles Swindoll—author, educator, and Christian pastor—said: “Attitude, to me, is more important than … the past, … than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.”

We can’t direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails. For maximum happiness, peace, and contentment, may we choose a positive attitude." ~Taken from Thomas S. Monson's message, Living the Abundant Life

My favorite part of this quoted message is, "We can't direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails." Isn't that brilliant? We cannot direct the wind, meaning we cannot control the misfortune, but we can adjust the sails, in other words our attitude, our reaction to the misfortune.

A positive attitude gives us peace, the opposite of stress.

"For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace." ~Romans 8:6

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith," ~Galatians 5:22

"Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another." ~Romans 14:19

"Finally, brethren, farewell. Be perfect, be of good comfort, be of one mind, live in peace; and the God of love and peace shall be with you." ~2 Corinthians 13:11

Somethings to think about so you can destress yourself.

Have a super duper week!!!

Have fun! Be playful

Love you lots ;0)

BIG HUGS...

Elizabeth

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STRESS

2012-01-17T04:25:00.000-08:00

Hey there! How are you? Did you have a lovely three dayer? It is absolutely awesome, all the days off everyone has had in the last couple of months. In the last three months even. With Thanksgiving, Christmas, The New Year, and, just yesterday, Martin Luther King Day.

What a blessing to have so many days off. I hope, with all my heart, that you were able to enjoy your days off.

Never was I able to measure the level of stress, or even gauge the level of stress, that has been among others until I started blogging. My blogging began in 2006, and then seriously in 2007. It wasn't until 2009 that I was able to measure how many visitors I had in a day, week, or month. The measurements were only monthly before then.

All this babbling is about stress out there in the world. What I mean is, in the summer of 2009, I had about 500 to 600 readers a month. In the winter the readers more than doubled, and that just so happens to be my busiest time of the year, destressing people. By 2010 summer, I had in a week, what I had in followers in a month from 2009 winter. In the 2010 winter, it doubled, then went back down by the end of April.

By 2011, in the summer, my visitors doubled to what I was experiencing in the busy months of the winter, and the emails doubled as well. By the winter of 2011, I was experiencing crazy, crazy amounts of readers daily.

What I am trying to explain in all of this blah blah is, I believe because of the number of visitors, and contacts I am experiencing, stress is increasing out there in the world. For a minute there, I thought things were getting better, over the holidays, because my stats dropped from December 24, 2011 to January 2, 2012, to what was high stats in the 2011 summer. But, by January 8, 2012, things got back to all time highs again.

By January 14, 2012, my post How To Destress Your Deepest Moments of Despair, was viewed 1000 times. What this means to me is, there are plenty of people out there in their deepest moments of despair.

There was a time when I responded to Critical Incidents, and taught stress prevention, intervention, and direction only to the Emergency Personnel, which included EMT's, Firefighters, Paramedics, and Police Officers. Then it expanded to Management and Administrators.

I can remember my first one on one clients that were not in the Emergency Field, they included men, who were business owners. Many of them were sent to me by their wives, and the common reaction was, "My wife sent me to see you because if I don't get a handle on my stress then she will divorce me." No lie!

Then I started teaching all kinds of individuals stress relief.

Most recently, my contacts have been people who have lost their jobs, homes, and sometimes everything they have, and sometimes even a family member.

When October & November 2011 came around, I had an unusual amount of teenagers come to me due to pressures usually at home, but not entirely.

Is the economy in America getting better? Is the economy in the World getting better? That is hard to say, but from my stand point, a whole lotta people are trying to relieve stress, that's fo sho!

This time of the year is the best time for you, and me, to relieve our stress because it is the New Year, and we can be motivated to start a new.

When people are stressed, it is caused by doubt, fear, and worry about their circumstances. When people are really stressed, they tend to focus on the worst possible outcome. They think about the worst thing that could happen, over and over, in their mind. This causes a whole lotta stress.

One of the best things we can do, when we think about the worst over and over again, is write down what we want, what we really want. Write down the best possible outcome you could have in your situation, make them goals, and focus on them. Focus on them by reading your written list everyday, and making a to do list to move forward on it. This will destress you by building faith in yourself, and making you focus on the best instead of worst.

Another great thing we can do is learn the relaxation response. The relaxation response will provide a way for you to create a habit of relaxing any time, and any where. It is a habit we can develop to replace the stress habit. When we are stressed, the stress response is activated, and if we have a wonderful habit of activating the relaxation response it can, and will, provide a place, in our mind and body, to feel safe and relaxed.

If we focus on the best possible outcome, and remain relaxed, the burden of our stress is lightened and we can easily overcome our stress, no matter what we are going through.

A great affirmation for when you have stress, you are focusing on the best outcome, and you practice the relaxation response is, "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." ~Philippians 4:13

Affirmations are just reminders, and this reminder, if you say it to yourself over and over again, will build your faith, and help you succeed. So memorize it, and say it often, especially when you feel stressed.

That's all I got. You are doing great! Keep up the excellent work! Have fun! Be playful!

Love you lots ;0)

BIG HUGS...

Elizabeth

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LIVING UP TO YOUR OWN STANDARDS

2012-01-09T03:49:00.000-08:00

Hello there. How's it going? Did you have a most magnificent weekend? I sho did ;0) Once again, I fell in love. Matter of fact, I fell in love a few times. Dang, I love that, falling in love. I love love. Okay, okay, enough about love, again, but you know I can't help it.

Got a scripture for you.

Matthew 7:3 says, "And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beem in thine own eye?"

This scripture means, to me, why are you judging, or trying to fix someone else when you could be judged for what you do, or when you got a whole lotta fixen to do in yourself?

Mote means a chip or splinter, and a beem is something big that they use in constructing a house or building. Therefore, whatever you are judging in someone else is much smaller than what you could be judged for.

This, my friend is great advice. Whenever I feel like I want to give someone advice (like in my blog for instance), I know there are at least two things going on for me. First, I am looking at what I think needs to be fixed in someone else, meaning I am being critical. Second, I need to give that advice to myself, which means, living up to my own standards. Practice what I preach! You know what I mean?

When I want to fix someone else, I am looking at their imperfection, rather than looking at their assets. "Guess what?" I say to myself, "We are all imperfect Elizabeth."

A very stressful habit is focusing on peoples' imperfections. It is a habit of being critical, when we could just as easily be complimenting. If we are critical, it shows the mood of our mind. If the mood of our mind is critical of others, you can bet it is critical of ourselves. When we are critical of ourselves, we tend to have a very low self-confidence which produces doubt. Any kind of doubt, fear, or worry will create stress.

You know, and I know, we can be our own worst enemies by being critical of, or having doubt in ourselves. All the decisions we make in this life are based on doubt or certainty. If we make decisions based on doubt, we miss out on some seriously spectacular goods. If we make decisions on certainty, we achieve, advance, gain, and obtain.

How did being critical become a habit? Well, I'll tell you. Most likely, when we were younger, and as we grew up, we could have done a thousand things right all day long with not a word said, and yet, when we did one thing wrong, we were criticized, and then corrected. So, other peoples' habits became ours.

The best thing I can do, when I write a blog post, or help an individual is, take my own advice, and live up to my own standards.

Do I take my own advice? I sho do! Eh-em, most of the time.

Do I live up to my own standards? I sho do try, but like I say, to myself, "Nobody is perfect Elizabeth."

One of the things I love to do the mostest is, I love, love, love to encourage people. Even though I am a Destress Yourself Specialist, I would love my title to be a Courage Specialist. And because I love to encourage others, I spend a lot of time encouraging myself. I am my own cheerleader.

"You can do it Elizabeth!" I say to myself.

Encouraging and complimenting others is much better than criticizing or trying to fix them. Taking my own advice, that I want to give to others, and encouraging myself is much better than criticizing. Truly, just a simple choice, don't you think?

This week, and if I am brave enough, for the weeks to come, I will live up to my own standards by taking my own advice. Whatever advice I am about to give, I will hush up and give it to myself, in my head of course. I will focus on peoples' abundance and I will compliment and encourage them. I will look at my abundance, and I will compliment and encourage myself more.

Sounds like a great way to destress myself, wouldn't you agree?

Hope you have a glorious week. You can do it! LOL! You are glorious!

How am I doing so far?

Have fun! Be playful! And, speak soon!

Elizabeth

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HAPPY TWENTY TWELVE ;0)

2012-01-02T09:08:00.000-08:00

HAPPY NEW YEAR MY FRIEND!!!

Ready for a New Year? Ready for a New You? I know, without a doubt, that I am. It is a great year already, I can feel it in my bones, and in my soul.

So far, I am doing really good on my New Year Resolutions. How bout you?

My resolutions are...

To be healthier & to serve more people in more ways. That's it!

Although, there is a huge list of things I have to do, and want to do, that goes under each of those goals. My goals are very specific, and so I have a lot of work to do.

One thing I know for sure is, I may have a set back or I may mess up a little but you know what? That is totally okay in my head. That sounds funny. Anyway, what I mean is, I will not give up if I have a set back or if I mess up a little, or a lot.

My mantras for my goals are, "I can do this! I have faith that I can do these things. I will not give up."

I am so focused, it is magnificent, in my head. ;0)

Do you have your goals? How are you doing? Do you have faith that you can accomplish your goals? Do you have the mindset that you WILL NOT give up?

In Hebrews 11:1, it says, "Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen."

Now is the time, more than ever, to have faith in yourself, and your goals. Now is the time, more than ever, to hope for the things that you want that have not yet come to pass. Now is the time, more than ever, especially if you want a better you and a better year, to be focused more than ever.

You can do it my friend.

You can do this!

Have faith!

Never give up!

Say it with me now, "I can do this! I have faith I can do these things! I will not give up!"

Have a great week. Have fun and be playful too ;0)

Elizabeth

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BREAKING POINT

2011-12-23T04:12:00.000-08:00

Hey there. How are you? Am having a great week, how bout you? Hope so ;0)

Have you ever felt like you were at a breaking point? If you have, you know what it is, and you will know exactly what I am talking about.

A breaking point is an emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual place where you feel like you are going to break. It is a place that you are so overwhelmed that you feel like you cannot take it anymore. I have seen this place, I have seen it in my own life, and in many other lives. Do you know what I am talking about?

When we are at a breaking point, this place, will 'make us' or 'break us'. This is a place that I have been with hundreds of individuals. They say that they can't take anymore, and they feel like they are going to break.

The breaking point is usually when you are overwhelmed and everything is in your face. You think like, oh shizzz, what am I going to do? You feel like, AAAHHH! I can't take it anymore. And then you have to make a decision on what to do.

Usually, when we are at this point we are thinking of all the things that are wrong, and then we think about the worst possible outcome that can happen for us. This is major fear, and this is major worry that can cause anxiety.

This can be a very critical point in our life. This can be a moment, or 6 months, of crisis.

Through the years, I have worked with many individuals who were at this point. A couple of the people I have worked with are teenagers, who are in a situation at home that is causing severe anxiety, and/or depression. Some others, I have worked with, are having severe financial difficulties, who have lost everything, and I mean everything tangible. Additionally, I have worked with people who are emotionally spent due to loneliness, despair, or frustration.

So, if you are at a breaking point, what can you do?

I am so very excited that you asked ;0)

When you are at a breaking point, the first thing you have to do is ask yourself what the heck it is? What is going on for you right now? I guarantee it is fear of what might happen and the thought that you will not know how to, or if you can, handle it. What are you afraid of? Ask yourself, "What am I afraid of?"

At this point, the best thing to do is pour your heart out to God. Talk to Him, and tell him what you are afraid of, and what your biggest fears are. Why do you want to do this? You want to do this because you are Heavenly Father's child, and He loves you. You are so very special to Him, and you will feel comfort from this because He wants you to turn to Him so that He can give you comfort.

After you do this, you will feel comfort.

With all my heart, I believe that when we have troubles, I mean really big troubles, it is an opportunity to get closer to God. Part of the reason He gives us trials is so we can learn to lean on Him more frequently.

In Romans 12:12 it says, "Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer;"

Rejoicing in hope means to be happy for your ambitions, aspirations, and dreams. Patient in tribulation means willing to endure the thing, or things, that is causing your pain and unhappiness. Continuing instant in prayer means to persist and carry on immediately and urgently in your conversations with God.

Basically, focus on your dreams, be willing to endure the trial that you have been given, and persist, right now, in your conversations with God.

When we are at a breaking point, I truly believe we do the opposite. We focus on what we don't want, we are impatient, and we want to quit and give up.

My friend, dream big, focus on what you want, be willing to endure your trials, and be constantly in the conversation with God.

You can do this. You got the power. You are so very special and you must remind yourself of this in the moment of a breaking point, and the entire time you have the struggle that you are going through.

Get your journal, write down all the things you dream of in your life, and write down all of the evidence, your successes and accomplishments, that remind you that you can have them.

And know this... You can handle anything you are going through, you can handle anything that comes your way, and you will manage this because you always have overcome your trials in the past.

You are so very capable, you are so very smart, you are so very strong, and you are so very divine. The thing is, if you are at a breaking point, you may have just forgot all of your divinity. You are a child of God, and that makes you divine.

You can be, do, and have anything your heart desires, believe in this, and believe in yourself. Have faith my friend! God has faith in you! I have faith in you as well!

If you need help, take the destress yourself class and it will take you through a step by step series of actions to help you explore, discover, and obtain what you want, and show you how you can get it.

That's all I got.

Have fun this weekend. Be playful!

Big Hugs... AND MERRY CHRISTMAS BABY!!!

Elizabeth

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MY JOURNEY

2011-12-16T04:22:00.000-08:00

Hey there. How the heck are you? I am very well, thank you very much.

I wanted to show you my journal. That is a picture of it right there ->

Pretty cool aye?

I just wanted you to know how serious I am about setting and obtaining goals. It's not just about goals though, it is about being happy, and making things better and better, no matter what you are going through.

Last Tuesday, I wrote about Never Ending Goal Setting, because I believe, with all my heart and soul, that the only way to diligently progress and produce in this life is by constantly setting and obtaining goals, and by an enduring determination to evaluate our development so that we can continue to improve.

People are always complaining and speaking about how hard life is when in actuality, it really isn't that bad or hard. I hear woman talk about how horrible a commercial is or how devastating someone's behavior is but it is all an illusion. You know what is devastating? Loosing your legs, and not being able to walk, or loosing a lung so that you are unable to function actively, not a commercial or someone's behavior.

What I think about these individuals who complain and cry woe is me, all the time, is that they are not learning or moving forward. When you learn and move forward, you discover that life is not really hard (well sometimes it is ;)), and there isn't anything that you can't handle because you have become stronger and stronger from your challenges.

Trust me on this one ;)

One of the biggest things that has helped me move forward and discover that I can handle anything is my writing. My writing began in my journals, then I did a lot in college, and now I blog. My writing is not the best but, you should have read it before I went to college. I was raised by a Mother who's second language is English, and it really shows in my journals. It really shows on my blog, as well, but it is a lot better than it was.

Tangent! LOL

What I am trying to say is, I have come a long way because of my writing, especially in my journals. I have set and obtained some serious goals, and I have overcome some serious challenges. What is so cool is, I can look back at where I was in life, my anxiety, my depression, my alcoholism, or my PTSD, I know how far I have come, and know that I can handle anything. It is because of this constant goal setting and evaluating of myself that has gotten me where I am now.

No! I am not a millionaire, yet! But I am stronger spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. The only reason I say that is because most people attribute moneys to success when I look at the ability to be happy and still move forward in life, under any circumstance, as being successful. In order to be happy and still move forward, under any circumstance, one must be strong spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. The way you get there is learning more from your challenges, having faith in yourself, and having a very strong spiritual relationship with God.

There have been many times in my life when I have been angry, anxious, depressed, and overwhelmed. Those were my challenges, and I have learned from them primarily through the documentation of my thoughts, feelings, actions, attitudes, and goals.

When I was a young single Mother, I use to have severe anxiety over money. As I look back, and read my journal entries, I can remember the thoughts and feelings, and I can know, without a doubt, that if I made it through that, I can make it through anything. This, my friend, is an unbelievable gift that I have taught to hundreds, if not thousands, of people.

In my last post, I wrote that I too would get my journal and start my never ending goal setting process, and I have. I wrote my goals for 2012, right after I wrote that post.

So, get your journal, take responsibility for your life, get ready to destress yourself for 2012, get back to the basics, start to overcome some amazing challenges, and do it with faith, RIGHT NOW!

Let's do this together. If you journal, I promise you, you will see some amazing things happen in your life and it won't be just setting and obtaining goals, it is much bigger than that.

You can do this!

You got the power!

You can be, do, and have anything your heart desires in 2012!

Don't you wanna? I know you do!

Good luck my friend. Speak soon...

Don't forget! Have fun! Be playful!

If you need help through this process of never ending goal setting, the destress yourself class will take you through a step by step series of actions to help you explore, discover, and obtain what you want.

Big Hugs...

Elizabeth

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NEVER ENDING GOAL SETTING

2011-12-14T04:18:00.000-08:00

Hello!

NEVER ENDING GOAL SETTING!

Did you know that if you don't have goals you are in the constant state of going nowhere?

Did you know that if you are in the constant state of going nowhere, you can cause yourself some stress?

As spiritual, and human, beings, we must move forward to feel good about ourselves. If we do not feel good about ourselves, our self-confidence and self-esteem is very low. If we feel low, we have a void, and we tend to fill that void with very stressful habits like eating, smoking, drinking, inappropriate relationships, or drama.

Do you get up everyday, get ready for work or school, go to work/school, get home, watch TV, eat dinner, watch more TV, go to bed, and do it all over again? If you do, you are in the constant state of going nowhere.

Life is a learning experience and one of the things we can learn is never ending goal setting.

Whether we have small or large goals we will move forward in life. When we move forward in life we feel good about ourselves.

When we don't have any goals we stay in the constant state of going nowhere and we feel displeased with ourselves. When we feel unfulfilled we feel unhappy. Unhappiness can stress us out. We have a choice, we can stay in the constant state of going nowhere or we can choose never ending goal setting.

Some goals that you may consider are financial, relationship, health, or career. They can be big or small.

If you would like to make more money you can make that a goal.

If you would like to get along better with your spouse or family members you could make that a goal.

If you would like to feel better physically you could make that a goal.

If you are unhappy in your career you could make a goal out of looking for another job.

The best way to set a goal is to think about what you want. Ask yourself, "What do I really want?"

The answer may be to weigh less, or be happier, or to overcome anger, or make more money, or find an eternal companion, or to increase self-awareness, or to serve, or to find passion or purpose. These are simple wants and yet still goals.

Once you have an idea of what you want you can take steps to obtaining your goal(s).

First, think about the best for yourself. Dream and imagine what a perfect life would look like.

Second, write your goals down.

Third, prioritize your goals.

Fourth, write down all the things 'to do' to obtain the goal(s).

Fifth, start 'to do!'

Sixth, believe you will obtain them.

Seventh, and final, never give up!

You can do this!

Staying stagnant in our lives can cause stress because our lives may lack excitement or pleasure. Take time to explore what you really want out of life and move on it. If you move forward only one step at a time you will be that much closer to your goal, by that one step.

Setting goals and obtaining them creates excitement and enthusiasm for life. If we are excited and enthusiastic about life we feel successful and that is what destressing yourself is all about, moving from stress to success.

So, get your journal my friend, and start the never ending goal setting process. I'm gonna! Right now! You can too!

You got the power! You can do this!

If you need help through this process, the destress yourself class will take you through a step by step series of actions to help you explore, discover, and obtain what you want.

Big Hugs...

Elizabeth

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PRAYER ;)

2011-12-09T04:16:00.000-08:00

Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness. ~Isaiah 41:10

Hello my friend. How was your week? Mine was magnifico, as usual ;)

I have a friend who says that I am in denial about my stress. Isn't that cute? He thinks that because there are certain aspects in my life that are not perfect, that I pretend to be happy. I do not pretend to be happy. I am happy about 95% of the time and maybe, sometimes, 99% of the time, and I will tell you why.

No matter what is going on in my life, I am happy because I know without a doubt that my Heavenly Father loves me, that I am very precious to Him, and that He is watching out for me every minute, of every hour, and every hour of every day.

The first thing I do every morning is I pray unto Him. The last thing I do, every night, is I pray unto Him. When I feel sad, He is the first person I have a conversation with. When I am sad, when I feel anxious, and when ever I feel like I don't want to feel, I pour my heart out to Him.

Every time I pour my heart out to Heavenly Father, I feel comfort almost immediately.

If you are having a hard time I would like to persuade you to pour your heart out unto Him. You are a child of God, and He loves you, you are so very special to Him. You are a gift from the Divine.

As I was trying to decide what to blog about for our New Year Resolutions, I thought that I should discuss the most important things that pertain to permanent stress relief, in other words, how to destress yourself.

To me, one of the most important things that we can do is cry unto Heavenly Father when we are stressed, not only will you build a very close relationship with Him, you will find and develop this way of destressing immediately.

Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you. ~ Jeremiah 29:12

What I am trying to do is persuade you to journal and evaluate your frequency of prayer and your relationship with God. Contemplate this because if you would like to improve upon it, you can make it a New Year Resolution.

If you do, you will certainly destress yourself.

Have a wonderful weekend. Have fun and don't forget to be playful, I really mean that.

Big Hugs...

Elizabeth

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TAKING RESPONSIBILITY!

2011-12-05T08:11:00.000-08:00

Good Monday mornin' my friend. Did you have a lovely weekend? I sho did ;)

Did you go to church? I sho did! Church was awesome yesterday. Sho did lift my spirit. The Christmas music was the best. Are you in the mood for Christmas? I sho am.

My friend's daughter asked me if I love Christmas or if I didn't love Christmas. Cute huh? I told her that I love Christmas. She said, me too. Then she asked me what I loved about Christmas, and I said everything except the gifts. HA HA HA!

I really do love everything except the gifts. If it were up to me I would just hang out with family and friends, and no gifts. Could you imagine if Christmas was about Christ? Just kidding, I know it is. But what if we didn't give gifts and we just enjoyed good food and good company? How destressed we would be!

Any who, recently I talked about getting ready for 2012 and New Year Resolutions.

Did you read about it? Did you get your journal? Did you start your journey with your journal by reading and writing about back to the basics post? If you did, YOU ARE AWESOME!

If you did, YOU ARE TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR FUTURE. So cool!

But, if you didn't, then I would like to persuade you to take responsibility for your future.

Recently, I have been helping more teens than I ever have. A couple of years ago, I started to work with college age students, lots of 18 and 19 year olds. Last month, I worked with more teenagers (under 18), than I have in my whole career of teaching permanent stress relief.

They have spoken of molestation, abuse, parental divorce, illness, and misery at home. The number one issue I have dealt with is beliefs of ugliness and why am I not good enough. The latter is not so typical as the former never the less, it is all very stressful, wouldn't you agree?

When I talk to the youth about lack of self-confidence due to feeling ugly, or feeling not good enough I tell them stuff like, you are the boss of you, you are the only thinker of your thoughts, and so you gotta be the boss of your thoughts and you gotta think better thoughts. I tell them to stop thinking that they are not good enough and I teach them affirmations, and how to use them. An affirmation like, I am good enough!

We search for evidence that they are good enough, and we search for evidence that their beliefs are unreasonable. For example, I tell them to notice everyone around them for a day, or even a week, and notice how unique everyone is. Some people are fatter, some people are skinnier, some people are uglier, and some people are prettier.

This is amazing because the majority of them get it. The majority of them get that they can take responsibility for their thoughts, and that God has made everyone as unique as their thumb print therefore, we can appreciate our uniqueness and focus on our assets and strengths.

Isn't that amazing?

What does this all have to do with destressing yourself?

Destressing yourself is all about awareness, and awareness has a lot to do with knowing that you can take responsibility for your thoughts, knowing that you can take responsibility for your life, knowing that you can take responsibility for your future.

It amazed me how many teens got this. It even seemed, to me, that teens were getting more than adults do.

What I am trying to say is, you can learn to destress yourself by taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions, as a result you will take responsibility for your life and for your future.

So, get that journal, and start your journey to destress yourself in 2012.

That's all I got!

Speak soon...

Have fun this week...

Be playful!

Elizabeth

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AMAZING CHALLENGE OVERCOME!

2011-12-01T19:29:00.000-08:00

YOU WANNA GET READY TO DESTRESS FOR 2012???

2011-11-30T04:00:00.000-08:00

Hello my friend! How's your week? I really wanna know how your week is going! Is it going well? Is it not going so well? Let a gril know how your doing ;)

Are you ready for and do you wanna alleviate your stress in 2012?

Do you have stress at work?

Do you have stress at home?

Do you have anger, anxiety, depression, or loneliness?

Whatever it is, let's prep for destressing ourselves for 2012. Are you with me? Let's do it!

LOL! I sound like a dang cheerleader.

Okay, so we know that the New Year is almost here and every year I encourage everyone to destress by setting goals. That's right, New Year Resolutions.

If you say that you don't make New Year Resolutions, let me try to change your mind. PLEASE!!!

New Year Resolutions are the greatest way to turn your life around because you are setting goals and you can start a new. You can start fresh!

Most people do not live by goals, which is a crime, in my mind. If you are not setting and obtaining goals, you are in the constant state of going nowhere, and that, my friend, is stressful.

We are spiritual and human beings who need to progress to feel good about ourselves. When we set and obtain goals we lift our self-confidence and self-esteem. When we have great confidence, we don't carry doubt, fear, or worry.

Trust me! I know that this is so. I know that this is so because most people who are stressed have horrible habits of thinking thoughts full of doubt, fear, and worry and the best way to get away from this way of thinking is to set a goal.

You wanna do it? You wanna prep yourself to destress in 2012? If you are with me...

This is your first assignment for prepping yourself to destress in 2012...

Get a journal. It doesn't have to be anything fancy, it could be a blank pad of paper. The reason you need a journal is because I am going to give you exercises to explore your way of living that may be causing you stress so that you, and I (because we are going to do this together), can make some serious goals slash New Year Resolutions to destress in 2012.

Just a side note. If you do not journal, you are doing yourself and your future relatives a disservice. I have been journaling since I was in elementary school. There are so many benefits to journaling. The number one benefit, in my eyes, is you can see how far you have come over the years and how much you have grown as an individual. Another benefit is, when you go through hard times, if you journal, when you look back at those times, you can see how strong you were and how well you handled yourself. This is so important because when we succeed through hard times it strengthens us to know that we truly can handle anything.

Okay, enough of that.

Start your journey, with your journal, by reading and evaluating the basics I wrote about in my last post.

So get a journal, read and evaluate the basics from my last post, and write about what you have discovered in your new journal. That's it!

Speak soon...

Have fun and be playful, in the mean time.

Hugs...

Elizabeth

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BACK TO THE BASICS

2011-11-28T04:01:00.000-08:00

Hello there. How was your Thanksgiving weekend? Mine was fantastico! Family, food, and shopping, but not on Black Friday. I am crazy but I am not foolish ;) Just kidding...

Well, we are smack dab in the middle of the Holiday season and things might get a little stressful. When stress occurs in everyday living, we gotta get back to the basics.

The basics of stress relief are eating right, exercising, getting plenty of rest, and enjoying life.

All of these particular behaviors/habits help increase our energy and happiness.

There is a very special woman that I have been working with for a very long time. One of my very first clients. She is a paramedic. In the past, during the holiday season, she had a very difficult time because she was juggling her career, her family, and going to school, so that she could advance. She felt very overwhelmed by her busy schedule, which is very common among our society.

The very first thing we did was evaluate her fundamental habits. And the questions that I asked are...

How are your eating habits?

Are you exercising?

Are you getting plenty of rest?

Are you having fun and enjoying life?

The answers were terrible, no, no, and no.

Then I asked...

How can you eat better?

How can you exercise more and what can you do to exercise?

What would have to happen for you to get more quality sleep?

And what can you do to have fun and enjoy life?

Her answers were, eat more fruits and vegetables, quit fast food, every morning I could run, every night I could practice deep relaxation before I go to bed, go to bed at a decent hour like 9 or 10, and plan more activities with my family on my days off.

Sounds very simple but, not necessarily easy, especially when your schedule is so inundated. Although she didn't perfect the basic stress relief habits as much as she would have liked, she did improve on her behavior, which increased her energy and happiness.

The point I am trying to make here is this... The holiday season can be taxing on top of our regular schedule so try to evaluate your basic habits that will help you destress yourself. Rate your behavior on a scale of 1 to 10. One being the worst and ten being the best.

Rate 1 to 10 on these actions

Eating habits

Exercise habits

Plenty of rest

Having fun

Now that you have evaluated them, try to improve them. Ask yourself the first and second set of questions above.

If you take time to evaluate your habits and answer the questions I promise you that you will improve because now that it is in your mind, you will be more conscious of your practices.

This is just the beginning of destressing yourself for the holidays.

Have a great week. Have fun. Be playful.

Speak soon.

Elizabeth

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HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!!

2011-11-24T07:36:00.000-08:00

Hey there! Just wanted to say Happy Thanksgiving to you. I truly hope you have a wonderful day.

Yesterday, this Man told me that this was his favorite holiday because you just get together and it is about giving thanks.

Although, I know you will be busy thinking of all the things you are grateful for, I want to try and encourage you to remember a few things during the holiday season to help you destress yourself.

1. Make sure you take care of yourself. Eat right, exercise, and get plenty of rest. Schedule it into your daily activity, and you will most certainly handle the hustle and bustle of the holidays.

2. Manage your activities. Don't over schedule yourself because you won't be able to take care of yourself. When we don't take care of ourselves physically, we get worn out, and it takes energy to be destressed.

3. Manage your money. The most important thing you can do for your financial stress is budget your money. Allow yourself only to spend what you have so that you will not feel overwhelmed because you do not have money or your debt is increased.

4. Ask for help. If and when you host a party, or parties, it can be taxing on you physically and financially. Ask your friends and family to help you in any way they can and this will relieve your stress. Delegate my friend and make things easier on you.

5. Look for the good in others, and remember to love even the unlovable. This season is about gratitude and the upcoming month will be about Christ. Remember that love that He so valiantly showed to all people, and put it into your character.

6. Finally, always remember to have an attitude of gratitude. The feelings of gratitude is very similar to the feeling of love, and it will make you feel good, all the time. Wake up each morning and just thank the Lord for all you have.

That's all I got. Just a short list that we can read and remember to lift us even more during the holidays. It's all about family, friends, gratitude, and love.

Speak soon...

Have fun! Be playful!

Elizabeth

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WHAT HAVE I DONE TO SERVE TODAY?

2011-11-21T04:07:00.000-08:00

Who have I helped along the way?

How can I live deeper in Your embrace?

Those are words to a song I listen to nearly every day.

Hello there? Have a good weekend? I hope so! I really hope you did.

My friend, I greet you today with love in my heart for you and my fellow human being.

The needs of others are very high and very present.

One, of many things, I love about living in the hills, in a small town, is everyone loves to help everyone.

When it is snow season, and cars go off the side of the road, most locals will stop and help. When a neighbor is stuck in the snow, and needs help, everyone comes out of their house and helps.

If you need a ride, a neighbor will help. If you need a jump, a neighbor will help. If you gotta go to work at 6 in the morning and you need help with something, you can call, or knock on your neighbor's door, and it is not, and would not be, a big deal.

In a small town the first car that pulls up will usually help you if you are stranded.

Now, when your in the city, it is a little bit different. When someone's car is broke down on the freeway, or on the road side, I will see hundreds of cars pass by and not do a thing. Your car could be in the middle of the dang freeway, and people just drive around you. Unbelievable! Hundreds of cars! Hundreds of people, will just pass on by.

What the heck peoples!!!

He he he...

The thing is, I wrote about what is your purpose, and it is my humble opinion that everyone's, AND I MEAN EVERYONE'S, purpose is to serve. We just all are meant to serve in different ways.

The other day, I watched this video, it was a staged abduction, in New York, of a man taking a young 8 year old girl. He walked towards her and just grabbed her, and she started yelling, "Help me, help me, he's not my dad." People, couples, and a Dad and son, just walked by, some would look, and do nothing. She was loud and obvious. No one would help! Finally, I think after 15 times, a couple of guys surrounded the man and stopped him.

Wow! Amazing!

What do you think about that? Do you have kids? Nieces? Nephews? Wouldn't you want someone to help them?

What in the heck does all of this have to do with destressing yourself?

Well, I'll tell you!

It shouldn't take terrorists to attack the twin towers for us to come together as a community. Times are hard! You may, or may not, be having a tough time, but you must know what the heck it is like to have a difficult time. Why else would you be reading my blog?

Let's make it easy for others if we can. Let's spend today, this week, and the future asking ourselves how we can serve. If you do, and you are having a hard time, you will feel better. You will pay it forward. You will start something magnificent with the people around you.

Let's all make things easier for others. Contemplate it! How may I serve?

Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, you did it not to me. ~Matthew 25:45

Although, it will come back to you, that shouldn't be the only reason we should or should not help!

We should contemplate how we can serve, and serve, so that we can make our community a better place. We could raise the happiness in an unhappy environment.

My goodness, it feels so good to give, and help others, I swear it! I thrive on helping others, it's literally my prescription for anti-depressants.

Well, I sho hope you have a great week!

Have fun! Be playful! And serve!

BIG FAT HUGS!

Elizabeth

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SUCCESS SERIES

2011-11-19T07:11:00.000-08:00

Hello there.

Lately, I have received an unusual amount of emails posing questions about one's unhappiness with certain circumstances. Similar words like loneliness, sadness, unhappiness, withdrawal, aloneness, lonesome, and solitude, have crossed my in box. Although I have responded with words, I sense that it may not be enough.

Signs of the times are every where in the media, in the environment, and in the words out of peoples mouths. Our society is down and primarily because of the economic situation. People are unhappy with their work and yet do not take employment else where due to fear that there is no other available work. People live where they do not want to live because they do not have a choice. Families are fighting because things aren't as lucrative as they use to be.

I can go on and on and on about what is happening in our homes in America, not to mention in all the other countries that are struggling, as well.

What I would like to propose is a Telephone slash Mastermind Course that would allow a small group of people to discuss stressful habits that are invading their lives and discover successful practices with the aid of a support group.

This is bloody brilliant because it would allow the group to lift each other in faith and encouragement, which is the opposite of what society is currently doing. Also, it provides like minded thinkers to meet together while in the comfort of their home. Finally, we are at the edge of the end of the year, which means pre New Years. What better way to start the New Year than with a Success Series that will allow you to develop goals and new successful habits?

The class will be on a month by month basis, once a week, and individuals will be placed in groups based on similar thoughts, feelings, situations, and time availability.

When I say month by month, I am offering the possibility to continue as long as the desire is there.

These groups will be conducted by me, there will be specific ground rules (encouraging a positive, enlightening, supportive, and accountable atmosphere), there will be small exercises and tasks to help the discovery process, and the group will meet via conference call the same time, same day, once a week, for approximately one to one and a half hours long.

I have conducted, and participated, in these types of groups, in person and on the phone, for many years. They are very successful in the arena of destressing yourself.

If you are interested in participating in something like this please email me, elizabethstanfill@gmail.com. In your email include any questions, comments, concerns, and the best day and time for you to participate. There will be a very small fee but if that is a concern please do not let it hold you back, rather, email me your concern and we will work something out.

No one understands, more than me, how personal stress is, and how private your problems and circumstances are. My in box is inundated with personal situations every day. Most Bloggers get tons of comments, I get tons of emails, and I understand that peoples' problems are personal. Because of that, these calls will be entirely solution focused with volunteered information only. It is not necessary that anyone provide personal information.

This series is for you. This series is to help you move forward with success, happiness, energy, and vitality for life.

Please email me as soon as you can, preferably before November 23, 2011, to give me the opportunity to start working on this lovely project.

If you would rather not participate in a group email me, elizabethstanfill@gmail.com, and we can set you up with an email course.

Although...

For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them. ~ Mathew 18:20

AM GOING TO TEACH THE WORLD TO DESTRESS ;)

Have a great weekend!

Elizabeth

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AM I CRAZY?

2011-11-18T04:55:00.000-08:00

Hey hey, the weekend is here, WOOOT WOOOT!!!

Not that it really matters because everyday is a weekend to me. Ooops... did I say that out loud?

Mwhuahahaha!!!
Just kidding.
No, I'm not really.
Yes, I am.
NO I'M NOT.

My Mom has been saying to me, for over 40 years ;), "Don't do that, people will think your crazy!" But I am crazy Mom.

She cracks me up. The other day I asked her, "Mom, do you ever talk to yourself? I mean do you ever find yourself talking to yourself, out loud, when no one else is around?" And she said, with a shock in her face and voice, "NO! WHY, DO YOU?"

Me, "Yes I do, all the time, and I have been doing it as long as I can remember."

It's funny because of the way she reacted, like she thinks, and just discovered, that I am crazy. She should really know by now that her daughter is crazy.

According to American society's standards, I really am crazy, you know?

For some insane reason, I am a rebel to societies standards.

One of the craziest things I do, according to society, is I love you. I don't even know you and I love you! You gotta admit that's pretty crazy, huh? See, even you agree that I am crazy.

Another thing I do is, I love the unlovable. I love the person who is a pain in the bootay (according to society).

For example, when I was doing my internship at the University, there was this one girl, she was so stuck on herself that she took her student loans and got a new pair of teets. That's right, I said teets. She was really beautiful but very self-centered. The only thing everyone in the counseling center could talk about was her, and what they were saying was not nice. Well, I love her! She is my friend! She is unlovable, to others, but she is lovable to me.

Another thing I do is, I love very easily. I can fall in love with you after one conversation. Crazy? Yup! I love people, I love to love, and all I want to do is love.

Earlier this year, when my boyfriend and I broke up, I started to talk to this guy that I was very interested in. We had so much fun talking, laughing, and texting all the time.

And then...dun, dun, dun. I told him that he was lovable. Guess what his reaction was? It is my humble opinion that he freaked out just a little bit. He said, in this weird tone he never used before "You know Elizabeth, I like you a lot and, hu'em, I enjoy your company..." Blah, blah, blah don't love me, I am afraid of love, love is a BIG WORD, I am not ready for that BIG WORD!

HA HA HA!!!

It was so hilarious to me because he was freaked out because he thought I would love him. Well guess what? I already did love him because that's the way I am. And, I tell people all the time that they are lovable!

You are lovable, by the way ;)

Anyway, I ended up dumping him. JUST KIDDING, LOL! NO I'M NOT. WELL, YES I AM. NOT!

Dang! I crack myself up!

Why are we so afraid of love? When I say we, I mean our society. I kid you not, when I am in a conversation with someone, and I am enjoying them, I think in my head, "I love this person." Wouldn't they feel just a little awkward if I said it out loud to their face?

Crazy? OH YEAH!

But guess what? To children, teenagers, and young adults, I am not crazy. They love me too. Kids love me. Teenagers love me. Young adults love me.

Do you know, my bestest friends in the whole wide world are between the ages of 21 and 28? I have several bestest friends that I spend my time with and they are all between the ages of 21 and 28, well except two. Oh! No! Three. I am 47.

I don't say all this to brag, I say it because it's cool.

Why is that, do you think? Why are my friends so young?

When we come to earth, we are playful, pure love, faith, and curiosity. As we get older, people around us fill us with fear and dislike. Don't do this or that because this will happen. I hate it when you do that. You better do this or you won't succeed. I hate it when he does that. I don't like her, I don't know why, I just don't.

The reason the youngins love me, besides that I am a playful goof off, is because they know love, they are familiar with it, and it is still attractive to them. Most older (I SAID MOST) people are stressed, serious, really good at disliking stuff, they find it odd to love so easily, and most of them find playfulness annoying.

Crazy? You decide.

So what is the point to all this crazy talk in this crazy post by this crazy woman?

I think (this might be crazy) that my craziness creates a very fun life for me. I have a lot of fun! I really do! I laugh a lot, and I truly enjoy life.

You wanna laugh a lot? Try this...

Treat everyone like you love them. Do it just for one day. And, say in your head, when you are talking to someone, I love this person. You will crack yourself up. You will say, "That Elizabeth is crazy." But it will be fun. Make your day fun intentionally.

If you are talking to someone that irritates you, do it. You will crack yourself up and remove your thoughts from your irritations.

Do it for one day. Love easily, and love everybody. It'll be fun and funny. You crazy person you!

And if you are REALLY CRAZY, see if you can do it for a week. If you like it, and you will if you like to have fun and be playful ;), make it a habit.

Master, which is the great commandment in the law? Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets. ~Matthew 22:36-40

That's all I got!

LOVE YOU! HAVE FUN WITH THIS ONE! BE PLAYFUL, YOU CRAZY YOU!!!

Elizabeth

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WHAT IS YOUR PURPOSE?

2011-11-16T04:02:00.000-08:00

Matthew 25:16-18
Then he that had received the five talents went and traded with the same, and made them other five talents.

And likewise he that had received two, he also gained other two.

But he that had received one went and digged in the earth, and hid his lord’s money.

Do you know this scripture? Although this scripture is talking about money, isn't it ironic that the word 'talent' is in the translation?

This scripture always reminds me of those who live their purpose and prosper. It also reminds me of those who drift in life by just living day by day without searching for or living their purpose, and remain in the constant state of going nowhere.

Look this scripture up and you will see that the person who hid their talent was afraid, and that is why he hid it.

Hello there. How are you? How is your week going?

Mine's good! Thank you for asking ;)

Today, I want to ramble about purpose. One of the most important things, while we are on earth, could be finding and living our purpose. The reason I say that is because when we find, know, and live our purpose amazing things happen for us.

When I was very young, I knew, without a doubt, that I was meant to help others. It wasn't until I moved on this belief that things brought me to know exactly what my purpose is.

My true purpose is to help people create happier lives by helping them out of whatever their crisis is, into knowing the potential in themselves to live without fear and limitations. Faith and love is what this is all about. We can learn to live with faith in life, others, and ourselves, and we can learn to love life, others, and ourselves.

If you think about it, I mean really think about it, we either love or hate and we either have faith or fear. We love this or we hate that. We believe we can do this or we believe we can't do that. Fill in the blank! Of course there are in betweens, or neutrals, where we don't feel either way about certain things but we are still somewhere on that continuum.

Where am I going with this?

Heck, I don't know but I do know if you live your purpose you will increase your love for, and faith in, yourself. Also, your love for life will grow. When you have a love for life, you destress yourself.

Every once in a while, I see this young gentleman at my local cafe. He is a DJ, and he does it all week long. He is so good at it, he is in demand. I gotta tell you, he is one of the most happiest and easy going persons I know. He is loving and kind, and I love, love, love when I see him because he is an inspiration to me and I really just enjoy talking to him.

When you look at him you could easily judge a book by the cover. He dresses in jeans and a t-shirt, and he has quite a few tattoos. Not that that is bad, it goes to show you that you don't have to be in an expensive suit and tie to be successful.

This young man is happy, loves, and he makes good moolah, most likely because he knows and lives his purpose.

If I could teach the world to find and live their purpose I would because it creates happiness and self-confidence, which are two very important ingredients in the recipe for success.

If I could change our school system to teach and encourage kids to find and live their purpose, I would. Could you imagine how successful our society would be?

If we are not living our purpose we could be just living life, probably without happiness or at least fleeting happiness, and in the constant state of going nowhere, which is a very stressful place to be.

So, what I am trying to say is, you could destress yourself, and your life, if you live your purpose. You may know what your purpose is, or you may not. If you do know your purpose, and 'believe' you can't do it for a living, I would encourage you to at least work on it one hour a day. When you do, you will see amazing things happen.

If you don't know your purpose, I would encourage you to at least work on searching for what it is, at least one hour a day. If you do this, I promise you that you will discover what it is and you will see amazing things happen.

What kind of amazing things you ask? Excellent question!!!

The most important things that, I think, will happen is you will develop a love and passion that you have never felt before. You will also develop a love for and a faith in yourself and life, that you may not have experienced before. All these discoveries will add to and increase your happiness, energy, motivation and vitality.

You want to feel good most of the time? Increase your happiness, energy, motivation and vitality!

If you have any questions at all, as far as your purpose goes, you can Google it. It is amazing what information is at our finger tips. How lucky we are to live at a time in history that allows us to get answers to our questions in less than a minute.

If you are in the constant state of going nowhere, you probably aren't looking for or living your purpose. Being in the constant state of going nowhere could cause anxiety or depression.

My friend, what I am trying to say, through all this rambling is, live your purpose if you know what it is. If you haven't yet found your purpose, look for it, and you will feel an excitement you may be missing.

You can do it!!!

You got the power!!!

I have faith in you!!!

That's all I got.

Have fun!!!

Be playful!!!

BIG HUGS!

Elizabeth

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FAITH & SPIRITUALITY

2011-11-14T04:19:00.000-08:00

Hello there. How are you? How was your weekend?

Mine was great!

Today, I want to ramble about faith and spirituality. One of the most important things, while we are on earth, is living with faith and spirituality. The reason I say that is because we either live with faith or fear, and spirituality has everything to do with faith.

Galatians 5:22
But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith

I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE THAT SCRIPTURE!

One thing I notice is that many people I speak to, who are stressed out, seem to be missing two primary things. These two things are strong, concrete faith and spirituality.

When I say that people are missing faith and spirituality, I don't mean they don't have it, I mean that they are not in the middle of it. When I talk about my relationship with God, I talk about an every minute, of every hour, and every hour, of every day deep down in my soul faith. When people have high levels of stress, they have doubt, fear, and worry, which means they forget to, or haven't learned yet how to, practice their faith, in this very minute.

There is a couple who lost their son and they came to me out of desperation because they were having a hard time dealing with it. They were unable to function and they needed to return to work. They were not sleeping, they were on edge, and they were just unable to carry on everyday living which is, under these circumstances, totally normal, wouldn't you agree?

Now, after several months, they are back to functioning, still grieving, but functioning. They say they are much better now. What did they do? They returned to their faith. I say returned because they were not going to church. Their choice was to go back to church, start reading the scriptures together, and praying together every morning and every night.

They returned to practicing faith and spirituality.

When a couple looses a child it is very disturbing and the agony of the pain can become so overwhelming that it can make or break a relationship.

This couple has become closer with support for each other and by lifting each other in faith and spirituality.

There are so many stories that I can tell of people who are devastated and desperate in their stress, and within an hour of talking to them about it (aka speaking the words of faith aka destressing yourself) they can go from crisis to calm.

If you are having a hard time with life and/or your specific circumstances, I challenge you to search for your faith and your spirituality.

If you do this, I promise you, you will improve your thoughts, feelings, and actions, not to mention the direction you move in.

If you are having a hard time please contemplate this, "How can I increase my faith and spirituality?"

It will work for you, I KNOW THAT THIS IS SO! And some how, I know you know it too.

My friend, I hope you have the greatest week ever, you deserve it, I know you do.

BIG HUGS!

Don't forget! Have fun! Be playful!

Elizabeth

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HOW TO DESTRESS YOURSELF

2011-11-11T04:21:00.000-08:00

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Everybody wants to know, how to destress yourself. How do I know this? Because I was looking at my stats from yesterday, there were over 137 searches for how to destress yourself, and that is how most of the readers found my blog.

What I have decided to do is provide a post with links to my old posts so that people can find ways to destress.

Yesterday, I also read that a lot of people read the internet from their phone and it is easier, for them, if they have links to click. So, by design, I am making this post for all those who are searching the phrase, 'how to destress yourself,' from their phone.

I don't know about you, but I think modern technology is really cool. I also think, if you have a business, passion, or service, and you do not have an active website, you are missing out on an abundance of opportunities and possibilities.

There are people all over the world that I have been able to connect with, help, and they have helped me, and none of it would have been possible if it weren't for the internet and modern technology. Not only that, none of us would have ever received the help or resources we have.

Speaking of resources ;) Here are some old posts that might help you Destress Yourself.

Destress Your Day, is a great place to start on the journey of destressing yourself.

A little bit about me and How I Destress Myself, might help.

Here is a post if you are developing stress from your boss.

And finally, this is a big one, Destress Yourself So You Can Sleep.

Hope that helps. It sho seems like stress is very high for a whole lotta people.

Even my son seems stressed out. He he he... I don't say a word to him because I do not, and won't say a word to any family and friends. Sometimes someone will ask, and then I will speak the words of faith to them, so that they remember that with faith, things are always much better than doubt, fear, and worry. But, I never even mention the word stress unless I want to make them mad or get them on the defensive.

MOOHOOHAHAHA!

It's so funny to me. When you are in the field of Psychology or Human Behavior, everyone thinks you are analyzing them, and sometimes we do ;) but I try my hardest not to analyze, judge, or fix anyone. The reason I do not do therapy is because I do not want to fix anyone. What I do want to do is help those who want help. Most people don't really need therapy, they just probably need to overcome the habitual ways of thinking with worry and fear, and find their purpose and passion.

Anyway, I hope you have a great weekend. If you are really super duper stressed try quieting your mind, or slowing down.

Don't forget to have fun and be playful, no matter what you end up doing.

BIG HUGS ;)

Elizabeth

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ITEM #13 ON THE DESTRESS YOURSELF-STRESS SURVEY

2011-11-09T04:06:00.000-08:00

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

LMBO!!!

AM SOOO EXCITED THAT THIS IS THE LAST POST ON THE DESTRESS YOURSELF STRESS SURVEY!

Could you tell?

Hello my friend. How are you? Havin a good day? I hope so! I really do.

Okay, drum roll please.... I don't know how to type one or I would ;)

But, here it is, finally the last item on the survey. I know, I get so excited over the littlest things. He he he.

Item #13 is...

13. Are you unable to enjoy yourself even when you are doing something you enjoy?

This one my friend is huge! If you are unable to enjoy yourself, even when you are doing something you enjoy, it definitely means you got a whole lotta stress. How do I know? Because if you cannot enjoy yourself, there is something that is going wrong for you. If it was right, you would enjoy yourself because life is full of joy.

"These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full." John 15:11 I love scriptures!

If you are unable to enjoy yourself maybe you have too much anger. Maybe you are experiencing anxiety. Maybe you are sad, unhappy, or depressed.

What is it?

Why aren't you enjoying life?

Is it the story you are telling yourself?

Whatever you are going through, there is a story you tell. It could be, this is the worst thing that has ever happened to me. It could be, this really, really sucks. It could be, I am a failure because of this, or that. It could be, I am not lovable, I am no good, I am nothing, or nobody cares about me.

Whatever the story in your head is, it can always be a different story, it can always be much more positive than it is.

I KNOW THAT THIS IS SO!

Instead of, this is the worst thing that has ever happened to me, it could be, this is all a part of life, I can handle this, it will be fine, and I have been through worse so I know I can handle it.

Instead of, this really sucks, it could be, this is not so bad, what can I learn from this, what does God have in store for me, and what doors may be opening for me that I could look for?

Instead of, I am a failure, it could be, what is the challenge here? How can I succeed?

Instead of I am not lovable/nobody cares about me, it could be there are a lot of people who love me and care about me.

Another reason you may be unable to enjoy life is the way you are looking at things, and what you are focused on. Some people are focused on the negative, are critical, and are centered on what they do not have. Happier people focus on the positive, are very complimentary, and centered on what they have, their blessings.

Your mood is determined, mostly, by the mood of your mind.

Another reason you may not be able to enjoy life is because you are so worried about your circumstances and, you know and I know, worry equals stress.

Why? Why? Why is the inability to enjoy life a stressful habit? EXCELLENT QUESTION!!!

When you are not enjoying yourself, or life, you are not happy or laughing. Simple and silly? Yuppers!

Okay, I got more. There are positive emotions and negative emotions. If the majority of your emotions are negative, then they are not positive. You can only experience one or the other, not both at the same time.

Dominant, negative emotions like anger, anxiety, depression, and irritability house an underlying fear of something. Most fears are developed over a period of time and from a habitual way of thinking about life. Fear is stress.

Happiness and joy is a choice, it is a state of mind. Many people say, "I will be happier when..." Fill in the blank, right? What would you fill in? Would you say when I have more money, a better home, a better relationship, or when my child behaves?

Whether you are happy or unhappy, it is usually determined by your habitual way of thinking about life. One thing I wish we would teach in school, and in church, is that happiness is a state of mind, and a way of being that we can choose. We are the thinkers of our own thoughts and we can choose to think happier thoughts.

How do we think happier thoughts? That is easy! Learn the habit of being grateful for what you have. Learn the habit of enjoying the moment that you are in. Most unhappiness comes from worrying about what is going to happen in the future, which is not right here, right now, and regretting something that happened in the past, which is also not right here, right now.

Another way to increase your happiness is to learn to love others, life, and yourself. If we really loved, the way we should love, as Jesus did, we would feel good all the time. How do I know? Because I love! I really, really love you, others, life, and myself. Sure I have my moments when I don't feel love but my dominant habit is to love.

If you scored a 3, 4, or 5 on this item on the destress yourself stress survey and you really want to learn how to enjoy life, here is your mission, if you choose to accept it ;)

1. Choose to be happy! Sounds simple, but may not be easy. You could use the affirmation, "I choose to be happy."

2. Practice thinking about all the things that you are grateful for and if you really want to turn it up a notch, make a list, of the things you are grateful for, two or three times a day. When we write things down, they are much more effective than if we just think them.

3. Practice enjoying the moment you are in, the person you are with, and the place you are at. If you practice this, you will get really good at it and you will relieve the stressful habit of worrying about the past or future.

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4. Practice loving others, life, and yourself. This may, or may not, be easy but practice makes perfect. If you do not know how to love, or it does not come easy for you, read the New Testament, and you will learn to love the way Jesus did. He is a great example, and He teaches us all to love the unlovable (or who we think is unlovable).

Well, that's all I got, for now ;)

Have a great day! Have fun! Be playful!

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Speak soon...

Elizabeth

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LET'S DE-STRESS WITH SAUNDRA KAY

2011-11-07T07:50:00.000-08:00

Hello! Just wanted to say, "haaay!" And share a resource with you that you may benefit from and enjoy.

My friend Saundra Kay, invites you with, "Let's De-stress." Her blog is her online Ministry devoted to relieving stress, using principles based on God's word. I receive her newsletter via email, usually on Sundays. She is just another resource I would love to share with you because, I think, you will enjoy her words, I always do.

You can read and subscribe to her newsletter by clicking the link below.

A DISCERNING SPIRIT.

Have a great week, hugs...

Elizabeth

ITEM #12 ON THE STRESS SURVEY

2011-11-04T04:02:00.000-07:00

HEY AYE! How's it goin? Are you ready for the weekend? I'm not. Just kidding. It's just that I gotta do this thing. My Mom talked me into going somewhere that I am not excited about but I will be okay, I can handle it. Ha ha ha...

Okay, so we are on Item #12 on the destress yourself stress survey. FINALLY ;)

Item #12 is...

12. Do you have trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or getting essential hours of sleep because you can't stop thinking of things you have to do or because you have too much going on in your life?

When people are stressed, this has got to be one of the most common issues that they face. When people are REALLY stressed, I mean REALLY stressed, they struggle with this one. Some people struggle with this one and don't even know that they got stress because their life is so high strung that they think it's normal.

If you said yes to this question or scored a 3, 4, or even 5 on the stress survey, you can resolve this very stressful habit.

Why is this a stressful habit you ask? Excellent question ;)

The number one reason, in my humble opinion, that this habit is so stressful is because of your health. Eating right, exercising, and getting plenty of rest are essentials in good self care. Mentally, we need rest so we can be alert and make less mistakes. Physically, we need rest because it takes energy to be a productive person, on a daily basis. A normal sleep schedule, and a reasonable amount of sleep, every night, provides rest, rejuvenation, and energy. It takes mental alertness and physical energy to handle stress.

It takes mental alertness and physical energy to handle everyday life! Wouldn't you agree?

So, what's the solution? Well, we gotta find the culprit before we can provide the solution.

Lack of sleep is very common among the Emergency Medical Field. It starts with the unusual hours, and the continual interrupted sleep in the evening. Then it becomes a habit to have abnormal sleeping patterns. Abnormal sleeping patterns can, and does, cause lack of sleep.

There is one major reasons, I have found, that Emergency Personnel, Military Personnel, and the general population, experience lack of essential hours of sleep. Now, this is just from my experience, which includes only 18 years in the field of stress ;)

The reason is over stimulation.

An over stimulated mind can be caused by many different reasons. A very common one in the US, or at least in Southern California, nah, in the US, is caffeine.

People hate when I say that and they strongly disagree. People love their caffeine and they are in BIG DENIAL on the affects.

I love it when people say to me, "I can drink coffee or any amount of caffeine and it doesn't affect me. I can go right to sleep at night." Then I ask, "How do you feel when you wake up in the morning? Do you wake up rejuvenated?" Them ( I say them because this is the conversation, all the time!), "I am exhausted." Me, "Do you sleep deep through the night, or do you wake up once or twice?" Them, "Oh I wake up at least three or four times a night. I have always been that way."

HELLO!

It appears to be a consensus among peeps that caffeine is out of your system after an hour or two. Not so! If you read the research, excessive amounts of caffeine over stimulates the mind, and dehydrates the body.

An over stimulated mind equals insomnia. Dehydrated body equals fatigue.

Sound familiar?

I know a lot of people who tell me they have been diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue. Coincidentally, every single one of them, that I have talked to, drink caffeinated drinks all day long, but nearly nothing else. Drinking caffeinated drinks all day long, and nothing else, not only dehydrates the body, because caffeine is a diuretic (elevates the rate of urination), it also depletes your vitamins & minerals (via frequent potty breaks).

Our body should be at least 60% water, preferably 70%. Our brain is suppose to be about 70% of water. If you are dehydrating yourself through caffeine, you are depleting the water in your body and brain, and most likely shrinking your brain as well. That's what happens with Alzheimer's, I mean your brain shrinks :)

Okay, enough of the caffeine rant. It's just so common and so denied. In fact, I have lost clients and readers because of this subject.

Some other reasons the mind may be over stimulated are heightened awareness due to a past experience or gruesome imagery, or constant worry due to a habitual way of thinking. These aren't the only reasons but they are common ones. The Military Personnel, and the Emergency Field, can experience an over active mind due one of the reasons, or all three. But these behaviors are not limited to just individuals who are regularly exposed to unusual situations. Some people in the general population can experience these same circumstances.

So, what is one to do?

Can't sleep?

If you need to...

Learn to release your worry.

Change your habitual way of thinking with doubt, fear, and worry. Then replace it with a habitual attitude of certainty, confidence, and faith.

Learn to quiet your mind through meditation, which can replace mild, moderate, or severe forms of anxiety.

Get some help if you need it. If you have PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) it is very important that you speak to a qualified, experienced professional.

HERE ARE SOME RESOURCES THAT I PROVIDE.

Learn to Meditate ;)

Learn Deep Relaxation ;)

How To Destress Yourself

Whatever it is that is holding you back from a good night's sleep, every night, you gotta change it. It may not be easy, or it may, but you can do it! I know you can! I have faith in you!

Have the greatest weekend ever!!!

Don't forget to have fun and be playful, okay? Alrighty!

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

ITEM #11 ON THE STRESS SURVEY

2011-11-02T08:52:00.000-07:00

Hello there. How's your week going? Are you having a great week? I hope you are, I really do.

Otay...

Here we go...

Item #11 on the Destress Yourself Stress Survey is...

Wait...

Just let me say that I am so excited that I am almost done with the items on the stress survey, it has taken me nearly three months to finish. Actually, if I don't get a move on it, it will be three months. BAH HA HA HA! OOPS! Got excited there for a moment.

Here we go...

Item #11 is...

11. Do you binge on or are you addicted to a certain activity, food, caffeine, tobacco, alcohol, or any form of pharmaceutical, over the counter, or illegal drug?

Shew... That is a long and loaded question, isn't it?

Okay, get ready! Here comes the Sermon. If you don't want to here about Scriptures and God, you are in for it because that's all I got.

Matthew 22:36-40
Master, which is the great commandment in the law? Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.

Are you loving God? Are you loving your neighbor? Are you even loving yourself?

If you are going through troubled times, and if you are always going through troubled times, the Lord is saying to you, "Build your love for and faith in Me, build your love for and faith in others, and build your love for and faith in yourself."

Love and faith, my friend, will make you strong. Matter of fact, love and faith will make you invincible. I know this with all my heart and soul.

If you are addicted to or binge on unhealthy activity, which I believe we all do because it's our human nature, you are not loving yourself enough and you do not have enough faith in yourself.

Really! If you loved yourself, really love yourself, you would not subject yourself to any one of these behaviors. If you had faith in yourself, really have faith in yourself, you would not subject yourself to any of these unhealthy behaviors.

We are all guilty of something, it's only human. But! If we seek our spirituality, we can overcome anything. With God, anything is possible.

Usually, I indicate why a particular habit is stressful. In this case, we all know why these habits are stressful. When we participate in these types of unhealthy behaviors, we beat ourselves up physically. In addition, when we do something that is unhealthy, we don't feel good about ourselves. When we don't feel good about ourselves, we beat ourselves up verbally. There is this negative voice in our head that says, "I gotta stop doing this, it's so bad for me." That is the voice of worry, and you know and I know that worry equals stress.

When we participate in any unhealthy habit, we have this illusion that it makes us feel better. It does make us feel better, for the moment. Instant Gratification! Yet, we create long-term detrimental affects from and for mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual stress and dissatisfaction.

Would you give your child, niece, or nephew caffeine, tobacco, or alcohol? No? Why not? Because you know it is bad for them and if and when they started to do any of these things, you know it is not easy to quit.

Blah! Blah! Blah!

You know all this stuff, don't you?

Okay, back to the Love and Faith stuff.

In order to quit any unhealthy habit that you have sustained for many, many years, or even just for a little while, you really gotta love yourself enough to make a decision to quit. You really gotta love yourself and have faith in yourself to quit.

Some unhealthy habits are very powerful, so powerful that we have no faith in ourselves and have no idea how we can overcome them. We have tried over and over to quit, and nothing has worked. Therefore, we give up with the attitude of, "I have tried and tried and nothing works. I can't do it!"

"I can't do it," is a statement of doubt, which is the opposite of faith, right?

When a habit is this strong the only thing that is stronger is God. If you develop a deep down faith in God, your relationship can be stronger than the habit, as well.

I KNOW THAT THIS IS SO!

I use to smoke. Not only did I smoke, sometimes I was a pack a day smoker. Smoking soothed my anxiety and so I loved to smoke. How did I quit? I had this conversation with God. My faith in God has always been strong and so the conversation was easy. Having a conversation with God is the greatest habit I have. Anyway, I told Him that I could quit, but the desire was stronger to smoke than it was to quit, and I said that I could quit but I need His help. The conversation was longer than that but you get the gist of it.

I use to be an alcoholic, many, many, many moons ago. It was difficult, but with God's help, I quit.

Currently, I have other bad habits (I love food that some would determine as junk ;)), and I am getting better, but I know that with God anything is possible. I am working on it ;) Because I love myself ;) I want to live forever ;) JUST KIDDING. But, I do want to be healthy the last years of my life, don't you?

What I am trying to say is, love yourself enough to make a decision to quit, whatever it is you want to quit. Have faith in yourself, and in God, that you can do it!

WITH GOD ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE!

GOD LOVES YOU AND IS TAKING CARE OF YOU EVERY MINUTE OF EVERY HOUR, AND EVERY HOUR OF EVERY DAY!

YOU CAN DO IT!

YOU GOT THE POWER!

I RAMBLE! I know it, and you thought I didn't know it, but I do. He he he...

That's all I got, yo!

Have a sooper duper alli ooper day!

Love ya! Love ya! Love ya!

Until next post, don't forget to have fun, and don't forget to be playful. Not just because I say so, but because it's good for you and you will destress yourself.

Hugs...

Elizabeth

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ITEM # 10 ON THE STRESS SURVEY.

2011-10-31T08:45:00.000-07:00

Hello there. Happy Halloween ;) Hope you had the best weekend ever. I sho did. Take a look at the pics in this post and you can see what I did ;). I know! I know! I am bragging but, if you read my last post, you will know that I have been a bit stressed and so, I am destressing ;)

Funny, whenever I say that I am stressed people (especially my family) will say, "All that stress stuff you do, how can you be stressed?" Ha Ha Ha! Guess what? I have found that the Lord is evolving my mind by giving me stress. The more stress I have, the more I know that I can handle what I am telling other people to handle. Also, the more stress I have the more I believe that no one is immune, even a Destress Yourself Specialist like myself.

One thing I know for sure is, the more I study stress, the better I get at handling it. Although, I sho do wish the Lord would find it in His heart to lighten up on me ;)

Okay, back to business. Item # 10 on the destress yourself stress survey is...

10. Do you find yourself walking, talking, or eating fast because you are in a hurry?

This habit is very common in the people around me, in Southern California. I call it the Hurry-Up Disease. The Hurry-Up Disease is when you are standing in line, on the freeway, taking your kids to school, or any daily activity you experience regularly, and you want yourself, as well as everyone else, to hurry up.

This is so common and we all see it, all the time. When we are in a coffee house and someone wants everyone to hurry up so he/she can get their coffee. When we are on the freeway and a person is tailgating you or zooming in and out of traffic. When people are taking their kids to school, they break laws just because they think they will save time, except they get pulled over and they get a ticket which, doesn't save time at all.

People are in a hurry and if they are always in a hurry they got the Hurry-Up Disease. It's just a habit of the way they live their life.

Do you get up in the morning and just rush? Even when you are not late or when you are going to a leisurely activity? Often times it's just a habit people have created over time, and a very stressful habit.

Why is the Hurry-Up Disease a stressful habit? Excellent question!

The Hurry-Up Disease is a stressful habit because we feel negative emotions while we feel we need to hurry. The negative emotions I am talking about are anger, frustration, and impatience. Negative emotions mimic the stress response, which increases our blood pressure, shifts our blood flow, and shuts down many bodily systems like the immune system. Stress, my friend, is the number one cause of every illness (I said it again, dang! MOOHOOHAHAHA! ;)).

One of my clients, a middle aged (if you live to one hundred the middle part of your life ;)) woman, who happens to be a Mother, was living with the Hurry-Up Disease, even though she was never late or needed to be in a hurry. She discovered this after she took the destress yourself stress survey. She started to meditate and would say a silly reminder like, "I have plenty of time, I don't need to hurry."

The reason she began to meditate is because meditation teaches us how to activate the relaxation response, which is the opposite of the stress response. When we learn to relax, we can make it a habit, and replace the stressful habit of reacting with the stress response, which is what destressing yourself is all about.

So, what a ya gotta do to eliminate the stressful habit of the Hurry-Up Disease? The best thing to do is learn to meditate so that the relaxation response becomes more automatic than the stress response and remind yourself that, "I have plenty of time, I don't need to hurry." Try it! It works!

It was 1999 when I began to meditate and it was amazing. Within three months I felt relaxed all the time. It was weird because I discovered it when I was ironing. No kidding, I was ironing some clothes and I felt so relaxed that it was kind of not normal.

It was not normal to feel relaxed, for me, because I use to work on an ambulance, running 911 calls, and for some reason the stress response is very high for people like us. Our life consisted of getting a call, jumping up, running to the ambulance, and driving with our lights and sirens on to find, sometimes not always, a very catastrophic situation with people on scene who were freaking out.

This behavior, on a regular basis, can certainly create a mild form of anxiety due to the regular activity of creating a heightened response.

That is exactly what the Hurry-Up Disease does. It creates a regular activity of a heightened response, which is a mild form of anxiety. And the best way to eliminate mild forms of anxiety is to train yourself to have the habit of reacting with the relaxation response.

So, if you have the Hurry-Up Disease, learn to meditate, make the relaxation response a regular reaction, watch it replace the stress response, and remind yourself, "I have plenty of time, I don't need to be in a hurry." Do this and just watch how you destress yourself.

Well friend, that's all I got.

HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!!

Have fun! Be playful!

Love ya!

Elizabeth

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AAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2011-10-27T04:27:00.000-07:00

Hey! Hi! How are you? Are you stressed? I am!

I cannot believe what I just saw. There is this video clip of a Dr. of Psychology telling people that there is no such thing as stress, that the stress is caused by YOUR reactions.

Dang it!!! I use to say that all the time, like a few weeks ago. IT'S A LIE!!!

There are some seriously stressful situations. That's right! I was wrong and I am changing my thoughts and theory about stress.

Recently, I have talked to people who are seriously stressed out and some of them are freaking out because of their situation. These particular situations are legitimately stressful. Loosing a loved one, like a child or a spouse, that is stressful. Loosing your job, home, and car, that is stressful. Loosing the feelings and use of your legs and arms, that is stressful.

Holy shizzz!!!

After watching that video I said to myself, "How could that Dr. go around telling people that their thoughts cause their stress?" In some situations, it is true that our thoughts and reactions cause our stress, like the habits on the stress survey. But, when it comes to devastating situations, it is the circumstances that provokes the stress. I REALLY BELIEVE THAT!

What I am saying is that there are legitimately stressful situations.

Do you remember the D's? Death, destruction, devastation, dismemberment, divorce, and dying.

If you experience any of these D's, I think it is absolutely normal to experience severe stress, and even critical stress. There is no doubt about it! These are stressful situations.

As I think about the people I have helped through their stress, I have realized that when it comes to everyday situations like work, relationships, school, family, and finances we do create our stress by our reactions, by our habitual way of thinking. Especially if it is full of doubt, fear, and worry.

AND!!! This is the big AND ;), I realize that some situations, like the D's, certainly can, and will, provoke our stress.

I gotta be honest with you, I am going through a shizola load of devastation right now. The reason I don't share is because I am not ready to talk about it. Me! The destress Queen! HA!

Maybe I do handle stress better than most, maybe I don't ;), I still have my stress. How am I handling it? Some moments, very well, and other moments I cry my eyes out.

But, this is what I know, and these are the beliefs that are helping me...

1. I have a deep down conviction, deep deep in my heart and soul, that God is taking care of me every minute of every hour, and every hour of everyday.

2. With every adversity comes an equal and opposite opportunity.

3. When we have adversity, it is only a blessing if we look for the lesson in it, carry our faith through the adversity, and know, really believe, that every thing is going to be fine, because it always is.

4. I must discover what I am going to do next by establishing what I want, setting goals, and just make consistent moves towards those goals.

5. God is giving me adversity, and stress, because in order to be a destress specialist, I gotta know what the heck people are going through ;)

6. Although, I want to curl up into a ball in my bed some days, I have to move forward. I have to be diligent on making something happen for the good of me.

7. Adversity can be a way God gets us to grow spiritually, move in another direction spiritually, and get closer to Him, if we carry faith.

8. When I am under stress, I have to take care of myself because I could get sick and if I don't take care of myself, I can't take care of anyone else.

9. I can still enjoy this minute, the place I am at, the person I am with, and right here, right now. Taking it not day by day but moment by moment.

Shew...

So any who... I made a comment on this video to the Dr. chastising him for daring to say such things and what I should really do is reprimand myself. Please believe me, I have seen the error of my ways ;)

FORGIVE ME ;)

That's all I got...

Have a great day! Don't forget to have fun and be playful ;)

Elizabeth

ITEM #9 ON THE STRESS SURVEY

2011-10-26T04:19:00.000-07:00

Hey there! How ya doin?

Dang, this stress survey is taking me forever.

Any who...

Here is number nine.

9. Do you get offended easily and/or talk about other people?

Why is getting offended easily and/or talking about other people a stressful habit you ask?

Excellent question!!!

When you are offended and/or talk about someone, whether it is at school, work, in a social setting, or in a relationship this is what happens...

1. You get offended.

2. You start to talk about someone behind their back.

3. You are now in the past, wasting your energy, and not enjoying life, which happens to be this moment, right here, right now.

4. You are creating unhappiness for yourself when you could be creating happiness for yourself, in this moment.

5. You create negative emotions like agitation, anger, bitterness, frustration, resentment, and distress (the negative stress).

6. Negative emotions equals stress.

7. Your blood pressure goes up, your blood flow shifts, and bodily systems shut down, especially your immune system. Stress, my friend, is the number one cause of every illness (mwhuahahaha, I say that all the time).

8. Finally, stressful toxins are released into your body and blood stream.

Some people continue this way of thinking for days, weeks, months, and even years. Imagine what this can do to someone's health and happiness.

I use to have this habit, and it really did stress me out, and the worst part is, I knew that it stressed me out.

Now, I do not have this habit. That's right, you cannot offend me and I will not talk about you. Well, I might talk about you but it won't be in this context, it will be more like telling a story or stating facts.

The real reason I don't do this anymore is because it is adolescent. This behavior is so immature! That's right! This behavior belongs in Jr. High and High School. This behavior should not belong to an adult.

That is the real reason I stopped getting offended and talking about people and the destress benefits followed.

It would be really nice if I could say I stopped this habit because it was stressful, but it's not the reason.

When I was in my twenties, I began my career in the Emergency field, and I was the only girl among about 250 men. Man oh man, I went through hell because I experienced every kind of harassment you could imagine, and because of the way I reacted to these kinds of offenses.

When I talk about how I reacted, I am talking about getting offended and just letting things fester and linger by going on and on about it.

When something would happen, like sexual harassment or physical threats, I would never tolerate it. I would let the person know that it is wrong, write it up as a report, notify supervision, and demand that it never happen again. I was a bad ars and people, to this day, hate me because of it.

That part of my reaction didn't hurt me, it helped me. But, when I would get offended/upset/angry/agitated/frustrated/distressed, then would talk about it over and over and over, and let it consume me for days, weeks, and even months, on some occasions, it really hurt me.

Somewhere along the the way of getting older, I noticed that there are people who could just let things go. There are people who would not tolerate things, do what they could do about it, and then... JUST LET IT GO!!! When I started noticing this, I realized I wanted to be like that as well.

Also, I would notice people who would just get offended over EVERYTHING, and GO ON AND ON AND ON about it. When I noticed this, I thought to myself, "Dang, I do that, and I don't wanna be like that." Some people just seemed so miserable and immature when they behaved like this. Then I thought, "I am creating my misery and being really unprofessional, inappropriate, and unacceptable.

So, I stopped, or at least do it a lot less ;) nobody is perfect ;) he he he...

When I started to teach permanent stress relief classes, aka destress yourself classes, this habit started popping up as a very stressful behavior that was consuming people and really making them miserable. So, that is when I discovered it belonged on the stress survey.

So, if you have this habit, and you wanna change it, what a ya gotta do?

It's all about knowing that it doesn't help you and that it hurts you.

There is a couple of things going on. First, if you do this a lot, it is probably a habit (a very very stressful habit ;)). Habits can be changed by retraining your brain. Second, if you do this a lot, chances are you are very insecure and you have the illusion that it makes you feel better. When other people listen, and take your side, it may give you the illusion that you feel more secure because of their support. Finally, you may just be addicted to drama. When you get offended, and then talk about another person, it is drama. There is no better way of saying it.

The best way to change a stressful habit is to meditate, create a reminder, and then be insistent with yourself. You gotta meditate so that you can learn the relaxation response to replace the stress response when something happens. You gotta create a reminder, that you say every morning, noon, and night, so that you can become what you want to become. Then insist, just insist that you do it!

The whole meditation and affirmation is repetitive in my posts because it is the best way to change a habit that you find difficult to change. Habits are developed over 20, 30, 40, or even more years of your life, and if you can change them with a snap of your finger, then awesome. But, if you can't, you should at least try retraining your brain with meditations and affirmations.

Meditation is quieting your mind and creating an automatic habit that provokes the relaxation response. We need this because the stress response can be our habitual reaction.

You cannot control other peoples' behavior, but you can control how you react.

Trust me, if I can do it, I know with all my heart and soul that you can too.

YOU GOT THE POWER!!!

That's all I got.

Have a great week!!! Have fun!!! Be playful!!!

HUGS!

Elizabeth

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ITEM # 8 ON THE STRESS SURVEY

2011-10-19T04:46:00.000-07:00

Hello there...

This is the BIG ONE!

Item # 8 on the stress survey is...

8. Do you worry?

If you have the stressful habit of worrying then you are stress!!! Worry equals stress because it is the culprit of stress.

When we worry, it affects us Spiritually, Mentally, Emotionally, and Physically.

Read the New Testament and you will find Jesus telling us, about a kah bah jah zillion times, to have faith. Worry is the opposite of faith.

It is my humble opinion that our strength as spiritual, and human, beings is based upon our faith in God, ourselves, others, and life. Well, based on faith and love.

Anyway, when we worry, we lack faith, and I can put about a couple dozen of quotes from the scriptures that reminds us to have faith.

Faith is so important for our Spirituality and you have read me type about a kah bah jah zillion times that Spirituality is the missing link for those who are super dooper allie ooper stressed.

When we have faith, we feel good, and we know that we are going to be okay.

When we worry we think about the worst possible things that can happen, and that makes us feel like poop.

When we worry, we experience a mild, or severe, anxiety and that causes the fight or flight response which causes our blood pressure to rise, our blood to shift, all kinds of stressful toxic reactions in our body, and then many of our systems shut down, especially the immune system. Stress, my friend, is the number one cause of EVERY illness.

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I get at least a dozen emails a day and I speak to at least a half a dozen of people a day who are experiencing stress and it is all worry and this worry is just a habitual way of thinking.

You gotta have faith, faith, faith.

When we worry, our mind races and focuses on the worst possible outcome. Whatever we focus on grows. So, if we focus on the worst possible outcome, then that outcome is what is likely to happen.

You will notice that some people worry and some people have faith. Do you worry or do you have faith?

If you worry the best thing you can do is overcome that way of thinking. In other words, we gotta overcome that negative and hurtful habit.

So how do you change your habit of worry?

The best way to change a habit is to change your way of thinking. The best way to change your way of thinking is first, awareness, and then a reminder. We gotta remind ourselves to have faith if we have worry.

A great reminder to change worry to faith is, "With God anything is possible."

Reminders is just another way of saying affirmations.

Sometimes affirmations might not be enough so you can create a faithful outcome versus a worrisome one.

What I mean by this is, when we worry we play out, in our mind, the worst possible outcome. For example, if you are having a hard time with money, you might think of all the things you are going to have to give up. You might even think about what you are going to do when you are homeless. This is no joke! I talk to a lot of people who are going to loose their home and this is what they think about.

So, instead of the worst outcome, get a piece of paper and write down the best possible outcome, one you would like to see happen. Using the money as an example, maybe you could write down a way you can make more money, or how you can get a better paying job. It's like writing a goal.

When we write down a goal, the chances of that goal happening increases over 50%.

The way I do goals is I write it down, put a date on it (set a time limit), list all the obstacles I have to overcome, which is usually my beliefs, put a plan of action on paper, and then write down all the benefits that are in it for me. When we write down the benefits, we get motivated.

If you create a reminder, set a goal, which is the best possible thing that can happen, and say the reminder to yourself everyday, all day, read your goal at least twice a day, and then do at least one thing a day on your plan of action, I promise you that you will build faith in yourself, you will feel better, and you will definitely destress yourself.

You have a choice here my friend, you can choose to worry or you can choose to create faith! Which will you choose?

CHOOSE FAITH!!! CHOOSE HAPPINESS!!!

CHOOSE TO DO THE EXERCISES ABOVE!!!

MAKE A COMMITMENT!!!

REMEMBER...

WITH GOD, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE!!!

YOU ARE HIS CHILD!!! YOU WERE BORN TO SUCCEED!!! YOU ARE SO VERY SPECIAL!!!

YOU HAVE YOUR WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF YOU!!! YOUR FUTURE IS IN YOUR HANDS!!!

YOU HAVE THE POWER!!! YOUR DREAMS CAN COME TRUE!!!

YOU CAN BE, DO, AND HAVE ANYTHING YOUR HEART DESIRES!!!

YOU CAN ACHIEVE ANYTHING YOU SET YOUR MIND TO!!!

YOU CAN RETRAIN YOUR BRAIN!!! YOU CAN ENLARGE YOUR VISION!!!

YOU CAN INCREASE YOUR FAITH!!! YOU CAN INCREASE YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE!!!

CHOOSE TO STEP FORWARD DAILY!!! BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!!!

LET GO OF THE PAST AND NEVER GIVE UP!!!

MAKE AN AFFIRMATION ~ SAY IT EVERY DAY, ALL DAY LONG!!!

WRITE SOME GOALS ~ THE BEST POSSIBLE OUTCOMES ~ READ THEM MORNING, NOON, AND NIGHT!!!

I know that you can do it. I see people do it all the time. YOU CAN DO IT!!!

Well, that's all I got. I LOVE YOU! I REALLY REALLY DO!

Have a great week, and don't forget to have fun! Be playful!

BIG HUGS!!!

Elizabeth

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ITEM # 7 ON THE STRESS SURVEY

2011-09-21T05:27:00.000-07:00

Here is a great explanation of Item # 7. You can find the links to Items # 1 through #6 on the Stress Survey.

7. Do you complain about other people, places, or things?

Please listen all the way through and it will make more sense ;)

The longer you listen the more sense it will make, I promise ;)

Hugs...

ps thank you for all the Birthday wishes.

Elizabeth

ITEM # 6 ON THE STRESS SURVEY

2011-09-19T05:00:00.000-07:00

Hello!

Time for Item # 6 On The Stress Survey. But first, here are the links to Item # 1, Item # 2, Item # 3, Item #4, and Item #5.

Item # 6 is Are you angry, moody, or irritable?

This very stressful habit is similar to #5 in that anger, moodiness, and irritability causes unhappiness to ourselves and the people around us.

When you are moody and irritable, you are angry. So, for the sake of this post, when I use the term anger I am using it as a general term to address moodiness and irritability as well.

Anger causes problems like increased blood pressure, unhealthy physical changes, issues at work and home, it harms us emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually, and it leads to violence.

Some people say anger is a healthy emotion. I say HOGWASH! Anger is an unnecessary emotion. Anger is an unnecessary habit! I know that this is so. There have been many times in my past that I was really, truly, angry, moody, or irritable and now that I look back, I see that it was unnecessary. Now, I have no anger, and if I do it only lasts a millisecond.

Believe you, me, if I can overcome this very stressful habit, you can too. If I did it, I know anyone can do it ;)

I got an email yesterday, concerning Item # 5 on the stress survey. This person basically told me that I was wrong telling people that they have control over loosing their patience, that people and circumstances cause other people to loose their temper, and that telling yourself to relax or I won't loose my temper would never work. Do you believe that?

The question to you is, do you believe that negative emotions are external and not internal?

Anger, moodiness, and irritability comes from some sort of fear that was placed within a person. If you have a negative emotion such as one of these then you picked it up somewhere along your life thinking that that is the way to react to certain circumstances or people. Then, all of a sudden, somewhere in the midst of living your life, it became a habit.

If you get angry, are moody, or irritable, all the time or most of the time, it is a habit you have and it comes from within.

The opposite of these emotions is peace and serenity. Peace and serenity come from within as well.

The person who does not display anger, moodiness, or irritability is usually an easy going person. I say usually because an easy going person displays calm and does not get worked up but, just because a person stays composed it does not mean they are not angry inside. I know many people who do not react but are going crazy inside. It is a trick that they learned to show no outward emotion, because they believe it is a sign of weakness or they will get embarrassed, but are angry inside. It is my opinion that getting angry and holding it inside is far more dangerous than getting angry and showing it.

The reason I believe holding anger in is much more dangerous is because it festers. When someone gets angry and shows it, there is a release that happens and when you hold it in, there is no release and it becomes very toxic mentally, then emotionally, then physically, and then your spirit weakens.

So, what a ya gotta do to overcome this very stressful habit?

That is a very tough question but there are a whole lotta answers.

One of the biggest things you can do to eliminate anger is finding happiness. Happiness comes from within too ;) Happiness comes from falling in love with all the good things that are going on in your life. First, you gotta focus on the great things and then you can fall in love with them.

There was a woman that I know who could not find a job and was loosing her home to foreclosure. She was so depressed and her natural reaction was moodiness and irritability. After talking to her we found out that she had this great fear of the future because everything was being taken from her. So, we had to switch up the thought process.

We had to focus on what was right so she could feel gratitude. She realized that she had a supportive family and friends, she would indeed have a roof over her head, and now, the stress of worrying about the foreclosure and how she was going to pay for her house would be gone.

This may sound silly to you but we are lucky beings and sometimes we don't realize it. Could you imagine, what if she was in constant pain, or if she was bound by a wheelchair, or she was bound by a wheelchair, in constant pain, and couldn't move the wheelchair because she didn't have arms?

We are breathing, walking, talking, loving, seeing, hearing, tasting, and touching. Those are the basic things we should be grateful for and maybe we just take it for granted.

Another thing we can do to overcome anger is fall in love with life. This one is a good one! How do I know? Because I am in love with life! I am in love with what is! I love sitting here typing on the puter. I love getting up early in the morning when everyone else is asleep. I love my Daddy, Mommy, Son, all of my family, and all of my friends. I love serving the Lord. I love helping people learn permanent stress relief. I love people, places, things, and circumstances. And most of all, I LOVE THE UNLOVABLE!!!

How did I get here, to this place of loving everything and what is? I learned it from the Lord. I learned that I have a deep deep deep down inside true faith in God. This is not some superficial thing that is convenient for me to turn to Him when I am in need. This is a DEEP, DOWN, INSIDE MY SOUL, FAITH AND TRUST IN HIM!

I know, without a doubt, that no matter what happens to me, or no matter what I am going through, I do not need to fear because He has always taken care of me and always will.

This calm certainty comes from experiences that I have had, because I learned from them, and it comes from quieting my mind so that I can be right here, right now, in this moment.

The past is gone and the future is not here yet so we must be here now, right now, to enjoy life. Unfortunately, when our mind is not quiet, it (our mind) doesn't know we can enjoy life because it is thinking about what could have been or it is worried about the future.

Am I making any sense here? I am to me ;)

Another thing we can do is create an affirmation to remind ourselves that we are changing a habit. When we have a really strong habit that is hard to change, we need a reminder to keep us on the right track. An affirmation is just a positive statement of fact. If we use an affirmation, we replace the negative thought that is running inside our mind. For example, when we get angry, we say, in our mind, "This is really piss'n me off," or, "I am really angry." So, when we create an affirmation, we can replace this negative thought with a positive one. A good affirmation for anger is, "I am not going to loose my temper," or, "Your anger is unnecessary silly."

Try it! After a few times it becomes funny and you will break your habit of getting angry. Besides, it is better to laugh at yourself then get angry, isn't it?

TRY IT! YOU WILL LIKE IT!!

Finally, another very helpful way to change this very stressful habit is to learn to relax and learn to meditate. If you want to remove anger, you can replace it with relaxation and meditation. Anger is a stressful habit and if you replace it with relaxation and meditation you create a successful practice. And, that my friend, is what destressing yourself is all about. When you have the habit of staying calm, inside and out, you can be that easy going person rather than the angry one.

Well, that's all I got! For now!

It's my birthday today, and I am going to enjoy it! I hope you enjoy it too. And don't forget to have fun and be playful ;)

Hugs...

Elizabeth

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ITEM #5 ON THE STRESS SURVEY

2011-09-14T05:21:00.000-07:00

Hello there. How are you? I hope you are doing great and are having a wonderful week ;)

We are now on Item #5 of the Stress Survey, and if you would like to and haven't already, please check out Item #1, Item #2, Item #3, or Item #4.

Item #5 is, Do you loose your temper or become impatient easily?

Loosing your temper and being impatient is a very stressful habit. Yes! I Said Habit!

The dictionary definition of a habit is a recurrent, often unconscious behavior that is acquired through frequent repetition. When we do something repeatedly, it can be difficult to unrepeat it ;)

Why is this a stressful habit? Mostly, it is a stressful habit because it causes unhappiness for the person who displays the behavior and for the people around them.

It is interesting to me, that many so called 'intelligent' people loose their temper so easily. If they were really 'intelligent' would they not know how to control this behavior? Maybe, maybe not. But people ought to know that it is not okay to loose their temper and that it is very unhealthy and hurtful to the self and the people around them.

When we, and people around us, are unhappy, we are miserable. Misery is a state of great distress and discomfort in our mind and body. Misery is stressful. The opposite of misery is joy and we are suppose to be living our lives with joy.

Loosing your temper, and impatience, is an issue that causes stress.

Many a women have sent their husband to see me because they are fed up with their husband's lack of patience. Literally, several men have come to me because their wife made them because of fear of a divorce over temper issues.

When I have worked with people with this particular stressful habit, some get it and some don't. The one's that get it understand that it is within their control and responsibility to overcome this stressful habit. The one's who don't get it really believe that it is other peoples' fault that they loose their temper. They believe that it is external and not within their control.

Believe me, I use to loose my temper and I seriously had no patience at all! But now, if I get even the slightest bit frustrated or angry, I do not think I ever loose my temper. ;) Instead, I giggle at myself, within seconds of the frustration and anger.

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Being impatient is not who we are. When we were born into this world we were full of love and patience. As we grew up, or grow up, our teachers, parents, and the people around us get frustrated and impatient when things don't go their way, and that is where we learn this stressful habit.

Then, this habit becomes who we are.

Never fear ;) if you loose your temper and are impatient, you can overcome it!!! I promise.

So, what a ya gotta do to overcome this stressful habit?

The first thing is what you are doing now. By learning things like, it is unhealthy, it makes you unhappy, you can take control, and believing that you have the responsibility, you are taking the first step.

The next step is to learn to relax and be more playful. When we loose our temper, we are uptight and tense, so we gotta learn to relax more. When we are more playful, we take ourselves, and other people not so darn serious.

Life can be, and is for many people, full of joy, happiness, and vitality.

Think about it for a moment. Some people, when they loose their temper, act like someone is going to die or like the world is coming to an end. Now, if this is true, then it is more reasonable to loose your temper but, if it is not, loosing your temper is absolutely unnecessary.

If you loose your temper, and are impatient, every day spend time searching for your inner child. Be innocent and playful.

When you begin to loose your temper, say something in your mind, to help remind yourself that you are changing this habit. It sounds simple, and maybe too simple, but it works, and it will help. Trust me on this. No one can change this habit but you.

What can you say? Well, you can persuade yourself by saying something like, "Relax, don't loose your temper." or "I am not going to loose my temper anymore." These are just reminders for you because sometimes we need a reminding ;)

YOU CAN DO IT!!! YOU GOT THE POWER!!!

Another thing you can do is get down on your knees and ask the Lord to help you. Whenever I think something is difficult, I always ask the Lord for His help, and then I just trust in Him. You can do the same, and He will help you ;)

You gotta have faith, faith, faith!!!

Welp! That's all I got. Have a great day and don't forget to have fun and be playful ;)

Hugs...

Elizabeth

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ITEM #4 ON THE STRESS SURVEY

2011-09-12T06:49:00.000-07:00

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Hello! We are on Item #4 on the Stress Survey. If you haven't already, you can check out Item #1, Item #2, or Item #3.

Item #4 is, Do you experience a racing mind?

If you answered yes to this particular question then you have a very stressful habit. Why is a racing mind a stressful habit? It's a stressful habit because your thoughts are fleeting and out of control. When we do not have control of our thoughts they usually carry doubt, fear, and worry.

You may be thinking that all of these stressful habits are sounding like they have a similar issue. The issue I am talking about is doubt, fear, and worry. Yup! I am going to say it again, and I say it everyday, "Doubt, fear, and worry is the culprit of stress."

When we have a racing mind we lack focus and, often times, we lack the ability to relax.

When we cannot focus, we do not get things done, and we become forgetful.

When we are unable to relax, we are anxious.

A racing mind seems to be very common among our society because there is so much to do and so much to think about. Especially if you have the habitual way of worrying about things.

Many soldiers and medics come to me with this particular issue and the biggest problems that come with a racing mind is lack of sleep and anxiety. Most of the time, lack of sleep because of anxiety.

So what a ya gotta do about a racing mind? You gotta learn how to relax and you do that by learning Deep Relaxation and Meditation.

There was a soldier who came to me with his wife because he was having flashbacks. The kind of flashbacks that you have in the middle of public places. When he was in a loud crowded place, which is almost everywhere you go in Southern California, his mind would take him back to the battle field. This was very scary for him and his wife. He didn't want her to leave his side.

Fortunately, he had only been back to the states for two weeks. The reason I say that is because, when we have acute or critical stress reactions the sooner they are addressed the better. After a period of time, 6 months, 1 year, or more, the stress signs and symptoms become harder to treat, and they become who we are, part of our personality.

I am not a Psychiatrist or a Psychologist, I am a Destress Yourself Specialist ;-) and I have seen enough of this over my 19 years of being part of the Emergency Field to know that this is so.

After educating the Soldier and his wife on Acute Stress, Critical Stress, and PTSD, we talked about learning to relax because of the severe anxiety that was going on. He and his wife were willing to learn how Meditate and practice Deep Relaxation together. You would not believe the results and the change that was caused.

Even though someone makes great strides, as he did, I always advise people to see their Private Medical Doctor to make sure nothing medical or physiological is going wrong. And if something is affecting you as severe as this was him, it is also very important to see a Mental Health Professional, especially if you have the insurance to do so.

Learning to relax and meditate is education that teaches you to provide calm, confidence, and peace on a daily basis, and all the time. Many people have the need to learn this because they live a life full of doubt, fear, and worry ;-), they live a life full of anxiety, nervousness, and mild, moderate, or severe panic.

There are less people willing to learn to relax and meditate than there are people willing to because they believe that it is hard to do. Maybe it is difficult because the racing mind has been racing for so long. But one think I know for sure is that people who learn to relax and meditate make explosive jumps in personal and professional performance.

TRY IT!!! YOU WILL LOVE THE RESULTS!!!

And if I may quote the scriptures, "Be still, and know that I am God." ~Psalms 46:10

It is much easier to be Spiritual when we are calm. It is much easier to love and serve when we are relaxed. Being Spiritual and Loving is Destressing Yourself.

That's all I got ;)

Have a great week...

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ITEM #3 ON THE STRESS SURVEY

2011-09-08T05:21:00.000-07:00

Hello there. As I promised, here is ITEM #3 ON THE STRESS SURVEY.

If you haven't already, check out Item #1 and Item #2.

Item #3 is

3. Do you set simple goals or continuously tell yourself you are going to do something and don't do it?

This particular stressful habit is very similar to Item #1, it is about setting and obtaining goals. The only difference is, in Item #1 you may not be setting goals, and Item #3 is setting them but never, or usually not, obtaining them.

It is my humble opinion that everybody, everyone, does their absolute best they know how. People normally don't say, I am going to do my worst or not my best. People have the intention of setting and obtaining their goals.

For example, millions of people set out to loose weight, and they don't. Millions of people set out to make more money, and they don't. Millions of people set out to find and create the best relationship they could possibly have, and they don't.

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Why do so many people set goals and not obtain them? It is because there is a link between setting goals and obtaining them. That particular link has to do with faith in yourself and the conversations in your head. I know this is so!

Let's start with the conversations in our head. We have habitual ways of thinking and so, one of the things that we do is we tell ourselves what we want and don't want. For example, something as easy as cleaning the house. We tell ourselves that we do not want to clean our house and we say it over and over in our head. To me, this is just a habitual way of thinking. May sound silly to you but I believe, I know rather, that procrastination comes from the conversations in our head of what we do not want to do.

It is a lie when we tell ourselves that we do not want to clean the house. LOL. It is! We really do want to clean the house because we are sick and tired of it being messy and we would feel so good if we just cleaned it. Isn't it true, with the exception of clean freaks who's houses are always clean, that we feel so much better when our house is clean? So the truth is that we really do want to.

Another example is telling ourselves what we want. We have a habit of saying to ourselves that we want that chilly cheese burger, or we want that cigarette, or we want that drink. It is a lie to say that we want these things when our goals is to loose weight, quit smoking, or stop drinking.

Please trust me on this. We persuade ourselves to stay in comfort when we should be persuading ourselves to do what we REALLY want to do. If we set a goal, most likely we really want to obtain it.

What I am saying hear is, if we really paid attention to our thoughts, and then took control of them, we would indeed obtain our goals. This is so simple but to some, so difficult. If you believe that you are the thinker of your thoughts, and that you can control your thoughts, this will be much easier for you. There are so many people who can not, do not, and won't take responsibility for their lives, which means that they can not, do not, and won't take responsibility for their thoughts, feelings, and actions.

The other element of this obtaining goals thing is faith in oneself. So often I hear people say, "I would, but..." The only thing that this means is that they do not believe.

Why is setting and obtaining goals a stressful habit. Well, setting and not obtaining goals does wonders for your lack of self-esteem. In other words of a not so sarcastic nature, when we set and obtain goals, our faith in ourselves increases. Faith in ourselves is so important because every decision we make is based on whether we believe we can do it or not.

When we believe we can be, do, have anything our heart desires then we are destressed because we feel good that we are moving forward in life. When we believe that we cannot be, do, or have things then we have doubt, fear, and worry about our lives and our future.

Doubt, fear, and worry is the culprit of stress.

You gotta have faith, faith, faith!

So, this is what you gotta do to get rid of this stressful habit of setting and not obtaining goals.

Discover what you really want! Do you want to be a nonsmoker? Do you want to be light and alive? Do you want to have faith? What do you want? What is your goal?

If you don't know what it is that you want, click the pic and take the HOW TO DESTRESS YOURSELF CLASS. One of the most common things that I have heard from people taking this class is that they thought they knew what they wanted, and after the class they truly discovered that what they really wanted is something else. In other words, the class will help you discover what you really want.

Once you know what you want, you gotta take control of your thought process, and repeatedly tell yourself what you want. Like the chili cheeseburger thingy. When you say to yourself, "I want a chili cheeseburger, or chocolate cake, or cookies." You gotta remind yourself that that is not what you really want, what you want is to be light, alive, and healthy.

These are all just suggestions ;) But! I know, with all my heart and soul, that if we take responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, and actions, we can and will make explosive jumps in our personal and professional performance.

THIS IS FREEDOM!

THIS IS DESTRESSING YOURSELF ;)

That's all I got! Until next post don't forget to have fun and be playful ;-)

If you have any comments or questions please comment below.

Elizabeth

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ITEM #2 ON THE STRESS SURVEY

2011-09-02T05:43:00.000-07:00

Hello ;) I hope you are having a great day ;)

Recently, I posted a stress survey, and due to the tremendous email response, I decided to discuss each item on the survey. Each item is a question posed to you to see if you have a stressful habit. The discussions will include why they are stressful habits and how to overcome them. If you haven't yet, you can read Item #1 by clicking here.

Today, the topic is Item #2, which is, "Do you notice that it is important to you or you spend a lot of energy proving that you are right or things should be done the "right way," your way?"

If you scored a 4 or 5 on this question in the stress survey, then you have a very stressful habit. It is my humble opinion that when people do this they are very unaware. This habit, of having to be right, is a very stressful habit for a couple of reasons.

Reason number one being that people who must be right or have to have things done their way gives way to believing they have no control and they need this control to feel secure. Insecurity, as I have discussed on many a post, is doubt, fear, and worry which equals stress. The opposite of insecurity is certainty, confidence, and faith. To know, or think you know, you are right and not participate in a heated argument or debate shows faith in yourself.

Reason number two is that when you have to force your rightness on someone via argument or control tends to upset you and the other person, especially children, teenagers, and adults. LOL!!!

This stressful habit is very common among bosses and Mothers. No offense bosses and Moms but I have worked with hundreds of bosses and Mothers with very very high stress levels because things aren't being done their way. When things aren't done their way they have this tremendous fear that things won't be okay.

When we think things won't be okay and we get upset, this causes stress. Stress is just a thought.

Let me give you a couple of examples.

There was a woman that came to me because she was super duper alli ooper stressed out. She had just retired, she was home a lot, and she was getting upset because her husband and children weren't doing things the right way, "her way." It all came down to the way they were folding their underwear. Honestly! She was so uptight about her husband not doing things the way she wanted them done and she was trying to control everything her children did. She was driving her family nuts and her house hold was on edge. Talk about stress!!!

Another example.

There was a man who owned a very large company. He came to me (actually his wife sent him to me) because he was so stressed out over his workers. He thought, in his mind, that if his workers didn't do exactly what he said, that he would fail.

After working with each one of these individuals, we questioned their beliefs, and their very stressful habit of having to be in control or things being done the right way, "their way." Guess what we discovered? You got it!!! The thought of having to be in control didn't do anything but make their lives, and everyone around them, miserable.

Misery equals stress and if you remove that misery you destress.

After my last post, Item #1 On The Survey, I received an email from a gal who threw the Bull Shiz Card at me. What she basically said was that she believed that the stress was outside of her and that external circumstances were preventing her from 'things'. Some people cannot believe that destressing yourself is as simple as taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

In my mind I can understand where she is coming from but if we could just question our beliefs and think outside of society, we could obtain a tremendous freedom from stress and unhappiness. When I say to think outside of society, what I mean is that in our culture, in the US, people are worried about what they look like and how they can gain possessions. This thought process gives way to stress because we never look good enough or have enough. When we think outside of society we think how can I love and how can I serve.

Most people in the US believe is Jesus Christ and He showed us the way to serve and to love. When we serve and just love others we become fulfilled. When we love people we focus on all the good things about them like when we are in love. When we are in love we only see the good in that person, well most of the time. When we serve we feel really good.

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So, what am I saying? What am I rambling about?

What I am trying to say is, do yourself a favor, and stop trying to control everyone and everything and just learn to love and serve. Love people by focusing on their goodness and strengths. Serve people by helping them get what they want.

If you have the stressful habit of spending a lot of energy proving that you are right or things have to be done the right way, eliminate it by loving and serving, and just watch people around you flourish and succeed. If people around you grow and develop in a vigorous way, you will do the same.

You are going to see the same pattern in each solution to the stressful habits. In order to destress yourself, you gotta question your beliefs and replace the stressful habit with a successful practice. If you learn to develop this habit you will truly succeed at anything you do, trust me!!!

That's all I got ;)

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ITEM #1 ON THE STRESS SURVEY

2011-08-31T05:50:00.000-07:00

Hey there! How are you this fine day? I hope, with all my heart, that you are happy! As discussed in my last post, I am going to go over the Stress Survey item by item due to the tremendous email response. So here we go, item number one ;-)

1. Do you feel like you are in a constant state of going nowhere?

This question has to do with setting and obtaining goals. One of the most important things for our self-esteem, and our success, is setting and obtaining goals. When we obtain goals we feel good about ourselves and our faith in ourselves increases.

Setting and obtaining goals is a very successful practice. The opposite of setting and obtaining goals is remaining in the constant state of going nowhere. When we are in the constant state of going nowhere it can be regarding emotional, mental, physical, or spiritual non growth.

How is feeling like you are in the constant state of going nowhere a stressful habit? Excellent question!

When we feel like we are in the constant state of going nowhere it can and does create anxiety, depression, and/or unhappiness. When we feel negative emotions like these, we create stress on ourselves.

Anxiety is caused by doubt, fear, and worry about our life. Depression is caused by focusing on what is wrong in our lives rather than what is right. Unhappiness is identical to depression and sadness which is caused by not enjoying your life. These negative emotions are created by the way we think, which are just habitual ways of believing. Negative emotions cause stress just as positive emotions cause happiness, joy, and vitality.

When I was doing my internship, as a counselor, I worked with many young women who were college aged. The number one issue was the body. Their body was too fat or too skinny. Basically, they saw themselves as imperfect, no matter how they really were. One particular gal had been, in her eyes, fat all her life. Although, I must say, I didn't think she was fat at all but, of course, her beliefs were based on magazine covers. You know what I mean Vern???

No matter what she did, she could not loose weight or change her body. She tried every diet, pill, and even starving herself. She was in the constant state of going nowhere because she couldn't get to where she wanted to be. She set goals on what she wanted to weigh, she set goals on what she would eat daily, and she even set goals on how much she would exercise. Never the less, she couldn't budge her progress.

Sound familiar?

Well, finally, before the end of our time together she was able to move out of the constant state of going nowhere into the state of never ending goal obtaining. How did she do it? Let me lay it out for you ;)

First, she discovered the reason she set goals and didn't obtain them was because she didn't believe she could. When we questioned her beliefs, she discovered that deep down inside she didn't believe she could because she tried everything to loose weight. This boiled down to faith in herself.

Our ability and deep desire has a lot to do with faith in ourselves, or lack of faith in ourselves, and it has to do with our habitual way of believing.

Second, because she didn't have faith in herself, she discovered that she was sabotaging her own success. She would set little goals like on what she can eat and she wouldn't stick to them because she believed it wouldn't work anyway.

Third, now that she knew why she was in the constant state of going nowhere, she decided to do something about it because her constant state of going nowhere was causing her depression.

Fourth, she created a successful practice to replace her stressful habit of being in the constant state of going nowhere. Her new habit was to create faith in herself and she did this by creating an affirmation to remind herself that she can be, do, or have anything if she desired it bad enough.

Her affirmation? "I CAN DO THIS!"

Everyday, all day long, she talked to herself, reminding herself that she CAN obtain the goals she laid out for herself. And guess what? She did.

Sounds simple doesn't it? Simple but only easy if you think it is.

She was determined to set and obtain goals. She was talking herself out of obtaining goals and she didn't even know it because she wasn't paying attention to her thoughts. She questioned her beliefs, started paying attention to her thoughts, and WAH LAH! She realized her thoughts and took control of them by being her own cheerleader.

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So, if you are in the constant state of going nowhere then question your beliefs, discover how you are sabotaging yourself (your thoughts), decide to do something about it, and finally, replace your stressful habit with a successful practice.

One last thing...When I work with peoples, on there stress relief, one of the questions I pose is, "Do you believe in God?" I have never heard the answer, "No." Therefore, I ask, "Is your relationship with God, the way you want it to be?" And the answer is usually, "No."

The reason I pose these questions is because I know, deep in my heart, without any doubt, that people who live stressful lives lack spirituality, which is the foundational key to success and happiness.

The young lady I speak of in this post, worked on her relationship with God, because she wanted to, and it brought her great faith and success.

Believe that you can be, do, or have anything your heart desires, my friend. "Jesus said unto him, If thou cans't believe, all things are possible to him that believeth." ~St Mark 9:23

If you don't know how to do what you want to do then ask Heavenly Father. "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed." ~James 1:5&6

That's all I got... For now ;)

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DESTRESS YOURSELF-STRESS SURVEY EMAILS

2011-08-22T16:39:00.000-07:00

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Hey there ;) How are you? I am very well, thank you ;)

You will never believe this! Well, maybe you will but I was shocked! Since posting the STRESS SURVEY, last week, I have received over 60 emails.

So, I just wanted to say thank you for all the emails and because there are so many I won't be answering them individually but I will answer them via posts.

Most of the emails are asking questions like why is this habit particularly stressful? Or what do I do to eliminate this habit if I have it? The emails are asking for answers to questions.

I am grateful for the emails and I truly appreciate that stress levels are high therefore, starting with my next post I will discuss each item on the STRESS SURVEY.

Sound good? I think it sounds great and totally fair because I do not believe I could answer all the emails within a couple of days but I can give the who, what, why, and when about the stressful habits on the STRESS SURVEY, including solutions. I'm gonna boss you around ;) Gonna put on my bossie boots and boss you around ;) te he he...

Thanks again for all the emails and please look for the posts. If you would like to subscribe to this blog and get the posts via email, please enter your email address in the box above and don't forget to confirm your subscription.

Until next post, don't forget... HAVE FUN!!! BE PLAYFUL!!!

Hugs ;)

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DESTRESS YOURSELF - STRESS SURVEY

2011-08-15T16:04:00.000-07:00

DESTRESS YOURSELF AUDIO

Hello there my friend ;) Happy Monday ;)

This stress survey is designed to help raise awareness to some stressful habits you may have.

This is not a diagnosis tool or a psychology test, it is a survey I developed about nine years ago to help identify stressful behavior.

Because this survey was not developed via hard research, the stressful habits presented are not in any particular order. These are THE STRESSFUL HABITS that have been brought to my attention via questionnaire.

This is for adventure, education, and enjoyment.

So, enjoy...

ANSWER THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS BY CHOOSING A NUMBER BETWEEN 1 AND 5. (1)NEVER (2) ALMOST NEVER (3) OCCASIONALLY (4) FREQUENTLY (5) ALL THE TIME

1. Do you feel like you are in a constant state of going nowhere?

2. Do you notice that it is important to you or you spend a lot of energy proving that you are right or things should be done the "right way," your way?

3. Do you set simple goals or continuously tell yourself you are going to do something and don't do it?

4. Do you experience a racing mind?

5. Do you loose your temper or become impatient easily?

6. Are you angry, moody, or irritable?

7. Do you complain about other people, places, or things?

8. Do you worry?

9. Do you get offended easily and/or talk about other people?

10. Do you find yourself walking, talking, or eating fast because you are in a hurry?

11. Do you binge on or are you addicted to a certain activity, food, caffeine, tobacco, alcohol, or any form of pharmaceutical, over the counter, or illegal drug?

12. Do you have trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or getting essential hours of sleep because you can't stop thinking of things you have to do or because you have too much going on in your life?

13. Are you unable to enjoy yourself even when you are doing something you enjoy?

Add up your results...

If you would like to utilize a truth scale, ask someone, who knows you really well, to take this test on your behalf, and then compare answers.

Okay...

1-13 a very destressed person

14-25 almost always destressed

26-38 more often destressed than stressed

39-52 you need to destress yourself

53- 65 you seriously need to destress yourself

If you chose 5 for any of the questions above, you may want to destress that particular habit.

For example, if you answered a 5 on number 6, you may want to overcome and eliminate the very stressful habits of anger, moodiness, and/or irritability.

Have any questions? Comment below ;)

Hope this is helpful, until next post, don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Elizabeth

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DESTRESS YOURSELF AND YOUR HEADACHE ;)

2011-08-07T07:35:00.000-07:00

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Hi everyone ;) How are you? I hope you are doing absolutely fantastic ;)

Got a question for ya! Do you have frequent headaches? Dang, that sounded like the beginning of an ad, lol.

The reason I ask is because many people I know experience frequent headaches and they are constantly taking medication to relieve the ache.

Whenever a person tells me that they have a headache, my first thought is, "STRESS!"

Maybe you get tension headaches, or sinus headaches, or migraines, or maybe your pony tail is too tight ;)

If you get frequent headaches, I can guarantee that I can find your stress that is causing it.

It is easy to see, for me, the stress in peoples lives because that's what I do.

I have clients and friends, several in fact, who would experience headaches on a daily basis and when their stress was removed, the headaches disappeared. Isn't that amazing?

Maybe you have stress at work, or stress in a relationship, or stress at home, or stress over finances. Whatever it is, if you remove the stress, you can remove your headaches.

When I say remove the stress I don't necessarily mean quit your job, or end the relationship, or leave your home. What I mean by removing your stress is, destress yourself. When you destress yourself, you discover your stressful habits, eliminate them, and then replace the bad habit with a successful practice.

For example, if you worry (stressful habit), you can eliminate worry and replace it with confidence that everything will be okay, and faith that the best thing can happen for you.

Let's say you are worried about work. Maybe it is someone at work or your work load. Whatever it is that your worried about is just a thought. Possibly you are thinking about this person, or your work load, before, during, and after work, and your thoughts are obsessive, racing thoughts about the worst that can happen. This thought process, thinking the worst that can happen, is just a conditioned response (habit) that you have developed and therefore, you can reverse the conditioned response to be one of thinking about the best outcome rather than the worst.

I know that this is so. I know that this is possible! I have helped thousands of people see their stressful way of thinking, which is just a habit/conditioned response.

So, what in the heck does this all have to do with headaches? LMBO!!!

It is my humble opinion, speaking from experience of the eliminating headache kind, that when we are stressed out, we tend to tense up. Our body tenses from the aggravated thoughts we are having, not to mention if you can't sleep well or at all, you could very well be experiencing physical stress from fatigue, which also causes headaches.

What is a person to do? Well, we gotta learn to relax so that we can eliminate the tension. We gotta learn to destress ourselves so that we can live life with happiness, energy, and vitality so we can eliminate all of the stressful thoughts, feelings, and actions that we take.

When we learn to relax, we learn how to be more calm in all situations because we replace the habit of being uptight and tense. When we learn to destress we learn to handle things, aka life, a lot better because we eliminate the conditioned responses of anger, agitation, anxiety,depression, irritability, moodiness, and the list goes on and on. These ways of being are just conditioned responses that you can replace with the opposites.

Trust me, I know about building certainty, confidence, and faith, and the elimination of doubt, fear, worry, and negative emotions. I have experienced it in myself and now I experience it in others.

Well, I hope you have the best week ever. That's all I got!

Until next post, don't forget to have fun and be playful. I know I always end my posts with that but I really mean it. You can forget, or remember, to have fun and be playful. I see it in many people and I bet you do too.

Big Hugs to you all!!!

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2011-08-06T07:36:00.000-07:00

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HOW TO DESTRESS YOURSELF - WHAT STRESS IS ;)

2011-08-03T15:12:00.000-07:00

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In order to learn how to destress yourself we must know what stress is.

What is stress? There are three elements of stress and they include a stressor, a reaction to the stressor, and then the stress response.

A stressor can be a person, thing, situation, or activity that may cause an individual to develop stress. For example, death, dying, divorce, or devastation. Some other stressors may consist of work, school, a relationship, bills, weight, health, or the economy.

When we experience a stressor we react and our reactions include our thoughts, feelings, and actions which in turn triggers the stress response. The stress response is the well known fight or flight response.

The foundation of our reaction, that causes the fight or flight response, begins with a thought that we may not be able to handle this particular stressor. After every thought comes a feeling. If we think that we will not be able to handle this particular stressor, we will feel doubt, fear, worry, or maybe even anxiety. These thoughts, feelings, and the actions that follow, trigger the fight or flight, aka the stress response.

When the stress response is initiated, results from the stress follow. The results may be emotional, mental, physical, or spiritual.

So, back to "How to Destress Yourself." Now that we know what stress is we can easily learn How to Destress Yourself.

To truly destress yourself is to discover how to react to stressors with more confidence, faith, and hope. Remember the thought that we may not be able to handle this stressor? Well, we must look at the situation and ask ourselves, "if the worst were to happen, could I handle it?" The answer? A resounding "YES!"

No matter what happens, you can handle it. Learn to react with this thought, no matter what the stressor is, and you will learn How to Destress Yourself.

Hope this is helpful!!!

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Until next post, don't forget to have fun and be playful!!!

Elizabeth

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DESTRESSING MYSELF ;)

2011-07-11T16:31:00.000-07:00

AT THE BEACH ;)

Hey, Hi, Hi, Hey ;)

How are you??? Did you have a great weekend? I hope that you are super duper and that you had the best weekend ever.

Man oh man, in my last post, DESTRESS, I mentioned that things were crazy because stress is so unusually high for July. In the summer, I am practically on hiatus, and then stress hits EVERYBODY in October through March. Well, there must be something in the air because I do believe I have had the most stressful time in a long, long time.

The biggest stress events are Death, Destruction, Devastation, Dismemberment, Divorce, and Dying. The SIX D'S. Ha ha ha, I just made that up. It's true though. Think about it! If someone dies, you get stress. If you experience some sort of destruction through man made or natural disaster, you get stress. If you have some sort of devastation like job loss or foreclosure, you get stress. If you experience dismemberment, you get stress. Divorce? Stress! Dying? Stress! Those are the big one's, wouldn't you agree?

Anyway, I have a point to all of this and it is that I experienced a couple of the six. Could you imagine experiencing just one of them? If we experience more than one it could really eff us up, couldn't it?

So, what happened? My Dad was in the hospital, my son moved away to college, and my doggie died. It must of really stressed me out because I got sick. The stomach kind of sick. You know what I mean about the stomach! Things come up and they go down, not so well :(

The reason I am sharing this with you is because I know, with out a doubt, that things can and will affect us so we gotta be prepared. If we are prepared for stress, it is called prevention, sort of ;)

Prevention is what we do before our stress, intervention is what we do while stress is happening, and then direction is the path we take after all the poop hits the fan and dies down a lil bit.

My prevention, for myself, is true education on what stress is. Stress is not our circumstances but how we react to them and our habits of reacting will help us, or not, handle the stressful stuff. When I am really overwhelmed, I have a habit of crying, and then I realize that I am overwhelmed. When I am overwhelmed, I have a habit of being my greatest cheerleader because I tell myself, "you are going to be fine and you can handle this." Then I get down on my knees, ask the Lord for strength and guidance, and then focus on the good.

When my doggie died, my son was there, Thank God, and he sat me down, put his arm around my shoulder, hugged me, and he said to me, "Look at the bright side Mommy, Missy died peacefully in her sleep, she lived a very long cozy life, she wasn't in pain, it was a good thing I was here when it happened (he moved out the next day to college), and all doggies go to heaven." That made me laugh.

What wonderful things to say to me and they were all focused on the good. He was my cheerleader that day ;)

Being your own cheerleader, or being with someone who will cheer you on, is a great intervention tool. When we are in the middle of stress we must intervene. My intervention is being my own cheerleader and supporter with the right thoughts, beliefs, and actions. The beach is good too, and that is what I did, I spent the weekend at the beach.

The direction I always take, after a stressful situation, is believing in myself, and knowing that no matter what happens I become a stronger person. In addition, I always get down on my knees and thank the Lord above for all my trials, the strength I am given to endure them, and for the happiness, joy, and peace that comes during and after.

Okay, I am rambling...

Just want you, my friend, to think about prevention, intervention, and direction for your stress so that you can destress yourself.

Have a great week, okay?!?

Don't forget to have fun, and be playful.

Elizabeth

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DESTRESS

2011-07-02T05:50:00.000-07:00

HOW TO DESTRESS YOURSELF

Hello there! How's life? Stressed? Okay, silly question.

The craziest thing is happening. It is July now and I have more visitors to my blog than EVER! Why is that crazy? Well, the greatest number of visitors to my blog begins in October and tapers off in March. You know, the holidays, then the bills in January, and then tax season. Summer time is usually the slowest time of the year for me.

Stress is high and it shouldn't be because it is Summer time and we should be at the beach enjoying ourselves.

So, let's DESTRESS.

In order to destress, we gotta know what it means.

It means, to get rid of your stress.

So, how do we get rid of our stress.

Stress is caused by thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry. What are you worried about? Bills? Relationship? Your job?

It is so funny when people tell me they know what stresses them out and then they blame some external force like their kids, their spouse, their job, or even the economy. It is funny to me because stress is not an external force. Stress is caused by our reaction to this external stimuli.

When we are stressed, this is what we do; in our mind, we think of the worst thing that can happen. For example, if you have stress at work, in your mind you may play, over and over again, the worst possible scenario and then how you are going to react. Or, if you don't have enough money for your bills, you may think about how you are going to be homeless. Really! This is what we do that causes our stress.

Why do we think about the worst possible thing that can happen? Because it is a habit we have. When we were younger our parents or teachers told us things like, "don't do that or you will get hurt." Or, "If you don't do this (whatever it is), you will fail." It is just a mentality that goes on in our culture.

Honestly, how many times have you told your child not to do something or else something bad will happen? What happens when we do this? We create habits of focusing on the worst outcome.

Trust me, I observe enough human behavior to know this is true.

So, what do we do to destress? We think about the best thing that can happen and then focus on that.

The big question would be, what is your intention? What do you intend to happen? Do you intend to fix your relationship? Do you intend to make more money? Do you intend to have a better life than you do now?

What do you intend to happen today, tomorrow, next week, this year, and even for the next five years?

Do you intend to double your income? Do you intend to loose 100 pounds?

Whatever it is you intend to do, focus on that, and make it a goal.

Go from doubt, fear, and worry to certainty, confidence, and faith.

Eliminate the habit of focusing on the worst thing that can happen and focus only on what you intend to happen. Make this a habit and just watch yourself DESTRESS!

Think about what you want and then tell yourself, "I CAN!" Because you can!

I KNOW THAT THIS IS TRUE.

That's all I got! Just wanted to give a few words of destressing yourself before my favorite weekend of the year!

Have the greatest Fourth of July weekend EVER. Go to the beach, lake, pool, or river, and enjoy yourself.

I LOVE YOU!!! I REALLY DO!!! AND IF YOU KNOW ME, YOU KNOW IT IS TRUE!!!

BIG HUGS!

Elizabeth

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QUIETING YOUR MIND

2011-06-27T05:00:00.000-07:00

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Hello!

I think it is very very very important when you want to destress yourself.

I quiet my mind several times a day but formally about three times a day. Crazy? Maybe! I just know that my mind can run on auto pilot and create all kinds of unnecessary thoughts that cause unnecessary emotions. When I say unnecessary, I am talking about thoughts and emotions that are fleeting and negative that drain me and that are not useful or desirable.

If you know me, really know me, you know that my mood is elevated all of the time and I know this is so because of my ability to take responsibility for my thoughts, feelings, and actions which is my attitude.

Everyday, first thing in the morning, some time at lunch, and before I go to bed at night, I do some sort of meditation. I usually take a few deep breaths, relax my body, and then I just focus on my breathing and my heart beat.

My favorite meditations are deep relaxation and feeling love.

Deep relaxation is when I just relax my body part by part, and this relaxes my mind.

Feeling love is a meditation that creates ummm... feelings of love, he he he. I use to do this one all of the time and what it has done is given me the ability to see that I can feel love at anytime and any where, even in the most irritating circumstances. It is a habit I created to replace my negative (unnecessary) emotions that were my stressful habits in the past.

Do you know anyone that meditates? I do and the majority of them are happy and consider themselves successful. Successful in that they really enjoy their life. The definition of success is happiness and enjoying life. Many people equate money with success but if you explore it deeper we want that money because we think it will bring more happiness so, we all just want to be happy, really.

If you would like to learn how to meditate, learn deep relaxation, learn the meditation of feeling love, learn meditation with visualization, or learn how to quiet your mind check out my classes that are on audio. The picture above is my meditation class which includes quieting your mind, feeling love, and meditation with visualizations.

Try meditating, make it a habit, and just watch yourself create happiness, energy, and vitality. But please, please, please don't believe me, try it for yourself.

Have a super duper week and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

MORE POSTS ON QUIETING THE MIND

Destress Yourself: DO YOU QUIET YOUR MIND?

Destress Yourself: WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO QUIET YOUR MIND?

Destress Yourself: THE BEST WAY TO DESTRESS YOURSELF

Destress Yourself: A GREAT DESTRESS YOURSELF EXERCISE

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MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD :)

2011-06-20T05:30:00.000-07:00

Hello everybody!

I hope you had the best Father's Day weekend ever. It is Sunday morning and right after I finish this post, I will head out to Daddy and Mommy's house for brunch with my Daddy for Daddy's Day ;)

In my last post, YOUR MIND IS THE CENTER OF DIVINE OPERATION OF YOUR LIFE, my friend Joseph commented a request that I write about quieting your mind and how I have a close relationship with God.

So, I thought I would respond to the request on how I have a close relationship with God, first.

My relationship with God is based on a DEEP DOWN IN MY HEART FAITH AND LOVE FOR GOD AND ALL MANKIND. REALLY!!!

FAITH AND LOVE. And this is not the superficial kind where I go to church on Sunday, feel and profess the love of God, and then go about my business through out the week, forgetting about this love and faith I have for the Divine and others.

Jesus the Christ said in Matthew Chapter 21 Verse 22, "And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive."

And then in Mathew Chapter 22 Verses 37 through 40 Jesus answers the question, which is the great commandment in the law, and He says, "Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and all the prophets."

I love these two scriptures because they are the way to a closeness with God. Faith and love.

Faith and love!!! These are my affirmations and I know this is what God is and I know this is what God wants for us. This is a deep down everyday way of thoughts and feelings for me.

I know, without a doubt, that God loves me and I am to love Him and others.

I know, without a doubt that my faith in God gives me confidence, happiness, energy, joy, and vitality and therefore, it is the reasons I maintain and sustain my relationship with Him.

MY FAITH AND MY LOVE FOR EVERYTHING UPON THIS EARTH, ABOVE IT, AND BELOW IT, CREATES MY CLOSENESS WITH GOD.

Faith and Love eliminate doubt, fear, and worry, which is what destressing yourself is all about.

Just for you Joseph.

Gotta go see Daddy and Mommy. Have a great week and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth

YOUR MIND IS THE CENTER OF DIVINE OPERATION OF YOUR LIFE :)

2011-06-06T07:13:00.000-07:00

Your Mind is creating your life.

If you think something is bad, it's bad. If you think something is good, it's good.

I know a man who lost his job. He use to work all hours of the day and night with absolutely no time for his family.

He was in terrible crisis because of the fear of no job. His life was coming to an end in 'his mind'.

After talking a little and questioning his beliefs he has discovered that his life is perfect - RIGHT NOW!

He is spending lots of time with his family and enjoying it because he has learned to destress himself and he has all the time and opportunity to obtain the occupation that he has always dreamed of.

He is selling some stuff he owns to have money and to de-clutter his house. He is meditating and practicing deep relaxation, which he admits he would have never done had he not lost his job. By learning to meditate and relax he has eliminated his anxiety.

What use to be a horrible life, in 'his mind', is now the perfect opportunity because he questioned the thoughts in his mind.

He questioned his beliefs and discovered that his mind is the Center of Divine Operation of His Life.

If you learn to question your beliefs, you will learn to destress yourself.

One great way to question your beliefs is to ask yourself, "what is the opportunity in this situation?"

In my humble opinion, there is an opportunity in every difficulty. Look for that opportunity and you will find the good in what seems to be bad.

Find what is good in what you think is bad and you will learn to destress yourself ;) I promise.

That's all I got ;;;)

Have a great week and don't forget to have fun...

Be playful...

Elizabeth

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I'M IN LOVE! I'M IN LOVE! I'M IN LOVE!!!

2011-06-02T17:41:00.000-07:00

Did the title get your attention ;)

I feel so in love with life right now! RIGHT NOW!!! Things are happening and I just love it! ALL OF IT!

When I feel this happy, I feel successful.

It is my humble opinion that success means happiness. Wouldn't you agree?

The ability to enjoy life no matter what is happening in your life is true success.

BEAUTY IS ALL AROUND US!

HEAVEN IS ON EARTH!

Something really sad is happening for me. My son is leaving, moving away :((((( boo hoo hoo

I am really sad about it and I cry everyday, like three or four times a day. But that is totally okay because it is absolutely normal for me to cry and be sad. It is absolutely normal for my son to move away. They all do, well most of them ;)

Even though I am sad about it I have so many things to be grateful for. I am grateful for my family, my friends, my doggies, my blessing to help people EVERY DAY OF MY LIFE, and I am grateful for my close relationship with God. I am especially grateful that my son will sooner or later (hopefully sooner than later) get married and give me grand kiddies ;)

If I focus on my son leaving and how sad it is making me I will miss all of the great things in my life.

Whatever we focus on is just a habitual way of thinking. If we have a habit of focusing on what is bad and what we don't have we will feel depressed. If we have a habit of focusing on what is great we can feel real happy.

So many people have the habit of looking at what is bad in their life and it causes misery. This is exactly why quieting the mind is so important.

If we quiet our mind we can notice the mood of our mind. The mood of our mind is what causes our happiness or unhappiness.

The mood of our mind is our habitual way of thinking. For example, anger. There are some seriously angry people out there and it's just a habitual way of reacting. Anger is nothing but a habit. I know this for a fact.

Many many moons ago, I use to get angry, all the time. My excuse was that I had reasons. This person did this to me or that person didn't do what they said they would. BLAH, BLAH, BLAH...

We can have all the reasons in the book but the fact is, anger is nothing but a habit that you, and I, can get rid of. I did. When I get angry now, I start to laugh at myself. I say, "Elizabeth, why you getting so angry?" and then laugh. Yes, I talk to myself all the time ;) So now I have the habit of laughing at myself when I even think about getting mad, which is just a new habit that replaced the angry one.

What I am saying is, if you quiet your mind, you will notice the mood of your mind, and once you know the mood of your mind it will help you know your unhappiness.

My son always reminds me, "Mom, you are the thinker of your own thoughts." Meaning, you can and will be in charge of the way you think instead of allowing your mind to run on auto pilot like it has for so many years.

Your mind is the most powerful asset you have. Besides your body and soul, it's the only thing you come into this earth with and the thing you will leave with ;) so let it be happy ;)

Quiet your mind...

Notice the mood of your mind...

Then change that mood if it is causing you unhappiness. Take charge of that mood. That, my friend, is what destressing yourself is all about.

Be in love with life ;) YOU GOT THE POWER!

Have a great day and don't forget...

Have fun and be playful.

Love you...

Elizabeth

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2011-05-23T16:48:00.000-07:00

HOLY MOLY! I AM NOT POSTING HUH?

2011-05-10T17:27:00.000-07:00

Hey there, how are you? I am doing really good just really busy. Recently, I have received a few emails in regards to me not posting and... I AM SOWWY!!!

Can you believe I am at a loss for words? Ya! Me either. It's just that I have been super duper alley ooper busy and when that happens, the words don't flow like they usually do.

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Great things are happening for me. Are great things happening for you? I bet they are.

We all have great things that happen to us but, unfortunately, many stressed out people focus on the bad things that happen.

So, here is what I got. Destress Yourself by noticing the great things that are happening for you. Take today, or this week, and just focus on the great things that are happening. Make it a habit and you will destress yourself.

I PROMISE.

But wait! I got more. Even if you think that something not so good is happening to you, just pretend that it is grrreat. I am serious. Let's say your car breaks down, just say to yourself, "this is sooo great! This is something really good." Just do it. Do it because it will be so ridiculous that you will just make yourself laugh.

So, this is your homework... Your mission, if you choose to accept tit ;)

Today, just today, or if you are brave, this week, just this week...

Focus only on the things that are really good. Notice all the great things and magnify them.

And... If things happen that are really crappy, say to yourself, "this is awesome! This is great shizzz!" Keep saying it until you see the ridiculousness in it and it will make you laugh.

Laugh, have fun, be playful.

Have a great week, I love you, and I misses you too, a lot.

Elizabeth

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THE BEST WAY TO DESTRESS YOURSELF

2011-05-03T07:00:00.000-07:00

How are you this fine Tuesday Mornin? I am feelin' pretty good. Had a great weekend and a great Monday :)

I was invited to participate in a Mind Cleansing Meditation Retreat and it was spectacular. You know how much I love to Meditate so when I get to teach it, discuss it, and get paid to do it, you know I am a happy Panda.

It was pretty suweet, quiet mind, no city, no internet, and no cell phone. Well, I did sneak a peek at my email late Saturday night. Shenanigans! What can I say, I'm a rebel.

Any who... I just wanted to talk about the best way to destress yourself and that is to develop the skill and practice of meditation.

Meditation rocks! I really love quieting my mind because it is the way to escape from life. Life, good or bad, is just thoughts, and if you quiet your mind, you quiet your thoughts.

I remember in the late 90's I bought a BMW (M version of course) because I always wanted one. I must of drove up the Highway 1, to Monterey, CA at least two times the first year. The reason I did this is because I wanted to get away. Looking back, I was just trying to get away from my thoughts.

It was in 2000 when I started to meditate and things started to happen for me. Happiness happened. I have always been a happy person but after running 911 calls for so many years I had all this stuff in my head. The stuff in my head had to do with images of death, dying, and gruesome imagery. The stuff in my head was parents screaming for their dying child in the back of the ambulance, or in the emergency room. You know, stuff like that.

Dramatic, huh? Well, after I learned to meditate and quiet my mind, I realized that I had all this stuff in my head. The experience I have working with people tells me that we don't really know about all the stuff in our head. The reason we don't realize all these thoughts we have is because we are so busy and when we are busy, our mind is racing.

If you are not doing what you want to do or being what you want to be, like happiness, it's because of your thoughts. When you learn to meditate, you learn to quiet your mind, and when your mind is quiet you notice your thoughts. You notice your thoughts of irritation, anger, depression, anxiety, fatigue, or loneliness.

When you learn to notice these negative thoughts you can see that they are just thoughts and they are unnecessary and meaningless.

For example, whenever I start to get mad or irritated with someone, I giggle at myself. I literally laugh at myself because I know, without a doubt that this thought in my head is unnecessary and is creating unnecessary feelings.

Just in case you didn't know, anger, anxiety, depression, irritation, and loneliness are all unnecessary and meaningless. Once you learn that, you will be happiness. And happiness, my friend, means success.

Man, if I could teach the world to meditate, I would, I really would because I know, with all my heart, really deep down inside my heart, that that is where you really reside. The real YOU is behind all of those obsessive, repetitive thoughts. And if you learn to meditate and quiet your mind you will know it too.

That's all I got...

Have a super duper week and don't forget to have fun. BE PLAYFUL!!!

Elizabeth

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HOW TO DESTRESS YOUR KID :)

2011-04-18T05:35:00.000-07:00

Hey there. How's things? It's been over two weeks since my last post and I miss you ;) I was away from the puter because my Daddy had surgery and I was hangin' with him and Mommy ;) They live about 100 miles from me.

Any who, as I spend time with them my mind goes back to growing up and of course, I think about all the stress that was there, only because I am lil Miss Destress Yourself. Their behavior is still the same but I receive it differently now, and so, NO STRESS.

When I initially went to college, my goal was to be a child Psychologist but that dream was killed by my crazy idea that when a kid is messed up, it's ALWAYS the parent's fault. I still kind of believe it.

Why do I believe that if the kid is messed up, it's the parent's fault? Well, as parents, we are suppose to be smarter than our kids but we do this stupid thing that is totally insane. We try to change unwanted behavior with the same method when it doesn't work. Please allow me to esplain... When a kid is getting bad grades, we punish by grounding him or her, and then the grounding doesn't work, the child still get's bad grades over and over again. And then we use the same method, grounding, over and over again. Don't you think that is insane?

"Hey you are not doing what I think you should so I will take privileges from you." What is wrong with this? The result is that the child thinks, "I am not good enough, so I get things taken away." And every time we do this, the child increases their belief that they are not good enough, hence the low self-confidence in our society.

Disagree? Good, comment below ;)

For some crazy reason, parent's tend to focus on what kids don't do right, all the time. "Hey, don't do that." "Hey, you should do it this way."

I know a man who loves, loves, loves my son as his own (not my significant other, just a friend of my son) and he wishes that my son were his son and/or that his son was like my son. The only thing I see here is that this man looks at all the things his son does wrong and what he doesn't do right. That is what he is focusing on.

Does he have some deep seeded belief that he ought to focus on what's wrong with his son or what his son is not doing right (right, meaning what's right according to him)? YES! It is pretty common in our society.

If, this man, were to focus only on the things his son does right, and love him, the way he loves my son, he would have the son that he thinks he should have, like my son.

I know, I know, I am rambling. But the point is, your son, or daughter, does not have to be like someone else, WE, as parents need to just love them, no matter what, and focus on all the things they do right, all the time, everyday.

ALL DAY LONG FOCUS ON WHAT YOUR KID DOES RIGHT!!!

Try this, for one day, and do not see anything they do wrong. Matter of fact, just ignore, and giggle inside over, all the things YOU THINK, they do wrong. And then just see all the things they do right. See everything they do as right. Can you do it? For just one day?

If you can do it, everyday, you will destress your kid, and yourself. Trust me, I know!!! Better yet! Don't trust me, and try it for yourself.

If we do this as parents, everyday, our kids would be perfect! The only imperfection they have is in our mind anyway.

NEWS FLASH!!! EVERYONE IS IMPERFECT! Enjoy that imperfection and just know that it is all a part of life. Life is imperfect until you see it as perfect.

That's all I got ;)

Have a magnificent week!

And don't forget to have fun!!!

Be playful!!!

Elizabeth

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DEEPEST MOMENTS OF DESPAIR PART II ;)

2011-03-31T03:22:00.000-07:00

CLICK THE PIC ;) LEARN TO MEDITATE

Hello there. The other day I gotta not so nice email, well I shouldn't say not so nice, I should say an email from someone who disagreed with me about my last post. Someone who was really defending their despair and that is okay because that is what people do.

It is totally normal to defend your despair and totally normal to grieve and feel horrible but, when you want to feel better, and when you want to lighten the load on yourself you can tell another story, that is all I am saying.

No thoughts are neutral. Your thoughts either help you or hurt you.

So, if you are saying things like, "I can't, I won't, I couldn't, I shouldn't, I could never, or I wouldn't." Then, you may be hurting yourself. Actually, scratch the 'may be' because you are hurting yourself.

If you are saying things like, "I can, I will, I believe, I have hope, I can handle it, or this is a lesson learned." Then, you are helping yourself.

When people are angry, anxious, or depressed, they often think that they were not having thoughts that make them angry, anxious, or depressed because that is how unaware of our thoughts we really are.

I know this is true because after I speak to someone, and we explore the mood of the mind, while anger, anxiety, or depression is being experienced we discover what is really going on in their life. The conclusion always points to thoughts creating feelings.

An example of this is anxiety attacks. When someone has an anxiety attack, and I am speaking to them, calming them down, they often believe that they are not having an anxiety attack. They will say, "But I am not anxious about anything." After a little exploration, we always discover their doubt, fear, and worry.

The reason I talk about meditation and quieting the mind is because we can relax and be more in tune with our thoughts. When we quiet our mind, we can really be aware of what we are thinking.

When we right down what we want, like I talked about last post, we can remind ourselves what we should be thinking, or focusing on rather.

So, your story, is it hurting you or helping you? That is the question.

The email I got talked about the horrible things this person is experiencing and I know that there is help in the story that we tell.

You know?!? We all have horrible things that happen to us and it all depends how we handle what is given to us. I have heard the famous story of, "Oh, you don't know what I have been through, and others haven't been through as much as I have." Well, maybe, maybe not. Or, maybe people just tell a different story of what they have been through.

This is not a competition, it is creativity on how to change your thoughts, or your story, so that you can change your despair to comfort.

Many people tell the story of, "There is a purpose for everything," and I don't really know about that but I do know, "There is a lesson in EVERYTHING we experience."

Any who, I got another email telling me that writing something down on a card, an idea from my last post, won't help, and I say, try it and then tell me if it doesn't help. Try it for at least 30 days and if you are brave enough 90 days, or even a year.

That's all the rambling of my mouth that I got ;)

Love you guys ;)

Have the best day ever, and don't forget...

Have fun!!!

Be playful ;)

Elizabeth

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HOW TO DESTRESS YOUR DEEPEST MOMENTS OF DESPAIR

2011-03-28T15:12:00.000-07:00

Hey there!!!

This weekend was incredible! How did you do? Did you enjoy it? I really hope that you did, and I really hope, with all my heart, that you are enjoying your weekends, your weeks, and every moment that you are living.

It is beyond my belief, sometimes, the deepest darkest moments of despair that we go through as humans.

In my earlier years, as an EMT, I witnessed Mothers, Fathers, Sisters, Brothers, Sons, Daughters, Friends, Lovers, Spouses, and Significant others screaming in desperation over traumatic deaths or destruction for their loved ones.

As I speak with people in crisis and help defuse despair, I see and hear Paramedics, Firefighters, Police Officers, Captains, Sergeants, Dispatchers, Military Personnel, and EMT's struggle with moving from catastrophe to calm.

When we are in crisis, or in a place that is critical, there is a story that we tell. The story may be, "This is the worst thing that ever happened to me." Or, "There is no way I can handle this." Or we ask questions like, "Why me?" Or, "How am I going to handle this?"

This is a very normal way of looking at the things we go through that are not so easy to handle.

There is another story though. The nother story is this...

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The nother story is bringing ourselves to look at the bigger picture and minimizing our current situation.

To some people this will sound very cruel because they are very good at defending their despair and the horrible thing that has happened to them.

The bigger picture is that we are here, on this earth, for a purpose. We are all here for some grander purpose, and all though I don't really know exactly what it is I do know that we all must go through hard times. We must go through desperation and despair so that we can learn from what we go through.

Life is some sort of school that we are in so that we can get better and better as we get older. Better and better at our stress, better and better at overcoming our trials, and better and better at enjoying life.

Loosing a Father, Mother, Son, or Daughter is not new. It has been happening for years and years, since the beginning of time. Loosing our job or home is not new nor has it only happened to you because it happens to millions. Some people don't even have homes.

The story here is, this is life. Life is as easy as you think it is or as hard as you think it is.

You can think that you can handle it or you can think that you can't.

What story are you telling???

Are you defending your despair? Are you wallowing in your misery and just wondering why life is so cruel to you?

Or

Are you creating faith in yourself, encouraging yourself, and looking for a better way? Are you telling the story that this is some phase in your life that you are going through, or have to go through, and that you will be fine because you have been through more difficult things than this?

What story are you telling yourself?

Please forgive me if I seem insensitive, that is not my intention, my goal is to provoke you to tell a better story. If, and when, we tell ourselves a better story, we can move from depression to happiness, from anxiety to calm, from worry to confidence, or from despair to peacefulness.

How do we tell ourselves a better story?

Write down what you want. Get a little card, maybe a 3X5 card, and just list the things you want.

Do you want to feel love? Then write, I AM LOVE.

Do you want to feel success? Then write, I AM SUCCESS.

Do you want to feel happiness? Then write, I AM HAPPINESS.

Do you want to feel calm? The write, I AM CALM.

If you do this, you are creating reminders of what you want.

This sounds so simple and maybe too easy but try it and I promise you can change your story immediately.

The goal is to find out what you want and move towards it! And believe it or not, we have to know what we want first, then we have to remind ourselves to think it, and then we can begin our new story.

Please, begin to destress yourself by taking this first step at creating and telling the story that you want.

YOU GOT THE POWER!

That's all I got...

Check out my post, DEEPEST MOMENTS OF DESPAIR PART II ;)

Have the best week ever, and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

BIG HUGS!!!

Elizabeth

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YOU ARE LOVABLE!!!

2011-03-24T04:30:00.000-07:00

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Hello my friend.

How's things? How's life?

Did you ponder? Did you ponder that YOU ARE LOVE?

I did, all day yesterday. It's hard to believe that we are love but it's true.

When I was pondering that I AM LOVE, I was looking for evidence and I decided that... I AM LOVABLE!

How in the heck did I come up with that conclusion? LOL!!! Well, I know how to love, unconditionally, and I feel love, most of the time ;) And people really love me. I mean, really love me ;)

Do you believe that YOU ARE LOVABLE???

I DO!!!

Think about that one for a day or two ;)

How do I know you are lovable??? Because you are love!

I know, I know, I am rambling about love again. The thing is our thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry that run on and on automatically, morning, noon, and night is what causes our stress. These thoughts cause anger, anxiety, depression, and fatigue. Oh and meaness!

Ewwwwwwwwww, people are mean when they are stressed, even the nicest of people.

So, back to the rambling about love. What I am trying to do is provoke some pondering. Pondering about yourself and pondering about love.

You my friend are love, you come from love, and you give love to the one's you love and therefore, you are lovable!

If we were to ponder on our BEING LOVE or BEING LOVABLE, some how we would decrease and eventually eliminate our stressful thoughts that are causing our unhappiness and discomfort in life.

One of the greatest things that we can do is take responsibility for our thoughts. People actually believe that we do not have control of our own thoughts and that's only because it has not been a habit for them.

People I work with, whether in person or via email, are the most loving people I know and sometimes they can be the meanest people as well. That is not a statement to be unkind, they know they can be mean and that is part of the reason they work with me ;)

The point is, people have the capability to be love all the time. Decrease the stress, and the meaness, and increase the love.

So, spend a day, or two, pondering and contemplating your lovableness and watch the evidence appear and watch you just increase the love and decrease the stress, better known as destressing yourself.

Be brave my friend ;) Spend your time thinking of better things in life :) It's so easy, it's just thoughts ;)

YOU ARE HERE BECAUSE YOU WANT TO INCREASE YOUR HAPPINESS, ENERGY, AND VITALITY! YOU GOT THE POWER! I HAVE FAITH IN YOU!

Let me know how it goes.

Have a great weekend!

And don't forget...

Have fun and be playful.

BUG HUGS!!!

Elizabeth

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YOU ARE LOVE ;)

2011-03-23T05:11:00.000-07:00

Do you believe it???

Do you believe you are love???

I believe it!!!

Think about it, when you were born, you were this cuddly little baby full of love, from God, and then, our parents, teachers, and society, showed us how to be 'not love'.

What I mean is, when we were born, we were all love, all of the time. What we are now is love when we believe we are and not love when we believe we are not.

Love is the highest energy level anyone could ever have. For example, when you fall in love, do you not feel energy and happiness?

I love love! And I feel love all of the time, well most of the time. I feel love as frequently as possible because I know how good it makes me feel, and I believe that I am love.

What if you were to believe that you were love and that you could feel love any time you wanted to?

Wouldn't you feel really good all the time? Wouldn't you have lots of energy?

My son is 25 years old and I recently renamed him Agape. Agape is a Greek word for LOVE but not just LOVE, but the highest LOVE, the LOVE from GOD. This might sound crazy to you but it is fun and I love it. I don't call him by his old name, the name he was given at birth, funny huh? It's funny and it's playful, and it's full of love.

The reason I did this is because he, my son, loves unconditionally. He does not put conditions on how and when he loves me. He just loves me all of the time.

Do you put conditions on how and when you love someone?

Do you put conditions on how and when you love YOU?

YOU ARE LOVE!!! Ponder that for a day or two, really!

I know, I know, I am rambling about love but I think you should do it. I think you should ponder, for a day or two, how you are love and how you can be love.

Have an open mind, and just try it. If you are stressed, you can spend a day or two pondering how you are love and I promise you that you will destress yourself.

Let me know how it goes, email me. I love hearing from you.

That's all the rambling I have today ;)

I LOVE YOU!!!

Have a great day and don't forget...

Have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth

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ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING WHEN DESTRESSING YOURSELF

2011-03-21T17:17:00.000-07:00

Hello my peoples ;)

Hope your week is starting off perfectly. Mine is, we got some snow over the weekend and if you know me, you know, I LOVE THE SNOW :)

The last couple of weeks I have gotten several emails about quieting the mind. Sheee Hooo!!! Lots of resistance there ;) It's okay though, actually it's perfect. No one should attempt to or learn to quiet their mind until they are ready. It's all in the attitude.

Attitude is the construct of our likes and dislikes.

Attitude is the perspective one has towards a person, place, or thing.

Those are just definitions that I Googled, he he he...

The way I define attitude is your thoughts, feelings, and actions towards anything. Any thing you think, feel, or do is not neutral, it is positive or negative.

What I am trying to say is, if you think you can meditate, you can. If you feel good about meditation, you will meditate. If you just meditate, it will get easier.

The reason I am saying all of this is because stress is doubt, fear, and worry and if you meditate you can calm your thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry. At first, when you quiet your mind, you will really notice your unhealthy thoughts.

Many of my clients tell me, after they learn to meditate and quiet their mind, that they didn't realize how negative their thought process is. When you discover this, you can turn it around.

Did you know that we have at least 60,000 thoughts a day?

People really believe that they know what they are thinking. If we knew what we were thinking, we would make ourselves think thoughts like, "I can be, do, have anything my heart desires," and believe it! And then pursue what we want to be, do, and have.

When you meditate, and quiet your mind, you can notice those limiting beliefs like, "I am not pretty enough, skinny enough, smart enough, or energetic enough to do this or that."

When you destress yourself, you discover your stressful habits, which are usually your thought processes, and then you eliminate them by replacing them with healthier and more powerful thoughts.

So I am trying to create some persuasion for meditation here. Quiet your mind, calm yourself and your body, discover your unhealthy thoughts, question those thoughts, and turn them around.

Attitude is everything when you wanna destress yourself.

You gotta believe you can meditate and see the benefits of meditation. You gotta feel good about meditation, and you will do it. You gotta just do it, and it will get easier.

YOU GOT THE POWER!!! JOO CAN DO IT!!!

That's all I got...

Have a super duper alli ooper week, and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth

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HOW TO DESTRESS

2011-03-17T05:00:00.000-07:00

Hello...

One of the most popular search phrases for my web site is 'how to destress' and so, I thought I would write just a little bit about how to destress ;)

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Got several questions for you ;)

Do you believe in God?

I mean, really, deep down in your heart, believe in God?

Do you believe that He is there for you and answers your prayers?

Do you have faith? Faith that He is in control and will take care of you?

Man oh man, I wish I was a Scriptorian because I know there are plenty of scriptures that tell us to believe, that He will answer our prayers, to have faith, that He is in control, and He will take care of you.

When I was a young, single mother, I use to struggle, I mean really struggle with money. When my son was around 8 years old, I had barely any money to survive, and I happen to be struggling with a lil PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).

I was literally having anxiety attacks and crying with depression, all the time. My stress level was so high my blood sugar was dropping as low as 35 (80 to 120 is normal).

It was a long, long time ago but a very desperate time for me.

The reason I am telling you this is because, in the most desperate of times we need to know how to destress.

What got me through all of that, and much much more, is my faith in God and that He would, and will, always take care of me.

What I use to do, and still do sometimes, is every night I would get down on my knees, put my forehead on my folded arms on my bed, and I would imagine that I had my arms and forehead on His lap, like He was right there, listening, and supporting me. It may sound crazy, but it totally worked.

One thing I know about my faith in God is that it is REAL!!! It is not the superficial FAITH, HOPE, AND CHARITY, only when I am at church, or when I can serve conveniently. It is REAL!!!

My greatest teacher is God, and my next greatest teacher is stress. Believe you/me, I have had some serious stress in my life and I know that I live a destressed life because of it, no matter what is happening. Sure, I get stressed, but it is a fraction of what it has ever been because I learned how to deal with it through my faith and relationship with God.

So, how to destress yourself? If you REALLY, TRULY believe, then turn to Him! Try the prayer with your arms and head on His lap. He is listening, He loves, and He is there for you.

If you are really having a hard time and you REALLY BELIEVE, then try this. Spend one day with Him, sitting, walking, and talking to Him like He is by your side. Just use your imagination, this once, and you will see what happens to your faith in Him, in life, and in yourself.

But please, please, please don't believe me, try it for yourself.

That's all I got...

Have a great day and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth

HOW DO I QUIET MY MIND?

2011-03-15T05:00:00.000-07:00

Hello!

If you haven't noticed, I have been talking about quieting your mind lately ;) The reason is because I think it is very very very important when you want to destress yourself.

I quiet my mind several times a day but formally about three times a day. Crazy? Maybe! I just know that my mind can run on auto pilot and create all kinds of unnecessary thoughts that cause unnecessary emotions. When I say unnecessary, I am talking about thoughts and emotions that are fleeting and negative that drain me and that are not useful or desirable.

If you know me, really know me, you know that my mood is elevated all of the time and I know this is so because of my ability to take responsibility for my thoughts, feelings, and actions which is my attitude.

Everyday, first thing in the morning, some time at lunch, and before I go to bed at night, I do some sort of meditation. I usually take a few deep breaths, relax my body, and then I just focus on my breathing and my heart beat.

My favorite meditations are deep relaxation and feeling love.

Deep relaxation is when I just relax my body part by part, and this relaxes my mind.

Feeling love is a meditation that creates ummm... feelings of love, he he he. I use to do this one all of the time and what it has done is given me the ability to see that I can feel love at anytime and any where, even in the most irritating circumstances. It is a habit I created to replace my negative (unnecessary) emotions that were my stressful habits in the past.

Do you know anyone that meditates? I do and the majority of them are happy and consider themselves successful. Successful in that they really enjoy their life. The definition of success is happiness and enjoying life. Many people equate money with success but if you explore it deeper we want that money because we think it will bring more happiness so, we all just want to be happy, really.

If you would like to learn how to meditate, learn deep relaxation, learn the meditation of feeling love, learn meditation with visualization, or learn how to quiet your mind check out my classes that are on audio. The picture above is my meditation class which includes quieting your mind, feeling love, and meditation with visualizations.

Try meditating, make it a habit, and just watch yourself create happiness, energy, and vitality. But please, please, please don't believe me, try it for yourself.

Have a super duper week and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO QUIET YOUR MIND?

2011-03-09T05:00:00.000-08:00

Got a good email yesterday asking me...

Why would you want to quiet your mind?

What a great question!

It has been about 12 years since I first started to meditate. I have no idea what made me start to meditate, it was probably some book I was reading but I do remember hearing people say they meditated and I was super duper curious about it.

I remember the beginning so well. When I first started to quiet my mind, it was very difficult. It took a good month for me to be able to just sit and be still in my mind. When I first started, it took like 10 to 15 minutes to get my thoughts to stop and when you are meditating for 20 or 30 minutes, that is a long time.

To answer the question, this is what I got...

When you learn to quiet your mind, you really notice your thoughts in your head. What I mean is, you practice meditating and then when you are not meditating you become so aware of your mind you hear your thoughts. You hear the thoughts that are going on and on without you even knowing it because you are busy with other activities.

When you hear your thoughts more clearly, you start to become astonished at the mood of your mind. Maybe your mood is to constantly defend yourself, which can mean low self-esteem. Maybe your mood is to criticize others, which could mean you are critical of yourself. Maybe your mood is to worry about the future, which is a culprit of anxiety. Maybe your mood is to focus on what you don't have or how lousy your life is, which is depression.

When you hear these thoughts more clearly, you can, and will discover your stressful thought patterns.

WAIT! There is something else too. When you begin to quiet your mind, you become more focused, more patient, and able to enjoy life more.

When your mind is still, it becomes a habit and when you are thinking about the things you need to do, you become more focused on your to do tasks. Not the to do tasks you have written down but the tasks in your head.

When your mind is still, it becomes a habit and when you are standing in line, or waiting for something, because your mind is quiet, you are more patient.

When your mind is still, it becomes a habit and when you are just sitting there you can notice, JUST NOTICE, the beauty around you, the beauty in your surroundings, the beauty in your life, and the beauty in the person you are with. Kind of like smelling the roses.

WAIT THERE'S MORE!

Ever since I started to meditate, things I wished for, or dreamed about began to show up. Be careful for what you wish for comes to mind. I don't know what makes this happen but it does. It's like magic, I swear.

Money for a trip I wanted to take showed up when I didn't have the money. The car of my dreams showed up at an affordable price when it was usually much more expensive. I wanted to live in a small town and within a year I ended up where I am now. I no longer wanted to work for a corporation because I wanted to focus on my business and then I was laid-off with a 7 month severance package.

And, finally, I have always wanted to be close to Heavenly Father and I have been getting closer and closer every year and I know that my soul is truly expanding, and evolving, and developing, and progressing. I know that this is so because I am reacting totally different than I use to in a much kinder, more patient, and loving way.

Much more has happened and continues to happen and I think, no I know, it is because I quiet my mind, and it really really creates happiness, energy, focus, organization, productivity, and vitality.

Now, those are just some reasons, my friend, why you want to quiet your mind.

But please, please, please, do not believe me, try it for yourself.

That's all I got.

Have a great day and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth

DO YOU QUIET YOUR MIND?

2011-03-07T05:30:00.000-08:00

Hello there, Happy Monday!!!

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How are you doing today, this lovely Monday?

I hope you are doing GRRREAT! Life is GRRREAT! Isn't it?

Got a question! Do you quiet your mind?

What I am asking is do you meditate or do you practice deep relaxation?

What does it mean to quiet your mind? It means to stop the obsessive thinking of thoughts of worry about the future or regrets about the past. It means to stop thinking and take your focused mind out of your thoughts and into this moment.

Why would you quiet your mind? The reason I quiet my mind is so that I can be still and know God. I have always known that God is in the stillness of my thoughts. That is a Big statement and it is really hard to explain. It is something that you would know and understand if you quieted your mind.

Let me try to explain, just a little better. When you worry about your bills, or your weight, or your relationships, or your future, that is not God speaking to you. God is not worry, God is in your faith. "Be still and know that I am God." "Have faith." Are the things that I am trying to explain.

When you are obsessing about your relationship with your significant other, or your crazy boss, or the person at work that is mean to you, or the person at school who had the nerve to say certain things to you, or about your kids and their behavior, that is not God speaking to you.

When you are quiet, in the stillness, you can and will hear that still small voice that God speaks from.

When I meditate, better known as quieting my mind, I know that is where God is, in my mind, I mean. I am not saying that is the only place God is because He is everywhere. What I am saying is you can see, hear, smell, and just notice the beauty in things, and in yourself, when you quiet your mind often.

That beauty is where you can see God. The beauty of His creations.

If you have doubt, fear, worry, or you have obsessive thoughts that you think over and over again, hour after hour, day, after day, you will benefit from quieting your mind. These obsessive thoughts that you are having stem from a stressful habit of a racing mind or an obsessive thought pattern.

If you quiet your mind you can replace that stressful habit of obsessive thinking with a successful practice.

It's all about destressing yourself! Quiet your mind, make it a practice, and then wallah! You will replace your stressful habit.

Easy? Maybe, maybe not. It's all in your beliefs. I have seen people change slowly, over time, and I have seen people change in an hour.

Try my audio, Deep Relaxation. Listen to it every evening, before you go to bed, and then just notice your ability to relax. Notice your ability to relax any time and any where. Make it a conscious change and you will see the beauty in the moment without your over active mind.

But please, don't believe me. Try it for yourself.

That's all I got friend!

Have a great week and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

BIG HUGS...

Elizabeth

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NEW BOOK - THE SHIFT

2011-02-28T16:42:00.000-08:00

Hello there and Happy Monday ;)

Have I ever told you about THE SHIFT?

It is a book by Wayne Dyer and it is also a movie. I have both, of course, and I have seen the movie so many times that I can't even count. Why have I seen this movie so many times, you ask? Besides that I love it, I knew if I watched it I would make a shift and I continue to shift.

Right now, in my life, I am making extraordinary shifts spiritually. I am really learning to come from a place where nothing bothers me. Sure, things bother me, but they do not bother me as easily or as long as they did. And if you know me, you know things don't really bother me and it's getting easier, if that makes sense.

All of these books on the BIBLIOTHERAPY LIST, including THE SHIFT, have REALLY moved me to a level of REALLY thinking about God, where I come from, and what I am all about.

Recently, I have REALLY been coming from a place of love. This may sound mushy gooshy to you but, what is the alternative? It's hate.

When you know and feel you are love, you will feel good all of the time. Just think, when you are IN LOVE, don't you feel absolute bliss? Nothing can put you in a bad mood. It's the same thing with feeling love.

THE SHIFT, is about making a spiritual shift in your life. All of the books on the BIBLIOTHERAPY LIST are about spirituality.

When I speak with people who are living in their stress, the most common thing that is missing is spirituality.

Would you like to feel better then you do now?

Do you want to increase your happiness, energy and vitality?

If you really want to make a shift and destress yourself, check out THE SHIFT, click on the pic above.

Welp, have a great week and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

SPEAKING THE WORDS OF DESTRESSING YOURSELF

2011-02-25T05:00:00.000-08:00

Hello my friend ;)

How's life? Great I hope ;)

So, I am at this cafe I frequent and I am talking to the gal that works the register and I ask her, "How's life?"

She says she is stressed. Can you believe that? LOL!!!

She goes on and on about how she is overwhelmed, she is taking 17 units in school, and she has to pay bills.

It takes every ounce of my energy to NOT speak the words of destressing yourself and I didn't :(

Why don't I? Well, I use to all the time, to everybody because I want to tell everyone that stress is just a thought but most people don't wanna listen. That is totally fine!

There are so many people who are anxious, angry, depressed, fatigued, moody, and unhappy and no matter what I say they want to defend their unnecessary emotion.

Oh sure, sometimes I tell people what I do and tell'em if they want help, for free, to check out my blog. I give them a business card and often they become my clients but I can't save those who do not want help.

What I want to say is...

Your stress, my friend, is just a thought. You are probably thinking of all the bad things that will happen to you because you believe you are so overwhelmed and those thoughts create fear and anxiety.

I want to ask...

Have you ever went through a really tough time or had an experience that had you thinking that this is the worst thing that has ever happened to me?

What happened? Did you survive? Of course you did because you are still here and you are still standing.

What if you were to think, no matter what happens, I can handle it?

What would be the best thing that could happen to you, right now?

What if you were to think thoughts of faith, in yourself, and thoughts that the best thing that you think can happen will?

Do you believe in God?

Do you, deep down in your heart believe in God and that He will do what He says He will, in the bible?

Do you believe His words when He says 'have faith'?

What I want to say is...

Have faith my friend.

Have faith in God and that He will take care of you.

Have faith in yourself and that you can handle it.

Take your thoughts of doubt and turn them into faith.

No matter what happens, you will be fine.

Quiet your mind and think and feel this truth.

There is a lot more of that where that came from ;) TRUST ME

I hope you have a great weekend and feel the truth of faith in God and yourself.

If you truly believe 'WITH GOD ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE' you must contemplate and feel this truth so that it will fill your entire being.

When you do, you will feel your way into destressing yourself.

Speak soon...

Don't forget! Please have fun and be playful!

Big ole hugs to ya...

Elizabeth

CONTACT ME

2011-02-23T05:00:00.000-08:00

Hello there!

If you are having a hard time and you want help to destressyourself please email me, elizabethstanfill@gmail.com.

If you have experienced, or are experiencing, a Critical Incident and/or crisis please email me, elizabethstanfill@gmail.com.

I know deep down inside in my heart how it feels to experience distress in life. It is my calling, and my passion, to help people go from crisis to a place of contentment and peace.

We can communicate via email, or we can set up an uninterrupted time that we can talk on the phone.

This is free!

Elizabeth